Download or read book Our Socially Awkward Marriage Stories from an Asperger s Relationship written by Tom Peters and published by Brookside Press. This book was released on 2016-09-20 with total page 108 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Through a series of warm and uplifting stories, Tom and Linda Peters take you into the heart of their socially awkward marriage. Tom had long suspected that there was something wrong with him, but despite his best efforts, he could never figure out what it was. With the help of Linda, a writer and investigator who he would later marry, Tom went looking for answers that would explain his quirky way of seeing the world. At the age of 47, he was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, a high-functioning form of autism. Raw and personal, this book of essays was first inspired by Tom's challenges with Asperger's Syndrome, but the humorous bite-sized stories apply to any kind of interpersonal communication. The simple solutions that Tom and Linda have discovered - while dressing up a phrenology head or removing a wild opossum from the master bath - have the surprising power to help us learn how to feel more respected, heard and understood in all of our relationships. Introduction Remember that weird kid in the back of the classroom who just couldn't stop talking about astronomy, and would bring up the discovery of Pluto during lessons about the American Civil War? That was me. My name is Tom Peters. I'm a composer and GRAMMY(R)-nominated classical musician now, and I've played music all over the world. I have a wife named Linda, a college-aged son from my first marriage, and eight different types of stringed instruments at home including six ukuleles. In 2011, at the tender age of 47, I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. At that time, Asperger's Syndrome was considered a mild form of autism, characterized by an inability to understand how to interact socially. Those of us with Asperger's - or Aspies, as a term of endearment - tend to have few facial expressions and are apt to stare blankly at other people. It's nothing personal; we really can't help it. Aspies are often accused of being "in their own world" and preoccupied with their own thoughts. We are usually clumsy with uncoordinated movements, are socially awkward, have repetitive routines or rituals, and odd speech and language. Which didn't exactly make me a chick magnet. Regardless of an Aspie's age or place in life, relationships are often a challenge. Being unable to understand nonverbal communication or how you relate to the people around you can cause Aspies to blurt out inappropriate remarks and say just plain odd things, usually at exactly the wrong time. But it's not all bad news. The unusual focus and intensity that goes along with this disorder has helped me to hone my skills as a professional double bass player and later, as a composer of silent film scores. On a personal level, I am honest, dependable and straightforward. I love deeply and always try to do my best. I don't play mind games. I don't know how. And now, as a middle-aged adult, I'm in a happy, healthy relationship. My wife, Linda, is a writer who used to work with adults with mental, emotional and developmental disabilities. It was Linda's idea for me to share some anecdotes about what it felt like to be on the high-functioning end of the autism spectrum. She thought it might help someone to hear me articulate the feelings involved in some of the unique challenges I face. Around the same time, we also started writing articles together about how we were making communication work so well in our Asperger's relationship. This book is a collection of some of those articles and blog posts about our lives. Most of the stories are about being on the spectrum, or about living with someone who is on the spectrum. Almost all the stories take place in the context of our Asperger's relationship and subsequent marriage. We hope that you enjoy reading them!
Download or read book Neurodiverse Relationships written by Joanna Stevenson and published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers. This book was released on 2019-07-18 with total page 218 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Comprised of the accounts of twelve heterosexual couples in which the man is on the Autism Spectrum, this book invites both partners to discuss their own perspectives of different key issues, including anxiety, empathy, employment and socialising. Autism expert Tony Attwood contributes a commentary and a question and answer section for each of the twelve accounts. The first book of its kind to provide perspectives from both sides of a relationship on a variety of different topics, Neurodiverse Relationships is the perfect companion for couples in neurodiverse relationships who are trying to understand one another better.
Download or read book Marriage and Lasting Relationships with Asperger s Syndrome Autism Spectrum Disorder written by Eva A. Mendes and published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers. This book was released on 2015-07-21 with total page 266 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Offering practical advice straight from the couples counseling room, Eva A. Mendes provides an insider's view into what couples and counselors can do to help make an ASD relationship last. She outlines the challenges faced in an ASD relationship and provides strategies that can improve the lives and marriages of couples on a daily basis.
