Download or read book The People Pleaser s Guide to Loving Others without Losing Yourself written by Dr. Mike Bechtle and published by Revell. This book was released on 2021-01-19 with total page 224 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: We all want other people to like us and think well of us. But when we depend on the praise, admiration, or appreciation of others for our sense of self-worth, we become trapped in an exhausting and debilitating cycle of people-pleasing relationships where we always give and rarely receive. The most common advice we hear--Start putting your own needs first!-- doesn't work, because we do love helping other people! Thankfully, the solution to the people pleaser's "problem" isn't to fundamentally change who you are--it's to fundamentally change where you find your worth. In this freeing book, Dr. Mike Bechtle shows you stop letting your fears of rejection, criticism, invisibility, or inadequacy drive your actions and start rebuilding your sense of self-worth from the inside out. When you do, you'll discover that what you once thought of as a struggle is actually a strength.
Download or read book People Can t Drive You Crazy If You Don t Give Them the Keys written by Dr. Mike Bechtle and published by Baker Books. This book was released on 2012-10-01 with total page 214 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Strange as it may seem, other people are not nearly as committed to our happiness as we are. In fact, sometimes they seem like they're on a mission to make us miserable! There's always that one person. The one who hijacks your emotions and makes you crazy. The one who seems to thrive on drama. If you could just "fix" that person, everything would be better. But we can't fix other people--we can only make choices about ourselves. In this cut-to-the-chase book, communication expert Mike Bechtle shows readers that they don't have to be victims of other people's craziness. With commonsense wisdom and practical advice that can be implemented immediately, Bechtle gives readers a proven strategy to handle crazy people. More than just offering a set of techniques, Bechtle offers a new perspective that will change readers' lives as they deal with those difficult people who just won't go away.
Download or read book Boundary Boss written by Terri Cole, MSW, LCSW and published by Sounds True. This book was released on 2021-04-20 with total page 204 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Break Free From Over-Functioning, Over-Delivering, People-Pleasing, and Ignoring Your Own Needs So You Can Finally Live the Life You Deserve! Most of us were never taught how to effectively express our preferences, desires or deal-breakers. Instead, we hide our feelings behind passive-aggressive behavior, deny our own truths, or push our emotions down until we get depressed or so frustrated that we explode, potentially destroying hard-won trust and relationships. The most successful and satisfied people on the planet have one thing in common: the ability to create and communicate clear, healthy boundaries. This ability is, hands down, the biggest game changer when it comes to creating a healthy, happy, self-determined life. In Boundary Boss, psychotherapist Terri Cole reveals a specific set of skills that can help you stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others (without guilt or drama) and get empowered to consciously take control of every aspect of your emotional, spiritual, physical, personal, and professional life. Since becoming a Boundary Boss is a process, Cole also offers actionable strategies, scripts, and techniques that can be used in the moment, whenever you need them. You will learn: • How to recognize when your boundaries have been violated and what to do next • How your unique “Boundary Blueprint” is unconsciously driving your boundary behaviors, and strategies to redesign it • Powerful boundary scripts so in the moment you will know what to say • How to manage “Boundary Destroyers”—including emotional manipulators, narcissists, and other toxic personalities • Where you fall on the spectrum of codependency and how to create healthy, balanced relationships This book is for women who are exhausted from over-giving, overdoing, and even over-feeling. If you’re getting it all done but at the expense of yourself, give yourself the gift of Boundary Boss.
Download or read book When It s Never about You written by Ilene S. Cohen Ph D and published by Harte Publishing. This book was released on 2017 with total page 206 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Everyone loves a people-pleaser. They're always willing to help, to stay late, to fill in, to "go along." But if you're one of them, you often end up feeling violated, ignored, disrespected, and disconnected--from life and others. Silently enduring the ongoing and relentless invalidation of who you are and what you want will reliably wreak havoc on your health and the health of your relationships.psychotherapist, Ilene S. Cohen, uses real-world examples and activities to help you take a systemic look at people-pleasing. You'll learn... How to reclaim a strong and balanced sense of self--while still being a "good person." How to break the harmful behavior patterns that keep you from being heard, listened to and respected. Specific strategies for transforming yourself from selfless to "self-full."How to go from feeling "vanished" to being clearly differentiated.How to get what you want and need--while actually earning even more respect from others.
