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Book The Truth about Dating Revealed

Download or read book The Truth about Dating Revealed written by Steve Penner and published by iUniverse. This book was released on 2007-11 with total page 106 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The Truth about Dating Revealed is a humorous, entertaining, and informative guide that will help single men and women understand each other and where they stand in the "social marketplace". It will help people understand what their "Dating Quotient" is and offer practical pointers on how to raise it. Author Steve Penner draws upon over two decades of experience interviewing and listening to feedback from thousands of single and divorced men and women who joined the Boston-based dating service LunchDates that he founded in 1982.

Book Why Does He Do That  Why Does She Do That

Download or read book Why Does He Do That Why Does She Do That written by Paula Bloom and published by Sellers Publishing. This book was released on 2012 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Why does he forget my birthday? Why does she have so many pairs of shoes? Why doesn't he listen to me? Why does she give me the silent treatment? in Why Does He Do That? Why Does She Do That? noted relationship experts Dr. Paula Bloom and Dr. Reef Karim reveal how to make romantic relationships work by better understanding what you really need to know about the opposite sex. Using a lively Q & A format, they show what issues large and small can wreak havoc with a couple and how to understand the mixed signals that men and women sometimes give one another in this lively, entertaining, and no-holds-barred guide, you ll learn surprising answers to a wide range of questions covering all aspects of a relationship, including : Who should pay on a date and why? How to deal with failure to launch and other sexual misfires. How to know whether you re ready for the big M (not marriage monogamy!) How to fight fair and make up instead of breaking up. Why Does He Do That? Why Does She Do That? is for smart women who want to be savvy about love and for caring men who want to understand women better. If you re in a relationship or you want to be this book could save your (love) life!

Book Relationship Goals

    Book Details:
  • Author : Michael Todd
  • Publisher : WaterBrook
  • Release : 2020-04-28
  • ISBN : 0593192583
  • Pages : 210 pages

Download or read book Relationship Goals written by Michael Todd and published by WaterBrook. This book was released on 2020-04-28 with total page 210 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: #1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A candid, inspiring guide to finding lasting love and sustaining a healthy relationship by getting real about your goals—based on the viral, multi-million-view sermon series about dating, marriage, and sex “No matter where you are and no matter what stage of life you are in, Relationship Goals will be a game changer.”—Levi Lusko NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY COSMOPOLITAN You scroll through photo after photo of happy couples and think, I want a relationship like that! The thing is, those intimate relationships are a mirage—the closer you get to them, the more you realize they aren’t real at all. So what does a real relationship look like? And how do you get there? In Relationship Goals, Pastor Michael Todd digs deep to give you good news and real-life ideas for making the most of your most important relationships. Take a look at • what it means to choose intentional dating over recreational dating • how to move on from mistakes you’ve made in the past • why love gets stronger after marriage • what the Bible has to say about sex (hot take: it’s more sizzling than you think) • why the best friendships have God at the center Whether you are married, single, or it’s complicated, aiming for the right targets will make all the difference in finding true satisfaction. As it turns out, God’s got the best relationship goals of all for your life. Why settle for less?

Book Revealed

Download or read book Revealed written by Gracie Wells and published by Independently Published. This book was released on 2024-06-02 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: REVEALED: THE TRUTH ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS offers a comprehensive guide to modern relationships, helping readers traverse the often confusing world of love. From mastering the art of online dating to identifying and dealing with narcissistic partners, this book provides practical advice and valuable insights for building healthy, lasting relationships. Whether you're new to dating, looking to deepen your connections, or seeking to understand complex relationship dynamics, Gracie Wells' guidance will empower you to navigate love with confidence and clarity.

