Download or read book The 7 Fatal Mistakes Divorced and Separated Parents Make written by Shannon R. Rios and published by Lifethreads Books. This book was released on 2009-08-16 with total page 255 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A guidebook for never married, divorced or separated parents who to ensure they raise the healthiest children possible. It contains 30 exercises for parents to complete to allow them to be the best parent possible for thier child during this time.

Download or read book Healthy Children of Divorce in 10 Simple Steps written by Shannon Rios Paulsen Lmft and published by Lifethreads LLC. This book was released on 2017-05-19 with total page 77 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: What Can You Do As A Parent To Minimize The Impact of Divorce On Your Children? -Do you worry that your divorce will have a negative impact on your child's life? -Are you and your child's other parent locked in a cycle of resentment and dysfunction? -Do you want to do everything in your power to create a healthy future life for you and your child? This book will provide you with all of these answers and more. It is easy-to-read and includes actionable steps to ensure the best outcome for your children. The simple, yet life-changing ten-step process this book outlines will help you to: -Make the best choices for your children to ensure their long-term health -Partner with your co-parent for the sake of your children -Take actions that will protect your children during this time -Communicate productively with your co-parent -Release the past so you can create a love-filled future with your children Praise for the author's best-selling book The 7 Fatal Mistakes Divorced and Separated Parents Make: Strategies for Raising Healthy Children of Divorce and Conflict: "This book is a must-read for parents contemplating divorce, those already in the divorce process, and those who have a parenting plan in place... - Albert V. Evans, Family Law Attorney "This wonderful book should be required reading and writing for every divorced or never-married parent." - Dr. Shirley Thomas, counsellor and author

Download or read book How To Break Up Without Ruining Your Kids The Seven Most Common Mistakes Parents Make When Divorcing written by Jennifer Hayes O’Neill, LMSW and published by Lulu.com. This book was released on 2015-04-13 with total page 138 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Every parent going through a divorce wants to know: What is this going to do to my children? How do I do this without messing up my kids? How do I talk to them about everything? What can I do to make it better for them? Parents desperately want to do it right, but so often they get it wrong. After almost 20 years working with children and parents as a psychotherapist, Jennifer Hayes O'Neill has seen just about everything. She has the answers to those questions. How To Break Up Without Ruining Your Kids The Seven Most Common Mistakes Parents Make When Divorcing helps parents through the divorce process. You'll discover the most common mistakes parents make, what you can do instead, and what to do when your ex keeps messing it up. Jennifer wrote this book after years of watching the toll divorce takes on kids when parents don't understand what their children need. This will help you do it better.

Download or read book We re Getting a Divorce written by Kenneth Mosley and published by Tate Publishing. This book was released on 2010 with total page 24 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: 'When is [Daddy] coming home with the divorce? Is it a toy to play with? Is it a special kind of pet? Where did Daddy have to go to get it? Mommy, what is a divorce anyway?' Fred doesn't understand divorce, but his parents are getting one. As he learns about what it is, your child will also begin to understand what a divorce is and that Mom, Dad, and God still love him or her very much. Help your child in this difficult time by reading 'We're Getting a Divorce' together.

Download or read book Understanding the Divorce Cycle written by Nicholas H. Wolfinger and published by Cambridge University Press. This book was released on 2005-06-06 with total page 200 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Growing up in a divorced family leads to a variety of difficulties for adult offspring in their own partnerships. One of the best known and most powerful is the divorce cycle, the transmission of divorce from one generation to the next. This book examines how the divorce cycle has transformed family life in contemporary America by drawing on two national data sets. Compared to people from intact families, the children of divorce are more likely to marry as teenagers, but less likely to wed overall, more likely to marry people from divorced families, more likely to dissolve second and third marriages, and less likely to marry their live-in partners. Yet some of the adverse consequences of parental divorce have abated even as divorce itself proliferated and became more socially accepted. Taken together, these findings show how parental divorce is a strong force in people's lives and society as a whole.

Download or read book The Unselfish Divorce written by Felicia Spaulding and published by Ideal Communications. This book was released on 2008-10 with total page 53 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The pain, anger and despair many parents experience during and after a divorce often has a negative impact on their ability to parent effectively. When divorced parents become consumed by those feelings, they behave in ways that are harmful to their children's emotional well-being. This book briefly describes seven principles for parents to practice which will help their children recover from the devastation of divorce. Parents are encouraged to: 1)speak kind words, 2) stick to the facts, rather than opinions, 3)improve their ability to listen and pay attention, 4)take responsibility for their actions, 5)pursue and maintain peace, 6)enjoy the time spent with their children and 7)be willing to forgive.