Download or read book Stop People Pleasing written by Patrick King and published by PublishDrive. This book was released on 2019-08-13 with total page 123 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Break your crippling addiction to approval and learn to be less “nice”. Do you keep your mouth shut for fear of falling out of people’s graces? Feel that you need to please and serve to stay in your social circles? You have the need to please, and all the associated beliefs. Stop bitterness, resentment, and anxiety from always saying yes. Stop People Pleasing is a frank look at people-pleasing tendencies - where they come from, how they manifest, and exactly what to do about them. Most importantly, the book emphasizes real, actionable tactics to change your relationship with yourself and others. This book was written by a recovering people-pleaser, so you can be sure that there is a real understanding of your struggles. Reprogram your beliefs and learn to accept yourself. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. Find your voice, stand up for yourself, and put yourself first. •The psychological and often traumatic origins of people-pleasing tendencies. •The harmful beliefs you subconsciously possess and how to alter them. •How to learn new, empowering habits. Learn the deep origins of your need to please, and how to set healthy boundaries. •How to set boundaries, and avoid porous ones. •A plethora of strategies to say no and make your thoughts known. •Understand your guilt and get better with confrontation.
Download or read book When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable written by Karen Ehman and published by Zondervan. This book was released on 2021-08-03 with total page 224 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Are you overwhelmed by others' unrealistic expectations of you? Do you feel torn in dozens of directions as you try to make everyone around you happy? If you're ready to end the cycle of approval seeking, New York Times bestselling author and recovering people pleaser Karen Ehman is here to help! When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable shares the refreshing, heartfelt lessons that Karen learned firsthand during her own journey of breaking free from people pleasing in order to live out her God-given purpose. Let Karen be your new go-to guide as you learn to successfully break the destructive pattern of people pleasing and start fully embracing the life God has called you to lead. With equal parts humor and vulnerability, Karen explores why it's so easy to fall into people-pleasing behaviors and reminds us that we can't fulfill our divine purpose if we're too busy living everyone else's. She offers her timely advice for living with less overwhelm and with more peace and purpose, sharing words of wisdom that will help you: Prioritize what God says above what other people think Live your life without worrying about the opinions and expectations of others Cultivate a strategy for knowing when to say yes and how to say no Create and maintain healthy boundaries with the pushers, pouters, guilt bombers and others who try to call the shots in your life Learn to navigate the tension between pleasing God and loving your community Join Karen as she encourages you to walk closely--and confidently--with our loving Creator, despite the opinions and expectations of others. It's time to end the people-pleasing game and finally enjoy the peaceful and purposeful life that you deserve.
Download or read book Please Yourself How to Stop People Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live written by Emma Reed Turrell and published by Fourth Estate. This book was released on 2021-04 with total page 272 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The Courage to be Disliked meets The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: an essential, inspirational, wise and forgiving book that will liberate the people pleaser inside us all.
Download or read book It s Better to Bite Your Tongue Than Eat Your Words written by Dr. Mike Bechtle and published by Revell. This book was released on 2022-02-15 with total page 139 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Ever come away from a conversation wishing you'd said something differently, something else, or just something? We've all had conversations that took an unproductive turn or avoided conversations that really needed to happen. If you want to become a better communicator, Dr. Mike Bechtle has good news: the art of confident conversation is something you can develop through simple, repeatable habits. In this book, he shows you how to - embrace your temperament - overcome feelings of intimidation - choose the right words at the right time - speak up for others and yourself - and much more Say goodbye to fear, regret, and "I should (or shouldn't) have said that." Say hello to intentional, appropriate, timely conversations that get your point across even as they build relationships. This book provides mastery of the skills of confident communication in any situation.
Download or read book Dealing with the Elephant in the Room written by Dr. Mike Bechtle and published by Revell. This book was released on 2017-05-16 with total page 240 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Most people want to avoid tough conversations. Whether it's with a spouse, a friend, a boss, a coworker, or a child, tough conversations create high anxiety--and often lingering resentments. Communication expert Dr. Mike Bechtle offers practical help. He equips readers with the skills they need in order to handle conflict with the important people in their lives. Readers learn to be better prepared for hard conversations by learning to listen, to give and receive genuine feedback, and to saturate relationships with kindness. With the right skills and tools, anyone can feel more confident handling the elephant in the room and other conversational quicksand.
Download or read book Anxious to Please written by Craig English and published by Sourcebooks, Inc.. This book was released on 2006-04-01 with total page 242 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Seven powerful practices designed to bring about resilient self-esteem, a happier and calmer emotional life, a reality-based optimism for the future, and satisfying relationships. Are you tired of constantly seeking validation from others and feeling overwhelmed by the burden of being the eternal people-pleaser? In this empowering book, you'll discover seven groundbreaking practices that will revolutionize the way you navigate relationships and reclaim control of your life. Drawing on profound insights and real-life examples, Craig English expertly explores the core issues that hold the chronically nice back from living authentically and assertively. Whether you struggle with saying no, fear confrontation, or find yourself drowning in anxiety over others' opinions, this book will guide you on a liberating journey toward self-discovery and inner strength. Embrace your true self, break free from the cycle of anxious pleasing, and cultivate fulfilling relationships that nurture your emotional and mental well-being. If you're ready to make a positive and lasting change in your life, Anxious to Please is your ultimate roadmap to self-fulfillment and genuine happiness.
