Download or read book Buddy System written by Geoffrey Greif and published by Oxford University Press. This book was released on 2009 with total page 313 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Much has been made of the complex social arrangements that girls and women navigate, but little scholarly or popular attention has focused on what friendship means to men. Drawing on in-depth interviews with nearly 400 men, therapist and researcher Geoffrey L. Greif takes readers on a guided tour of male friendships, explaining what makes them work, why they are vital to the health of individuals and communities, and how to build the kinds of friendships that can lead to longer and happier lives. Another 120 conversations with women help map the differences in what men and women seek from friendships and what, if anything, men can learn from women's relationships.The guiding feature of the book is Greif's typology of male friendships: he dispels the myth that men don't have friends, showing that men have must, trust, just,and rust friends. A must friend is the best friend a man absolutely must call with earthshaking news. A trust friend is liked and trusted but not necessarily held as close as a must friend. Just friends are casual acquaintances, while rust friends have a long history together and can drift in and out of each other's lives, essentially picking up where they last left off. Understanding the role each of these types of friends play across men's lives reveals fascinating developmental patterns, such as how men cope with stress and conflict and how they make and maintain friendships, and how their friends keep them active and happy.Through the lively words of men themselves, and detailed profiles of men from their twenties to their nineties, readers may be surprised to find what friendships offer men--as well as their families and communities--and are sure to learn what makes their own relationships tick.
Download or read book Men s Friendships written by Peter M. Nardi and published by SAGE. This book was released on 1992-02-26 with total page 257 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "Men's Friendships" offers an analysis of the differences within each of the genders and the social forces that shape the ways friendship is organized. Through varying perspectives the contributors show that a variation exists within as well as between the genders. They focus on the diversity in men's friendships, and how men develop and maintain friendships with other men and with women. The first section focuses on philosophical and historical questions. Part II illustrates the strong connection between social structure and men's friendships; and the last series of chapters considers cultural diversity. -- From publisher's description.
Download or read book Gay Men s Friendships written by Peter M. Nardi and published by University of Chicago Press. This book was released on 1999-07-15 with total page 280 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Based on surveys and interviews of two hundred gay men, Peter Nardi's new study presents the first book-length examination of contemporary urban gay men's friendships. Expertly weaving historical and sociological research on friendship with firsthand information, Nardi argues that friendship is the central organizing element of gay men's lives. Through friendship, gay identities and communities are created, transformed, maintained, and reproduced. Nardi explores the meaning of friends to some gay men, how friends often become a surrogate family, how sexual behavior and attraction affects these friendships, and how, for many, friends mean more and last longer than romantic relationships. While looking at the psychological joys and sorrows of friendship, he also considers the cultural constraints limiting gay men in contemporary urban America—especially those that deal with dominant images of masculinity and heterosexuality—and how they relate to friendship. By listening to gay men talk about their interactions, Nardi offers a rare glimpse into the mechanisms of gay life. We learn how gay men meet their friends, what they typically do and talk about, and how these strong relationships contain the roots of larger cultural forces such as social movements and gay identities and neighborhoods. Nardi also points out the political and social consequences when friendships fail to provide support against oppression. An intimate and informative look at gay life in urban America, Gay Men's Friendships ultimately shows how these relationships challenge the gender order of our society by questioning how masculinity is constructed and by offering a model for a more creative blending of gay and heterosexual masculinity.
Download or read book Breaking the Male Code written by Robert Garfield and published by Avery. This book was released on 2016-04-26 with total page 322 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Shows how men can develop a deeper friendship with other men.
