Download or read book The Self Motivated Kid written by Shimi Kang and published by Penguin. This book was released on 2015-08-18 with total page 352 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Winner of the 2015 USA Book News International Book Award for Parenting and Family In this inspiring book, Dr. Shimi Kang, a Harvard-trained child and adult psychiatrist and an expert in human motivation, provides a guide to the art and science of encouraging children to develop their own internal drive and a lifelong love of learning. Drawing on the latest neuroscience and behavioral research, Dr. Kang shows why pushy, hovering "tiger parents" and permissive "jellyfish parents" actually hinder self-motivation. She proposes a powerful new parenting model: the intelligent, joyful, highly social dolphin. Dolphin parents focus on maintaining balance in their children's lives to compassionately yet authoritatively guide them toward lasting health, happiness, and success. The mother of three children and the daughter of immigrant parents who struggled to give their children the "best" in life—Dr. Kang's mother could not read, her father taught her math while they drove around in his taxicab, and she was never enrolled in a single extracurricular activity—Dr. Kang argues that often the simplest "benefits" parents give their children are the most valuable. Combining irrefutable science with unforgettable real-life stories, The Self-Motivated Kid walks readers through Dr. Kang's four-part method for cultivating self-motivation. She argues that by trusting our deepest intuition about what is best for our kids, we will allow them to develop key traits—adaptability, community-mindedness, creativity, and critical thinking—to empower them to succeed and thrive in our increasingly competitive and complex world.

Download or read book The Self Driven Child written by William Stixrud, PhD and published by Penguin. This book was released on 2019-02-12 with total page 385 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: “Instead of trusting kids with choices . . . many parents insist on micromanaging everything from homework to friendships. For these parents, Stixrud and Johnson have a simple message: Stop.” —NPR “This humane, thoughtful book turns the latest brain science into valuable practical advice for parents.” —Paul Tough, New York Times bestselling author of How Children Succeed A few years ago, Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson started noticing the same problem from different angles: Even high-performing kids were coming to them acutely stressed and lacking motivation. Many complained they had no control over their lives. Some stumbled in high school or hit college and unraveled. Bill is a clinical neuropsychologist who helps kids gripped by anxiety or struggling to learn. Ned is a motivational coach who runs an elite tutoring service. Together they discovered that the best antidote to stress is to give kids more of a sense of control over their lives. But this doesn't mean giving up your authority as a parent. In this groundbreaking book they reveal how you can actively help your child to sculpt a brain that is resilient, and ready to take on new challenges. The Self-Driven Child offers a combination of cutting-edge brain science, the latest discoveries in behavioral therapy, and case studies drawn from the thousands of kids and teens Bill and Ned have helped over the years to teach you how to set your child on the real road to success. As parents, we can only drive our kids so far. At some point, they will have to take the wheel and map out their own path. But there is a lot you can do before then to help them tackle the road ahead with resilience and imagination.

Download or read book The Dolphin Way written by Shimi Kang and published by Penguin. This book was released on 2014-05-01 with total page 313 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In this inspiring book, Harvard-trained child and adult psychiatrist and expert in human motivation Dr. Shimi Kang provides a guide to the art and science of inspiring children to develop their own internal drive and a lifelong love of learning. Drawing on the latest neuroscience and behavioral research, Dr. Kang shows why pushy “tiger parents” and permissive “jellyfish parents” actually hinder self-motivation. She proposes a powerful new parenting model: the intelligent, joyful, playful, highly social dolphin. Dolphin parents focus on maintaining balance in their children’s lives to gently yet authoritatively guide them toward lasting health, happiness, and success. As the medical director for Child and Youth Mental Health community programs in Vancouver, British Columbia, Dr. Kang has witnessed firsthand the consequences of parental pressure: anxiety disorders, high stress levels, suicides, and addictions. As the mother of three children and as the daughter of immigrant parents who struggled to give their children the “best” in life—Dr. Kang’s mother could not read and her father taught her math while they drove around in his taxicab—Dr. Kang argues that often the simplest “benefits” we give our children are the most valuable. By trusting our deepest intuitions about what is best for our kids, we will in turn allow them to develop key dolphin traits to enable them to thrive in an increasingly complex world: adaptability, community-mindedness, creativity, and critical thinking. Life is a journey through ever-changing waters, and dolphin parents know that the most valuable help we can give our children is to assist them in developing their own inner compass. Combining irrefutable science with unforgettable real-life stories, The Dolphin Way walks readers through Dr. Kang’s four-part method for cultivating self-motivation. The book makes a powerful case that we are not forced to choose between being permissive or controlling. The third option—the option that will prepare our kids for success in a future that will require adaptability—is the dolphin way.