Download or read book Helping Children Survive Divorce written by Archibald D. Hart and published by HarperChristian + ORM. This book was released on 1997-01-16 with total page 224 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: How can children successfully survive the trauma of divorce? In friendly, heart-to-heart language, Archibald Hart offers divorced parents specific ways to help children cope with the psychological and social damage that comes with divorce.

Download or read book Divorced written by Lakisha L Simmons, PH D and published by Independently Published. This book was released on 2021-09-02 with total page 42 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: If you're reading this, you might be dealing with a separation or divorce. I went through it and made it out just fine and so can you. My parents divorced when I was six years old and my brother was two. I wrote this book at the age of ten because I wanted to help other children through this challenging situation. I came up with seven key issues that were really hard for me to deal with and how I got through them. Parents will also find the seven keys to be insightful. I hope this book helps you through this tough time. Remember, you'll be just fine. Sincerely, C.J. Disclaimer: This is a work of fiction. Although its form is that of an autobiography, it is not one. Space and time have been rearranged to suit the convenience of the book, and with the exception of public figures, any resemblance to persons living or dead is coincidental. The opinions expressed are those of the characters and should not be confused with the author's.

Download or read book Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child written by John Gottman and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2011-09-20 with total page 279 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This groundbreaking parenting guide offers a practical five-step process for teaching children to understand and regulate their emotions. Every parent knows the importance of equipping children with the intellectual skills they need to succeed in school and life. But children also need to master their emotions. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child is a guide to teaching children of all ages to understand and regulate their emotional world. As acclaimed psychologist John Gottman shows, emotionally intelligent children will enjoy increased self-confidence, greater physical health, better performance in school, and healthier social relationships. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will equip parents with a five-step “emotion coaching” process that teaches how to: -Be aware of a child’s emotions -Recognize emotional expression as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching -Listen empathetically and validate a child’s feelings -Label emotions in words a child can understand -Help a child come up with an appropriate way to solve a problem or deal with an upsetting issue or situation

Download or read book I Love Jesus But I Want to Die written by Sarah J. Robinson and published by WaterBrook. This book was released on 2021-05-11 with total page 257 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A compassionate, shame-free guide for your darkest days “A one-of-a-kind book . . . to read for yourself or give to a struggling friend or loved one without the fear that depression and suicidal thoughts will be minimized, medicalized or over-spiritualized.”—Kay Warren, cofounder of Saddleback Church What happens when loving Jesus doesn’t cure you of depression, anxiety, or suicidal thoughts? You might be crushed by shame over your mental illness, only to be told by well-meaning Christians to “choose joy” and “pray more.” So you beg God to take away the pain, but nothing eases the ache inside. As darkness lingers and color drains from your world, you’re left wondering if God has abandoned you. You just want a way out. But there’s hope. In I Love Jesus, But I Want to Die, Sarah J. Robinson offers a healthy, practical, and shame-free guide for Christians struggling with mental illness. With unflinching honesty, Sarah shares her story of battling depression and fighting to stay alive despite toxic theology that made her afraid to seek help outside the church. Pairing her own story with scriptural insights, mental health research, and simple practices, Sarah helps you reconnect with the God who is present in our deepest anguish and discover that you are worth everything it takes to get better. Beautifully written and full of hard-won wisdom, I Love Jesus, But I Want to Die offers a path toward a rich, hope-filled life in Christ, even when healing doesn’t look like what you expect.

Download or read book The Truth About Children and Divorce written by Robert E. Emery Ph.D. and published by Penguin. This book was released on 2006-01-31 with total page 286 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Nationally recognized expert Robert Emery applies his twenty-five years of experience as a researcher, therapist, and mediator to offer parents a new road map to divorce. Dr. Emery shows how our powerful emotions and the way we handle them shape how we divorce—and whether our children suffer or thrive in the long run. His message is hopeful, yet realistic—divorce is invariably painful, but parents can help promote their children’s resilience. With compassion and authority, Dr. Emery explains: • Why it is so hard to really make divorce work • How anger and fighting can keep people from really separating • Why legal matters should be one of the last tasks • Why parental love—and limit setting—can be the best “therapy” for kids • How to talk to children, create workable parenting schedules, and more

Download or read book Primal Loss written by Leila Miller and published by Lcb Publishing. This book was released on 2017-05-20 with total page 326 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Seventy now-adult children of divorce give their candid and often heart-wrenching answers to eight questions (arranged in eight chapters, by question), including: What were the main effects of your parents' divorce on your life? What do you say to those who claim that "children are resilient" and "children are happy when their parents are happy"? What would you like to tell your parents then and now? What do you want adults in our culture to know about divorce? What role has your faith played in your healing? Their simple and poignant responses are difficult to read and yet not without hope. Most of the contributors--women and men, young and old, single and married--have never spoken of the pain and consequences of their parents' divorce until now. They have often never been asked, and they believe that no one really wants to know. Despite vastly different circumstances and details, the similarities in their testimonies are striking; as the reader will discover, the death of a child's family impacts the human heart in universal ways.

