Download or read book The Dangers of Family Secrets written by Debby Holt and published by Charnwood. This book was released on 2019-06 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: FAMILY SECRETS ARE LIKE MOTHS IN CASHMERE. THEY DIG THEMSELVES IN AND EAT THEIR WAY OUT... Genealogist Freya Cameron has the perfect life. A devoted husband of nearly thirty years and career-driven, successful twin daughters. But what if it's all a lie? So skilled at excavating her clients' family histories, Freya has no idea why her own family are so cold towards her. They know something she doesn't. But some secrets are better not left untold as the years pass, attitudes harden, and assumptions become accepted reality. Freya's family don't speak about what happened. They are determined to make her pay for what she did. But when the truth finally emerges, their lives will be shaken to the core...
Download or read book The Ex Wife s Survival Guide written by Debby Holt and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2010-03-11 with total page 289 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Two months before Sarah's twin sons leave home for their gap year travel, her husband Andrew, a keen amateur thespian, announces that he's leaving her for his leading lady. Happily married for the past twenty years, Sarah has no idea how to fill her empty house, her empty days, nor play the role of discarded wife. As Sarah is to discover, the way forward is strewn with hazards and humiliations. If she is not to be bludgeoned to pieces, she must acquire skills for survival ... fast. Happily for Sarah, help (and hindrance!) is at hand in the form of well-meaning neighbours, a misbehaved mongrel, an eventful trip to Majorca, an unassuming plumber, and an unwelcome role as Mrs De Winter in the forthcoming Ambercross Players' production of Rebecca. In this wickedly funny and hugely entertaining comedy of manners, life in a small Wiltshire village is exposed with a highly infectious sense of humour and a devastatingly accurate eye for detail. The sparkling comedy romance from the much-loved, bestselling author of Recipe for Scandal. If you love Wendy Holden, Elizabeth Buchan, Katie Fforde and Catherine Alliott, make Debby Holt your next read! What everyone is saying about The Ex-Wife's Survival Guide: ‘Thoroughly enjoyable ... Had me smiling from start to finish’ Erica James ‘I absolutely love this book. It is as funny as it is wise and I couldn’t put it down’ Katie Fforde ‘A wickedly comical read’ Heat ‘From the author of the superb Ex-Wife’s Survival Guide comes another wicked treat’ Daily Mirror ‘This fast-paced romantic comedy is perfect bad-weather escapism’ She ‘Clever and surprising’ Daily Mail ‘Laced with wise and witty humour this is great fun’ Woman ‘A deliciously funny, gently ironic novel, Jane Austen-like in its elegance and playfulness’ Women’s Weekly
Download or read book Family Secrets written by John Bradshaw and published by Piatkus Books. This book was released on 1995 with total page 297 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: All families have secrets. Some secrets are healthy, but others - those that John Bradshaw calls 'dark secrets' - limit the wholeness and freedom of every member of the family, often generation after generation. In Family Secrets, John Bradshaw examines the family's mysterious power to affect our lives. He explains how secrets are created, how they influence us (even if we don't know they are there), and describes the risks and benefits exploring them. With the aid of a genogram, which can be used to chart key relationships, Bradshaw provides us with a step-by-step guide to uncovering the secrets of the past and the present. Family Secrets includes dozens of fascinating case studies which illustrate how we can recognise crucial gaps and silences, reconstruct missing information and decipher partial memories. It provides vital advice on how to deal with the truths revealed and shows us ways to stay safely and honestly connected with our families. For more information on John Bradshaw please visit www.johnbradshaw.com
Download or read book The Secret Life of Families written by Evan Imber-Black and published by Bantam. This book was released on 2009-08-19 with total page 336 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Secrets come in all shapes and sizes. And for families as well as individuals, they are built on a complex web of shifting motives and emotions. But today, when personal revelations are posted on the Internet or sensationalized on afternoon talk shows, we risk losing touch with how important secrets are--how they are used and abused, their power to harm and heal. In this important work, Evan Imber-Black explores the nature of secrets, helping us understand: The distinction between healthy privacy and toxic secrecy What to tell--and not to tell--young children How to safely confront a family "zone of silence" Why adolescents need to have some secrets--and where to draw the line The effect of "official" secrets, like sealed adoption records and medical testing What to consider before revealing an important secret And much more Filled with moving first-person stories, The Secret Life of Families provides perspective on some of today's most sensitive personal and social issues. Giving voice to our deepest fears and to our power to overcome them, this is a book that will be talked about for years to come.
