Download or read book Codependent No More written by Melody Beattie and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2009-06-10 with total page 155 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In a crisis, it's easy to revert to old patterns. Caring for your well-being during the coronavirus pandemic includes maintaining healthy boundaries and saying no to unhealthy relationships. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else's, you may be codependent--and you may find yourself in this book--Codependent No More. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency--charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness. Melody Beattie is the author of Beyond Codependency, The Language of Letting Go, Stop Being Mean to Yourself, The Codependent No More Workbook and Playing It by Heart.

Download or read book Scary Close written by Donald Miller and published by Thomas Nelson. This book was released on 2015-02-10 with total page 250 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: When it comes to authenticity, is being fully yourself always worth the risk? From the author of Blue Like Jazz comes New York Times bestseller Scary Close, Donald Miller's journey of uncovering the keys to a healthy relationship and discovering that they're also at the heart of building a healthy family, a successful career, and a trusted community of friends. After decades of failed relationships and painful drama, Miller decided that he'd had enough. Trying to impress people wasn't helping him truly connect with anyone--and neither was pretending to be someone he wasn't. He'd built himself a life of public isolation, but he dreamed of having a life defined by meaningful relationships instead. At 40-years-old, he made a scary decision: he was going to be his true self no matter what it might cost. Scary Close tells the story of Miller's difficult choice to impress fewer people and connect with even more. It's about the importance of knocking down old walls to finally experience the freedom that comes when we stop playing a part and start being fully ourselves. In Scary Close, Miller shares everything he's learned firsthand about how to: Deconstruct the old habits that no longer serve us Overcome the desire to please the people around us Always tell the truth, even when it's hard Find satisfaction in a daily portion of real love Risk being fully known in order to deeply love and be loved Apply these lessons to your everyday life If you're ready to drop the act and find true, life-changing intimacy, it's time to get Scary Close.

Download or read book Codependency For Dummies written by Darlene Lancer and published by John Wiley & Sons. This book was released on 2012-04-06 with total page 338 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Codependency is much more widespread than originally thought. You don’t even have to be in a relationship. Codependents have trouble accepting themselves, so they hide who they are to be accepted by someone else. Codependency for Dummies is the most comprehensive book on the topic to date. It describes the history, symptoms, causes, and relationship dynamics of codependency and provides self-assessment questionnaires. The majority of the book is devoted to healing and lays out a clear plan for recovery with exercises, practical advice, and helpful daily reminders to help you know, honor, protect, and express yourself. It clarifies deep psychological dynamics that underlie codependency, yet is written in a conversational style that’s easily understandable by everyone. You will learn: How to raise your self-esteem The difference between care-giving and codependent care-taking The difference between healthy and dysfunctional families How to set boundaries How to separate responsibility for yourself and for others How to overcome guilt and resentment

Download or read book Conquering Shame and Codependency written by Darlene Lancer and published by Hazelden Publishing. This book was released on 2014-05-16 with total page 250 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A nationally recognized author and codependency expert examines the roots of shame and its connection with codependent relationships. Learn how to heal from their destructive hold by implementing eight steps that will empower the real you, and lead to healthier relationships. Shame: the torment you feel when you’re exposed, humiliated, or rejected; the feeling of not being good enough. It’s a deeply painful and universal emotion, yet is not frequently discussed. For some, shame lurks in the unconscious, undermining self-esteem, destroying confidence, and leading to codependency. These codependent relationships—where we overlook our own needs and desires as we try to care for, protect, or please another—often cover up abuse, addiction, or other harmful behaviors. Shame and codependency feed off one another, making us feel stuck, never able to let go, move on, and become the true self we were meant to be. In Conquering Shame and Codependency, Darlene Lancer sheds new light on shame: how codependents’ feelings and beliefs about shame affect their identity, their behavior, and how shame can corrode relationships, destroying trust and love. She then provides eight steps to heal from shame, learn to love yourself, and develop healthy relationships.

