Download or read book Exaholics written by Lisa Marie Bobby and published by Union Square & Co.. This book was released on 2016-02-10 with total page 253 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Severing a cherished relationship is one of the most painful experiences in life—and cutting those emotional ties to a loved one can feel almost like ending an addiction. Up till now, people recovering from other problems were able to get real help—like AA and rehab—while those struggling in the aftermath of traumatic breaks dealt with platitudes and friends insisting they should "get over it already." But now Exaholics Anonymous treats getting over an ex like kicking a chemical habit. Written by counselor and therapist Dr. Lisa Bobby, Exaholics offers meaningful support and advice to anyone trapped in the obsessive pain of a broken, or dying, attachment. She helps the brokenhearted heal, showing them, on a deep level, how to develop a conceptual framework for their experience, understand the emotional processes at work inside themselves, find the path to recovery, and free themselves of shame, injured ego, and remorse. In-depth case studies of others' journeys will illuminate the way to future happiness.

Download or read book Addicted to Pain written by Rainie Howard and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2016-04-18 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "The obsession of a toxic relationship can have the same enticement as drugs or alcohol. The pattern echoes time and time again: a new significant other draws you into a new relationship that starts off loving and alluring only to develop into a hurtful or abusive cycle. People who have a healthy understanding of true love do not tolerate this kind of pain. He or she will move on in search of a healthier bond. It's an unhealthy view on love that will rationalize the toxic behavior and cling to the relationship long after it should have ended. Like any other addiction, those hooked on a toxic love have no control over excessive urges to text, call, manipulate or beg for love, attention and affection. They want help. They want to end the pain and recover, but it's just like trying to shake a drug habit. In Addicted to Pain, author and relationship expert Rainie Howard reveals the truths every woman needs to heal from a toxic relationship and return to a life rich with purpose and fulfillment. This all-in-one spiritual guide provides daily insight on love addiction and a healing plan to help you recover from the overwhelming effects of a toxic relationship."--

Download or read book Addiction to Love written by Susan Peabody and published by Celestial Arts. This book was released on 2011-04-13 with total page 217 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Love addiction manifests in many forms, from Fatal Attraction-type obsessive lust to less extreme but nonetheless psychologically and emotionally harmful forms. The most common of these is staying in a bad relationship because of a fear of being alone-the "I hate you but don't leave me" relationship. In ADDICTION TO LOVE, recovering love addict Susan Peabody explains the variety of ways this disorder plays out, from the obsessively doting love addict to the addict who can't disentangle from an unfulfilling, dead-end relationship. Peabody provides an in-depth and easy-to-follow recovery program for those suffering from this unhealthy and often dangerous addiction and explains how to create a loving, safe, and fulfilling relationship. • A seminal work on unhealthy and obsessive behaviors in love, and how to change behavior to have a positive relationship. This third edition includes a new introduction and revisions to the text throughout. • Some symptoms of love addiction include love at first sight, excessive fantasizing, abnormal jealousy, nagging, and accepting dishonesty. • Even relationships with parents, children, siblings, or friends may be addictive-dependency is not always related to romantic love. • Previous editions have sold more than 40,000 copies. "Love addiction is a three-headed serpent that Susan Peabody adeptly slays. This is the quintessential book for any love addict or counselor needing to fully understand this highly prevalent and complex disorder. Susan detects and dissects aspects of this condition not comprehended in other books of its kind. Recovery is possible. This book makes it possible to take the succinct steps necessary toward a loving and reciprocal long-term intimate relationship." —Sudi Scull, M.F.T., C.N., psychotherapist and nutritionist

Download or read book Addicted to love written by Stephen Arterburn and published by Servant Ministries. This book was released on 1992-04 with total page 296 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: What do these people have in common? Carol cannot free herself from the abusive relationship she has endured for ten miserable years. Ben is driven to secret sexual liaisons with one woman after another. Ginny spends every free moment of her day absorbed in romance novels. Carol, Ben, and Ginny suffer from the same problem. Psychologists call it the disease of the '90's-love addiction. Addicted to Love describes the many forms this addiction can take-from romance novels and relationships to spouse abuse and sexual acxting-out. Like drug addicts or alcoholics, love addicts get high from sex and romance, develop a tolerance for it, and need ever-greater doses to keep going. Stephen Arterburn examines why this addiction is on the rise, what it looks like, who it afflicts, and what you can do if you suspect that your spouse, friend, or family member may be suffering from it. With compassion and wisdom, Arterburn points the way to psychological and spiritual healing, to enable men and women to enjoy real and lasting intimacy.

