Download or read book Conflict Care and Love Transforming Your Relationship Patterns written by Jay Earley Phd and published by Pattern System Books. This book was released on 2014-02-09 with total page 252 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Find out why your relationships get mired in conflicts, power struggles, or distancing rather than providing the love and caring you want? Conflict, Care, and Love will help you understand your problematic relationship patterns and those of your current or past partners. For example, are you Dependent, People-Pleasing, or Conflict-Avoiding? Is your partner Controlling, Passive-Aggressive, or Distancing? The book will also help you discover how to cultivate the healthy capacities that make relationships work, for example, Self-Support, Assertiveness, Intimacy, and Caring.

Download or read book Receiving Love written by Harville Hendrix and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2004-10-05 with total page 321 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: From the New York Times bestselling author of Getting the Love You Want and Keeping the Love You Find comes illuminating and inspiring advice on one of the most complicated issues facing couples today: receiving love. Many people know how to give love, but many more undermine their relationships by never having learned how to accept it. We don't always realize the ways in which we reject appreciation, affection, help, and guidance from our romantic partners. According to Hendrix and Hunt, until we are able to understand the meaning behind our behavior, our relationships stand to suffer. Receiving Love prompts questions such as: -Are you reluctant to tell your partner what you really want or need? -When you do get what you've asked for, do you still feel dissatisfied? -Is it difficult for you to accept kind gestures, gifts, or compliments from your partner? With Receiving Love, you can learn how to break the shackles of self-rejection and embrace real intimacy. Drawing on their renowned expertise, the wide clinical experience of Imago therapists, and their own personal experience as a married couple, the authors offer detailed, sensitive advice on how to turn a relationship between two well-meaning yet misunderstood individuals into a true, everlasting partnership.

Download or read book Wired for Love written by Stan Tatkin and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2024-06-01 with total page 332 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "Invaluable for so many partners looking to reconnect and grow closer together." —Gwyneth Paltrow, founder and CEO of goop "Stan Tatkin can be entirely followed into the towering infernos of our most painful relationship challenges." —Alanis Morissette, artist, activist, and wholeness advocate The complete “insider’s guide” to understanding your partner’s brain, sparking lasting connection, and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust—now with more than 170,000 copies sold. “What the heck is my partner thinking?” “Why do they always react like this?” “How can we get back that connection we had in the beginning?” If you’ve ever asked yourself these questions, you aren’t alone, and it doesn’t mean that your relationship is doomed. Every person is wired for love differently—with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people’s minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and routines, making it possible to neurologically prime the brain for greater love and connection and fewer conflicts. This go-to guide will show you how. Drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this highly anticipated second edition of Wired for Love presents cutting-edge research on how and why love lasts, and offers ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship. This fully revised and updated edition also includes new guidance on how to manage disagreements, as well as new exercises to help you create a sense of safety and security, establish healthy conflict ground rules, and deal with the threat of the third—any outside source which threatens the harmony in your relationship, including in-laws, alcohol, children, and affairs. You’ll find proven-effective strategies to help you strengthen your relationship by: Creating and maintaining a safe “couple bubble” Using morning and evening routines to stay connected Learning how to see your partner’s point of view Meeting each other halfway in a fight Becoming the expert on what makes your partner feel loved By using simple gestures and words, you’ll learn to put out emotional fires and help your partner feel appreciated and loved. You’ll also discover how to move past a “warring brain” mentality and toward a more cooperative “loving brain.” Most importantly, you’ll gain a better understanding of the complex dynamics at work behind love and trust in intimate relationships. While there’s no doubt that love is an inexact science, if you understand how you and your partner are wired differently, you can overcome your differences, and create a lasting intimate connection.

Download or read book Relationships and Patterns of Conflict Resolution written by Peter D. Ladd and published by University Press of America. This book was released on 2007 with total page 302 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Dr. Ladd has written a reference book on couples counseling that explores six contemporary relationships and discusses how couples may change from one to another according to their life experiences. In addition, six common styles of conflict resolution are addressed that may make relationship changes less painful and difficult are also addressed. When we realize that one of the most common methods for transforming the union between two people is through divorce, then the possibility of changing a relationship, instead of changing a partner, may become a more attractive alternative.