Download or read book Family Secrets written by Deborah Cohen and published by Oxford University Press. This book was released on 2013-03-27 with total page 389 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: We live today in a culture of full disclosure, where tell-all memoirs top the best-seller lists, transparency is lauded, and privacy seems imperiled. But how did we get here? Exploring scores of previously sealed records, Family Secrets offers a sweeping account of how shame--and the relationship between secrecy and openness--has changed over the last two centuries in Britain. Deborah Cohen uses detailed sketches of individual families as the basis for comparing different sorts of social stigma. She takes readers inside an Edinburgh town house, where a genteel maiden frets with her brother over their niece's downy upper lip, a darkening shadow that might betray the girl's Eurasian heritage; to a Liverpool railway platform, where a heartbroken mother hands over her eight-year old illegitimate son for adoption; to a town in the Cotswolds, where a queer vicar brings to his bank vault a diary--sewed up in calico, wrapped in parchment--that chronicles his sexual longings. Cohen explores what families in the past chose to keep secret and why. She excavates the tangled history of privacy and secrecy to explain why privacy is now viewed as a hallowed right while secrets are condemned as destructive. In delving into the dynamics of shame and guilt, Family Secrets explores the part that families, so often regarded as the agents of repression, have played in the transformation of social mores from the Victorian era to the present day. Written with compassion and keen insight, this is a bold new argument about the sea-changes that took place behind closed doors.
Download or read book Family Secrets written by John Bradshaw and published by Bantam. This book was released on 1996-04-01 with total page 322 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: What you don't know can hurt you— but it can also lead to self-acceptance and healing. Family Secrets gives you the tools you need to understand your family—and yourself—in an entirely new way. In his bestselling books and compelling PBS specials, John Bradshaw has transformed our understanding of how we are shaped by our families. Now join him on this fascinating journey of discovery, which starts with your life today and takes you back through the conflicts, the strengths, and the weaknesses of your parents’ generation—and even your grandparents’. Using a powerful technique for exploring your “family tree,” you’ll trace the visible and invisible patterns that have influenced you. You’ll learn about family secrets that are healthy and necessary, and also about the secrets that can limit your wholeness and freedom—even if you don’t know they exist. This work is sometimes painful, but it is always enlightening—filled with the kind of “aha” moments and realizations that make everything fall into place. With John Bradshaw’s guidance, you will come to a new appreciation and acceptance of yourself. You will also be able to build more open, honest, and loving relationships with the people who matter most.
Download or read book Annie May s Black Book written by Debby Holt and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2010-03-11 with total page 416 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In her Black Book, Annie May has recorded the name and offence of everyone who has ever done her wrong. The greatest transgressor of them all was Ben Seymour: the man who jilted her at the altar seventeen years ago. Now he's moving into a house round the corner . . . Entries from Annie May's Black Book: October 15th, 1974: Miss Baker for telling me how to blow my nose and not believing when I still couldn't do it. February 6th, 1977: David Llewellyn for saying my landscape painting looked like a pig's trough and then making honking noises every time he saw me. April 12th, 1987: Peter Elton for 'borrowing' my cigarettes and never buying any of his own. 9th February, 1988: BEN SEYMOUR FOR EVERYTHING FOR EVER The sparkling comedy romance from the much-loved, bestselling author of Recipe for Scandal. If you love Wendy Holden, Elizabeth Buchan, Katie Fforde and Catherine Alliott, make Debby Holt your next read! What everyone is saying about Annie May's Black Book: ‘Thoroughly enjoyable ... Had me smiling from start to finish’ Erica James ‘I absolutely love this book. It is as funny as it is wise and I couldn’t put it down’ Katie Fforde ‘A wickedly comical read’ Heat ‘From the author of the superb Ex-Wife’s Survival Guide comes another wicked treat’ Daily Mirror ‘This fast-paced romantic comedy is perfect bad-weather escapism’ She ‘Clever and surprising’ Daily Mail ‘Laced with wise and witty humour this is great fun’ Woman ‘A deliciously funny, gently ironic novel, Jane Austen-like in its elegance and playfulness’ Women’s Weekly
Download or read book Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family written by Ellyn Satter and published by Kelcy Press. This book was released on 2011-12-01 with total page 322 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Ellyn Satter's Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family takes a leadership role in the grassroots movement back to the family table. More a cooking primer than a cookbook, this book encourages singles, couples, and families with children to go to the trouble of feeding themselves well. Satter uses simple, delicious recipes as a scaffolding on which to hang cooking lessons, fast tips, night-before suggestions, in-depth background information, ways to involve kids in the kitchen, and guidelines on adapting menus for young children. In chapters about eating, feeding, choosing food, cooking, planning, and shopping, the author entertainingly helps readers have fun with food while not eating unhealthily or too often. She cites current studies and makes a convincing case for lightening up on fat and sodium without endangering ourselves or our children. The book demonstrates Satter's dictum that “your positive feelings about food and eating will do more for your health than adhering to a set of rules about what to eat and what not to eat.”