Download or read book Toxic Love written by Indira Haracic-Novic and published by . This book was released on 2021-02-10 with total page 406 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Are you a victim of domestic abuse? Or do you desire to stop abusing your intimate partner? Do you simply want to understand what motivates an abuser to reoffend? If so, this ground-breaking book is for you. With their innovative approach, clinical psychologist Indira Haracic-Novic and men's health expert Dean Quirke shed new light on the epidemic of domestic violence against women. Instead of viewing spousal or intimate partner abuse as the sole result of power and control tactics, the authors invite readers to explore the repetitive patterns of abusive behaviour - which tend to escalate in frequency and severity - within a behavioural addiction paradigm. They have consolidated their expertise in this book, assisting victims to heal from the trauma of abuse, and to prevent it from happening in future relationships. Reaching out to men who want to stop abusing their loved ones, Haracic-Novic and Quirke also provide strategies to break free from their repetitive patterns of abusive behaviour. By dismantling the dangerous aspects of the personality that may have become addicted to abusing their partners, victims and abusers become free to create healthier loving relationships.

Download or read book Facing Love Addiction reissue written by Pia Mellody and published by Harper Collins. This book was released on 2011-11-22 with total page 37 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A brilliant new guide to understanding the origins of codependence and the path to recovery by a nationally recognized authority on dependency and addiction. In this fresh new look at codependence, Pia Mellody traces the origins of this illness back to childhood, describing a whole range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Because of these earlier experiences, codependent adults often lack the skills necessary to lead mature lives and have satisfying relationships. Recovery from codependence comes from clearing up the toxic feelings left over from childhood and learning to reparent oneself by intervening on the adult symptoms of codependence. Central to Mellody's concept is the idea of the "precious child" that needs healing within each adult. She creates a framework for identifying codependent behavior and describes an effective approach to recovery that includes both therapy and self-help processes. Designed to be used with her new workbook for codependents, Breaking Free, this is a powerful tool for understanding the nature of codependence.

Download or read book The Betrayal Bond written by Patrick Carnes and published by Health Communications, Inc.. This book was released on 1997-11 with total page 273 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Divorce, incest, child abuse, domestic violence, kidnapping . . . are situations of incredible intensity where there is an exploitation of trust or power. Dr. Patrick Carnes presents an in-depth study of such relationships, how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred, and the steps to take to extricate oneself or a loved one from the relationship.

Download or read book Women Who Love Too Much written by Robin Norwood and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2008-04-08 with total page 355 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Discusses "loving too much" as a pattern of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors which certain women develop as a reponse to various problems in their family backgrounds.

Download or read book Love Junkies written by Christy Johnson and published by Authentic Media Inc. This book was released on 2014-03-18 with total page 229 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A "Hand Up" for Women Stuck in the Toxic Love Rut Do romantic relationships leave you miserable and confused? Are you tired of getting into a relationship and as soon as the initial buzz is gone you get that sinking feeling that whispers, what am I doing? Did the new wear off as soon as the wedding bells rang? Experts say that we gravitate toward relationships within a ten-point spread of our own IQ. Likewise, in the realm of soul-health, we also attract those with whom we are most emotionally compatible. That can be a good thing, or a bad thing - it depends on how much baggage we carry around! What if there was a way to diagnose your soul-health and create a plan for improvement so you could enjoy more satisfying romantic relationships? Complete with an online Soul-Health Profile that will help you assess your own soul-health and identify areas of weaknesses, Love Junkies is just that - an action plan and detailed guide to help you eliminate toxic behaviors that jeopardize your soul health and keep you stuck in unhealthy relationships. You'll learn how to change your habits and heal your soul and most importantly, break the toxic relationship cycle! FOREWORD: By Shannon Ethridge, bestselling author of the Every Woman's Battle books with Steve Arterburn, and The Sexually Confident Woman.

Download or read book Addicted to love written by Jan Geurtz and published by Ambo|Anthos. This book was released on 2017-05-10 with total page 145 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Jan Geurtz's famous classic Verslaafd aan liefde in English In Addicted to Love, Jan Geurtz clearly demonstrates how our search for love and approval stems from a fundamental self-rejection. We try to compensate for this by seeking other people's appreciation. But this is counterproductive: it actually makes us more insecure and therefore increasingly dependent. This creates an addiction to love, approval and the security of a relationship. As a result, most romantic relationships eventually fail, or - perhaps even worse - are reduced to dreary co-existence with little room for growth and happiness. With humour and practical examples, Jan Geurtz shows a way out of this vicious circle. Once we have let go of self-rejection, we find that our painful emotions, and also our sexual desires, are the gateway to a state of being that is completely free of restriction and dependence, and is filled with love and clarity - with or without a relationship. Jan Geurtz has written several books on addictions, including the bestseller Quit Smoking in One Day. He studied remedial pedagogy, education sciences and philosophy of science, and is inspired by Buddhism.

