Download or read book Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues written by and published by . This book was released on 2016 with total page pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: As Rod Stewart said back in the 1970's, "the first cut is the deepest". Since Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues focuses on those "first and deepest cuts", it is a program that will take a while to work through completely. This puts a strong focus on experiencing and releasing the emotions of the past and relies heavily on its many audio programs to facilitate the emotional component to that healing process.NOTICE: This Book contains sections that are greatly enhanced by the use of 60+ MP3 complimentary audios that are downloadable separately. Contact the author for more information. See the title page for contact information.Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues is an "Inner Child" approach for grieving abandonment issues and healing the unfinished business of childhood. Since the wounds of unmet childhood needs are emotional in nature, recovery from these wounds needs a healing process emotional in nature. We humans are also meaning-makers and information processors who need to know why and how we are the way we are. That's why Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues is designed with an insight-oriented (cognitive) component as well as an experiential (emotional) component.Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues is an "Inner Child" focused, step-by-step approach for grieving abandonment issues and healing the unfinished business of childhood. Since the wounds of unmet childhood needs are emotional in nature, recovery from these wounds needs a healing process emotional in nature. The program integrates an interactive workbook with approximately 60 MP3 Audio programs that are designed to help release blocked emotions and resolve childhood grief & loss issues. While the audios are not absolutely necessary, they will enhance healing process dramatically. Contact the author for information on how to download the complimentary audios. See the title page of the book for contact information.During the wounding process... the pain that accumulated during the first stage of development was carried forward as a foundation for the work of the second stage... then the combined pain from the first and second stages are carried forward as a foundation for the experience of the third stage, etc. Similarly, the healing that accumulates as you work through the first stage is carried forward as a foundation for healing the second stage... then the combined healing from the first and second stages are carried forward as a foundation for healing the third stage, etc.
Download or read book Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues written by Don Carter and published by Overcoming. This book was released on 2012-06 with total page 196 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues is an "Inner Child" approach for grieving abandonment issues and healing the unfinished business of childhood. Since the wounds of unmet childhood needs are emotional in nature, recovery from these wounds needs a healing process emotional in nature. We humans are also meaning-makers and information processors who need to know why and how we are the way we are. That's why Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues is designed with an insight-oriented (cognitive) component as well as an experiential (emotional) component. The program integrates an interactive workbook with approximately 60 MP3 Audio programs that are designed to help release blocked emotions and resolve childhood grief & loss issues. While the audios are not absolutely necessary, they will enhance healing process dramatically. Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues is the second in the four-part Thawing the Iceberg Series by Don Carter, MSW, LCSW.
Download or read book Thawing Toxic Relationships written by Don Carter and published by Createspace Independent Pub. This book was released on 2012-09-17 with total page 194 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Thawing Toxic Relationships is number three of a four part series entitled Thawing the Iceberg. The Thawing the Iceberg Series is designed to address various issues outlined in the author's bestselling book, Thaw – Freedom from Frozen feelings. The other two books in the Series are: Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues. Thawing Toxic Relationships is a book about healing and co-creating healthy, functional relationships for those who grew up in a dysfunctional family. If you relate to Don Carter's Iceberg Model, would like to have a genuinely happy and functional relationship then this book is for you! Building healthy relationships, a skill that eludes most people who have been raised in a less-than-nurturing family, is the ultimate objective for Thawing Toxic Relationships. Read about the Cycle of Drama, the Chemistry of drama how to save your marriage, improve communication, how to set and maintain healthy boundaries, be assertiveness, identify relationship mind games (Distance and Pursuit games, the Punishment Cycle, the Drama Triangle - and why we play them). Gather the tools and skills necessary to overcome these and many other dysfunctional relationship patterns. Thawing Toxic Relationships - Sample of content • NOTE: All books in the Thawing the Iceberg Series contain the Iceberg Model in the first five chapters so that they stand-alone as a complete work. • Chapter 1: "What the hell is wrong with you?" (p.4) Motivation, Dependency Needs, Iceberg Model • Chapter 2: Anatomy of an Emotional Wound (p.16) Abandonment, Shame, & Contempt - False Self • Chapter 3: The Art of Survival (p.28) External Focus, Impression Management - Invented Self • Chapter 4: Who am I Really? (p.36) Imperfect World & Spirituality - True Self • Chapter 5: Distractions & Dependencies (p.40) Addictions, Obsessions/Compulsions, and Other Issues Sample of Exercises & Recovery Activities: • Workbook Introduction: Separateness & Connectedness (p.46) Distance & Pursuit; Ego-State Functioning • From Section 1.1: Core Issues & Relationships Styles (p.49) Externalizers & Internalizers; Codependents & Counter-Dependents • From Section 1.2: Exploring Your Developmental Stages (p.54) Assessing the Development of Psychological Positions & Relationship Styles • From Section 1.3: Infatuation & Identification vs. True Intimacy (p.65) Why we Hurt the Ones we Love: Cycles of Abandonment, Shame, and Contempt • From Section 1.4: Psychological Sweatshirt's (p.72) Examples of Mixed Messages & Relationship Polarities • From Section 2.1: Structuring Time & the Three Hungers of the Inner Child (p.76) Structure Hunger, Stimulus Hunger, & Position Hunger • From Section 2.3: Games We Play (p.86) Complimentary & Crossed Transactions • From Section 2.3: Distorted Perceptions, Payoffs for Playing Games (p.94) Some Classic Mind Games, Moves, and Payoffs • From Section 3.3: Are You Living Life in Reaction? (p.110) Friend or Foe? - Treating Each Other Like an Enemy • From Section 3.7: Key Relationship Skills (p.119) Communication & Ego-State Functioning • From Section 3.7.6: Analyzing Your Transactions (p.127) Analyzing Communication, Feelings & Emotions
Download or read book Thawing Toxic Relationships written by Don Carter MSW, LCSW and published by Speedy Publishing LLC. This book was released on 2012-09-17 with total page 183 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Thawing Toxic Relationships is number three of a four part series entitled Thawing the Iceberg. The Thawing the Iceberg Series is designed to address various issues outlined in the author's bestselling book, Thaw - Freedom from Frozen feelings. The other two books in the Series are: Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues. Thawing Toxic Relationships is a book about healing and co-creating healthy, functional relationships for those who grew up in a dysfunctional family. If you relate to Don Carter's Iceberg Model, would like to have a genuinely happy and functional relationship then this book is for you. Building healthy relationships, a skill that eludes most people who have been raised in a less-than-nurturing family, is the ultimate objective for Thawing Toxic Relationships. These three books take the reader into three specialized pathways to healing the abandonment, shame, and contempt outline in Carter's Book Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings Read about the Cycle of Drama, the Chemistry of drama how to save your marriage, improve communication, how to set and maintain healthy boundaries, be assertiveness, identify relationship mind games (Distance and Pursuit games, the Punishment Cycle, the Drama Triangle - and why we play them). Gather the tools and skills necessary to overcome these and many other dysfunctional relationship patterns. Growing up in a moderate-to-severely dysfunctional family does not offer the necessary training to co-create a healthy, happy & functional relationship. Just as Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome heals your relationship with yourself; Thawing Toxic Relationships helps you heal your relationships with those who are most important to you.
Download or read book Thaw Freedom from Frozen Feelings written by Don Carter and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2011-10-23 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The author prresents a therepeutic model for dealing with the emotional wounds of abandonment, shame, and contempt created by growing up in a less than nurturing family.--From back cover.
Download or read book Thaw written by Don Carter and published by Overcoming (Self Help). This book was released on 2011-10-23 with total page 186 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: THAW - Freedom from Frozen Feelings, is a book about the emotional wounds of abandonment, shame, and contempt created by growing up in a less-than-nurturing family. If you experience abandonment issues, emotional flooding, toxic shame, a pattern of dysfunctional relationships, or you help people who do, THAW - Freedom from Frozen Feelings is a "must have". The book outlines the wounding process experienced by those who were raised in a less-than-nurturing family; how those emotional wounds show up in various personal and interpersonal problems in adulthood. An innovative, easy to understand, integrated model of addiction, codependency, enabling relationships, Adult/Child Syndrome and other manifestations of emotional abandonment is presented. Moderate to severe cases of abandonment comes from situations in which the child does not fully or consistently get their emotional dependency needs met such as when the child lives in a shame-based family system. In such families the children get messages of disapproval through constant criticism rather than messages of approval and warmth. A shame-based family system is characterized by the parent's use of shame to provide direction. Children who get their dependency needs met fully on a regular basis will thrive, flourish, and grow at a healthy pace. Life will be good for these kids. In the worst case scenario, kids who do not get their needs met at all will experience a failure to thrive and many will even die from these emotional wounds, also known as original pain of abandonment of childhood dependency needs. When parents do not meet the needs of their children it is not usually because the parents don't love them. Most parents do the best they can. In fact, I cannot count the times I have heard parents say "I try hard to make sure my kids have it better than I did." But wounded people, wound people. Because of this one might ask, "So, why go back and dig all that up again?" This book answers that question.
