Download or read book How to Survive Your Own Gay Life written by Perry Brass and published by Perry Brass. This book was released on 1999 with total page 221 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Wise. Factual. Often controversial. Not simply about how to survive your own gay life, but how to how survive your life as an adult man whose sexuality brings him to other men. Surviving when gays have become -- often for marketing reasons -- more publicly acknowledged as well as repressed. When many revered gay feelings, such as tenderness and openness to new ideas and people, are denied; even as wildly homoerotic images have become part of our media-saturated culture. How to Survive Your Own Gay Life explores this, but -- more importantly, how to create rewarding relationships and a strengthening inner life. There has never been a book like this. One of the fortunate things about being gay is that it was written for you. But it's a book for every man. It's message is about getting in touch with the adult person inside you. The person that we all need to survive our lives -- gay or not. But if you are gay, this book is about your life. About "straight" relationships as well as gay ones. About the commercialized "gay world" of bars, etc. -- that acts against adulthood, as well as the gay community at large, and how both affect you. About important inner spiritual "gay work"; and the "gay tribe" that is our hidden support. About the crucial "mythos" of being gay -- providing psychic patterning for gay men, and the strange history of gay "origins myths" and how these reflect society's obsession with same-sexuality. Also some real "nuts-and-bolts" wisdom: about the joys and problems of gay marriages and friendships. About dealing with conflicts and crises -- personal, professional, and financial. About surviving -- and preventing -- gaybashing. And about working your way throughthe late 20th Century's generalized environment of depression (our "Prozac nation") and coming out more alive, happier, and stronger.
Download or read book How to Survive a Summer written by Nick White and published by Penguin. This book was released on 2017-06-06 with total page 353 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: **Named One of Book Riot’s BEST QUEER BOOKS OF 2017** “Packed with story and drama … If Tennessee Williams’s ‘Suddenly Last Summer’ could be transposed to the 21st-century South, where queer liberation co-exists alongside the stubborn remains of fire and brimstone, it might read something like this juicy, moving hot mess of a novel.” –Tim Murphy, The Washington Post A searing debut novel centering around a gay-to-straight conversion camp in Mississippi and a man's reckoning with the trauma he faced there as a teen. Camp Levi, nestled in the Mississippi countryside, is designed to “cure” young teenage boys of their budding homosexuality. Will Dillard, a midwestern graduate student, spent a summer at the camp as a teenager, and has since tried to erase the experience from his mind. But when a fellow student alerts him that a slasher movie based on the camp is being released, he is forced to confront his troubled history and possible culpability in the death of a fellow camper. As past and present are woven together, Will recounts his “rehabilitation,” eventually returning to the abandoned campgrounds to solve the mysteries of that pivotal summer, and to reclaim his story from those who have stolen it. With a masterful confluence of sensibility and place, How to Survive a Summer is a searing, unforgettable novel that introduces an exciting new literary voice. “Clear and moving, revealing White’s talent in evoking the complexities of the rural South.” —Publishers Weekly
Download or read book Out of the Shadows written by Walt Odets and published by Farrar, Straus and Giroux. This book was released on 2019-06-04 with total page 368 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A moving exploration of how gay men construct their identities, fight to be themselves, and live authentically It goes without saying that even today, it’s not easy to be gay in America. While young gay men often come out more readily, even those from the most progressive of backgrounds still struggle with the legacy of early-life stigma and a deficit of self-acceptance, which can fuel doubt, regret, and, at worst, self-loathing. And this is to say nothing of the ongoing trauma wrought by AIDS, which is all too often relegated to history. Drawing on his work as a clinical psychologist during and in the aftermath of the epidemic, Walt Odets reflects on what it means to survive and figure out a way to live in a new, uncompromising future, both for the men who endured the upheaval of those years and for the younger men who have come of age since then, at a time when an HIV epidemic is still ravaging the gay community, especially among the most marginalized. Through moving stories—of friends and patients, and his own—Odets considers how experiences early in life launch men on trajectories aimed at futures that are not authentically theirs. He writes to help reconstruct how we think about gay life by considering everything from the misleading idea of “the homosexual,” to the diversity and richness of gay relationships, to the historical role of stigma and shame and the significance of youth and of aging. Crawling out from under the trauma of destructive early-life experience and the two epidemics, and into a century of shifting social values, provides an opportunity to explore possibilities rather than live with limitations imposed by others. Though it is drawn from decades of private practice, activism, and life in the gay community, Odets’s work achieves remarkable universality. At its core, Out of the Shadows is driven by his belief that it is time that we act based on who we are and not who others are or who they would want us to be. We—particularly the young—must construct our own paths through life. Out of the Shadows is a necessary, impassioned argument for how and why we must all take hold of our futures.