Download or read book Ready to Heal E Book written by Kelly McDaniel and published by eBookIt.com. This book was released on 2012-08-05 with total page 198 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: It's no surprise that our culture is addicted to "love." The sappy love songs, the enticing ads for romantic getaways and the desire to be cherished by a special someone will never lose their appeal. But for some women, this poses a significant problem. Because of their insatiable desire for love, they will do anything to find it and ultimately land in destructive addictive relationships over and over again causing incredible harm. This newly revised and expanded edition of Ready to Heal provides an opportunity for women to break free from painful addictive relationships. Kelly McDaniel provides the reader with the tools they will need to move along the path to living a life where intimacy is possible. Readers have an opportunity to begin to "connect the dots" in their own relationship patterns by following the stories of four brave women. A newly added chapter on "Mother Hunger" explores the role of the mother in infancy and how she ultimately impacts a daughter's ability to have healthy intimate relationships later in life. Break free from the chains of addictive relationships that sabotage happiness and self-respect.

Download or read book She Dated the Asshats But Married the Good Guy written by Shannon Bradley-Colleary and published by . This book was released on 2017-01-18 with total page 256 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "She Dated the Asshats, but Married the Good Guy: How to Go From Toxic Love to Real Love in 12 Exercises" is a recovery book for women who attract or are in toxic, circle-the-drain relationships with Asshats (aka Narcissists).Women who attract and stay in toxic relationships tend to have two flaws that make it extremely difficult for them to leave.1. An Overabundance of Empathy2. Misplaced ResponsibilityThis is especially true of women who grew up in homes with divorce, drug and alcohol addiction or immature, needy parents.Using Goal-Setting, Visualization, Inner Child work, 12-Step Recovery and her personal and client stories, Colleary's book offers these Learning Outcomes:Before: I'm attracted to people who use and disrespect me.After: I follow a "dating plan" that helps me navigate dating and falling love with emotionally healthy partners.Before: I'm confused about what a healthy love relationship looks like.After: I instantly recognize toxic behavior and have a clear vision of the partner I want.Before: I'm afraid of being alone, which keeps me in the toxic relationship.After: I've identified my core values and live by them, despite my fears.Before: I keep trying to change or control my romantic partner, but nothing works.After: I recognize when I'm trying to change or control my romantic partner and stop. I accept that I can only change myself, and recognize behaving otherwise damages my self-esteem.Before: I abandon myself to please my romantic partner.After: I recognize when I'm self-abandoning and set healthy boundaries.Before: I feel isolated by and ashamed of my toxic relationship. It keeps me away from the people who really love me.After: I've built a Mental Health Village that supports my emotional recovery and won't shame me.Before: I don't believe in a Higher Power or I once did, but feel like that Higher Power has let me down.After: I've developed a powerful, spiritual connection with the "Higher Power Of My Own Understanding." S/he does for me what I can't do for myself.Before: I'm afraid to look at my childhood, or think it hasn't negatively impacted the choices I've made today.After: I've come out of denial and accept my past. I understand how it affects me today. I'm healing the damage done.Before: I feel like my romantic partner is just using me for sex, money or emotional support and that the relationship isn't reciprocal.After: I no longer give and do for my romantic partner unless it's "For Fun and For Free." (Which means I won't be disappointed if it's not reciprocated.)Before: My romantic relationship is the sole focus of my life.After: I've cultivated other wonderful relationships and activities and have a fuller life than before.Before: I obsess on and worry about whether my romantic partner is cheating on me.After: I use practical tools to detach from him to maintain my serenity and/or gain the strength to leave.Before: I feel depressed and hopeless.After: I have a plan and a path to recovery and know that if I work it, it will work.Colleary is uniquely qualified to help because she's walked the walk. She spent 10 years in two toxic relationships with emotionally abusive men. These relationships included stalking, begging, crying, gnashing of teeth, flailing, threatening, seducing ... and that was just Colleary!By diligently working 12-Step Recovery she learned to stop pointing the finger at her romantic partners and start taking responsibility for her own life by discovering why she kept choosing unwisely.This helped her heal and transform her relationship paradigm. Now Colleary's been married 16 years to a "honeyman" who loves her exactly as she is.This book is a collection of all the exercises and tasks Colleary created and completed to find authentic, enduring love, and which have helped a multitude of her private clients do the same.

