Download or read book Killing the Perfectionist Within written by Honor Jane Newman and published by Balboa Press. This book was released on 2015-07-14 with total page 93 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Release high expectations, reduce anxiety, and come to accept yourself completely as you are right now. Honor teaches us the beauty of being average through her fun and accessible writing style and practical workbook exercises. • Live with greater self confidence and energy • Reduce anxiety and self-pressure • Be the person you’ve always wanted to be “Loved the book! I enjoyed reading it today with cups of tea and my feet up. It’s very accessible and easy to read, as well as very insightful, helpful and practical.” —Shae M (psychologist)
Download or read book 2k to 10k written by Rachel Aaron and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2017-08-21 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "I loved this book! So helpful!" -- Courtney Milan, New York Times Best Selling author of The Governess Affair "Have you ever wanted to double your daily word counts? Do you feel like you're crawling through your story, struggling for each paragraph? Would you like to get more words every day without increasing the time you spend writing or sacrificing quality? It's not impossible, it's not even that hard. This is the story of how, with a few simple changes, I boosted my daily writing from 2000 words to over 10k a day, and how you can, too." Expanding on her highly successful process for doubling daily word counts, this book--a combination of reworked blog posts and new material--offers practical writing advice for anyone who's ever longed to increase their daily writing output. In addition to updated information for Rachel's popular 2k to 10k writing efficiency process, 5 step plotting method, and easy editing tips, this new book includes chapters on creating characters that write their own stories, story structure, and learning to love your daily writing. Full of easy to follow, practical advice from a commercial author who doesn't eat if she doesn't produce good books on a regular basis, 2k to 10k focuses not just on writing faster, but writing better, and having more fun while you do it. *New for Fall 2013! This Revised Edition includes updates and corrections for all chapters!*
Download or read book Overcoming Perfectionism 2nd Edition written by Roz Shafran and published by Robinson. This book was released on 2018-05-10 with total page 263 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: How to break the circle of 'never good enough' Striving for something can be a healthy and positive attribute; it's good to aim high. But sometimes whatever we do just isn't good enough; we want to be too perfect and start setting unrealistic goals. Such high levels of perfectionism, often driven by low self-esteem, can turn against success and develop into unhealthy obsession, triggering serious mental-health problems, such as anxiety, depression and eating disorders. Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), on which this self-help book is based, has been found to be a highly effective treatment and provides relief from that disabling sense of not being good enough. In this essential self-help guide, you will learn: - How clinical perfectionism manifests itself - Effective coping strategies with invaluable guidance on how to avoid future relapse OVERCOMING self-help guides use clinically-proven techniques to treat long-standing and disabling conditions, both psychological and physical. Many guides in the Overcoming series are recommended under the Reading Well Books on Prescription scheme. Series Editor: Professor Peter Cooper
Download or read book The Good Girls written by Sara Shepard and published by HarperCollins. This book was released on 2015-06-02 with total page 208 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Don’t miss the Freeform TV series, Pretty Little Liars: The Perfectionists! From Sara Shepard, author of the #1 New York Times bestselling Pretty Little Liars, comes the shocking finish to The Perfectionists, a series perfect for fans of One of Us Is Lying and We Were Liars—with an ending you’ll have to read to believe! Mackenzie, Ava, Caitlin, Julie, and Parker have done some not-so-perfect things. But even though they all talked about killing rich bully Nolan Hotchkiss, they didn’t actually go through with it. It’s just a coincidence that Nolan died in exactly the way they planned . . . right? Except Nolan wasn’t the only one they fantasized about killing. When someone else they named dies, the girls wonder if they’re being framed. Or are they about to become the killer’s next targets?
Download or read book Never Good Enough written by Monica Ramirez Basco and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2000-03-02 with total page 292 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This practical guide to overcoming the dangers of being a perfectionist--from debilitating feelings of self-doubt to difficulties with other people--shows readers how their perfectionist tendencies can actually help them succeed.