Download or read book What Do You Say written by William Stixrud, PhD and published by Penguin. This book was released on 2022-08-16 with total page 337 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A guide to effectively communicating with teenagers by the bestselling authors of The Self-Driven Child If you're a parent, you've had a moment--maybe many of them--when you've thought, "How did that conversation go so badly?" At some point after the sixth grade, the same kid who asked "why" non-stop at age four suddenly stops talking to you. And the conversations that you wish you could have--ones fueled by your desire to see your kid not just safe and healthy, but passionately engaged--suddenly feel nearly impossible to execute. The good news is that effective communication can be cultivated, learned, and taught. And as you get better at this, so will your kids. William Stixrud, Ph.D., and Ned Johnson have 60 years combined experience talking to kids one-on-one, and the most common question they get when out speaking to parents and educators is: What do you say? While many adults understand the importance and power of the philosophies behind the books that dominate the parenting bestseller list, parents are often left wondering how to put those concepts into action. In What Do You Say?, Johnson and Stixrud show how to engage in respectful and effective dialogue, beginning with defining and demonstrating the basic principles of listening and speaking. Then they show new ways to handle specific, thorny topics of the sort that usually end in parent/kid standoffs: delivering constructive feedback to kids; discussing boundaries around technology; explaining sleep and their brains; the anxiety of current events; and family problem-solving. What Do You Say? is a manual and map that will immediately transform parents' ability to navigate complex terrain and train their minds and hearts to communicate ever more successfully.

Download or read book The Tech Solution written by Shimi Kang and published by Penguin. This book was released on 2020-08-18 with total page 172 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A Harvard-trained psychiatrist and mom of 3 gives parents and educators the tech habits children need to achieve their full potential--and a 6-step plan to put them into action. You may have picked up on some warning signs: The more your 9-year-old son plays video games, the more distracted and irritable he becomes. Or maybe comparing her life to others on social media is leaving your teenaged daughter feeling down. Then there are the questions that are always looming: Should I limit screen time? Should I give my 11-year-old an iPhone? The Tech Solution is a to-the-point resource for parents and educators who want the best approach for raising kids in our digital world. It outlines all you need to know about the short-term and potential long-term consequences of tech use. Dr. Kang simplifies cutting edge neuroscience to reveal a new understanding around how we metabolize experiences with technology that will lay the foundation for lasting success. On top of that, she offers practical advice for tackling specific concerns in the classroom or at home, whether it's possible tech addiction, anxiety, cyberbullying, or loneliness. With her 6-week 6-step plan for rebalancing your family's tech diet, Dr. Kang will help your child build healthy habits and make smart choices that will maximize the benefits of tech and minimize its risks. Use The Tech Solution to help your child avoid the pitfalls of today's digital world and to offer them guidance that will boost their brains and bodies, create meaningful connections, explore creative pursuits, and foster a sense of contribution and empowerment for many years to come.

Download or read book He s Not Lazy written by Adam Price and published by Union Square & Co.. This book was released on 2017-08-01 with total page 243 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: “Clinical psychologist Price offers one of the most significant books of the year in this new look at an old problem—the underperforming teenage boy… Price’s book brings an important voice to a much needed conversation.” —Library Journal (Starred review) On the surface, capable teenage boys may look lazy. But dig a little deeper, writes child psychologist Adam Price in He’s Not Lazy, and you’ll often find conflicted boys who want to do well in middle and high school but are afraid to fail, and so do not try. This book can help you become an ally with your son, as he discovers greater self-confidence and accepts responsibility for his future. Why are some teenage boys unmotivated? Why do they spend endless hours playing video games or glued to their phones and social media sites instead of studying? Is this a sign of laziness or something more troubling? As a clinical psychologist, Dr. Adam Price has found that teenage boys are extremely sensitive to the stress of our competitive achievement-oriented culture—one that has created a pressure cooker for today’s adolescent. In He’s Not Lazy, Dr. Price, a renowned expert on ADHD and learning disabilities, explains how to help a boy who is not lazy, but rather, is conflicted about trying his best. Dr. Price will guide you to discover hidden obstacles to your son’s success, set expectations, and empower him to accept responsibility for his own future. He’s Not Lazy will help you become your son’s ally, as he discovers greater self-confidence and becomes more self-reliant. Rather than reacting to pressure by shunning academic responsibilities altogether or propping up fear-based rebellion with justifications like “I am not going to be one of those nerds who have no life,” or “Tests don’t measure intelligence or help you learn, so what’s the point of studying for them?” your teenage son can work with you using the guidance in this book.