Book Meet to Marry

Download or read book Meet to Marry written by Bari Lyman and published by Health Communications, Inc.. This book was released on 2011-10-03 with total page 290 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Statistic show that the number of unmarried women in the US has now surpassed the number of married women, and many single men are duly frustrated that the women theyre meeting are just not that into them. But theres hope for the 100 million singles who are looking for the true connection. Meet to Marry founder and dating coach Bari Lyman discovered the common link that keeps most people from happily ever after. In Meet to marry, Lyman shares her time-tested method and revolutionary advice to finding wedded bliss. Using her Assess, Attract and Act approach to dating, she shows readers how, by changing their mind-set and removing their blind spots, they will reap a relationship match that takes them from being single to the alter.

Book Secrets Revealed

    Book Details:
  • Author : Quentin Witt
  • Publisher :
  • Release : 2016-03-25
  • ISBN : 9780692678060
  • Pages : 128 pages

Download or read book Secrets Revealed written by Quentin Witt and published by . This book was released on 2016-03-25 with total page 128 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Do you always make the right decisions with your heart? If you're anything like the rest of us then the answer is NO. Life moves at a blistering speed, and it can be difficult not to lose track of your love life. Sure, you could learn a few tricks to make dating and relationships a lot easier. Just study the critically acclaimed love and behavioral science work of people like neurologist Paul McLean and psychologist Ivan Pavlov. Or review the statistics collected by online dating giants such as eHarmony. Or take your lead from cutting-edge methods used by the FBI to spot untrustworthy men... Sounds pretty time consuming right? Well, over the course of a year Author Quentin Witt did all of the above, and then put the most relevant findings into one easy to read book. Which would have been enough for most people. But not for Quentin... Driven by a single-minded ambition to help women make the right choices (including, for instance, avoiding men like the stepfather he watched abuse his mother), he also spent six months conducting in-depth interviews with over 100 black men from all different walks of life. The answers he received are seldom heard outside of sports bars and men's locker rooms. Here was the uncut truth about how men really feel about relationships. What makes them commit. What makes them leave. What makes them stay. What makes them fall in love... Quentin knew that he had struck gold. All that had been missing from his previous research was the raw sincerity of individual people. Finally, he had all the material he needed to live up to his standard of writing. The result is Face The Facts: The Uncut Truth That Will Change Your Love Life Forever, a comprehensive guide to dating and relationships, written specifically for an audience of educated black women. It's the one book that will sharpen your knowledge and intuition to a point where there simply is no way you can lose on the battlefield of love. Here are a few examples of what you'll learn inside: 7 simple things you can do right now to become magnetically attractive to men. 5 mistakes that are guaranteed to eventually destroy your relationship. A tactic that will make the man you desire chase you instead. Tips to keep your relationship strong even when life gets crazy. Plus so much more including NUMEROUS stats and quotes from the men we interviewed! Finally, a simple way to find out what's really going on in the minds of men...

Book The Fall of Jerusalem Revealed   Unveiling the Hidden Date Under the Reign of Nebuchadnezzar  RUBENS SILVA

Download or read book The Fall of Jerusalem Revealed Unveiling the Hidden Date Under the Reign of Nebuchadnezzar RUBENS SILVA written by RUBENS SILVA and published by RUBENS SILVA. This book was released on with total page 29 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Introduction: Discovering the True Date of the Fall of Jerusalem - An Epic Journey Through Time. Welcome to a fascinating journey through time, where we will explore the mysteries and hidden truths behind the fall of Jerusalem. Prepare to embark on a historic adventure filled with startling discoveries, ancient intrigues and shocking revelations. In the pages of this book, we will unravel one of the most intriguing riddles in history: the true date of the fall of Jerusalem. Over the centuries, various dates have been proposed by scholars and historians, generating heated debates and differences of opinion. However, based on meticulous research and thorough analysis, historian and scholar Rubens Silva brings to light the most accurate and convincing date - 607 BC. But why this particular date? And how did we come to that conclusion? On this journey, we will delve into the pages of historical accounts, between the lines of biblical texts and the works of respected historians of antiquity. We will unravel the crucial events that led to the fall of Jerusalem, its ramifications and the records left by the protagonists of past times. Prepare to be captivated by powerful narratives as Jeremiah, Ezra and Daniel come to life, transporting us into the maelstrom of events that shook the holy city. Their voices will resound through the ages, revealing precious details and long-forgotten revelations. At the center of this journey is historian and researcher Rubens Silva, passionate about biblical stories and their profound meaning. His relentless dedication to uncovering historical truth led him to delve into ancient chronicles, manuscripts, and eyewitness accounts. Driven by his passion and his pursuit of accuracy, he unearths the evidence that firmly supports the 607 BC date, shedding light on an event that shaped a nation's history and spirituality. In this work, you will find a narrative rich in detail, based on solid research and enriched by the words of the protagonists of the time. By following in Rubens Silva's footsteps and immersing yourself in this journey, you will be led to question previously accepted dates, delve into the evidence presented and uncover the truth that was hidden for so long. Ready to challenge established concepts, open your mind to new perspectives and discover the truth about the date of the fall of Jerusalem? So, join us on this epic journey through time and discover the wonders and secrets that await your exploration. The truth is within reach, waiting for you in the pages ahead. THE AUTHOR