Download or read book A Family Secret My Shocking True Story of Surviving a Childhood in Hell written by Maureen Wood and published by HarperCollins UK. This book was released on 2021-03-18 with total page 288 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: ‘Each time my mother laid a finger on me... it was another step into the jaws of hell. Her abuse, more so than any other, destroyed me. It was the ultimate betrayal.’
Download or read book Family Secrets written by Jeff Coen and published by Chicago Review Press. This book was released on 2010-09 with total page 441 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Painting a vivid picture of the pivotal case that broke apart a Chicago mob family, this narrative relies on court transcripts, police records, interviews, and notes to recreate the story as it unfolded in a 2007 courtroom.
Download or read book Family Secrets and the Psychoanalysis of Narrative written by Esther Rashkin and published by Princeton University Press. This book was released on 2014-07-14 with total page 221 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Family Secrets and the Psychoanalysis of Narrative is the first book to explore the implications of the psychoanalytic theory of the phantom for the study of narrative literature. A phantom is formed when a shameful, unspeakable secret is unwittingly transmitted, through cryptic language and behavior, transgenerationally from one family member to another. The "haunted" individual to whom the "encrypted" secret is communicated becomes the unwitting medium for someone else's voice--and the result is speech and conduct that appear incongruous or obsessive in a variety of ways. Through close readings of texts by Conrad, Villiers de l'Isle-Adam, Balzac, James, and Poe, Esther Rashkin reveals how shameful secrets, concealed within the unspoken family histories of fictive characters, can be reconstructed from their linguistic traces and can be shown not only to drive the characters' speech and behavior but also to generate their narratives. First articulated by the French psychoanalysts Nicolas Abraham and Maria Torok, the theory of the phantom here represents a radical departure from Freudian, Lacanian, and other psychoanalytic approaches to literary interpretation. In Rashkin's hands, it also provides a response to structuralist and poststructuralist critiques of character analysis, an alternative to deconstructive strategies of reading, and a new vantage point from which to consider problems of intertextuality, "authorship," and the formation and origins of narrative. Originally published in 1992. The Princeton Legacy Library uses the latest print-on-demand technology to again make available previously out-of-print books from the distinguished backlist of Princeton University Press. These editions preserve the original texts of these important books while presenting them in durable paperback and hardcover editions. The goal of the Princeton Legacy Library is to vastly increase access to the rich scholarly heritage found in the thousands of books published by Princeton University Press since its founding in 1905.
Download or read book Family Secrets written by Judith Henry Wall and published by Simon & Schuster. This book was released on 2007-06-26 with total page 320 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: After their father's death, sisters Vanessa, Ellie, and Georgiana are stunned to learn a well-kept family secret. A yellowed letter tucked away in a family Bible reveals that the woman who gave birth to their late father had not died when he was born, as they had always believed. Their paternal grandmother gave up her son shortly after his birth, leaving this note with instructions to never reveal her name or background to him. The letter is signed, simply, Hattie. The sisters are each at a turning point -- Vanessa is feeling stifled in a stale marriage and career; Ellie is perpetually single but desperately wants marriage and motherhood; and baby sister Georgiana is a successful model but longs to do something more serious with her life. Seizing upon the idea of finding their long-lost grandmother, the women set out on a trip to Montana, where they hope not only to find their father's birth mother but also to rekindle their bonds of sisterhood and possibly even find their true selves. But they have no idea of the consequences of their quest. If the sisters find Hattie and live to tell their story, everything Hattie has worked and dreamed for will be destroyed. Will she allow the sisters to uncover the family secret and escape alive?