Download or read book Motivating Students Who Don t Care written by Allen Mendler and published by Solution Tree Press. This book was released on 2009-05-01 with total page 75 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This book is a comprehensive and practical guide for reconnecting with discouraged students and reawakening their excitement and enthusiasm for learning. With proven strategies from the classroom, Dr. Mendler identifies five effective processes you can use to reawaken motivation in students who aren’t prepared, don’t care, and won’t work. These processes include emphasizing effort, creating hope, respecting power, building relationships, and expressing enthusiasm.

Download or read book Intrinsic Motivation written by Edward L. Deci and published by Springer Science & Business Media. This book was released on 2012-12-06 with total page 325 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: As I begin to write this Preface, I feel a rush of excitement. I have now finished the book; my gestalt is coming into completion. Throughout the months that I have been writing this, I have, indeed, been intrinsically motivated. Now that it is finished I feel quite competent and self-determining (see Chapter 2). Whether or not those who read the book will perceive me that way is also a concern of mine (an extrinsic one), but it is a wholly separate issue from the intrinsic rewards I have been experiencing. This book presents a theoretical perspective. It reviews an enormous amount of research which establishes unequivocally that intrinsic motivation exists. Also considered herein are various approaches to the conceptualizing of intrinsic motivation. The book concentrates on the approach which has developed out of the work of Robert White (1959), namely, that intrinsically motivated behaviors are ones which a person engages in so that he may feel competent and self-determining in relation to his environment. The book then considers the development of intrinsic motiva tion, how behaviors are motivated intrinsically, how they relate to and how intrinsic motivation is extrinsically motivated behaviors, affected by extrinsic rewards and controls. It also considers how changes in intrinsic motivation relate to changes in attitudes, how people attribute motivation to each other, how the attribution process is motivated, and how the process of perceiving motivation (and other internal states) in oneself relates to perceiving them in others.

Download or read book Helping Kids Help Themselves written by E. Perry Good and published by New View Publications. This book was released on 1992 with total page 220 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Perry Good explains how we can teach kids to assume personal responsibilities without relying on coercion. By basing our efforts on the idea that we are internally motivated and our behavior is purposeful, we can teach them to self-evaluate their actions and the overall direction of their lives. As parents & teachers, we must learn how to use techniques of informing, encouraging, and recognizing to help put the "self" back in self-esteem and encourage responsibility.

Download or read book How to Raise Successful People written by Esther Wojcicki and published by Houghton Mifflin. This book was released on 2019-05-07 with total page 331 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The Godmother of Silicon Valley, legendary teacher, and mother of a Super Family shares her tried-and-tested methods for raising happy, healthy, successful children using Trust, Respect, Independence, Collaboration, and Kindness: TRICK. Esther Wojcicki--"Woj" to her many friends and admirers--is famous for three things: teaching a high school class that has changed the lives of thousands of kids, inspiring Silicon Valley legends like Steve Jobs, and raising three daughters who have each become famously successful. What do these three accomplishments have in common? They're the result of TRICK, Woj's secret to raising successful people: Trust, Respect, Independence, Collaboration, and Kindness. Simple lessons, but the results are radical. Wojcicki's methods are the opposite of helicopter parenting. As we face an epidemic of parental anxiety, Woj is here to say: relax. Talk to infants as if they are adults. Allow teenagers to pick projects that relate to the real world and their own passions, and let them figure out how to complete them. Above all, let your child lead. How to Raise Successful People offers essential lessons for raising, educating, and managing people to their highest potential. Change your parenting, change the world.

Download or read book Parenting in the Screen Age written by Delaney Ruston and published by . This book was released on 2020-10 with total page 384 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Does every conversation with your child or teen about screen time blow up into a fight? Or maybe you avoid bringing up the topic but silently harbor worry and frustration. How can you better understand what you're up against - and most importantly, ensure the healthiest screen time possible? In Parenting in the Screen Age, award-winning filmmaker, and mental health advocate Dr. Delaney Ruston distills more than a decade of communications research into a definitive guide for today's parents. Packed with evidence-based insights on screen time from researchers, input from kids and teens, and solutions drawn from Dr. Ruston's own messy parenting struggles, this guide shows you how to start - and sustain - productive family talks about technology. You'll learn how to: Bring up screen time without making your child or teen defensive Talk through difficult issues like online social cruelty, sexting, and mental health Engage your child in creating boundaries around Netflix, video gaming, and social media Have screen time limits that actually work - with less of the sneaking or arguing During the COVID pandemic or after, this book will help you lead your child to become more tech-wise and life balanced - empowering them to build a healthier relationship with our digital world, now and into their future.