Download or read book The Journal of Best Practices written by David Finch and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2012-01-03 with total page 235 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: *A New York Times Bestseller* A warm and hilarious memoir by a man diagnosed with Asperger syndrome who sets out to save his relationship. Five years after David Finch married Kristen, the love of his life, they learned that he has Asperger syndrome. The diagnosis explained David’s ever-growing list of quirks and compulsions, but it didn’t make him any easier to live with. Determined to change, David set out to understand Asperger syndrome and learn to be a better husband with an endearing zeal. His methods for improving his marriage involve excessive note-taking, performance reviews, and most of all, the Journal of Best Practices: a collection of hundreds of maxims and hard-won epiphanies, including “Don’t change the radio station when she’s singing along” and “Apologies do not count when you shout them.” David transforms himself from the world’s most trying husband to the husband who tries the hardest. He becomes the husband he’d always meant to be. Filled with humor and wisdom, The Journal of Best Practices is a candid story of ruthless self-improvement, a unique window into living with an autism spectrum condition, and proof that a true heart is the key to happy marriage.
Download or read book Alone Together written by Katrin Bentley and published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers. This book was released on 2007 with total page 132 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Thousands of people live in Asperger marriages without recognizing the signs that their spouse has AS. When Swiss-born Katrin met Gavin while backpacking in Australia, she fell in love with a man that was kind, good looking and different. He followed her to Switzerland where they married eight months later. At first everything seemed fine, but once back in Australia things changed very drastically. Alone Together shares the struggle of one couple to rescue their marriage. It explains the clues that suggest a person might have AS and explores the effect of diagnosis. It is uplifting and humorous and includes plenty of tips for making as Asperger marriage succeed. This book offers couples hope, encouragement and strategies for their own relationships.
Download or read book Everyday Aspergers written by Samantha Craft and published by YOUR STORIES MATTER. This book was released on 2018-12-10 with total page 532 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: @page { margin: 2cm } p { margin-bottom: 0.21cm } a:link { color: #0000ff } Through 150 entries, Samantha Craft presents a life of humorous faux pas, profound insights, and the everyday adventures of an autistic female. In her vivid world, nothing is simple and everything appears pertinent. Even an average trip to the grocery store is a feat and cause for reflection. From being a dyslexic cheerleader with dyspraxia going the wrong direction, to bathroom stalking, to figuring out if she can wear that panty-free dress, Craft explores the profoundness of daily living through hilarious anecdotes and heart-warming childhood memories. Ten years in the making, Craft’s revealing memoir brings Asperger’s Syndrome into a spectrum of brilliant light—exposing the day-to-day interactions and complex inner workings of an autistic female from childhood to midlife.
Download or read book Asperger Syndrome A Love Story written by Sarah Hendrickx and published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers. This book was released on 2007-06-15 with total page 143 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Open, honest and upbeat, this book gives personal insight into both the ups and downs of an Asperger relationship. Seeking to challenge the bad press that people with Asperger Syndrome (AS) get as partners, Sarah and Keith tell their story of how they are making it work - and also how they got it wrong - with disarming frankness and humour. When Sarah and Keith met in 2003 neither knew much about Asperger Syndrome. Sarah thought Keith was `weird' and couldn't work out why; and Keith thought Sarah was obsessed with diagnosing him with something-or-other. Difficulties ensued that brought the relationship to an end. Slowly, however, they each built up their knowledge of AS and in the meantime developed a mutual understanding, mutual acceptance and a desire to be together again. This personal account is supplemented with professional knowledge and anecdotes gained from Sarah's work with adults with AS - a career which started as a result of her experiences with Keith. She swears that she didn't take her work home with her! It is inspiring reading for couples in Asperger relationships as well as for counselling professionals.