Download or read book Thawing Adult Child Syndrome and Other Codependent Patterns written by Don Carter and published by Createspace Independent Pub. This book was released on 2012-04-01 with total page 236 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "...geared toward surfacing the underlying patterns of behavior and limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in unproductive relationships, the original wounds of abandonment, shame, and contempt, and how our subconscious mind adapted to the unique circumstances of our childhood by creating survival skills that now interfere with healthy coping." --P. [4] of cover.
Download or read book Thawing Addiction written by Lcsw Don Carter Msw and published by Thawing the Iceberg. This book was released on 2018-10-04 with total page 222 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "Thawing Addiction - The Tip of the Iceberg" is the 5th book in Don Carter's Thawing the Iceberg Series. Addiction comes in many forms and while each of them have their own idiosyncrasies, recovery from them is generally the same process. Carter believes "What works for most people - works for most people!" The more than 200 Twelve-Step programs available today are testimony that what works for addiction is Twelve-Step recovery in the vast majority of cases. But beginning a Twelve-Step journey begins AFTER transition from a lifestyle of addiction to a lifestyle based upon recovery. In Thawing Addiction, the author draws upon more than 30 years of service in the treatment of addiction to outline the most critical issues to be faced during the transition, stabilization, and early stages of recovery. Anyone struggling with any type of addiction will benefit from understanding and addressing these critical issues. Carter lays out the issues in an organized and systematic way culminating with a "Universal Step One" for all addictions. That first step is based upon all of the knowledge outlined in the preceding chapters. As with the other books in the series, Thawing Addiction begins with a presentation of the authors Iceberg Model. Each book then zooms in on a specific aspect such as complex PTSD, childhood abandonment issues, Adult/Child Syndrome, toxic relationships, and in this case treatment and recovery from all forms of addiction including Codependency. In Thawing Addiction, Carter outlines how Codependency is an "addiction to the outside" of one's self. He demonstrates how the signs and symptoms of Codependency follow those same signs and symptoms for any addiction. Don Carter has over three decades of professional experience as a licensed Clinical Social Worker helping people recover from addiction, toxic shame, PTSD, codependency, Adult/Child Syndrome, and the relationship problems resulting from these issues. His Iceberg Model is a 30,000-foot view of the big picture as the model synthesizes Addiction, Codependency, and Adult/Child Syndrome into one systemic model that is easily understood by people who have grown up in a less-than-nurturing or otherwise dysfunctional family. The Iceberg Model is presented in each of the other books so that the reader can start with whatever aspect they are most impacted by without having to read the other books first. In other words, each book in the series stands alone. Thawing Addiction may be the fifth book in the series but if addiction is at issue then it is definitely the one to start with because healing the issues outlined in the Iceberg Model must proceed from the top down. Addiction is at the "Tip of the Iceberg" for many reasons. Most of all, because if one begins working on the most painful issues first, it can and usually does stir up a compulsion to seek comfort and relief the only way the addicted person knows how - by engaging in their addiction of choice. Thawing Addiction is a complete guide to the many critical issues that must be addressed during the transition and stabilization period of early recovery. One must develop a lifestyle of recovery with all the supports in place to achieve abstinence and possess the coping skills and resources to face the deeper issues. The author defines addiction as an unhealthy, primary relationship with an object or activity designed to produce the desired mood swing - on that brings momentary comfort and relief. "Thawing Addiction - The Tip of the Iceberg" presents the issues relevant to anyone in early recovery from any addiction.
Download or read book Healing the Child Within written by Charles L. Whitfield and published by Health Communications, Inc.. This book was released on 1987 with total page 175 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Have you ever heard of your inner child? Well, this is the classic book that started it all. In 1987, Charlie Whitfield's breakthrough concept of the child within—that part of us which is truly alive, energetic, creative and fulfilled—launched the inner child movement. Healing the Child Within describes how the inner child is lost to trauma and loss, and how by recovering it, we can heal the fear, confusion and unhappiness of adult life. Eighteen years and more than a million copies sold later, Healing the Child Within is a perennial selling classic in the field of psychology. And it is even more timely today than it was in 1987. Recent brain research, particularly on the effects of trauma on the brain of developing children, has supported Whitfield's intuitive understanding as a psychiatrist. About HCI Recovery Classics HCI's recovery backlist contains some of the most important and best-selling works in the recovery field. These books are still sought after today, selling more than 100,000 copies per year. Our new line of branded books features expanded editions of our top recovery titles, new introductions, updates on pertinent recent developments in the field, and contemporary new covers and packaging.