Download or read book The One Thing You Need to Know written by Marcus Buckingham and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2008-09-04 with total page 227 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Drawing on a wide body of research, including extensive in-depth interviews, THE ONE THING YOU NEED TO KNOW reveals the central insights that lie at the core of: Great Managing, Great Leadership and Great Careers. Buckingham uses a wealth of relevant examples to reveal that at the heart of each insight lies a controlling insight. Lose sight of this 'one thing' and all of your best efforts at managing, leading, or individual achievement will be diminished. For great managing, the controlling insight has less to do with fairness, or team building, or clear expectations (although all are important). Rather, the one thing great managers know is the need to discover and then capitalize on what is unique about each person. For leadership, the controlling insight is the opposite - discover and capitalize on what is universal to all your people, regardless of differences in personality, race, sex, or age. For sustained individual success, the controlling insight is the need to discover what you don't like doing, and know how and when to stop doing it. In every way a groundbreaking work, THE ONE THING YOU NEED TO KNOW offers crucial performance and career lessons for business people at every level.
Download or read book Finding Meaning in an Imperfect World written by Iddo Landau and published by Oxford University Press. This book was released on 2017-07-01 with total page 313 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Does life have meaning? Is it possible for life to be meaningful when the world is filled with suffering and when so much depends merely upon chance? Even if there is meaning, is there enough to justify living? These questions are difficult to resolve. There are times in which we face the mundane, the illogically cruel, and the tragic, which leave us to question the value of our lives. However, Iddo Landau argues, our lives often are, or could be made, meaningful—we've just been setting the bar too high for evaluating what meaning there is. When it comes to meaning in life, Landau explains, we have let perfect become the enemy of the good. We have failed to find life perfectly meaningful, and therefore have failed to see any meaning in our lives. We must attune ourselves to enhancing and appreciating the meaning in our lives, and Landau shows us how to do that. In this warmly written book, rich with examples from the author's life, film, literature, and history, Landau offers new theories and practical advice that awaken us to the meaning already present in our lives and demonstrates how we can enhance it. He confronts prevailing nihilist ideas that undermine our existence, and the questions that dog us no matter what we believe. While exposing the weaknesses of ideas that lead many to despair, he builds a strong case for maintaining more hope. Along the way, he faces provocative questions: Would we choose to live forever if we could? Does death render life meaningless? If we examine it in the context of the immensity of the whole universe, can we consider life meaningful? If we feel empty once we achieve our goals, and the pursuit of these goals is what gives us a sense of meaning, then what can we do? Finding Meaning in an Imperfect World is likely to alter the way you understand your life.
Download or read book Martha to the Max written by Debi Stack and published by Moody Publishers. This book was released on 2000-08-01 with total page 205 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Like the Martha of Jesus' day, so many women are preoccupied with being the perfect hostess, wife, mother, worker that it leaves many of them angry, frenzied, and depressed. In Martha to the Max, Debi Stack uses humor to bring great relief and encouragement to today's Marthas. This entertaining adventure will help readers view and use their abilities in a way that brings a smile to the face of God. Debi gives plenty of practical tips on slowing down and focusing on the 'one thing' Jesus said is needed.