Download or read book The Secrets of Happy Families written by Bruce Feiler and published by Harper Collins. This book was released on 2013-02-19 with total page 228 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In The Secrets of Happy Families, New York Times bestselling author Bruce Feiler has drawn up a blueprint for modern families — a new approach to family dynamics, inspired by cutting-edge techniques gathered from experts in the disciplines of science, business, sports, and the military. Don't worry about family dinner. Let your kids pick their punishments. Ditch the sex talk. Cancel date night. These are just a few of the surprising innovations in this bold first-of-its-kind playbook for today's families. Bestselling author and New York Times family columnist Bruce Feiler found himself squeezed between caring for aging parents and raising his children. So he set out on a three-year journey to find the smartest solutions and the most cutting-edge research about families. Instead of the usual family "experts," he sought out the most creative minds—from Silicon Valley to the set of Modern Family, from the country's top negotiators to the Green Berets—and asked them what team-building exercises and problem-solving techniques they use with their families. Feiler then tested these ideas with his wife and kids. The result is a fun, original look at how families can draw closer together, complete with 200 never-before-seen best practices. Feiler's life-changing discoveries include a radical plan to reshape your family in twenty minutes a week, Warren Buffett's guide for setting an allowance, and the Harvard handbook for resolving conflict. The Secrets of Happy Families is a timely, counterintuitive book that answers the questions countless parents are asking: How do we manage the chaos of our lives? How do we teach our kids values? How do we make our family happier? Written in a charming, accessible style, The Secrets of Happy Families is smart, funny, and fresh, and will forever change how your family lives every day.
Download or read book Family Secrets written by Deborah Cohen and published by Penguin UK. This book was released on 2013-01-09 with total page 396 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A Sunday Telegraph and Times Higher Education 'Book of the Week', Deborah Cohen's Family Secrets is a gripping book about what families - Victorian and modern - try to hide, and why. In an Edinburgh town house, a genteel maiden lady frets with her brother over their niece's downy upper lip. Would the darkening shadow betray the girl's Eurasian heritage? On a Liverpool railway platform, a heartbroken mother hands over her eight-year old illegitimate son for adoption. She had dressed him carefully that morning in a sailor suit and cap. In a town in the Cotswolds, a vicar brings to his bank vault a diary - sewed up in calico, wrapped in parchment - that chronicles his sexual longings for other men. Drawing upon years of research in previously sealed records, the prize-winning historian Deborah Cohen offers a sweeping and often surprising account of how shame has changed over the last two centuries. Both a story of family secrets and of how they were revealed, this book journeys from the frontier of empire, where British adventurers made secrets that haunted their descendants for generations, to the confessional vanguard of modern-day genealogy two centuries later. It explores personal, apparently idiosyncratic, decisions: hiding an adopted daughter's origins, taking a disabled son to a garden party, talking ceaselessly (or not at all) about a homosexual uncle. In delving into the familial dynamics of shame and guilt, Family Secrets investigates the part that families, so often regarded as the agents of repression, have played in the transformation of social mores from the Victorian era to the present day. Written with compassion and keen insight, this is a bold new argument about the sea-changes that took place behind closed doors. Born into a family with its own fair share of secrets, Deborah Cohen was raised in Kentucky and educated at Harvard and Berkeley.She teaches at Northwestern University, where she holds the Peter B. Ritzma Professorship of the Humanities.Her last book was the award-winning Household Gods, a history of the British love-affair with the home.