Download or read book Raising Lions written by Joe Newman and published by Independently Published. This book was released on 2021-09-28 with total page 218 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The second edition of Joe Newman's acclaimed book Raising Lions is an essential guide for parents and teachers raising strong-willed, precocious children. It offers clear insights into what motivates the most challenging behaviors, and what kinds of responses turn these behaviors around. "One of the best books on child-rearing I've ever read. Joe Newman describes a cultural shift that has reinforced anxiety and behavior disorders in children by negating parental authority. Even more important, he provides specific, non-punitive ways for parents to help their kids by taking back their authority. Filled with examples and experiences from the author's own life as a child with A.D.H.D., the book is a treasure-trove of useful information." Barry Michels, psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of The Tools. "This book is packed with useful information. It is an insightful and practical guide for managing children. I would recommend it to any parent." L. Alan Sroufe, Professor Emeritus Ph.D. University of Minnesota Current childrearing techniques seek to develop children who are confident, self-assured, and unafraid to speak their minds-lions instead of lambs. Although largely positive, this shift has brought with it some very serious problems in our children's behavior. Without going back to an authoritarian model, Joe Newman has developed new ways of helping children develop the ability to self-regulate without undermining their confidence and individuality. Raising Lions challenges us to re-examine our interactions and relationships with children, re-think the root causes of behavior problems and find new ways to support healthy, happy development. For over 20 years Joe Newman has worked with children, parents, teachers, and administrators to help them understand and improve child behavior.

Download or read book Motivating Kids written by Ronit Baras and published by . This book was released on 2019-07-11 with total page 288 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Frustrated with your kids' lack of motivation? Tired of nagging? Want to motivate your children without using force? Motivating Kids is the book for you! This is the ultimate comprehensive guide to motivating kids that will teach you the science of motivation: the Why, the What, and most importantly, the How to motivate your kids. The practical tips work just as effectively, and just as easily, on toddler and on teenagers. We all know that motivated kids can do everything. Even more than their knowledge, their academic achievements, their skills and abilities, their drive and motivation will determine their success in life. Motivation is like a battery that keeps people going. The fuller the battery is, the further we can go. Motivation is what makes your child get up in the morning, eat, take care of him/herself, learn, try new things and experience the world to the fullest. It is like the fuel that keeps them going and, as a parent you want them to go far. If you want to make sure your kids will go far, into every destination in life, you want to make sure their motivation battery is full. Motivating Kids is your ultimate guide to motivating your kids to be the best they can be. About 300 pages of practical ways to fill up the battery and fuel up their life, 211 quotes to inspire you and your kid to do amazing things and be the best you can be: best parent, best child. In 18 chapters, this ultimate guide gives you 303 practical tips that can change your parenting and help you become a role model for your child. This parenting course has 28 exercises that will lead you to it, gradually and with confidence and save you wondering the "how to" of motivation. This book, which is a summary of 17 parenting sessions, includes new research and statistics that will reveal the science of motivation and save you sitting through courses, classes and hundreds of books.

Download or read book 100 Ways to Motivate Yourself written by Steve Chandler and published by ReadHowYouWant.com. This book was released on 2008 with total page 306 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Motivational speaker Chandler highlights 100 proven methods to positively change the way people think and act, methods based on feedback from the corporate and public seminar attendees he speaks to each year.