Download or read book Perfectionism written by Paul L. Hewitt and published by Guilford Publications. This book was released on 2017-03-29 with total page 353 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Grounded in decades of influential research, this book thoroughly examines perfectionism: how it develops, its underlying mechanisms and psychological costs, and how to target it effectively in psychotherapy. The authors describe how perfectionistic tendencies--rooted in early relational and developmental experiences--make people vulnerable to a wide range of clinical problems. They present an integrative treatment approach and demonstrate ways to tailor interventions to the needs of individual clients. A group treatment model is also detailed. State-of-the-art assessment tools are discussed (and provided at the companion website). Throughout the book, vivid clinical illustrations make the core ideas and techniques concrete.ÿ ÿ
Download or read book Selfie written by Will Storr and published by Abrams. This book was released on 2019-04-02 with total page 296 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: “An intriguing odyssey” though the history of the self and the rise of narcissism (The New York Times). Self-absorption, perfectionism, personal branding—it wasn’t always like this, but it’s always been a part of us. Why is the urge to look at ourselves so powerful? Is there any way to break its spell—especially since it doesn’t necessarily make us better or happier people? Full of unexpected connections among history, psychology, economics, neuroscience, and more, Selfie is a “terrific” book that makes sense of who we have become (NPR’s On Point). Award-winning journalist Will Storr takes us from ancient Greece, through the Christian Middle Ages, to the self-esteem evangelists of 1980s California, the rise of the “selfie generation,” and the era of hyper-individualism in which we live now, telling the epic tale of the person we all know so intimately—because it’s us. “It’s easy to look at Instagram and selfie-sticks and shake our heads at millennial narcissism. But Will Storr takes a longer view. He ignores the easy targets and instead tells the amazing 2,500-year story of how we’ve come to think about our selves. A top-notch journalist, historian, essayist, and sleuth, Storr has written an essential book for understanding, and coping with, the 21st century.” —Nathan Hill, New York Times-bestselling author of The Nix “This fascinating psychological and social history . . . reveals how biology and culture conspire to keep us striving for perfection, and the devastating toll that can take.”—The Washington Post “Ably synthesizes centuries of attitudes and beliefs about selfhood, from Aristotle, John Calvin, and Freud to Sartre, Ayn Rand, and Steve Jobs.” —USA Today “Eminently suitable for readers of both Yuval Noah Harari and Daniel Kahneman, Selfie also has shades of Jon Ronson in its subversive humor and investigative spirit.” —Bookseller “Storr is an electrifying analyst of Internet culture.” —Financial Times “Continually delivers rich insights . . . captivating.” —Kirkus Reviews
Download or read book Women of Perfection Perfectly Imperfect written by Stephanie Mearse and published by . This book was released on 2020-05 with total page 130 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Women of Perfection- Perfectly Imperfect A Journaling ExperienceAre you a perfectionist? Are you a woman? This book is about how you, as a woman in this society and a perfectionist, can get to a new level without adding more to your plate. Here is what to expect from this book: GROWTH. If you do the exercises with honesty in your heart, you will achieve more then you anticipated. The goal of this journey is to end the internal struggle developed from unrealistic standards, create an obtainable vision grounded in your best self, and instill peace and acceptance in your perfectionism. This will requires you to redefine what it means to be a perfectionist and challenge the motives of why are you one in the first place. Don't give up. I am confident that you are capable, loved, strong, intelligent, and you can do anything that you set your mind to!
Download or read book Let s Write a Short Story written by Joe Bunting and published by . This book was released on 2012-11-30 with total page 107 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt:
Download or read book How to Stop Being a Perfectionist written by Steven Schuster and published by . This book was released on 2021-02-07 with total page 214 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Are your perfectionist tendencies making you stressed, anxious, or stuck in inaction? A constant feeling of crumbling under the mountains of expectations placed on you is a serious problem that can rob you of productivity, happiness, and fulfillment. Perfectionism triggers a deep sense of inadequacy in us. Will we ever be enough? Perfectionism cripples the mind, kills creativity, and harms performance.Learn actionable techniques to feel more confident, procrastinate less, and take immediate action. Manage your time better to accomplish more goals without seeking perfection.Stop missing out on learning and growing opportunities. How to Stop Being a Perfectionist is unique as it not only covers everything you need to know about perfectionism but also provides a practical, step-by-step 30 -day program to reduce it in your life to a level of (almost) perfection. Become productive and achieve your goals quickly.Steven Schuster is an internationally bestselling author, former teacher, and a recovering perfectionist. As a teacher, he kept himself to high standards to provide the best education for his students. But this often came with more stress and less time for his family. Thus, he started researching the cure for perfectionism many years ago. This book is a collection of the best tips, practices, and stories he has found to end perfectionism-related struggles.Be confident in your abilities and take action bravely.After reading this book, overcoming perfectionism will be the only option you'll see, and you'll have all the stress-free tools to do it. There will be pitfalls, but day by day, you'll get to a better place. -Discover your main reasons to pursue perfection and learn how to change these beliefs.-Learn to take risks.-Learn to set realistic expectations and goals. -Test to discover your level of perfectionism.Don't let your unrealistic expectations ruin your personal and professional growth and happiness. Learn. Laugh. Live. There is no shame in imperfection. But it's a shame to waste your life chasing the illusion of perfection.