Book How to Not Die Alone

    Book Details:
  • Author : Logan Ury
  • Publisher : Simon and Schuster
  • Release : 2021-02-02
  • ISBN : 1982120649
  • Pages : 352 pages

Download or read book How to Not Die Alone written by Logan Ury and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2021-02-02 with total page 352 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A “must-read” (The Washington Post) funny and practical guide to help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams. Have you ever looked around and wondered, “Why has everyone found love except me?” You’re not the only one. Great relationships don’t just appear in our lives—they’re the culmination of a series of decisions, including whom to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one. But our brains often get in the way. We make poor decisions, which thwart us on our quest to find lasting love. Drawing from years of research, behavioral scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury reveals the hidden forces that cause those mistakes. But awareness on its own doesn’t lead to results. You have to actually change your behavior. Ury shows you how. This “simple-to-use guide” (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) focuses on a different decision in each chapter, incorporating insights from behavioral science, original research, and real-life stories. You’ll learn: -What’s holding you back in dating (and how to break the pattern) -What really matters in a long-term partner (and what really doesn’t) -How to overcome the perils of online dating (and make the apps work for you) -How to meet more people in real life (while doing activities you love) -How to make dates fun again (so they stop feeling like job interviews) -Why “the spark” is a myth (but you’ll find love anyway) This “data-driven” (Time), step-by-step guide to relationships, complete with hands-on exercises, is designed to transform your life. How to Not Die Alone will help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams.

Book Love That Lasts

    Book Details:
  • Author : Jefferson Bethke
  • Publisher : Thomas Nelson
  • Release : 2017-10-10
  • ISBN : 071803919X
  • Pages : 268 pages

Download or read book Love That Lasts written by Jefferson Bethke and published by Thomas Nelson. This book was released on 2017-10-10 with total page 268 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In Love That Lasts, New York Times bestselling author of Jesus > Religion Jefferson Bethke and his wife, Alyssa, expose the distorted views of love that permeate our culture and damage our hearts, minds, and souls. Drawing from Jeff’s “prodigal son” personal history and from Alyssa’s “True Love Waits” experience, the Bethkes point to a third and better way. Blending personal storytelling with biblical teaching, they offer readers an inspiring, realistic vision of love, dating, marriage, and sex. Young people today enter adulthood with expectations of blissful dating followed by a romantic, fulfilling marriage only to discover they’ve been duped. They learned about love and sexuality from social media, their friends, Disney fairy tales, pornography, or even their own rocky past, and they have no idea what healthy, lifelong love is supposed to be like. The results are often disastrous, with this generation becoming one of the most relationally sick, sexually addicted, and divorce ridden in history. Looking to God’s design while drawing lessons from their own successes and failures, the Bethkes explode the fictions and falsehoods of our current moment. One by one, they peel back lies such as, the belief that every person has only one soul mate, that marriage will complete you, and that pornography and hook-ups are harmless.