Download or read book Deep Secrets written by Niobe Way and published by Harvard University Press. This book was released on 2013-05-06 with total page 337 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: ÒBoys are emotionally illiterate and donÕt want intimate friendships.Ó In this empirically grounded challenge to our stereotypes about boys and men, Niobe Way reveals the intense intimacy among teenage boys especially during early and middle adolescence. Boys not only share their deepest secrets and feelings with their closest male friends, they claim that without them they would go Òwacko.Ó Yet as boys become men, they become distrustful, lose these friendships, and feel isolated and alone. Drawing from hundreds of interviews conducted throughout adolescence with black, Latino, white, and Asian American boys, Deep Secrets reveals the ways in which we have been telling ourselves a false story about boys, friendships, and human nature. BoysÕ descriptions of their male friendships sound more like Òsomething out of Love Story than Lord of the Flies.Ó Yet in late adolescence, boys feel they have to Òman upÓ by becoming stoic and independent. Vulnerable emotions and intimate friendships are for girls and gay men. ÒNo homoÓ becomes their mantra. These findings are alarming, given what we know about links between friendships and health, and even longevity. Rather than a Òboy crisis,Ó Way argues that boys are experiencing a Òcrisis of connectionÓ because they live in a culture where human needs and capacities are given a sex (female) and a sexuality (gay), and thus discouraged for those who are neither. Way argues that the solution lies with exposing the inaccuracies of our gender stereotypes and fostering these critical relationships and fundamental human skills.
Download or read book Men s Friendships as Feminist Politics written by Klara Goedecke and published by Springer Nature. This book was released on 2022-10-29 with total page 209 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This book discusses men’s friendships in relation to queer, discursive, and intersectional feminist theories. It analyses stories of intimacy, touch, hugs, and conversations, connecting these with current discussions within feminism and critical masculinity studies on “new” men, men’s political activism, and how friendships are lived and conceptualised in relation to heteronormative relationship ideals. Drawing on individual and dyadic interviews with middle-class Swedish men, all engaged in or sympathetic to feminist issues in some sense, this volume shows that Swedish gender equality ideologies as well as feminist, therapeutic, neo-liberal, and individualist discourses prevalent in the Western world structured the men’s friendships and their engagement with gender politics. Chapters cover friendship temporalities, gendered friendship ideals, friendship as men’s politics, and friendship as performed in interaction. Bridging the literatures of feminist research and friendship, the author points to tensions and contradictions in pro-feminist men’s political projects and in contemporary masculine positions.
Download or read book Remaking Manhood written by Mark C. Greene and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2016-04-19 with total page 152 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Remaking Manhood is a collection of Good Men Project Executive Editor Mark Greene's most popular articles on American culture, relationships, family and fatherhood. It is a timely and balanced look at the life affirming changes emerging from within the modern men's movement."This is writing that unites men rather than dividing or exploiting them. It speaks to the very best part of men and asks them to bring that part to the fore-as fathers, as sons, as brothers, as husbands, as friends, as lovers, and as citizens of life." -Michael Rowe, author of Other Men's Sons"Read this book, but don't mistake it as a defense of men. Remaking Manhood is going to be considered a go-to piece of literature on the new "Male Revolution."" -Jason Grant, CityDadsGroup.com"Mark interweaves his own deeply personal stories with a salient and powerful deconstruction of manhood in America."-Lisa Hickey, CEO, Good Men Project
Download or read book The Men We Loved written by Danny Kaplan and published by Berghahn Books. This book was released on 2006 with total page 198 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "Follows selected stories of friendship ranging over early childhood, school, the workplace, and some unique war experiences. This book explores the symbolism of friendship in rituals for the fallen soldiers, the commemoration of Prime Minister Yitzhak Rabin, and the national infatuation with recovering bodies of missing soldiers".--BOOKJACKET.
Download or read book Founding Friendships written by Cassandra A. Good and published by Oxford University Press, USA. This book was released on 2015 with total page 303 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Elite men and women in America's founding era formed friendships with one another that were vibrant, intimate, and politically significant. These relationships put women on equal footing with the founding fathers and other prominent men. Such friendships, Cassandra Good shows in Founding Friendships, enriched both the lives of individuals and the political fabric of the new nation.