Download or read book The Straitjacket of Perfectionism written by John Connor and published by Shannon Publishing LLC. This book was released on 2017-01-28 with total page pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Do you start projects that are important to you, but then abandon them? It is likely unrecognized perfectionism that is holding you back from creating art, starting your new business, writing your book, or growing spiritually. You have big dreams that you keep secret, because you don't want to be embarrassed if you fail at them. Great news! This book is for you. I will help shake you free of your procrastination paralysis, calm your inner critic into silence, and open you to become what your soul desires. You will recognize and confront your fear of making mistakes and release the creativity-killing -- but deeply held -- belief that you can't go for your goals because of the risk of not doing it "just exactly right." How? Well, I've done it. Personality profile tests showed me very high on perfectionism, and I didn't even realize it. But then I "got it" -- I understood that this unhelpful internal drive to only do things I could do easily actually stunts my willingness to work on my biggest dreams. Outside of things like math tests, "Perfect" is mostly a myth. Yet it isn't even just that. You expect to make no mistakes -- or only just a few -- on your way to doing difficult tasks: learning the piano, writing a business plan, parenting, or creating the next hit Broadway play. Cindy Wigglesworth, author, says "Well written and entertaining, this book is full of helpful advice. I recognized myself in some of the stories - and I bet you will too! Don't waste time criticizing yourself. Use your time instead reading this book and trying the tips within it!" One such tip is looking at the "Critical Voice" as opposed to the "Creative Voice." And by "Critical" in this sense, I mean "analytical." A giant step we can take out of perfectionism is to distinguish between these two abilities, and when to use them. For example, all of us are music critics. We know what we like, we know what sounds good, we know what is boring. We don't always agree exactly on those, but we know the difference between a song by The Beatles, and something done in a garage by four guys who don't know what they're doing. But what about you? What about when YOU want to write a song? You have a lifetime of critical evaluation of music. But writing it? You are just starting out. And -- surprise! -- when you are just starting at something, you suck at it. Perfectionists, though, expect to be very good at things, very quickly. And so you quit writing songs, because your critical ability to know how good a song is, is FAR more developed than your ability to actually write a good song. See what I mean? "I have lived a creative life as a singer songwriter for over fifty years. Yet, locked away inside my perfectionist heart is a restrained longing to paint and to write books. I give thanks to John Connor for his insightful and illuminating book The Straightjacket of Perfectionism - he has provided me a key to free my creative soul. I recommend this book to stymied perfectionists everywhere." - Dana Cooper Singer-Songwriter Even people who know how to write a good song -- and Dana Cooper was written many good songs -- have areas in which their perfectionism trips them up. So get The Straitjacket of Perfectionism, and come with me to get free of the trap of 'perfect', and open up to progress -- taking steps and then really taking leaps -- toward your greatest goals.
Download or read book The Perfectionist s Guide to Losing Control written by Katherine Morgan Schafler and published by Penguin. This book was released on 2023-01-17 with total page 353 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Selected for USA Today's Best Books of 2023 Selected as Editor's Pick in Amazon's Best Books of 2023 From psychotherapist Katherine Morgan Schafler, an invitation to every “recovering perfectionist” to challenge the way they look at perfectionism, and the way they look at themselves. We’ve been looking at perfectionism all wrong. As psychotherapist and former on-site therapist at Google Katherine Morgan Schafler argues in The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control, you don’t have to stop being a perfectionist to be healthy. For women who are sick of being given the generic advice to “find balance,” a new approach has arrived. Which of the five types of perfectionist are you? Classic, intense, Parisian, messy, or procrastinator? As you identify your unique perfectionist profile, you'll learn how to manage each form of perfectionism to work for you, not against you. Beyond managing it, you'll learn how to embrace and even enjoy your perfectionism. Yes, enjoy! Full of stories and brimming with humor, empathy, and depth, this book is a love letter to the ambitious, high achieving, full-of-life clients who filled the author’s private practice, and who changed her life. It’s a clarion call for all women to dare to want more without feeling greedy or ungrateful. Ultimately, this book will show you how to make the single greatest trade you’ll ever make in your life, which is to exchange superficial control for real power.