Book 20x More Matches Overnight  The Ultimate Online Dating Breakthrough Revealed

Download or read book 20x More Matches Overnight The Ultimate Online Dating Breakthrough Revealed written by Eros Delaville and published by EBC Edizioni. This book was released on 2023-07-04 with total page 85 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Are you tired of spending countless hours swiping left and right, only to end up with lackluster matches and disappointing conversations? Are you ready to transform your love life and experience an extraordinary surge of incredible connections? Look no further - the ultimate solution is right at your fingertips! Introducing “20x More Matches Overnight”, the groundbreaking system that will completely revolutionize your online dating journey. Imagine waking up tomorrow to find your inbox overflowing with messages from attractive potential partners who are eager to meet you. This unparalleled method has been carefully crafted using expert insights and proven techniques, ensuring that you’ll achieve exceptional results in record time. Unveil the Secrets of Profile Perfection: Craft a Magnetic Profile: Learn how to create a profile that effortlessly captures attention and compels potential matches to swipe right. Discover powerful language techniques, storytelling strategies, and sensory imagery that will leave a lasting impression. Showcase Your Authenticity: Stand out from the crowd by showcasing your true self in an engaging and genuine way. Unleash your unique qualities, interests, and passions that will strike a chord with those who are truly compatible. Harness Your Irresistible Charm: Master The Art of Conversation: From witty icebreakers to thought-provoking questions, ignite meaningful conversations that go beyond small talk. Learn how to effortlessly engage potential matches and create deep connections from the very first message. Captivate With Confidence: Build genuine rapport through confident communication that showcases your personality. Discover proven techniques for creating intrigue, sparking curiosity, and leaving potential matches craving more. Maximize Your Match Potential: Picture Perfect Selections: Select photos that instantly grab attention and highlight your best features. Whether it’s a captivating headshot or an adventurous full-body shot, we’ll guide you on curating a collection of compelling visuals that tell your unique story. Unleash Your Unique Qualities: Showcase your talents, hobbies, and interests in a way that captivates potential matches. Learn how to create an irresistible narrative that resonates deeply with like-minded individuals. A ton of examples and practical exercises In addition to the powerful strategies outlined above, “20x More Matches Overnight” offers you a wealth of examples and exercises that will enhance your understanding and implementation of these techniques. But wait, there’s more! As part of this comprehensive guide, you’ll also receive exclusive bonus content: Top-Tier Icebreakers: Break the ice effortlessly with clever and attention-grabbing opening lines. Stand out from the crowd and make a memorable first impression that leaves potential matches eager for more. Unforgettable Date Ideas: From enchanting experiences to adventurous outings, discover exciting date ideas that will leave a lasting impression. Transform ordinary meet-ups into extraordinary moments of connection and chemistry. Psychological Triggers: Unlock the power of subtle hints and psychological triggers that keep potential matches engaged and intrigued. Learn how to navigate conversations with finesse and create an irresistible allure. Don’t let another day pass by with mediocre matches or missed opportunities for genuine connection. It’s time to take control of your online dating success and unlock a world of endless possibilities! Embark on a journey towards 20x more matches - guaranteed!

Book Subliminally Exposed

    Book Details:
  • Author : Steven Dayan
  • Publisher : Morgan James Publishing
  • Release : 2013-06-04
  • ISBN : 1614485879
  • Pages : 247 pages

Download or read book Subliminally Exposed written by Steven Dayan and published by Morgan James Publishing. This book was released on 2013-06-04 with total page 247 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The New York Times bestseller that explores the primitive world of human programming as it pertains to beauty, culture, and evolution. Beauty is raw, powerful, and often dangerous, but when refined, harnessed, and mastered, it can be incredibly influential. Just as there is a good reason why all humans find sugar to be sweet and a growling beast intimidating, there is an evolutionary logic to why our appearances allow us to communicate and manipulate each other at a subconscious level. Who you choose to mate, befriend, or work with often pivots on a few critical yet subliminal decisions made within a fraction of a second. The human brain has been evolving over 3.5 million years, and our thoughts, behaviors, and actions are rooted in a system that is evolutionary, adaptive, and unencumbered by political, social, or religious constraints. Evolution only cares about one thing: survival of our genes. Subliminally Exposed will reveal the how and why behind your actions and empower you to decode and translate others’ subconscious behaviors. Whether it is for political, employment, or relationship purposes, the knowledge and tools gained from the words in this book can be used for betterment or deceit. It is your choice. Regardless, be forewarned. The information you are about to read will affect every one of your relationships for better or worse in one way or another.