Download or read book In an Unspoken Voice written by Peter A. Levine, Ph.D. and published by North Atlantic Books. This book was released on 2012-10-30 with total page 403 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Unraveling trauma in the body, brain and mind—a revolution in treatment. Now in 17 languages. In this culmination of his life’s work, Peter A. Levine draws on his broad experience as a clinician, a student of comparative brain research, a stress scientist and a keen observer of the naturalistic animal world to explain the nature and transformation of trauma in the body, brain and psyche. In an Unspoken Voice is based on the idea that trauma is neither a disease nor a disorder, but rather an injury caused by fright, helplessness and loss that can be healed by engaging our innate capacity to self-regulate high states of arousal and intense emotions. Enriched with a coherent theoretical framework and compelling case examples, the book elegantly blends the latest findings in biology, neuroscience and body-oriented psychotherapy to show that when we bring together animal instinct and reason, we can become more whole human beings.
Download or read book One Crazy Summer written by Rita Williams-Garcia and published by Harper Collins. This book was released on 2010-01-26 with total page 230 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Eleven-year-old Delphine has it together. Even though her mother, Cecile, abandoned her and her younger sisters, Vonetta and Fern, seven years ago. Even though her father and Big Ma will send them from Brooklyn to Oakland, California, to stay with Cecile for the summer. And even though Delphine will have to take care of her sisters, as usual, and learn the truth about the missing pieces of the past. When the girls arrive in Oakland in the summer of 1968, Cecile wants nothing to do with them. She makes them eat Chinese takeout dinners, forbids them to enter her kitchen, and never explains the strange visitors with Afros and black berets who knock on her door. Rather than spend time with them, Cecile sends Delphine, Vonetta, and Fern to a summer camp sponsored by a revolutionary group, the Black Panthers, where the girls get a radical new education. Set during one of the most tumultuous years in recent American history, one crazy summer is the heartbreaking, funny tale of three girls in search of the mother who abandoned them—an unforgettable story told by a distinguished author of books for children and teens, Rita Williams-Garcia.
Download or read book Loneliness as a Way of Life written by Thomas Dumm and published by Harvard University Press. This book was released on 2010-05-01 with total page 208 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: “What does it mean to be lonely?” Thomas Dumm asks. His inquiry, documented in this book, takes us beyond social circumstances and into the deeper forces that shape our very existence as modern individuals. The modern individual, Dumm suggests, is fundamentally a lonely self. Through reflections on philosophy, political theory, literature, and tragic drama, he proceeds to illuminate a hidden dimension of the human condition. His book shows how loneliness shapes the contemporary division between public and private, our inability to live with each other honestly and in comity, the estranged forms that our intimate relationships assume, and the weakness of our common bonds. A reading of the relationship between Cordelia and her father in Shakespeare’s King Lear points to the most basic dynamic of modern loneliness—how it is a response to the problem of the “missing mother.” Dumm goes on to explore the most important dimensions of lonely experience—Being, Having, Loving, and Grieving. As the book unfolds, he juxtaposes new interpretations of iconic cultural texts—Moby-Dick, Death of a Salesman, the film Paris, Texas, Emerson’s “Experience,” to name a few—with his own experiences of loneliness, as a son, as a father, and as a grieving husband and widower. Written with deceptive simplicity, Loneliness as a Way of Life is something rare—an intellectual study that is passionately personal. It challenges us, not to overcome our loneliness, but to learn how to re-inhabit it in a better way. To fail to do so, this book reveals, will only intensify the power that it holds over us.
Download or read book For Your Own Good written by Alice Miller and published by Farrar, Straus and Giroux. This book was released on 2002-11-14 with total page 324 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: For Your Own Good, the contemporary classic exploring the serious if not gravely dangerous consequences parental cruelty can bring to bear on children everywhere, is one of the central works by Alice Miller, the celebrated Swiss psychoanalyst. With her typically lucid, strong, and poetic language, Miller investigates the personal stories and case histories of various self-destructive and/or violent individuals to expand on her theories about the long-term affects of abusive child-rearing. Her conclusions—on what sort of parenting can create a drug addict, or a murderer, or a Hitler—offer much insight, and make a good deal of sense, while also straying far from psychoanalytic dogma about human nature, which Miller vehemently rejects. This important study paints a shocking picture of the violent world—indeed, of the ever-more-violent world—that each generation helps to create when traditional upbringing, with its hidden cruelty, is perpetuated. The book also presents readers with useful solutions in this regard—namely, to resensitize the victimized child who has been trapped within the adult, and to unlock the emotional life that has been frozen in repression.