Download or read book Broken written by Katy Ford and published by . This book was released on 2016-10-23 with total page 145 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: I didn't write this book to destroy my ex I actually started to write it for myself as it felt cathartic to write everything down. My ex ASOH was not a bad man he did not mean to do the things he did but the lack of love and affection and the complete absence of emotional reciprocity nearly destroyed me. My ex did not know he had Asperger's neither did I it was only after I had left him and he moved on straight away that I started to research why he had no feelings. How could you move on from a 13 year relationship without a backward glance? He had rejected me emotionally for almost 12 of the 13 years I was with him and now he had delivered the final rejection, he had moved on without a care.I came across so many differing personality types none of which fit him until I came across Asperger's or High Functioning Autism as it is now known. AS fit him like a glove, the lack of warmth, affection, conversation and poor social interactions he was classic AS. I hope by reading this book that it might save just one of you lonely Neuro Typical (normal) partners from the painful situation I found myself in. Don't read this book if you don't want read swearing or you want to salvage your relationship this book is not about making an AS/NT relationship work it's about the damage done to the NT spouse. If it offends you tough it's true totally true I have a right to give the story my point of view and not from a totally empathy free AS point of view.
Download or read book Loving Someone with Asperger s Syndrome written by Cindy Ariel and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2012-03-01 with total page 168 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: If you’re in a relationship with someone who has Asperger’s syndrome, it’s likely that your partner sometimes seems cold and insensitive. Other times, he or she may have emotional outbursts for no apparent reason. And in those moments when you can’t understand each other at all, you both feel fed up, frustrated, and confused. The behavior of people with Asperger’s can be hard to understand and easy to misinterpret, which is why it’s so important to learn more about your partner’s condition. The tools presented in Loving Someone with Asperger’s Syndrome will help you build intimacy and improve the way you and your partner communicate. Filled with assessments and exercises for both you and your partner, this book will help you forge a deeper, more fulfilling relationship. This book will teach you how to: • Understand the effect of Asperger’s syndrome on your partner • Practice effective communication skills • Constructively work through frustrations and fights • Establish relationship ground rules to help you fulfill each others’ needs
Download or read book Aspergers in Love written by Maxine Aston and published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers. This book was released on 2003-03-14 with total page 234 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Asperger syndrome (AS) has often been considered to be incompatible with love and relationships, but as the number of people who are diagnosed with the disorder increases, it is becoming apparent that people with AS can and do have full and intimate relationships. Comparing and contrasting both AS and non-AS partners' viewpoints, this book frankly examines the fundamental aspects of relationships that are often complicated by the disorder. With all findings illustrated with case examples taken from interviews conducted with couples, the author tackles issues such as attraction, trust, communication, sex and intimacy, and parenting. Drawing on her extensive research and established career as a Relate counsellor, Maxine Aston has produced a much-needed analysis of intimate relationships where one adult has AS and this book is a must for all those with AS and their partners, as well as for friends, family and counsellors.
Download or read book Nerdy Shy and Socially Inappropriate written by Cynthia Kim and published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers. This book was released on 2014-09-21 with total page 242 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Cynthia Kim explores all the quirkyness of living with Asperger Syndrome (ASD) in this accessible, witty and honest guide looking from an insider perspective at some of the most challenging and intractable aspects of being autistic. Her own life presents many rich examples. From being labelled nerdy and shy as an undiagnosed child to redefining herself when diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome as an adult, she describes how her perspective shifted to understanding a previously confusing world and combines this with the results of extensive research to explore the 'why' of ASD traits. She explains how they impact on everything from self-care to holding down a job and offers typically practical and creative strategies to help manage them, including a section on the vestibular, sensory and social benefits of martial arts for people with autism. Well known in the autism community and beyond for her popular blog, Musings of an Aspie, Cynthia Kim's book is rich with personal anecdotes and useful advice. This intelligent insider guide will help adults with ASDs and their partners, family members, friends, and colleagues, but it also provides a fresh and witty window onto a different worldview.