Download or read book Letters to a Perfectionist written by Tad Frizzell and published by . This book was released on 2017-10-21 with total page pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Is perfectionism, and the shame of never being or doing enough, running your life? Are you beating yourself up for being less than perfect? It's time to take our understanding of perfectionism to an entirely new level. Over the course of 22 letters the author guides the reader on a journey of self-discovery, sharing his experience and offering a holistic solution to the pain of perfectionism. Find out how to replace shame with love as the primary motivating force for your life. Is perfectionism, and the shame of never being or doing enough, running your life? Are you beating yourself up for being less than perfect? It's time to take our understanding of perfectionism to an entirely new level. That's what Letters to a Perfectionist: On Shame, Fear, Love, and the Surprising Spiritual Nature of Perfectionism is all about. Author Tad Frizzell took the perfectionistic tendencies which began to drive him in the early years of childhood and applied them to every aspect of his life. He didn't realize how much it would cost him. The crisis of burnout which ensued after 16 years in a monastery driving himself to this elusive perfection raised the stakes to the level of life or death. This book is a product of one man's deep exploration of the self, and what it means to refuse to love and accept yourself in a state of imperfection. There's a revolution happening in the understanding of perfectionism. At its worst, it's not just a way of thinking or a way of achieving more. It's a way of being in the world. Perfectionism is a spiritual problem which transcends religious creeds and culture. The refusal to love and accept oneself in a state of imperfection can lead a person into depression, anxiety, obsessive and compulsive behavior, eating disorders, self-harm, and substance abuse. It can even lead to suicide. Letters to a Perfectionist is a collection of 22 letters which exposes the roots of perfectionism and the way it manifests in our lives and relationships. The author writes from his own experience, and raises questions about perfectionism you won't find other people asking. From the first letter to the last, Tad Frizzell takes the reader on a journey of self-discovery. The final destination is a place of unconditional love and gratitude. Tad Frizzell's book makes the reader feel cherished, while giving a clear path to self understanding. There's never been a book quite like this before. In this book you will learn: - Why perfectionism is best viewed as a spiritual problem - The pervasive nature of perfectionism - The neuroscience behind - The impact of perfectionism on our relationships - What motivates perfectionists - How perfectionism can cause a crisis of identity - About the need for security and the strategy of control - The dangers of spiritual perfectionism - How a perfectionist eventually "burns out" - How we can choose to transform the burnout from darkness into light - The power of observation and self-empathy - What a new way of being looks like - The power of connecting the mind and the heart - How to transform self-hatred into self-compassion - The beauty of a life marked by forgiveness, love, and gratitude - The surprising treasures hidden inside the perfectionist...and how to uncover them Are you concerned that you are suffering from perfectionism, that refusal to love and accept yourself in a state of imperfection? Do you see someone you love suffering, believing they will never measure up to the unrealistic expectations they have set or adopted for themselves? Then you need to understand the problem. One early reader of Letters to a Perfectionist told the author: "There are so many poignant phrases throughout the book that I can open up to any page and find something to inspire me - and also inform my work as a therapist." Don't wait until it's too late! Buy Letters to a Perfectionist and begin your journey from perfectionistic pain to healing and wholeness t
Download or read book Exploring Depth Psychology and the Female Self written by Leslie Gardner and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2020-11-23 with total page 236 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Exploring Depth Psychology and the Female Self: Feminist Themes from Somewhere presents a Jungian take on modern feminism, offering an international assessment with a dynamic political edge which includes perspectives from both clinicians and academics. Presented in three parts, this unique collection explores how the fields of gender and politics have influenced each other, how myth and storytelling craft feminist narratives and how public discussion can amplify feminist theory. The contributions include some which are traditionally theoretical in tone, and some which are uniquely personal, but all work to encounter the female self as an active entity. The book as a whole offers a multi-faceted and interdisciplinary approach to feminism and feminist issues from contemporary voices around the world, as well as a critique of Jung’s essentialist notion of the feminine. Exploring Depth Psychology and the Female Self will offer insightful perspectives to academics and students of Jungian and post-Jungian studies, gender studies and politics. It will also be of great interest to Jungian analysts and psychotherapists, and analytical psychologists.