Download or read book Seven Friendships Every Man Needs written by Justin Erickson and published by Harvest House Publishers. This book was released on 2019-03-21 with total page 242 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This One's for the Guys On the scale of stranger to bromance, where do your friendships land? As guys, we tend to get a bum rap when it comes to our ability to relate to other men. We talk work, sports, and buffalo wings, but struggle to move into meaningful conversation with our friends. Justin Erickson has identified seven kinds of friendships every man needs to thrive and grow as a Christian. Based on the biblical role models of men like David, Paul, and Timothy, these are the relationships that ultimately make you the man that God has called you to be. Delve deeper into the life lessons offered by friendships found in the Bible, and find the kind of men who can enrich your life in a multitude of ways. God made you to be relational. Stop settling for surface-level connections, and learn to build life-changing relationships that last.
Download or read book Text Me when You Get Home written by Kayleen Schaefer and published by Penguin. This book was released on 2018 with total page 290 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: 'Text me when you get home.' After joyful nights out together, female friends say this to one another as a way of cementing their love. It's about safety but, more than that, it's about solidarity. A validation of female friendship unlike any that's ever existed before, Text Me When You Get Home is a mix of historical research, the author's own personal experience, and conversations about friendships with women across the country. Everything Schaefer uncovers reveals that these ties are making us, both as individuals and as society as a whole, stronger than ever before.
Download or read book Friend ish written by Kelly Needham and published by Thomas Nelson. This book was released on 2019-08-27 with total page 224 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: For so many of us, our friends are like family members--we lean on them through our highest highs and our lowest lows--but sometimes those friendships don't turn out quite as we hoped. Bible teacher Kelly Needham debunks our world's constricted, narrow view of friendship and casts a richer, more life-giving, biblical vision for friendship. In Friend-ish, Kelly Needham reminds us that we were called to more than halfhearted friendships and lukewarm connections. We need something more stable, secure, and sacred. We were designed for real friendship--but the difficult truth is that too many of us are settling for less. Kelly deconstructs what Scripture says about the gift of friendship and takes a closer look at the distorted view that most of us have instead. As she shares the lessons she's learned from experience, Kelly paints her own glorious vision of what Christian friendship could look like. With hard-fought wisdom, a clear view of Scripture, and a been-there perspective, Friend-ish teaches us how to: Recognize symptoms of idolatry and toxic dependency Boldly ask for what we need from our community of friends Understand and address the problems that arise in friendship--from neediness to discord Recognize when it's time to end an unhealthy friendship Reorient toward the purposeful, loving relationships we all crave that ultimately bring us closer to God Find the friends you need and start to become that friend for others Join Kelly as she challenges you to view your chosen family in a new light, gain a vision of friendship according to Jesus, and finally enjoy friendships as God intended.
Download or read book The Lonely American written by Jacqueline Olds, MD and published by Beacon Press. This book was released on 2010-02-01 with total page 239 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In today's world, it is more acceptable to be depressed than to be lonely-yet loneliness appears to be the inevitable byproduct of our frenetic contemporary lifestyle. According to the 2004 General Social Survey, one out of four Americans talked to no one about something of importance to them during the last six months. Another remarkable fact emerged from the 2000 U.S. Census: more people are living alone today than at any point in the country's history—fully 25 percent of households consist of one person only. In this crucial look at one of America's few remaining taboo subjects—loneliness—Drs. Jacqueline Olds and Richard S. Schwartz set out to understand the cultural imperatives, psychological dynamics, and physical mechanisms underlying social isolation. In The Lonely American, cutting-edge research on the physiological and cognitive effects of social exclusion and emerging work in the neurobiology of attachment uncover startling, sobering ripple effects of loneliness in areas as varied as physical health, children's emotional problems, substance abuse, and even global warming. Surprising new studies tell a grim truth about social isolation: being disconnected diminishes happiness, health, and longevity; increases aggression; and correlates with increasing rates of violent crime. Loneliness doesn't apply simply to single people, either—today's busy parents "cocoon" themselves by devoting most of their non-work hours to children, leaving little time for friends, and other forms of social contact, and unhealthily relying on the marriage to fulfill all social needs. As a core population of socially isolated individuals and families continues to balloon in size, it is more important than ever to understand the effects of a culture that idealizes busyness and self-reliance. It's time to bring loneliness—a very real and little-discussed social epidemic with frightening consequences-out into the open, and find a way to navigate the tension between freedom and connection in our lives.