Download or read book Love Smart written by Sandra Michaelson and published by Prospect Books, Inc.. This book was released on 1999 with total page 308 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt:

Download or read book Breaking Our Bad Patterns written by Endurance House Publishers and published by Independently Published. This book was released on 2023-04-19 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Breaking Our Bad Patterns: How to Identify and Overcome Negative Relationship Habits is a book written for anyone who wants to build healthier and more fulfilling relationships. Whether you're single and looking to avoid past mistakes or in a relationship struggling with patterns of conflict or lack of intimacy, this book offers practical guidance and strategies for positive change. Relationship therapist Endurance house publishers draws on years of experience helping clients navigate the complexities of love, trust, and communication. In this book, you'll find insightful explanations of common negative patterns in relationships and concrete steps for breaking free of them. The book is designed to help you recognize your own patterns and take steps toward personal growth and self-care, all while improving the quality of your relationships. You'll learn strategies for building trust and healthy boundaries, navigating conflict, and repairing relationships. You'll also find encouragement and inspiration for continuing to work on yourself and your relationships long after you finish reading. If you're ready to break free of negative relationship patterns and build more meaningful connections, this book is for you. It's time to identify the habits that have been holding you back and start building the healthy relationships you deserve.

Download or read book Conflict to Bliss written by Charles C Smith and published by Independently Published. This book was released on 2024-07-23 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Are you tired of feeling stuck in a cycle of conflict and disconnection in your relationship? Do you long for a deeper, more meaningful connection with your partner? Imagine being able to transform conflicts into opportunities for growth and intimacy. Picture yourself and your partner laughing, loving, and living in harmony. Conflict to Bliss: The Surprising Path to Deeper Love" is the ultimate guide to revolutionizing your relationship. Through real-life examples, expert insights, and practical exercises, this book will show you how to: - Identify and challenge negative patterns - Communicate effectively and empathetically - Cultivate intimacy and trust - Embrace conflicts as opportunities for growth Don't let conflict hold you back any longer. Embrace the surprising path to deeper love and transform your relationship into a source of joy, support, and bliss. Get your copy now and start your journey to a more loving, fulfilling relationship!"

Download or read book Transform Into the Love You Seek written by Ricky M Cole and published by Independently Published. This book was released on 2023-12-12 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: With Ricky M. Cole's transformative guide, "Transform into the Love You Seek," you can discover the secrets to a love that goes beyond the ordinary. This book invites you to embark on a profound journey of self-discovery and meaningful relationships in a world full of superficial connections. Learn the secrets to long-lasting love that goes beyond the surface. Discover the fundamental ingredients of long-lasting partnerships, such as trust and good communication, as well as shared ideals. Self-reflection activities and ways to change old habits into sources of personal growth can help you break free from bad relationship patterns. Investigate insights from previous relationships and learn how to build positive connections that last. Improve your communication abilities to make deeper, more lasting connections. Handle challenging talks with grace, encouraging empathy and transforming disagreements into learning opportunities. Create emotional connection and rekindle the fire in your relationship. Cultivate a growth attitude in order to continue evolving in love, transforming obstacles into chances for growth and evolution. Ricky M. Cole presents practical strategies, rituals, and tactics for maintaining a healthy, flourishing relationship in the last chapter. Individual requirements within a partnership become an art form, guaranteeing that your love not only survives but thrives. "Transform into the Love You Seek" is more than just a book; it's a road map to lasting love. Ricky M. Cole welcomes you on a transforming journey in which love becomes a lifelong experience rather than a destination. Ricky M. Cole will take you on the love journey you've been longing for. Your wonderful love tale is waiting for you!

Download or read book Kiss Your Fights Good bye written by Jamie Turndorf, Dr. and published by Hay House, Inc. This book was released on 2014-01-20 with total page 272 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Heated fighting triggers a biochemical imbalance in men that causes them to flee from conflict. The technical name for this is the Demand/Withdraw Negative Escalation Cycle, also known as "husband withdrawal." This is the number one cause of marital and relationship strife, divorce, and domestic violence. Dr. Jamie Turndorf’s techniques, based on 30 years of research out of her Center for Emotional Communication, transform conflict into connection for a lifetime of lasting love. Even if you’re locked in battle and have been for years, your relationship can change. Beginning with simple Cool-Down steps, you’ll learn why husband withdrawal occurs and then how to use Climate Control strategies to reset the relationship. Women will discover the real reason why men never seem to listen—it’s nothing personal—and the secret trick that actually makes them want to listen and stick around to settle disputes. Dr. Turndorf’s proven conflict-resolution method interrupts the cycle of fighting for the majority of couples, and can also be used to defuse disagreements among friends and family members.