Download or read book Look Me in the Eye written by John Elder Robison and published by Crown. This book was released on 2008-09-09 with total page 322 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER “As sweet and funny and sad and true and heartfelt a memoir as one could find.” —from the foreword by Augusten Burroughs Ever since he was young, John Robison longed to connect with other people, but by the time he was a teenager, his odd habits—an inclination to blurt out non sequiturs, avoid eye contact, dismantle radios, and dig five-foot holes (and stick his younger brother, Augusten Burroughs, in them)—had earned him the label “social deviant.” It was not until he was forty that he was diagnosed with a form of autism called Asperger’s syndrome. That understanding transformed the way he saw himself—and the world. A born storyteller, Robison has written a moving, darkly funny memoir about a life that has taken him from developing exploding guitars for KISS to building a family of his own. It’s a strange, sly, indelible account—sometimes alien yet always deeply human.
Download or read book A Field Guide to Earthlings written by Ian Ford and published by Ian Ford Software Corp. This book was released on 2010 with total page 220 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Autistic people often live in a state of anxiety and confusion about the social world, running into misunderstandings and other barriers. This book unlocks the inner workings of neurotypical behavior, which can be mysterious to autistics. Proceeding from root concepts of language and culture through 62 behavior patterns used by neurotypical people, the book reveals how they structure a mental map of the world in symbolic webs of beliefs, how those symbols are used to filter perception, how they build and display their identity, how they compete for power, and how they socialize and develop relationships--
Download or read book The Autism Relationships Handbook written by Joe Biel and published by Microcosm Publishing. This book was released on 2021-03-23 with total page 149 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Ever since he came out as autistic, people have been contacting Joe to share their stories and ask questions. The most common question by far: how do I find a romantic partner?Dr. Faith G. Harper, author of Unfuck Your Brain and Unfuck Your Intimacy joins autistic publisher and author Joe Biel to offer hard-won guidance on a wide range of topics about friendships, dating, and romance and answer a ton of questions. What do you want out of a relationship? What is the difference between flirting and harassment? How do you have a fun date and get to know someone when eye contact and prolonged conversation aren't your strengths? How do you change a casual acquaintance into friendship or dating? How do you express your needs and make sure you're hearing your partner when they express theirs? How do you maintain a healthy, happy long term relationship? Autistic readers will find valuable answers and perspectives in this book, whether you're just getting ready to jump into dating, seeking to forge closer friendships, or looking to improve your existing partnership or marriage.
Download or read book Asperger Marriage and Relationships written by Karen Slee and published by . This book was released on 2016-04-19 with total page 468 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This book aims to help the spouses or partners who are married to or in a long term relationship with someone diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome or more likely, suspected Asperger's Syndrome (AS). This book is an honest account of what my life has been like with my AS husband and how his Asperger's has affected our marriage. We have had many crisis moments over the years but most of these have been through joint ignorance of my husband's condition. With realisation came a long 'getting to know you' process and learning more about the condition and David's idiosyncrasies. Advice that worked for us is clearly signposted. There are about 500 articles on a vast range of subjects plus lots of links to the latest research. David also writes about the topics I have chosen from his autistic experience, providing insight into how our relationship works (or doesn't) from his perspective. I want to share with you the everyday, nitty gritty, tiny details that most people outside of your family would miss, that really affect you as a couple. I have gone into detail about these and explained why these behaviours happen. Not every man with AS is the same but you will recognise some of these behaviours in your husband or partner. I graduated with a Masters in Autism from Northumbria University and used my 18 years of experience (research) of living with David to write my dissertation about our marriage. I couldn't help but be worried when he read through my dissertation at the end as I was concerned that I may have misunderstood some things or upset him with some of the detail. I believe it was probably quite hard for him to read how much his behaviour over the years had affected me but all he said after he had read it through was that it was 'very insightful'. I knew then I had done a good job.
Download or read book Typed Words Loud Voices written by Amy Sequenzia and published by . This book was released on 2015 with total page 148 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Typed Words, Loud Voices is written by a coalition of writers who type to talk and believe it is neither logical nor fair that some people should be expected to prove themselves every time they have something to say.
Download or read book The Complete Guide to Asperger s Syndrome written by Tony Attwood and published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers. This book was released on 2007 with total page 401 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A guide to Asperger's syndrome describes what it is and how it is diagnosed, along with information on such topics as bullying, emotions, language, movement, cognitive ability, and long-term relationships.