Download or read book Finding the Boyfriend Within written by Brad Gooch and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2015-05-19 with total page 176 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In the tradition of the perennial bestseller I'm OK, You're OK, noted author Brad Gooch offers single and coupled gay men a provocative, sophisticated, and inspirational guide that addresses the big issues of love, romance, and being alone. Part memoir, part self-help, Finding the Boyfriend Within is a remarkably practical and helpful guide in the quest for self-discovery for the thousands of gay men who despair of ever being in a committed relationship. Filled with anecdotes, romantic advice, problem-solving suggestions, and humor -- as well as wisdom from both the East and West -- Finding the Boyfriend Within offers simple self-awareness exercises to help discover the respect, happiness, and love that come first, and most enduringly, from within.
Download or read book The Corporate Closet written by James D. Woods and published by Free Press. This book was released on 2015-09-26 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: With an expansion that provides a new section on resources and companies, James D. Woods reveals the trials and tribulations that gay men face in order to navigate, and even conceal, their sexuality in corporate life. While most believe that professional conduct is, or should be, separated from sexuality, corporate America is suffused with sexual assumptions. From its offices to its boardrooms, heterosexuality is continuously on display, from family photos to personnel policies that award health benefits to spouses and children, pressuring employees to align themselves with the “normal” expectations of being a corporate employee. Drawing on hundreds of interviews with men across the country in a variety of positions and companies, from chief executives to recent college graduates, James D. Woods shares the strategies that those different from the assumed role of being a corporate heterosexual, white man must use in order to survive the corporate world. By exploring the “sexual culture” of corporate organizations, Woods gives readers a glimpse into the lives of gay professionals and the difficult choices that they face daily.
Download or read book How To Be Gay written by David M. Halperin and published by Harvard University Press. This book was released on 2012-08-21 with total page 421 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: No one raises an eyebrow if you suggest that a guy who arranges his furniture just so, rolls his eyes in exaggerated disbelief, likes techno music or show tunes, and knows all of Bette Davis's best lines by heart might, just possibly, be gay. But if you assert that male homosexuality is a cultural practice, expressive of a unique subjectivity and a distinctive relation to mainstream society, people will immediately protest. Such an idea, they will say, is just a stereotype-ridiculously simplistic, politically irresponsible, and morally suspect. The world acknowledges gay male culture as a fact but denies it as a truth. David Halperin, a pioneer of LGBTQ studies, dares to suggest that gayness is a specific way of being that gay men must learn from one another in order to become who they are. Inspired by the notorious undergraduate course of the same title that Halperin taught at the University of Michigan, provoking cries of outrage from both the right-wing media and the gay press, How To Be Gay traces gay men's cultural difference to the social meaning of style. Far from being deterred by stereotypes, Halperin concludes that the genius of gay culture resides in some of its most despised features: its aestheticism, snobbery, melodrama, adoration of glamour, caricatures of women, and obsession with mothers. The insights, impertinence, and unfazed critical intelligence displayed by gay culture, Halperin argues, have much to offer the heterosexual mainstream.
Download or read book Free Your Mind written by Ellen Bass and published by Harper Collins. This book was released on 1996-05-10 with total page 452 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In a groundbreaking book that weaves together their professional experience with the lively, poignant, immediate voices of dozens of gay and lesbian youths, the authors provide an invaluable step-by-step guide to empowering gay youth to understand, accept and celebrate their sexual orientation. Photos.
Download or read book A Special Illumination written by Rollan McCleary and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2017-07-28 with total page 375 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Gay spirituality represents a hidden strand in Western thought that was only publically declared from the Gay Liberation of the 1970s. Since "coming out", expressions of gay spirituality have proliferated in both number and diversity. Beginning with gay theology within Christianity, the phenomenon has now reached as far as Buddhism and neo-paganism. But, so far, critical analysis of the movement has been very limited largely because gay spirituality has been treated as a political and social movement arguing for rights and acceptance within religious circles. 'A Special Illumination' offers an indepth analysis and argues that gay spirituality should be placed at the heart of religion.