Download or read book Love Affairs for Grown Ups written by Debby Holt and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2010-03-11 with total page 313 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Cornelius Hedge finds it difficult enough to talk to people he does know let alone people he doesn't. So he's plunged into gloom when he is dragooned into driving the female friend of a colleague's wife through France. How on earth is he expected to make small talk from Boulogne to Montelimar? First impressions are not auspicious: the moment he introduces himself, the woman inexplicably bursts into tears. But by the time they've reached their destination, Cornelius has grown increasingly fond of the unassuming Katrina. She is interesting, entertaining, amusing; he'd actually like to see more of her. At their age however, the past has a habit of intruding on the present. Ex-husbands, ex-wives, selfish sisters and sulky teenagers all seem to conspire to thwart the budding romance. What's worse, both Katrina and Cornelius are hiding secrets from their past. Secrets that burst into the open – with rather surprising results. The sparkling romance from the much-loved, bestselling author of Recipe for Scandal. If you love Wendy Holden, Elizabeth Buchan, Katie Fforde and Catherine Alliott, make Debby Holt your next read! What everyone is saying about Love Affairs for Grown-Ups: ‘Thoroughly enjoyable ... Had me smiling from start to finish’ Erica James ‘I absolutely love this book. It is as funny as it is wise and I couldn’t put it down’ Katie Fforde ‘A wickedly comical read’ Heat ‘From the author of the superb Ex-Wife’s Survival Guide comes another wicked treat’ Daily Mirror ‘This fast-paced romantic comedy is perfect bad-weather escapism’ She ‘Clever and surprising’ Daily Mail ‘Laced with wise and witty humour this is great fun’ Woman ‘A deliciously funny, gently ironic novel, Jane Austen-like in its elegance and playfulness’ Women’s Weekly
Download or read book Secrets in Families and Family Therapy written by Evan Imber-Black and published by W. W. Norton. This book was released on 1993-01-01 with total page 425 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Secret-keeping is a seemingly unavoidable part of human interaction, from governments to married couples. Unlike privacy, which in the West is considered a healthy characteristic of the autonomous adult, secrets are often troublesome, creating distorted perceptions and strained relationships. Secrets, moreover, are complex. They differ in significance (a surprise party versus hidden incest), in the ways they shape family relationships (who knows what about whom), in their location (between family members or between the family and society), and in their effects on individual functioning (Does the secret affect only one relationship or the overall way the individual responds to others?). Because of this complexity, secrets are resistant to simple "rules": Therapy must comprise more than opening up the secret or addressing only the context and not the content or vice versa. Therapists are confronted with the difficult task of examining their own values regarding secrecy while, at the same time, providing an effective therapeutic environment. Practical issues of individual safety, the meaning of the secret for the family, the therapist's attitude towards secrets in general and the family's secret in particular - all must be considered in order for treatment to be effective. Here, Imber-Black and her contributors offer a vast array of approaches to helping families deal with secrets involving sexuality, race, violence, parentage, substance abuse, illness, and death. The contributors explore the therapeutic, social, and political issues of secrets, while always keeping families firmly in mind. Through the many case examples, they show us how families, at first constricted by the need tomaintain secrecy, can gain strength through greater openness. Part I sets the stage by defining secrets and their often shame-bound origins. Part II examines secrets throughout the family life cycle: in couples, between parents and children, and with loss. Part III shows how addictions such as drug abuse and eating disorders are often symptoms of unhealthy secrets. In Part IV, secrets of violence and abuse are discussed. Part V offers a comprehensive look at social secrets involving sexism, heterosexism, and taboos. Part VI discusses two very charged topics: secret-keeping involving race and racism and with AIDS. Part VII concludes the book by offering a pattern for teaching and handling secrets in therapist training. This diverse cast of talented therapists provides an elastic model for treating family secrets, while compelling us to reevaluate our own thinking about secrets.
Download or read book Burying the Honeysuckle Girls written by Emily Carpenter and published by Lake Union Publishing. This book was released on 2016 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Althea Bell is still heartbroken by her mother's tragic, premature death--and tormented by the last, frantic words she whispered into young Althea's ear: Wait for her. For the honeysuckle girl. She'll find you, I think, but if she doesn't, you find her. Adrift ever since, Althea is now fresh out of rehab and returning to her family home in Mobile, Alabama, determined to reconnect with her estranged, ailing father. While Althea doesn't expect him, or her politically ambitious brother, to welcome her with open arms, she's not prepared for the chilling revelation of a grim, long-buried family secret. Fragile and desperate, Althea escapes with an old flame to uncover the truth about her lineage. Drawn deeper into her ancestors' lives, Althea begins to unearth their disturbing history...and the part she's meant to play in it. Gripping and visceral, this unforgettable debut delves straight into the heart of dark family secrets and into one woman's emotional journey to save herself from a sinister inheritance.