Download or read book Kids and Divorce written by Steven T. Griggs, Ph.D. and published by Steven T. Griggs, Ph.D., A Psychological Corporation. This book was released on 2018-06-23 with total page 31 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: I have been a practicing psychologist in an outpatient setting for over thirty-two years. I run into the same issues and problems almost every day (addictions, anxiety, ADHD/learning disabilities, assertiveness, children’s behaviors, mood disorders, relationships and self-esteem). This article is another about children; in this case what they experience after their parents separate and/or divorce. Here's some particulars... This ebook discusses what not to do after the divorce, or put more positively, what to do to help your child(ren) cope and process this very big life-changing event. It focuses on both the parent and child’s experiences. However, since I am a child psychologist, it presents information to parents from the child's point of view, highlighting what children need and want when their parents are no longer together. Here's some specifics... I start with a summary of some of the more common research findings. I don't get too technical or scholarly, but it is important to put my information into context. Next is a description of how children see divorce. (Most parents "get" more of their own experience, not the childs.') While it occasionally does occur, it is very rare that kids want their parents to divorce. Kids have very bad feelings during this and subsequent times. What are these feelings and how can parents help? Here is a discussion of the seven things kids want, and the five feelings they need to have. Next is a discussion of what parents might consider before the divorce. Some parents do a very good job of thinking about what to do before telling the kids. Here you will find the top ten things to do first... What are the ways to "reach" kids? I go over specific communication techniques, especially the ones that work the best. What about rewards, bribes, manipulation? Parents usually resort to some version of these, often out of desperation. I write about how to avoid much of that. These are covered under "Vocabulary of Feelings," the "Four-To-One Rule," and the "Three Contingencies of Reinforcement." Parents have to know about "acting out." They have to understand what acting out expresses. What does it mean? What is the child doing by behaving this way? This is where the Vocabulary of Feelings earns high marks. It opens up communication in productive, not destructive ways. What are the most common feelings children have during this time? I list seven. Sometimes, kids are really thrown for a loop by divorce, no matter how sensitive the parents are. Worse, sometimes kids fall apart, which is more common when parents declare war on each other. I list the top ten major warning signs of childhood decompensation. If you see any of these signs, take your child to a licensed professional. What are the three most destructive things a child believes about the divorce? Parents have to correct these right away, or else... What is the one finding from dozens of studies that almost single handedly explains why there is such harm children suffer before, during and after the divorce? Parents should know about Constancy. This is one of the most powerful psychological priniciples that parents overlook. Without it, kids are lost. What is the most crucial time to attend to this?. There is one developmental time frame that requires special attention. If the divorce occurs during this two year window, the child is five times more likely to develop a depressive and/or an anxiety disorder in the teen years. How should parents handle "visitation?" This is such a strange word to kids, especially in the beginning, just after the divorce. What's the aftermath of children having to go back and forth between parents? What might parents do about pre-visit and exit "jitters?" What about resistance? Then I introduce some techniques--things to do or say that make much of this manageable. Believe it or not, parents can succeed in all the above areas, even while living in separate households. It's not ideal, but children can salvage much that is meaningful, but only if the parents are skilled. This brings up co-parenting. Have you and your "ex" considered what rules each of you will have pertaining to the child? How about rewards for good behaviors? It's important for the contingencies to be at least similar between the houses. What about changes? Usually, parents develop a schedule of visitation. But things change, often at the last minute. Now what? Parents have to work together at least a little bit to pull this off. I provide lots of tips. What are the seven deadly sins committed by warring parents during visitation? These are huge "no-no's" if you want your child to have any peace of mind at all. What do parents need to know if and when there arrives a stepparent? Thought things were challenging just after the divorce? Just wait... And, how do the children address the new "parent?" Blended families foil many an attempt to re-stabilize households. But there are four simple solutions (mind sets) that help if the parent is open. And, what do parents do with their own feelings? Usually we act them out on our "ex." This is understandable, but it is damaging to both parents and children. What if the "ex's" hate each other so much that they will not even send email to each other? This is disastrous and probably requires intervention. I discuss when and what types will be most helpful. Parents need to know what constitutes the best adult behaviors in conjunction with what the children are feeling. If this fails, it probably is appropriate for the parents to start their own counseling. I tell you when. Lastly, two things are included that are not often discussed in this context. One is the death of a parent and the sequela experienced by the remaining family members. The other is the divorced parent's self-care, which is usually diminished. I list the ten areas separated and/or divorced parents should not overlook. These are the subjects I cover in this ebook. This ebook has 31 pages and contains THE information parents have to have to save their kids from psychological harm. Clients are very enthusiastic about this ebook, probably because there are not many to-the-point references to be found on this subject. Half the population has experienced divorce, and unfortunately, a high number of divorcing couples have children. There is a great need here. This ebook has no fat. Think of it as a "Cliffs Notes" publication. It's a quick read (about an hour), because I go straight to the points and explain concepts in everyday language, just like what you're reading now.