Download or read book Transform Your Boundaries written by Sarri Gilman and published by Island Bound Publishing. This book was released on 2014-04-06 with total page pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Other people... ...do not maintain your boundaries. ...show you how strong your boundaries need to be. ...will try to manipulate your boundaries. Only you can set your boundaries. Transform Your Boundaries is the essential guide to the boundary-setting techniques that will transform your life. Transform Your Boundaries provides a hands-on experience that gets you, the reader, immediately involved in developing your very own boundary skills in your everyday life. You will learn how to tackle boundaries of all shapes and sizes from the simplest to the most extreme. What was at one time insurmountable can become easily doable through developing the tools necessary, which are clearly explained by Sarri through examples. You’ll recognize parts of yourself as you read. The book follows seven people: Wendy - The Workaholic; Davis - The Caretaker; Lisa –The Sacrificer; Jen - The Lover; Stuart - The Isolator; Maggie - The Protector; and Raven - The Numb-er; who are each working on building boundaries in his or her own lives. Perhaps some of them already sound familiar to you. As you read their stories you will see how each learns the essential boundary-building skills and how each person applies the skills a little differently. The book also serves as a journal and workbook. Each chapter ends with an “Apply It” section, which poses pertinent questions to the reader along with blank journal pages for written responses and notes. "You will learn more about who you are, what's most important to you, how to listen to yourself and develop the skill of guiding your own life." Dr. Michael Douglas - Talk Therapy LA

Download or read book LoveSmart written by Sandra Michaelson and published by . This book was released on 2017-05 with total page 217 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: LoveSmart is a guidebook of insight about the sources of relationship disharmony. This book escorts the love-game through the field of depth psychology, producing a powerful game plan for relationship success.The full story of relationship conflict and disharmony goes much deeper than people realize. How we feel about our partner is a reflection of our own relationship with our self. This book shows us how to deepen and harmonize our connection to self, thereby enhancing our relationship with our partner.Specific topics include: why we choose our partner; the meaning of the begging-bowl syndrome; the origins of control issues and what we can do about them; the clear difference between genuine love and addictive attachments; how sexual issues reflect our emotional conflicts; the tendency to compulsively repeat self-sabotaging patterns of behavior; the illusion of reforming our partner; and how to accept each other as equals.LoveSmart presents theory, examples, and exercises that show exactly how we transfer and project our own unresolved emotional issues on to our partner. It also reveals how we can unconsciously be identifying with our partner through the mutual agony of self-defeating processes, outcomes, and expectations. We learn how we can be aligned with being an innocent victim or bystander, which then, to our detriment, prompts us to make our partner, loved ones, and friends largely responsible for our feelings and behaviors.This book shows us how our emotional perceptions and interpretations can be highly subjective and misleading, and it reveals where these interpretations come from in our past. It has been comforting to believe that other people are responsible for how we feel and behave, but that belief has created a nation of victims amid the carnage of broken relationships.LoveSmart provides the most comprehensive understanding available of relationship dynamics. It is intended primarily to solve problems in romantic relationships but its principles also apply to friendships as well as to work-related issues and family relationships.Achieving peace with others involves a breakthrough in understanding why our relationships are not working and why we feel defeated, neglected, and dissatisfied. We are more likely to achieve this breakthrough with the help of the best insight from depth psychology.

Download or read book Reconcilable Differences written by Andrew Christensen and published by Guilford Publications. This book was released on 2014-01-21 with total page 368 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Every couple has disagreements, but what happens when recurring conflicts start to pull your relationship apart? Do you lie awake hoping that your spouse will eventually see things your way, or rehashing the evidence that you're right? Demand some immediate changes--or else? This popular, science-based guide offers powerful solutions for couples frustrated by continual attempts to make each other change. True acceptance may seem difficult to accomplish, but the clear-cut steps and thought-provoking exercises in this book can make it a reality. You'll learn why you keep having the same fights again and again; how to keep small incompatibilities from causing big problems; what communication strategies really work to resolve conflicts; and how to problem-solve and make positive changes--together. Updated throughout with new research, practical tools, and examples, the second edition features a new chapter on mindfulness. Mental health professionals: learn about using this self-help guide as an adjunct to therapy at the authors' website (http://ibct.psych.ucla.edu).

Download or read book Dating Radar written by Bill Eddy and published by Unhooked Books. This book was released on 2017-08-22 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Why do so many of us commit to the wrong person? Most believe that attraction and compatibility are the keys to relationship success when, in reality, these are red flags in 15-20% of the population. When it comes to love, the brain is irrational and shortsighted. We make decisions based on incomplete information, biased understanding, and strong emotion. Love truly is blind. That's why you need dating radar, it gives you a way to detect hazards you might otherwise miss by recognizing: 1. Warning signs of certain personalities that can spell love relationship danger 2. Ways that they can jam your radar (deceive you) 3. Where your own blind spots might be Attorney, mediator, and social worker Bill Eddy and relationship expert Megan Hunter use their expertise in high-conflict personalities, complicated relationships and divorce to equip readers to see through the blinding spark of new love and spot potential toxic relationships before it is too late! If hindsight is 20/20, dating radar is x-ray vision. Bill Eddy is an award-winning author and president of High Conflict Institute.Megan Hunter is a publisher, author, speaker and the founder of Unhooked Media.