Download or read book Self Motivated Kids written by Damara Simmons and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2016-11-29 with total page 156 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Tens of millions of parents have tried yelling, manipulating, threatening, bribing, nagging, and even harming their children; all in an attempt to motivate and make them comply. But you are tired of the battles and negative cycles that happen over and over. Deep down you sense there must be a better way. As Marshall Goldsmith says "I've learned how one tweak in the environment changes everything." Self-Motivated kids will show you how to make the tweaks in your home environment so your children listen and cooperate, all on their own. This book answers questions like: -Where does internal motivation come from? -What 3 psychological needs fuel self-motivation? -How can I meet these needs in my children so they listen and respond? -How can I create a home environment where my children have the energy for action? Chock-full of practical tips and solutions you can apply in your home today. Self-Motivated Kids combines action-based exercises, and real-world research from the author's personal experience as a mother and family life educator. Self-Motivated Kids will challenge you to think critically about parenting tactics that have passed on through the ages and dare greatly as you deliberately try a new approach to parenting. You can think of the book as your personal parenting guide you can refer to for honest and straightforward advice as you transform your home environment and enjoy parenting. In four parts Self-Motivated Kids will help you create an environment where your children listen and cooperate: -Part One, Motivation, helps you understand what motivation is, where it comes from, and unhealthy behaviors to avoid. -Part Two, Creating the Environment, walks you through the three psychological needs of connection, choice, and competence that fuel internal motivation in your children. -Part Three, The Magic Formula, focuses on how to communicate with your children so they can willingly cooperate with you. -Part Four, Where to Start?, is an actionable plan to implement what is taught so you can see positive results and behavior change today. What are people saying about Self-Motivated Kids? "A smart, practical book for moms and dads who care about their kids' intrinsic motivation." - Daniel H. Pink, New York Times Bestselling author of DRIVE and A WHOLE NEW MIND "This book is a MUST READ! As an educator, I cannot count the number of times I have heard parents say, 'If only my son/daughter came with a handbook!' Simmons uses her experience as a family life educator and mom to create 'the handbook.'" -Stacey Sly, author of Trauma in the Classroom "Every parent struggles to help their children become more self-motivated. Simmons shares some crucial concepts and great implementation tips to help parents do just that. Wish I had this with my kids but glad I have it for my grandkids! This is very clear, do-able, and inspiring! The 3 Cs are life changing!" -Merilee Boyack, author of The Parenting Breakthrough

Download or read book The Startup Squad written by Brian Weisfeld and published by Imprint. This book was released on 2019-05-07 with total page 148 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Girls mean business in a brand-new series about friendship and entrepreneurship that Katherine Applegate, Newbery Medal-winning author of The One and Only Ivan, calls “A great read!” All the great leaders had to start somewhere. And Teresa (“Resa” for short) is starting with the lemonade stand competition her teacher assigned to the class—but making it a success is going to be a lot harder than Resa thinks. The prize: line-skipping tickets to Adventure Central. The competition: Val, Resa's middle school nemesis. And the biggest obstacle to success: Resa's own teammates. Harriet is the class clown, Amelia is the new girl who thinks she knows best, and Didi is Resa's steadfast friend—who doesn't know the first thing about making or selling lemonade. The four of them quickly realize that the recipe for success is tough to perfect—but listening to each other is the first step. And making new friends might be the most important one... The back of each book in this middle-grade series features tips from the Startup Squad and an inspirational profile of a girl entrepreneur! An Imprint Book "An inspiring story about entrepreneurial girls. I loved this story of girls finding their way in the world of entrepreneurship." —Ann M. Martin, author of the Baby-Sitters Club series and Newbery Honor winner A Corner of the Universe “The Startup Squad encourages girls to dream big, work hard, and rely on each other to make good things happen. It teaches them how to succeed—and reminds all of us that girls mean business!”—Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook and founder of LeanIn.Org and OptionB.Org “A great read that is fast-paced, fun, and empowering. The Startup Squad comes complete with a treasure trove of tips for starting a business.” —Katherine Applegate, Newbery Medal-winning author of The One and Only Ivan This title has common core connections.

Download or read book The Drama of the Gifted Child written by and published by Basic Books. This book was released on 2008-12-15 with total page 144 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This “rare and compelling” (New York Magazine) bestseller examines childhood trauma and the enduring effects it has on an individual's management of repressed anger and pain. Why are many of the most successful people plagued by feelings of emptiness and alienation? This wise and profound book has provided millions of readers with an answer--and has helped them to apply it to their own lives. Far too many of us had to learn as children to hide our own feelings, needs, and memories skillfully in order to meet our parents' expectations and win their "love." Alice Miller writes, "When I used the word 'gifted' in the title, I had in mind neither children who receive high grades in school nor children talented in a special way. I simply meant all of us who have survived an abusive childhood thanks to an ability to adapt even to unspeakable cruelty by becoming numb.... Without this 'gift' offered us by nature, we would not have survived." But merely surviving is not enough. The Drama of the Gifted Child helps us to reclaim our life by discovering our own crucial needs and our own truth.