Download or read book How to Help Your Child Cope With Your Divorce written by Noelle Angelica S. and published by Hyperink Inc. This book was released on 2012-03-12 with total page 28 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: ABOUT THE BOOK We can blame it on the media or on societal pressure exerted on women with unplanned pregnancies. We can lament the decline in society's moral fiber, or we can complain about the ever increasing strain that economic and social problems exert on families. We can point a finger to whichever factor we want, but nothing changes the fact that the breakup of marriages is quite a common occurrence. In fact, according to international statistics, the United States, for example, has consistently had a divorce to marriage rate of nearly 50% over the past decade. We don't need a study or survey to tell us about the state of many marriages, though. Chances are, you know several people who are divorced, as well as families for whom unsuccessful marriages seem to be a legacy passed down from generation to generation. Therese*, 52 years old and a mother of two, felt as though she had been cursed. (*Names have been changed to protect the interviewees' privacy.) "My grandparents were separated. My dad left my mom when I was in middle school, and this was really hard for me to accept. And then again I watched in terror as the marriages of my brothers and sisters started falling apart," she remembers. She was determined to break the cycle in her own family. "I tried to hold on even though I was extremely unhappy. Eventually, I just couldn't do it anymore, even if I didn't want my kids to experience what I had gone through," she explains. EXCERPT FROM THE BOOK In addition to emotional fatigue or even volatility, many parents also have to contend with the fact that they simply do not know how to help their children. Most parents may have all of the good intentions in the world, but this does not necessarily translate into action. Of course, another thing that we will have to take into consideration is the existence of other factors that may have brought about the conflict between the two parents, or may be aggravating the existent situation. For instance, if there is violence involved, whether physical or verbal, the situation certainly becomes more difficult than it would otherwise be, and may require the intervention of mediators or other professionals. Economic factors can also come into play and make circumstances more complicated for parents who are trying to get through this tough period with their children. For example, a separation may mean that the parent who usually supports the family will no longer be present and will therefore require the other parent to exert more effort to make ends meet, despite arrangements for child support. This can then cause a domino effect of putting the parties involved on edge and make it even more stressful for everyone, especially the children... Buy a copy to keep reading! CHAPTER OUTLINE How to Help Your Child Cope With Your Divorce + Introduction + Parenting Through the Struggle: The Challenge + Common Mistakes to Avoid + Helping Your Child Thrive + ...and much more

Download or read book Clinical Case Studies for the Family Nurse Practitioner written by Leslie Neal-Boylan and published by John Wiley & Sons. This book was released on 2011-11-28 with total page 432 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Clinical Case Studies for the Family Nurse Practitioner is a key resource for advanced practice nurses and graduate students seeking to test their skills in assessing, diagnosing, and managing cases in family and primary care. Composed of more than 70 cases ranging from common to unique, the book compiles years of experience from experts in the field. It is organized chronologically, presenting cases from neonatal to geriatric care in a standard approach built on the SOAP format. This includes differential diagnosis and a series of critical thinking questions ideal for self-assessment or classroom use.

Download or read book Still a Family written by Lisa Rene Reynolds and published by AMACOM/American Management Association. This book was released on 2009 with total page 290 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Still a Family is a much-needed repository of wisdom and practical counsel for any family going through a divorce, a time of heightened feelings and fragile relationships.Divorce can have a devastating effect on children. Yet for families who care fully consider and manage the intricacies associated with this difficult and upsetting time, the family, as seen from the child's perspective, can remain strong, healthy, and as loving and supportive as it ever was.Still a Family clearly and concisely lays out the specific emotions and reactions parents need to anticipate from their children while going through separation, divorce, and its aftermath. Rather than weighing parents down with complicated plans, confusing information, and legal terminology, this book takes a commonsense approach, providing readers in a state of emotional distress with the practical, down-to-earth advice they need to sensibly and comfortingly guide their children through this often painful process. The book covers the most common mistakes divorcing parents tend to make, as well as addressing special issues that come up for kids of different age groups.