Download or read book Just Friends the Ultimate Girl s Guide to Male Friendships written by Pamela Naidoo and published by . This book was released on 2017-05-08 with total page 232 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The ONE-AND-ONLY revolutionary platonic friendship book designed to guide the modern woman in creating long-lasting, successful and fun male friendships. All the secrets FINALLY revealed!"Just Friends - The Ultimate Girl's Guide to Male Friendships" is the most important relationships guide for women, and will redefine the boundaries of male and female friendships.Combining the latest scientific research and endorsed by leading scientific experts in this field, 'Just Friends' is every woman's essential guide. In it, you will discover the wonders of platonic relationships in an exciting, refreshing, down-to-earth conversational style.Full of practical how-to tips, guiding questions, and using a proven step-by-step process, you will easily learn how to build and nurture male friendships and have fun along the way! Whether you're looking to make new male friends or simply maintain and enhance your current friendships, this engaging guide reveals it all!The premise is simple: Platonic friendships are the FASTEST growing social interaction on the planet! We study, work and play together, now more than ever; so, learning how to build successful, long-term friendships with the opposite sex is key to a happier, healthier, more fulfilling life. Making a meaningful connection with other people could be the single most valuable skill in business and life. Establishing natural, meaningful friendships will contribute positively to your overall well-being.Brimming with advice, tips, and common sense, this book will help to get women and men talking, and will keep platonic friends 'together forever'.You will learn how to:* Successfully make new friends (male) and keep them as friends* Find extraordinary male friends-where to look and how to approach them* Kick-start the friendship, deal with rejection and learn how to build trust through conversation and activities* Manage the friendship when feelings get in the way. Move seamlessly from friends to lovers and understand what it means to date a friend* How to get out the dreaded friend zone and step into somewhere better* Manage and make the most out of a 'friends with benefits' relationship* And much, much more....With straightforward, honest writing from that prized female perspective, Pamela unlocks the secrets to enable you both to reach true mutual understanding and make friends forever. Discover for yourself why women believe that 'Just Friends - The Ultimate Girl's Guide to Male Friendships' should be mandatory reading for every modern woman.The ONLY Book Every Girl Needs to Unlock the 'Friendship' Hearts of Men - GUARANTEED!
Download or read book Mark Twain and Male Friendship written by Peter Messent and published by OUP USA. This book was released on 2009-10-30 with total page 269 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Combining biography, literary history, and gender studies, this book examines three profoundly influential and vastly different friendships in the life of Mark Twain.
Download or read book Bromance written by Stefan Robinson and published by Springer Nature. This book was released on 2022-04-29 with total page 284 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Unraveling the stereotype that men’s friendships are unemotional and shallow, this book provides the first detailed account of the bromance that exists among young men. Drawing on one year of ethnography and 20 in-depth interviews among a university sport team, the authors show that these men reject traditional masculine boundaries, instead prioritizing an emotional and tactile form of friendship. Chapters detail the cultural shift in society’s views on bromances, showing that bromances exists as an elevated, more emotional and intimate form of friendship, existing as a further positive consequence of decreasing cultural homophobia. By focusing on sport—which has traditionally been seen as a homophobic environment with toxic constructions of manhood—the authors show that even in the most traditionally masculine of settings, young men are rethinking what male friendship looks like, what it means to be a man, and the positive impact this can have on their mental health. This book will be relevant to a number of audiences including scholars and students in masculinity studies, queer studies, and friendship studies; LGBTQ+ activists and allies with interest in straight men’s friendships and sports cultures; and men’s mental health advocates.
Download or read book Men and Friendship written by Stuart Miller and published by Tarcher. This book was released on 1992 with total page 228 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: An intimate, revealing look at the rewards of close male friendships. Through his personal quest Miller exposes the underlying codes and dictates that prevent men from sustaining close friendships in adulthood and helps men recapture the male community of close companions left behind in childhood.