Book 40 Days of Dating

Download or read book 40 Days of Dating written by Timothy Goodman and published by ABRAMS. This book was released on 2015-01-20 with total page 586 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: “What would happen if Harry met Sally in the age of Tinder and Snapchat? . . . A field guide to Millennial dating in New York City” (New York Daily News). When New York–based graphic designers and long-time friends Timothy Goodman and Jessica Walsh found themselves single at the same time, they decided to try an experiment. The old adage says that it takes forty days to change a habit—could the same be said for love? So they agreed to date each other for forty days, record their experiences in questionnaires, photographs, videos, texts, and artworks, and post the material on a website they would create for this purpose. What began as a small experiment between two friends became an Internet sensation, drawing five million unique (and obsessed) visitors from around the globe to their site and their story. 40 Days of Dating: An Experiment is a beautifully designed, expanded look at the experiment and the results, including a great deal of material that never made it onto the site, such as who they were as friends and individuals before the forty days and who they have become since.

Book How to Fall in Love with Anyone

Download or read book How to Fall in Love with Anyone written by Mandy Len Catron and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2017-06-27 with total page 211 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: “A beautifully written and well-researched cultural criticism as well as an honest memoir” (Los Angeles Review of Books) from the author of the popular New York Times essay, “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This,” explores the romantic myths we create and explains how they limit our ability to achieve and sustain intimacy. What really makes love last? Does love ever work the way we say it does in movies and books and Facebook posts? Or does obsessing over those love stories hurt our real-life relationships? When her parents divorced after a twenty-eight year marriage and her own ten-year relationship ended, those were the questions that Mandy Len Catron wanted to answer. In a series of candid, vulnerable, and wise essays that takes a closer look at what it means to love someone, be loved, and how we present our love to the world, “Catron melds science and emotion beautifully into a thoughtful and thought-provoking meditation” (Bookpage). She delves back to 1944, when her grandparents met in a coal mining town in Appalachia, to her own dating life as a professor in Vancouver. She uses biologists’ research into dopamine triggers to ask whether the need to love is an innate human drive. She uses literary theory to show why we prefer certain kinds of love stories. She urges us to question the unwritten scripts we follow in relationships and looks into where those scripts come from. And she tells the story of how she decided to test an experiment that she’d read about—where the goal was to create intimacy between strangers using a list of thirty-six questions—and ended up in the surreal situation of having millions of people following her brand-new relationship. “Perfect fodder for the romantic and the cynic in all of us” (Booklist), How to Fall in Love with Anyone flips the script on love. “Clear-eyed and full of heart, it is mandatory reading for anyone coping with—or curious about—the challenges of contemporary courtship” (The Toronto Star).

Book Text Dating Secrets Revealed

Download or read book Text Dating Secrets Revealed written by Vin Petrillo and published by Gamma Mouse. This book was released on 2014-02-10 with total page 90 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Revealing Texting Dating Tips That Will Have You Attracting More Women Want to attract and date more woman? Is there a certain girl you want to seduce and have a relationship with? Would you like to amp up her interest in you? And do you want to do all of this with the most powerful tool at your disposal--your phone. Texting her isn't difficult if you know what you are doing, and this book will show you how. Beyond just a simple texting guide, this book teaches you how to write messages that will text her into bed. Text Dating Secrets Revealed destroys the conventional wisdom about attracting, dating, and seducing women through the use of text messaging. This guide will help transform you from a texting zero to a texting hero with simple, easily-to-implement advice. If you can text, then you already have all the necessary skills to succeed. You just have to be willing to take action. Renown text dating guru Vin Petrillo unveils his simple and efficient storyteller system, which focuses on building attraction in women by pressing the right emotional buttons. A Preview of What You Will Learn Inside... • How frequently should you text her? • What type of text will make her take notice and WANT to respond immediately to you? • How you can tell she is interested in you? • Should you flirt in your texts, and if so, when? • How to ask her out without appearing interested? • Is asking her a lot of questions a good idea? Text Dating Secrets Revealed covers these questions and many more. This guide will explain in-depth the mistakes you are probably making and how to avoid them in the future. Don't be stuck in the past, following advice that doesn't get you anywhere. It is time to make a change.