Download or read book Codependent Cure written by Jean Harrison and published by Bernard Pardieu. This book was released on 2019-02-22 with total page 105 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Imagine a powerful solution for saying "No" to your loved ones WITHOUT risking their affection... Do you need external validation just to function properly? Are you constantly putting out fires and fixing other people's problems while neglecting your own? Are your fears of abandonment so strong that you feel as if one of your limbs is being amputated when someone leaves you? If so, you're not alone. Many people have tried various methods to overcome their codependency with little to NO success, leaving them feeling hopeless. You wake up each day feeling like a shell of your former self, lost in a never-ending cycle of putting others' needs before your own. Saying no to helping others feels incredibly guilty, and the fear of losing their love often prevents you from putting yourself first. While it's healthy to be needed and valued by your loved ones, it can become a problem when it drives most of your decisions and behaviors... Especially if you’re only comfortable in relationships where you feel like the person can't live without you. Imagine a powerful solution to assertively say "no" to your loved ones WITHOUT losing their love - allowing you to stop being an emotional sponge and finally put yourself first! It’s called Codependent Cure – A revolutionary, scientifically-backed guide published by bestselling author Jean Harrison, for breaking the chains of codependency and developing emotional resilience. With the proven techniques and strategies outlined in this book, countless individuals have reclaimed their lives, moving away from the relentless pursuit of validation and the habit of people-pleasing. Here's just a small fraction of what you'll discover: ✓ The hidden link between codependency and addiction to break the enabling cycle ✓ The art of setting boundaries like a pro and handling resistance with finesse ✓ The #1 platform destroying your self-worth & why you must leave immediately ✓ How to shortcut your healing from codependency with 3 powerful routines ✓ A bulletproof system designed for maintaining your recovery after healing ✓ How to spot the subtle warning signs of a codependent relationship that often go unnoticed by many ✓ How to explore dating while shielding yourself from predators eager to trap you in toxic relationships ✓ And Much, Much More Exclusive Bonus: You'll also get access to a powerful 3-step toolkit, complete with practical worksheets and exercises, designed to rapidly dissolve codependent patterns and speed up your recovery journey. Codependent Cure helps you learn to stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others while you learn how to honor your emotions, set boundaries, and finally speak your truth. Your happiness and needs are just as important as those of others, so now is the time to take care of them! If you're ready to liberate yourself from the grips of codependency and explore the happiness and fulfillment waiting for you... Then secure your copy of this book today!

Download or read book Boundary Boss written by Terri Cole, MSW, LCSW and published by Sounds True. This book was released on 2021-04-20 with total page 204 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Break Free From Over-Functioning, Over-Delivering, People-Pleasing, and Ignoring Your Own Needs So You Can Finally Live the Life You Deserve! Most of us were never taught how to effectively express our preferences, desires or deal-breakers. Instead, we hide our feelings behind passive-aggressive behavior, deny our own truths, or push our emotions down until we get depressed or so frustrated that we explode, potentially destroying hard-won trust and relationships. The most successful and satisfied people on the planet have one thing in common: the ability to create and communicate clear, healthy boundaries. This ability is, hands down, the biggest game changer when it comes to creating a healthy, happy, self-determined life. In Boundary Boss, psychotherapist Terri Cole reveals a specific set of skills that can help you stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others (without guilt or drama) and get empowered to consciously take control of every aspect of your emotional, spiritual, physical, personal, and professional life. Since becoming a Boundary Boss is a process, Cole also offers actionable strategies, scripts, and techniques that can be used in the moment, whenever you need them. You will learn: • How to recognize when your boundaries have been violated and what to do next • How your unique “Boundary Blueprint” is unconsciously driving your boundary behaviors, and strategies to redesign it • Powerful boundary scripts so in the moment you will know what to say • How to manage “Boundary Destroyers”—including emotional manipulators, narcissists, and other toxic personalities • Where you fall on the spectrum of codependency and how to create healthy, balanced relationships This book is for women who are exhausted from over-giving, overdoing, and even over-feeling. If you’re getting it all done but at the expense of yourself, give yourself the gift of Boundary Boss.

Download or read book Codependents Guide to the Twelve Steps written by Melody Beattie and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 1992-04-09 with total page 275 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Explains how recovery programs work and how to apply the "Twelve Steps" of Alcoholics Anonymous. Offers specific exercises and activities for use by individuals and in group settings.

Download or read book The Language of Letting Go written by Melody Beattie and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2009-12-12 with total page 596 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Written for those of us who struggle with codependency, these daily meditations offer growth and renewal, and remind us that the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own self-care. Melody Beattie integrates her own life experiences and fundamental recovery reflections in this unique daily meditation book written especially for those of us who struggle with the issue of codependency.Problems are made to be solved, Melody reminds us, and the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own pain and self-care. In this daily inspirational book, Melody provides us with a thought to guide us through the day and she encourages us to remember that each day is an opportunity for growth and renewal.