Download or read book Love Addict written by Ethlie Ann Vare and published by Health Communications, Inc.. This book was released on 2011-09 with total page 266 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Neuroscience now shows us--in living color, thanks to PET scans and fMRI technology--that falling in love affects our brains precisely the same way as snorting cocaine. Award-winning author and screenwriter Ethlie Ann Vare already knew that; she's been addicted to both. She survived to tell the tale . . . with humor, honesty, and hope. Just because something is addictive doesn't mean that you will get addicted to it. But . . . if your stomach ties up in knots while you count the seconds waiting for a phone call from that special someone . . . if you hear a loud buzzing in your ears when you see a certain person's car (or one just like it) . . . if your eyes burn when you hear a random love song or see a couple holding hands . . . if you suffer the twin agonies of craving for and withdrawing from a series of unrequited crushes or toxic relationships . . . if you always feel like you're clutching at someone's ankle and dragged across the floor as they try to leave the room . . . welcome to the club. With a light touch and a sharp wit, Ethlie has enlisted some famous love junkies--including supermodel Amber Smith, movie star William McNamara, and comedienne Margaret Cho--and the top therapists and researchers in the field to help lead you from the dark of despair into the dawn of recovery.

Download or read book Is It Love Or Is It Addiction written by Brenda Schaeffer and published by M J F Books. This book was released on 1995-04 with total page 180 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Offers advice & a practical guide to making relationships work

Download or read book Breakup Bootcamp written by Amy Chan and published by HarperCollins. This book was released on 2020-12-01 with total page 336 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: “A relationship expert whose work is like that of a scientific Carrie Bradshaw.” —THE OBSERVER A self-affirming, holistic guide for everyone—single or married, divorced or dating—to transforming heartbreak into healing by the founder of the innovative and revolutionary Renew Breakup Bootcamp Amy Chan hit rock bottom when she discovered that her boyfriend cheated on her. Although she was angry and broken-hearted, Chan soon came to realize that the breakup was the shakeup she needed to redirect her life. Instead of descending into darkness, she used the pain of the breakup as a bridge to self-actualization. She devoted herself to learning various healing modalities from the ancient to the scientific, and dived into the psychology of love. It worked. Fast forward years later, Amy completely transformed her life, her relationships and founded a breakup bootcamp helping countless women heal their hearts. In Breakup Bootcamp, Amy Chan directs her experience as a relationship columnist and as the creator of Renew Breakup Bootcamp into a practical, thoughtful guide to turning broken hearts into an opportunity to break out of complacency and destructive habits. Dubbed "the Chief Heart Hacker," Amy Chan grounds her practical advice and tried and tested methods rooted in cutting-edge psychology and research, helping first her bootcamp attendees and now her readers most effectively heal and reclaim their self-love. Breakup Bootcamp comes at the perfect time, when many are feeling the intensity of being in or out of a relationship, lonely or suffocated, and flirting with old toxic relationships they’ve outgrown. Relatable, life-changing, and backed by sound scientific research, Breakup Bootcamp can help anyone turn their greatest heartbreak into a powerful tool for growth.

Download or read book In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts written by Gabor Maté, MD and published by North Atlantic Books. This book was released on 2011-06-28 with total page 522 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A “thought-provoking and powerful” study that reframes everything you’ve been taught about addiction and recovery—from the New York Times–bestselling author of The Myth of Normal (Bruce Perry, author of The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog). A world-renowned trauma expert combines real-life stories with cutting-edge research to offer a holistic approach to understanding addiction—its origins, its place in society, and the importance of self-compassion in recovery. Based on Gabor Maté’s two decades of experience as a medical doctor and his groundbreaking work with people with addiction on Vancouver’s skid row, this #1 international bestseller radically re-envisions a much misunderstood condition by taking a compassionate approach to substance abuse and addiction recovery. In the same vein as Bessel van der Kolk’s The Body Keeps the Score, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts traces the root causes of addiction to childhood trauma and examines the pervasiveness of addiction in society. Dr. Maté presents addiction not as a discrete phenomenon confined to an unfortunate or weak-willed few, but as a continuum that runs throughout—and perhaps underpins—our society. It is not a medical “condition” distinct from the lives it affects but rather the result of a complex interplay among personal history, emotional and neurological development, brain chemistry, and the drugs and behaviors of addiction. Simplifying a wide array of brain and addiction research findings from around the globe, the book avoids glib self-help remedies, instead promoting a thorough and compassionate self-understanding as the first key to healing and wellness. Dr. Maté argues persuasively against contemporary health, social, and criminal justice policies toward addiction and how they perpetuate the War on Drugs. The mix of personal stories—including the author’s candid discussion of his own “high-status” addictive tendencies—and science with positive solutions makes the book equally useful for lay readers and professionals.

Download or read book Prodependence written by Robert Weiss and published by Health Communications, Inc.. This book was released on 2018-09-18 with total page 170 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "Prodependence," a new psychological term created by Robert Weiss to describe healthy interdependence in the modern world, turns this around. Rather that preaching detachment and distance over continued bonding and assistance, as so many therapists, self-help books, and 12-step groups currently do, prodependence celebrates the human need for and pursuit of intimate connection, viewing this as a positive force for change. Simply stated, prodependence occurs when attachment relationships are mutually beneficial--with one person's strengths filling in the weak points of the other, and vice versa. And this can occur even when an addiction is present