Book Nothing Personal

Download or read book Nothing Personal written by Nancy Jo Sales and published by Legacy Lit. This book was released on 2021-05-18 with total page 384 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A raw and funny memoir about sex, dating, and relationships in the digital age, intertwined with a brilliant investigation into the challenges to love and intimacy wrought by dating apps, by firebrand New York Times–bestselling author Nancy Jo Sales At forty-nine, famed Vanity Fair writer Nancy Jo Sales was nursing a broken heart and wondering, “How did I wind up alone?” On the advice of a young friend, she downloaded Tinder, then a brand-new dating app. What followed was a raucous ride through the world of online dating. Sales, an award-winning journalist and single mom, became a leading critic of the online dating industry, reporting and writing articles and making her directorial debut with the HBO documentary Swiped: Hooking Up in the Digital Age. Meanwhile, she was dating a series of younger men, eventually falling in love with a man less than half her age. Nothing Personal is Sales’s memoir of coming-of-middle-age in the midst of a new dating revolution. She is unsparingly honest about her own experience of addiction to dating apps and hilarious in her musings about dick pics, sexting, dating FOMO, and more. Does Big Dating really want us to find love, she asks, or just keep on using its apps? ​Fiercely feminist, Nothing Personal investigates how Big Dating has overwhelmed the landscape of dating, cynically profiting off its users’ deepest needs and desires. Looking back through the history of modern courtship and her own relationships, Sales examines how sexism has always been a factor for women in dating, and asks what the future of courtship will bring, if left to the designs of Silicon Valley’s tech giants—especially in a time of social distancing and a global pandemic, when the rules of romance are once again changing.

Book The Dating Divide

Download or read book The Dating Divide written by Celeste Vaughan Curington and published by University of California Press. This book was released on 2021-02-09 with total page 317 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The data behind a distinct form of racism in online dating The Dating Divide is the first comprehensive look at "digital-sexual racism," a distinct form of racism that is mediated and amplified through the impersonal and anonymous context of online dating. Drawing on large-scale behavioral data from a mainstream dating website, extensive archival research, and more than seventy-five in-depth interviews with daters of diverse racial backgrounds and sexual identities, Curington, Lundquist, and Lin illustrate how the seemingly open space of the internet interacts with the loss of social inhibition in cyberspace contexts, fostering openly expressed forms of sexual racism that are rarely exposed in face-to-face encounters. The Dating Divide is a fascinating look at how a contemporary conflux of individualization, consumerism, and the proliferation of digital technologies has given rise to a unique form of gendered racism in the era of swiping right—or left. The internet is often heralded as an equalizer, a seemingly level playing field, but the digital world also acts as an extension of and platform for the insidious prejudices and divisive impulses that affect social politics in the "real" world. Shedding light on how every click, swipe, or message can be linked to the history of racism and courtship in the United States, this compelling study uses data to show the racial biases at play in digital dating spaces.

Book The State of Affairs

    Book Details:
  • Author : Esther Perel
  • Publisher : HarperCollins
  • Release : 2017-10-10
  • ISBN : 0062322605
  • Pages : 321 pages

Download or read book The State of Affairs written by Esther Perel and published by HarperCollins. This book was released on 2017-10-10 with total page 321 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” — LA Review of Books From iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”