Download or read book The New Codependency written by Melody Beattie and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2008-12-30 with total page 289 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The New Codependency is an owner’s manual to learning to be who you are and gives you the tools necessary to reclaim your life by renouncing unhealthy practices. In Codependent No More, Melody Beattie introduced the world to the term codependency. Now a modern classic, this book established Beattie as a pioneer in self-help literature and endeared her to millions of readers who longed for healthier relationships. Twenty-five years later concepts such as self-care and setting boundaries have become entrenched in mainstream culture. Now Beattie has written a followup volume, The New Codependency, which clears up misconceptions about codependency, identifies how codependent behavior has changed, and provides a new generation with a road map to wellness. The question remains: What is and what is not codependency? Beattie here reminds us that much of codependency is normal behavior. It’s about crossing lines. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too little, or overly engage. Feeling resentment after giving is not the same as heartfelt generosity. Narcissism and self-love, enabling and nurturing, and controlling and setting boundaries are not interchangeable terms. In The New Codependency, Beattie explores these differences, effectively invoking her own inspiring story and those of others, to empower us to step out of the victim role forever. Codependency, she shows, is not an illness but rather a series of behaviors that once broken down and analyzed can be successfully combated. Each section offers an overview of and a series of activities pertaining to a particular behavior—caretaking, controlling, manipulation, denial, repression, etc.—enabling us to personalize our own step-by-step guide to wellness. These sections, in conjunction with a series of tests allowing us to assess the level of our codependent behavior, demonstrate that while it may not seem possible now, we have the power to take care of ourselves, no matter what we are experiencing.

Download or read book Love Is a Choice written by Robert Hemfelt and published by Thomas Nelson. This book was released on 2003-02-02 with total page 288 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Do you want to reclaim your independence? Are you looking for guidance as you learn to set boundaries that actually serve you? If you're ready to let go of unhealthy relationships and begin your journey to healing, join Drs. Frank Minirth, Paul Meier, and Robert Hemfelt in Love Is a Choice as they walk you through their ten proven steps to recovering from codependency. In Love Is a Choice, Drs. Minirth, Meier, and Hemfelt combine decades of research with timeless biblical wisdom to show you that the most effective means of overcoming codependent relationships is to establish or deepen your relationship with Christ Himself. Love Is a Choice will teach you why God wants us to be independent and why you deserve to have healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Throughout Love Is a Choice, Drs. Minirth, Meier, and Hemfelt will lead you through their method to overcoming codependency once and for all. Along the way, Love Is a Choice will give you the tools and encouragement you need to: Discover the root causes of codependency Surround yourself with a loving, supportive community See yourself in a new light Uncover your unmet emotional needs It's time to break the cycle of codependency. Let Love Is a Choice be your guide every step of the way.

Download or read book Breaking Free of the Co Dependency Trap written by Janae B. Weinhold and published by New World Library. This book was released on 2010-09-24 with total page 290 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This bestselling book, now in a revised edition, radically challenges the prevailing medical definition of co-dependency as a permanent, progressive, and incurable addiction. Rather, the authors identify it as the result of developmental traumas that interfered with the infant-parent bonding relationship during the first year of life. Drawing on decades of clinical experience, Barry and Janae Weinhold correlate the developmental causes of co-dependency with relationship problems later in life, such as establishing and maintaining boundaries, clinging and dependent behaviors, people pleasing, and difficulty achieving success in the world. Then they focus on healing co-dependency, providing compelling case histories and practical activities to help readers heal early trauma and transform themselves and their primary relationships.

Download or read book Beyond Codependency written by Melody Beattie and published by HarperCollins Publishers. This book was released on 1989 with total page 284 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The companion volume to "Codependent No More" journeys beyond the concept of self-understanding to analyze the dynamics of the healthy recovery process.

Download or read book Facing Codependence written by Pia Mellody and published by Harper Collins. This book was released on 2011-11-22 with total page 274 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Central to Mellody's approach is the concept that the codependent adult's injured inner child needs healing. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences.