Download or read book Reconcilable Differences written by Andrew Christensen and published by Guilford Press. This book was released on 1999-10-06 with total page 457 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Every couple has arguments, but what happens when recurring battles begin to feel like full-scale war? Do you retreat in hurt and angry silence, hoping that a spouse who "just doesn't get it" will eventually see things your way? Spend the time between skirmishes gathering evidence that you're right? Demand some immediate changes--or else? Whether due to innate personality traits or emotional vulnerabilities, there are some aspects of our behavior that are difficult to alter. But these differences do not have to get in the way of healthy, happy, and long-lasting romance. This practical guide offers new solutions for couples frustrated by continual attempts to make each other change. Aided by thought-provoking exercises and lots of real-life examples, readers will learn why they keep having the same fights again and again; how to keep small incompatibilities from causing big problems; and how true acceptance can restore health to their relationships.

Download or read book Why Couples Fight written by Mira Kirshenbaum and published by Citadel. This book was released on 2021-01-26 with total page 354 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Bestselling author and relationship expert, Mira Kirshenbaum examines power dynamics in relationships and teaches couples her three-step method for ending their power struggles and finding their way back to love. How do two well-meaning people who genuinely care about each other end up in a damaged, unsatisfying relationship? Every couple faces conflict and often the root of the problem is how we're not getting our needs met. Initially, we will try to remedy it with reasonable requests--or hints--and a kind tone. But when that fails, we feel disempowered, which leads to sighs, eye rolls, silences, subtle put-downs, insults, and even threats. These are power moves. And while we often engage in power moves unintentionally, the result is the same: our partner feels disempowered and will try to re-empower themselves. Thus the continuous, endlessly destructive dynamic takes hold. Relationship expert Mira Kirshenbaum, bestselling author of Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay, reveals a better way with her three-step method for conflict-free problem solving. By recognizing each partner's power moves, we can instead find mutually satisfying ways to heal our hurts and meet each other's needs. Non-judgmental, compassionate, and wise, this is an indispensable guide to help couples end the negative cycle and get back to the loving understanding that brought them together in the first place.

Download or read book Heal Your Relationship written by Indra Torsten Preiss and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2015-10-24 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: With a lot of patience, understanding, and soul wisdom, Indra takes you to the root causes of relationship problems. Drawing on his extensive experience as a facilitator of family and relationship constellations, he shows you what is causing relationships to run off the rails and how to heal them. By being loyal, we unconsciously carry over behavioral patterns and attitudes from our ancestors. These loyalties often have a huge impact on our couple relationship-to an extent you could never have imagined. Our ancestors leave us with a kind of blueprint, or mind-set, about life and relationships. This mind-set is a major determining factor in whether our relationships turn out to be happy. Lasting change will come about only if you become aware of these loyalties and learn to let go of destructive behaviors and attitudes inherited from your ancestors. Integrating the wisdom of Heal Your Relationship in your life will give you the power and insights to heal yourself and, of course, improve your relationship skills. Drawing on his extensive experience as a therapist and a spiritual teacher, Preiss helps the reader to - Recognize what it takes to make your relationship work and to grow healthy, lasting, nurturing and fulfilling relationships. - Understand the root of all marriage and relationship problems and unlocking the key to solving and fixing relationship and marriage problems. - Learn how to end painful relationship patterns and how to heal and transform your relationship from within. - Heal from the emotional wounds of the past and stop self-sabotage from improving or saving your relationship or marriage.

Download or read book Rewire Your Brain for Love written by Marsha Lucas, Ph.D. and published by Hay House, Inc. This book was released on 2012-02-01 with total page 242 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In Rewire Your Brain for Love, neuropsychologist Marsha Lucas brings together neuroscience and mindfulness meditation in an exciting program to help readers create and sustain better, healthier, juicier romantic relationships. With a passion for neuroscience and the ability to relay it in a clear, unintimidating--and funny--manner, Lucas delves into how the human brain works in relationships, exploring the neurological connections that fuel our reactions. In an inviting and reassuring tone, she describes how we developed our current relationship wiring and how to modify it through mindfulness meditation. Focusing on nine high-voltage benefits-including everything from being able to better manage your reactions, to improved communication with yourself and others, to an enhanced ability to handle fear-Lucas shows how a short daily meditation practice can change the way you interact with everyone around you…especially those closest to you. Each chapter focuses on one benefit, including an in-depth description of exactly what that benefit is and how it will improve the reader's life. She looks at the science and research associated with mindfulness meditation in relation to each benefit, and then provides readers with a specific meditation to help bring that benefit into their relationships. Imagine, instead of blowing up at an off-hand statement your partner makes, you are able to stop, breathe, and respond in a thoughtful manner. And as the author says, "You don't have to become a monk, or a vegetarian, or spend hours contemplating your navel"; you simply need to notice your mind's busyness and not get all tangled up in it. This simple process truly can change your life.