Download or read book The Velvet Rage written by Alan Downs and published by Da Capo Lifelong Books. This book was released on 2006-04-25 with total page 224 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The gay male world today is characterized by seductive beauty, artful creativity, flamboyant sexuality, and, encouragingly, unprecedented acceptability in society. Yet despite the progress of the recent past, gay men still find themselves asking, "Are we really better off?" The inevitable byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, a shame gay men may strive to obscure with a fa?ade of beauty, creativity, or material success. Drawing on contemporary psychological research, the author's own journey to be free of anger and of shame, as well as the stories of many of his friends and clients, The Velvet Rage outlines the three distinct stages to emotional well-being for gay men. Offering profoundly beneficial strategies to stop the insidious cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior, The Velvet Rage is an empowering book that will influence the public discourse on gay culture, and positively change the lives of gay men who read it.
Download or read book Coming Out to Parents written by Mary V. Borhek and published by . This book was released on 1993 with total page 330 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Listed by American Bookseller as "among the most important gay and lesbian books that should be represented in any general bookstore", Borhek's original edition of this book (1983) has also been praised as "sound, sympathetic, and helpful" (St. Luke's Journal of Theology). In this thorough revision, Borhek brings an additional decade of personal knowledge and experience to bear on the subject of coming out.
Download or read book How to Be Gay and Happy a Psychotherapist Explains written by Peter Field and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2016-02-08 with total page 338 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: No matter how you identify or define your sexuality - Gay or LGBTIQ - the road to a more joyful, happy life is open and available to you. In this inspiring, life-changing book - written by a leading psychotherapist - you'll discover answers, solutions, and proven happiness strategies that you can start using today.'How to Be Gay and Happy' is your clear, concise blueprint to greater happiness, backed by solid research, loaded with practical techniques, and filled with expert insights that will guide you to the happier, more joyful life you deserve. In this remarkable book you will learn how to deal with blocks to your happiness. Including practical ways to safely respond to homophobic people and situations, and how to answer all kinds of religious bigotry and nurture your own inner self. You will find out all you need to know about IF, WHEN and HOW to come out; learn about LGBT health, and explore the whole range of LGB sex practices and techniques - no-holds-barred! You'll learn to see things - and yourself - in a new light, free of the events, prejudices, and myths of the past. What's more, you'll also discover everything necessary in order to find LGBTIQ friends and enter into rewarding relationships - both open and monogamous. 'How To Be Gay and Happy' explores what it really takes to be happy, and teaches you how to achieve this. Inside this inspirational book you will learn fresh, new, research-backed strategies you can use - concrete steps you can take to increase your personal levels of happiness. Packed with essential telephone numbers and useful websites, this is the ONE book written for gay AND lesbian, bisexual, trans, intersex, and questioning persons, covering everything you need to know to live a happier, more satisfying gay life.
Download or read book Coming Out Coming Home written by Kenneth Burr and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2012-07-26 with total page 294 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Coming Out, Coming Home has the potential for increasing spiritual growth and development in our society. Although many books have been written about gay rights and pro-gay theologies, few have provided people with an opportunity to enlarge belief systems advocating Scriptural principles while embracing the possibility of gay spirituality. In our present culture many people feel the need to split the personal from their professional lives in order to maintain proper boundaries, and the private from the public in order to gain the acceptance of others. This book provides the opportunity for readers to find a deeper connection with themselves and others as you savor the stories of sexual minorities who have sought meaningful connections between their spirituality and sexuality. Expect to experience something profound when you find formerly rigid boundaries between God and gays begin to relax. Your God might be much larger than you ever imagined!