Download or read book The Everything Guide to Codependency written by Jennifer Sowle and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2014-06-15 with total page 304 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Break free of codependency and embrace your true self! Are you codependent? Do you make other people's problems your own? Do you find it hard to set boundaries and take care of your own needs? In this reassuring guide, Dr. Jennifer Sowle helps you learn how to identify your own destructive behavior, regain self-esteem, and set healthy boundaries in all types of relationships. Inside, you'll learn how to move beyond codependency by: Discovering patterns in yourself and others. Developing noncodependent language and communication skills. Learning to journal and practice new skills at home. Engaging your partner in change. Breaking the spell of codependency and discovering the real you. With The Everything Guide to Codependency, you can break the cycle of codependency and enabling. Dr. Sowle offers expert advice and practical techniques to help transform codependent relationships into healthy, fulfilling ones.

Download or read book Pathological Altruism written by Barbara Oakley and published by Oxford University Press. This book was released on 2011-12-19 with total page 496 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The benefits of altruism and empathy are obvious. These qualities are so highly regarded and embedded in both secular and religious societies that it seems almost heretical to suggest they can cause harm. Like most good things, however, altruism can be distorted or taken to an unhealthy extreme. Pathological Altruism presents a number of new, thought-provoking theses that explore a range of hurtful effects of altruism and empathy. Pathologies of empathy, for example, may trigger depression as well as the burnout seen in healthcare professionals. The selflessness of patients with eating abnormalities forms an important aspect of those disorders. Hyperempathy - an excess of concern for what others think and how they feel - helps explain popular but poorly defined concepts such as codependency. In fact, pathological altruism, in the form of an unhealthy focus on others to the detriment of one's own needs, may underpin some personality disorders. Pathologies of altruism and empathy not only underlie health issues, but also a disparate slew of humankind's most troubled features, including genocide, suicide bombing, self-righteous political partisanship, and ineffective philanthropic and social programs that ultimately worsen the situations they are meant to aid. Pathological Altruism is a groundbreaking new book - the first to explore the negative aspects of altruism and empathy, seemingly uniformly positive traits. The contributing authors provide a scientific, social, and cultural foundation for the subject of pathological altruism, creating a new field of inquiry. Each author's approach points to one disturbing truth: what we value so much, the altruistic "good" side of human nature, can also have a dark side that we ignore at our peril.

Download or read book The Codependency Recovery Plan written by Krystal Mazzola and published by Althea Press. This book was released on 2019-03-05 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Break away and recover from patterns of codependency It could start as lending an occasional hand, but over time, escalates into putting someone else above everything else—even our own well-being. Balance is needed for healthy relationships with others and ourselves. The Codependency Recovery Plan presents an enlightening look at codependency, where it comes from, and a detailed pathway out. The Codependency Recovery Plan fully explains codependency, its symptoms, and the factors that contribute to its development. It offers guidance on ways to recognize codependent behavior, become a better communicator, set boundaries, mend romantic relationships, and raise your self-esteem. Chapter exercises provide a workspace for self-reflection so that you can see your situation with fresh eyes, and gain a new perspective on your own life. Independence starts with a step-by-step plan: Step 1: Get in Touch with Your “Self”—Learn to look inward and become self-reliant. Step 2: Prioritize Self-Care—Honor and value your own self-worth and be kind to yourself. Step 3: Build Boundaries—Set limits for giving your life and love to others. Step 4: Maintain Open Communication—Speak comfortably and confidently with your support network. Step 5: Nurture Intimacy—Create healthy and constructive connections. Start building a better relationship with yourself and the people around you using The Codependency Recovery Plan.

Download or read book The Codependency Manifesto written by Lisa A. Romano and published by Outskirts Press. This book was released on 2020-06-11 with total page 181 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: If a child’s parent teaches that child to steal and cheat to survive, is it the child’s fault if they eventually find themselves in trouble with the law? What happens to a child, in many ways, is what leads to what a child becomes. Subconscious beliefs that are not turned over like stones become the paths to future life experiences, good or bad, healthy or not.

The Codependency Manifesto is designed to help you learn to question your mind. To live a truly authentic life, we must learn to observe how our mind operates—or be doomed to repeat the patterns, beliefs, and perceptions we have been groomed to accept as truth through the experiences of childhood. This book allows readers from all walks of life to envision a new reality for themselves. It shares life-changing insights and tools that will help you forge a greater understanding of self and find the road back to the real you!