Download or read book Astrid and Veronika written by Linda Olsson and published by National Geographic Books. This book was released on 2007-02-06 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "Readers of Anne Tyler and Jodi Picoult will appreciate the lyrical prose and expert rendering of the themes of heartbreakk and loss."—Booklist An unforgettable novel about friendship, love and loss. With extraordinary emotional power, Linda Olsson’s stunningly well-crafted debut novel recounts the unusual and unexpected friendship that develops between two women. Veronika, a young writer from New Zealand, rents a house in a small Swedish village as she tries to come to terms with a recent tragedy while also finishing a novel. Her arrival is silently observed by Astrid, an older, reclusive neighbor who slowly becomes a presence in Veronika’s life, offering comfort in the form of companionship and lovingly prepared home-cooked meals. Set against a haunting Swedish landscape, Astrid & Veronika is a lyrical and meditative novel of love and loss, and a story that will remain with readers long after the characters’ secrets are revealed.
Download or read book How To Save A Life written by Sara Zarr and published by Usborne Publishing Ltd. This book was released on 2012-09-01 with total page 324 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Jill's life lost all meaning when her dad died. Friends, boyfriend, college – nothing matters any more. Then her mom drops a bombshell: she's going to adopt a baby. Mandy is desperate for her life to change. Seventeen, pregnant and leaving home, she is sure of only one thing – her baby must never have a life like hers, whatever it takes. As their worlds change around them, Jill and Mandy must learn both how to hold on and how to let go, finding that nothing is as easy - or as difficult - as it seems. Heart-achingly beautiful, moving and funny, How to Save a Life has been named a Publishers Weekly Best Book of 2011, a School Library Journal Best Book of 2011 and an American Library Assocation 2012 Top Ten Best Fiction for Young Adults. "A rich tapestry of love and survival that will resonate with even the most cynical readers." - Booklist
Download or read book Love Me Don t Leave Me written by Michelle Skeen and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2014-09-01 with total page 149 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Everyone thrives on love, comfort, and the safety of family, friends, and community. But if you are denied these basic comforts early in life, whether through a lack of physical affection or emotional bonding, you may develop intense fears of abandonment that can last well into adulthood—fears so powerful that they can actually cause you to push people away. If you suffer from fears of abandonment, you may have underlying feelings of anger, shame, fear, anxiety, depression, and grief. These emotions are intense and painful, and when they surface they can lead to a number of negative behaviors, such as jealousy, clinging, and emotional blackmail. In Love Me, Don’t Leave Me, therapist Michelle Skeen combines acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), schema therapy, and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) to help you identify the root of your fears. In this book you’ll learn how schema coping behaviors—deeply entrenched and automatic behaviors rooted in childhood experiences and fears—can take over and cause you to inadvertently sabotage your relationships. By recognizing these coping behaviors and understanding their cause, you will not only gain powerful insights into your own mind, but also into the minds of those around you. If you are ready to break the self-fulfilling cycle of mistrust, clinginess, and heartbreak and start building lasting, trusting relationships, this book will be your guide.
Download or read book Thawing Adult Child Syndrome written by Don Carter and published by Overcoming (Self Help). This book was released on 2012-04-05 with total page 247 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome and other Codependent Patterns is the first in the four-part Thawing the Iceberg Series by Don Carter, MSW, LCSW. All of the books in the series are written to stand on their own as a complete program. The Thawing the Iceberg Series is a set of programs designed to assist in the healing of the emotional wounds outlined in the author's original work, Thaw - Freedom from Frozen Feelings. Thawing Adult/Child Syndrome is geared toward surfacing the underlying patterns of behavior and limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in unproductive relationships, the original wounds of abandonment, shame, and contempt, and how our subconscious mind adapted to the unique circumstances of our childhood by creating survival skills that now interfere with healthy coping. Anyone who has ever found themselves repeating dysfunctional patterns that has cause problems in their life and relationships, and then wonder "Why do I do that?" or "Why am I like this?" is likely to experiencing habitual subconscious programming that has been referred to as Adult-Child Syndrome. Thawing Adult-Child Syndrome and other Codependent Patterns focuses in on the "here-and-now" symptoms of dysfunction in our adult life and relationships. This insight-oriented program helps bring one's "Inner Family of Self" & "Life Script" to the surface so that appropriate changes can be made. The program helps heal the relationship with self, which is based upon the idea that "One cannot have a healthy relationship with others until they first develop a healthy relationship with themselves."