Download or read book Ambiguous Loss written by Pauline BOSS and published by Harvard University Press. This book was released on 2009-06-30 with total page 166 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: When a loved one dies we mourn our loss. We take comfort in the rituals that mark the passing, and we turn to those around us for support. But what happens when there is no closure, when a family member or a friend who may be still alive is lost to us nonetheless? How, for example, does the mother whose soldier son is missing in action, or the family of an Alzheimer's patient who is suffering from severe dementia, deal with the uncertainty surrounding this kind of loss? In this sensitive and lucid account, Pauline Boss explains that, all too often, those confronted with such ambiguous loss fluctuate between hope and hopelessness. Suffered too long, these emotions can deaden feeling and make it impossible for people to move on with their lives. Yet the central message of this book is that they can move on. Drawing on her research and clinical experience, Boss suggests strategies that can cushion the pain and help families come to terms with their grief. Her work features the heartening narratives of those who cope with ambiguous loss and manage to leave their sadness behind, including those who have lost family members to divorce, immigration, adoption, chronic mental illness, and brain injury. With its message of hope, this eloquent book offers guidance and understanding to those struggling to regain their lives. Table of Contents: 1. Frozen Grief 2. Leaving without Goodbye 3. Goodbye without Leaving 4. Mixed Emotions 5. Ups and Downs 6. The Family Gamble 7. The Turning Point 8. Making Sense out of Ambiguity 9. The Benefit of a Doubt Notes Acknowledgments Reviews of this book: You will find yourself thinking about the issues discussed in this book long after you put it down and perhaps wishing you had extra copies for friends and family members who might benefit from knowing that their sorrows are not unique...This book's value lies in its giving a name to a force many of us will confront--sadly, more than once--and providing personal stories based on 20 years of interviews and research. --Pamela Gerhardt, Washington Post Reviews of this book: A compassionate exploration of the effects of ambiguous loss and how those experiencing it handle this most devastating of losses ... Boss's approach is to encourage families to talk together, to reach a consensus about how to mourn that which has been lost and how to celebrate that which remains. Her simple stories of families doing just that contain lessons for all. Insightful, practical, and refreshingly free of psychobabble. --Kirkus Review Reviews of this book: Engagingly written and richly rewarding, this title presents what Boss has learned from many years of treating individuals and families suffering from uncertain or incomplete loss...The obvious depth of the author's understanding of sufferers of ambiguous loss and the facility with which she communicates that understanding make this a book to be recommended. --R. R. Cornellius, Choice Reviews of this book: Written for a wide readership, the concepts of ambiguous loss take immediate form through the many provocative examples and stories Boss includes, All readers will find stories with which they will relate...Sensitive, grounded and practical, this book should, in my estimation, be required reading for family practitioners. --Ted Bowman, Family Forum Reviews of this book: Dr. Boss describes [the] all-too-common phenomenon [of unresolved grief] as resulting from either of two circumstances: when the lost person is still physically present but emotionally absent or when the lost person is physically absent but still emotionally present. In addition to senility, physical presence but psychological absence may result, for example, when a person is suffering from a serious mental disorder like schizophrenia or depression or debilitating neurological damage from an accident or severe stroke, when a person abuses drugs or alcohol, when a child is autistic or when a spouse is a workaholic who is not really 'there' even when he or she is at home...Cases of physical absence with continuing psychological presence typically occur when a soldier is missing in action, when a child disappears and is not found, when a former lover or spouse is still very much missed, when a child 'loses' a parent to divorce or when people are separated from their loved ones by immigration...Professionals familiar with Dr. Boss's work emphasised that people suffering from ambiguous loss were not mentally ill, but were just stuck and needed help getting past the barrier or unresolved grief so that they could get on with their lives. --Asian Age Combining her talents as a compassionate family therapist and a creative researcher, Pauline Boss eloquently shows the many and complex ways that people can cope with the inevitable losses in contemporary family life. A wise book, and certain to become a classic. --Constance R. Ahrons, author of The Good Divorce A powerful and healing book. Families experiencing ambiguous loss will find strategies for seeing what aspects of their loved ones remain, and for understanding and grieving what they have lost. Pauline Boss offers us both insight and clarity. --Kathy Weingarten, Ph.D, The Family Institute of Cambridge, Harvard Medical School