Download or read book Prelude to Bruise written by Saeed Jones and published by Coffee House Press. This book was released on 2014-08-18 with total page 123 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Praise for Saeed Jones: "Jones is the kind of writer who's more than wanted: he's desperately needed."—FlavorWire "I get shout-happy when I read these poems; they are the gospel; they are the good news of the sustaining power of imagination, tenderness, and outright joy."—D. A. Powell "Prelude to Bruise works its tempestuous mojo just under the skin, wreaking a sweet havoc and rearranging the pulse. These poems don't dole out mercy. Mr. Jones undoubtedly dipped his pen in fierce before crafting these stanzas that rock like backslap. Straighten your skirt, children. The doors of the church are open."—Patricia Smith "It's a big book, a major book. A game-changer. Dazzling, brutal, real. Not just brilliant, caustic, and impassioned but a work that brings history—in which the personal and political are inter-constitutive—to the immediate moment. Jones takes a reader deep into lived experience, into a charged world divided among unstable yet entrenched lines: racial, gendered, political, sexual, familial. Here we absorb each quiet resistance, each whoop of joy, a knowledge of violence and of desire, an unbearable ache/loss/yearning. This is not just a "new voice" but a new song, a new way of singing, a new music made of deep grief's wildfire, of burning intelligence and of all-feeling heart, scorched and seared. In a poem, Jones says, "Boy's body is a song only he can hear." But now that we have this book, we can all hear it. And it's unforgettable."—Brenda Shaughnessy "Inside each hunger, each desire, speaks the voice of a boy that admits "I've always wanted to be dangerous." This is not a threat but a promise to break away from the affliction of silence, to make audible the stories that trouble the dimensions of masculinity and discomfort the polite conversations about race. With impressive grace, Saeed Jones situates the queer black body at the center, where his visibility and vulnerability nurture emotional strength and the irrepressible energy to claim those spaces that were once denied or withheld from him. Prelude to a Bruise is a daring debut."—Rigoberto González From "Sleeping Arrangement": Take your hand out from under my pillow. And take your sheets with you. Drag them under. Make pretend ghosts. I can't have you rattling the bed springs so keep still, keep quiet. Mistake yourself for shadows. Learn the lullabies of lint. Saeed Jones works as the editor of BuzzfeedLGBT.
Download or read book GLBTQ written by Kelly Madrone and published by Free Spirit Publishing. This book was released on 2003 with total page 256 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A frank, sensitive book written for teens who are beginning to question their sexual or gender identity and who need advice, guidance, reassurance, and reminders that they are not alone.
Download or read book Smash the Church Smash the State written by Tommi Avicolli Mecca and published by City Lights Books. This book was released on 2020-09-02 with total page 290 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This anthology by former members of the Gay Liberation Front (GLF) captures the history and spirit of the revolutionary time just after Stonewall, when thousands came out of the closet to claim their sexuality, and when queer resistance coalesced into a turbulent, joyous liberation movement—one whose lasting influence would ultimately inform and profoundly shape the LGBT community of today. Personal essays explore the philosophy and culture of the stridently anti-assimilationist GLF: the actions, demonstrations and marches; views on marriage, religion and gender; the drugs, orgies and communes; and GLF’s relationship to the hippies, the Black Panthers, the straight Left, the women’s movement, civil rights and the antiwar struggle. The collection includes contributions from Martha Shelley, Cei Bell, Paola Bacchetta, Susan Stryker, Tom Ammiano, Nikos Diaman, Mark Segal, Barbara Ruth and Perry Brass.
Download or read book High Risk Homosexual written by Edgar Gomez and published by Catapult. This book was released on 2022-01-11 with total page 252 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: *Winner of the Lambda Literary Award for Gay Memoir/Biography* An Honor Book for the 2023 Stonewall Book Award—Israel Fishman Non-Fiction Book Award This witty memoir traces a touching and often hilarious spiralic path to embracing a gay, Latinx identity against a culture of machismo—from a cockfighting ring in Nicaragua to cities across the U.S.—and the bath houses, night clubs, and drag queens who help redefine pride I’ve always found the definition of machismo to be ironic, considering that pride is a word almost unanimously associated with queer people, the enemy of machistas . . . In a world desperate to erase us, queer Latinx men must find ways to hold on to pride for survival, but excessive male pride is often what we are battling, both in ourselves and in others. A debut memoir about coming of age as a gay, Latinx man, High-Risk Homosexual opens in the ultimate anti-gay space: Edgar Gomez’s uncle’s cockfighting ring in Nicaragua, where he was sent at thirteen years old to become a man. Readers follow Gomez through the queer spaces where he learned to love being gay and Latinx, including Pulse nightclub in Orlando, a drag queen convention in Los Angeles, and the doctor’s office where he was diagnosed a “high-risk homosexual.” With vulnerability, humor, and quick-witted insights into racial, sexual, familial, and professional power dynamics, Gomez shares a hard-won path to taking pride in the parts of himself he was taught to keep hidden. His story is a scintillating, beautiful reminder of the importance of leaving space for joy.
Download or read book The Advocate written by and published by . This book was released on 1999-04-27 with total page 100 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The Advocate is a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender (LGBT) monthly newsmagazine. Established in 1967, it is the oldest continuing LGBT publication in the United States.