Download or read book Do You Love to Be Needed or Need to Be Loved written by Shari Schreiber and published by Outskirts Press. This book was released on 2018-09-27 with total page 217 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Shari Schreiber learned about healing people by having to surmount her own painful life experiences. Tenacious about her pursuit of wholeness and wellness, she invented tools in her mid-twenties to help her grow beyond mere survival and learn to thrive. She imparted these tools and methods to her clients for eighteen of the twenty-five years she was passionately dedicated to helping others repair themselves. Returning to school at forty-one, she’d hoped to legitimize the talents she’d always had, but found that experience lacking. Ms. Schreiber has not worked as a state-licensed professional, because in her view, “psychotherapy” or mind work never seemed to resolve or remedy human pain. Her own approach was extremely unconventional, unique and effective in contrast to other forms of intervention, even within the realm of addiction recovery. Having retired from her wellness practice in late 2017, she hopes to publish many more books that might help you gain clarity, wholeness, contentment, inner peace and joy.
Download or read book Gurl Please written by Katie Hulbert and published by . This book was released on 2017-12-12 with total page 58 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "People-pleasing is a lifestyle. It's a lifestyle many of us live, but did not deliberately choose. You see, we people pleasers try to make everyone happy. We do and say what we think others want to hear; we meet everyone elses needs before our own, and we definitely do NOT make waves! We hope that someday the people around us will stop asking so much of us, but alas it never happens. So we burn out, wear out or just plain ole give up. Well I for one, am tired of that lifestyle; it's exhausting, frustrating and unsatisfying in every way. In this book, I explore all the pieces that make up the People-Pleasing lifestyle. We will delve deep into the practical and simple tools on how one can peel back the layers of the person you are trying to be and learn to live as the person you were meant to be. It's time to let your true self shine, it's time for you to give yourself a voice. Its time for you to live the life that you've imagined."--Page 4 of cover.
Download or read book I Wish He Had Come with Instructions written by Mike Bechtle and published by Revell. This book was released on 2016-08-02 with total page 224 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: What Is He Really Thinking? When a woman begins a relationship with a man, she may think she's found her knight in shining armor. As the relationship continues, that armor can begin to feel like a barricade she just can't get past it. What's he hiding in there, anyway? Relationship and communication expert Mike Bechtle offers women an insider's guide to the puzzling male brain. Simple and practical, this book provides women with a roadmap for better conversations and improved relationships. Bechtle reminds readers that men and women share many similarities, and by embracing those similarities they can better deal with differences. He explains how men think, act, communicate, and grow in relationships, and even offers tips for communicating in a toxic relationship. Wives, girlfriends, mothers, daughters, friends, and coworkers will find real help within these pages.
Download or read book How to Communicate with Confidence written by Dr. Mike Bechtle and published by Baker Books. This book was released on 2013-07-15 with total page 224 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Communication is an art, and anyone--whether shy or outgoing--can improve his or her conversational skills. How to Communicate with Confidence is a straightforward guide to making good conversation that works in any situation--and works for any personality type. Highlighting the art of give and take and stressing the importance of listening, this book gives confidence to those who hesitate to strike up a conversation. Author Mike Bechtle shows readers that they don't have to have a stockpile of great stories to tell in order to make good conversation. Instead, he encourages an "explorer" mind-set and gives readers the tools they need to talk to anyone, anytime, anywhere.
Download or read book Pleasing People written by Lou Priolo and published by P & R Publishing. This book was released on 2007 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Are you a people pleaser? Are you addicted to a€œapprovala€? from others, and would do just about anything to get that approval? Biblical counselor Lou Priolo exposes all the prideful manifestations of this problem and, as always, offers solid, systematic Biblical solutions! Even readers who feel that they do not have this problem should read this helpful book, because what you dona€t know can and will hurt you and others.\n
Download or read book Stop People Pleasing written by Chase Hill and published by . This book was released on 2020-10-22 with total page 170 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Amazon USA #1 New Release Amazon USA #1 Best Seller in Gestalt Psychology A step-by-step 14-day action plan to help you stop people pleasing, be more assertive, and start saying no without feeling guilty.
Download or read book You Don t Have to Be Ruthless to Win written by Jonathan Keyser and published by . This book was released on 2019-08-04 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: When Jonathan Keyser entered the cut-throat, dog-eat-dog world of commercial real estate brokerage, he became the worst version of himself and hated himself because of it. Then one day, Jonathan decided he'd had enough. He realized he was sacrificing his values in pursuit of success, and that he needed to stop. He abandoned his ruthless ways and reinvented himself as a selfless leader, which skyrocketed his brokerage firm to eight figures. In this book you'll learn how you can activate selflessness in your life, and see how and why this counterintuitive strategy can create extraordinary, long-term success in your own business.
