Download or read book Indian Arranged Marriages written by Tulika Jaiswal and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2014-04-24 with total page 290 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Despite the fact that more than 80% of cultures practice varying degrees of arranged marriage, scholars have thus far concentrated exclusively on American and European cultures from choice marriages, not yet fully exploring the psychology of arranged marriages. India is a prominent South Asian nation that continues to retain the historical tradition of arranged marriages in the 21st century. This book therefore provides a timely addition to marital research as it offers a comprehensive and systematic psychological examination on Indian arranged marriages. This book explores the role of individual, interactional, contextual, and cultural factors in predicting marital satisfaction in individuals who were in arranged marriages and living in India. The discussion is drawn from a survey collecting data from individuals married through the arranged marriage system in India. In light of this empirical study, the book considers the cross-cultural applicability of Western findings and proposes some key methodological and clinical considerations for examining marital relationships in Indian arranged marriages. Providing useful, much-needed scholarly insight on arranged marriages and widening the research conceptualization of marriage, this book will be of particular interest to scholars of Social Psychology, Sociology, Marital and Cross-cultural studies.
Download or read book Deranged Marriage written by Sushi Das and published by Random House Australia. This book was released on 2012-10-01 with total page 190 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: An affectionate, often hilarious, memoir of growing up in London in the 1970s in an Indian household, and avoiding an arranged marriage. ‘From the age of fourteen, I was aware my parents expected me to have an arranged marriage, a big Bollywood wedding. There was just one hitch: nobody asked me.’ For Sushi Das, growing up in 1970s London was a culturally messed-up time. Feminists were telling women they could be whatever they wanted, skinheads were yelling at dark-skinned foreigners to go home and The Boomtown Rats were singing about ‘Lookin’ after Number 1.’ While Sushi was fabricating intricate lies and plotting harebrained schemes to get to the pub and meet ‘undesirable elements’ – boys – her parents were on the hunt for a respectable Indian doctor for her to marry. But how do you turn your back on centuries of tradition without trashing your family’s honour? How do you break free of your parents’ stranglehold without casting off their embrace? And how do you explain to your strict dad why there’s a boy smoking in his living room and another one lurking in his garden? Breaking free meant migrating to the other side of the world, only to find that life in Australia had unexpected consequences. This is an intelligent, often hilarious memoir and a fascinating look at one of the oldest traditions of Eastern culture, which aims to join two families in economic prosperity, but whose reality is not always so blissful.
Download or read book Learning to Love written by Raksha Pande and published by Rutgers University Press. This book was released on 2021-03-19 with total page 65 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Learning to Love moves beyond the media and policy stereotypes that conflate arranged marriages with forced marriages. Using in-depth interviews and participant observations, this book assembles a rich and diverse array of everyday marriage narratives and trajectories and highlights how considerations of romantic love are woven into traditional arranged marriage practices. It shows that far from being a homogeneous tradition, arranged marriages involve a variety of different matchmaking practices where each family tailors its own cut-and-paste version of British-Indian arranged marriages to suit modern identities and ambitions. Pande argues that instead of being wedded to traditions, people in the British-Indian diaspora have skillfully adapted and negotiated arranged marriage cultural norms to carve out an identity narrative that portrays them as "modern and progressive migrants"–ones who are changing with the times and cultivating transnational forms of belonging.
Download or read book The Heart Is a Shifting Sea written by Elizabeth Flock and published by HarperCollins. This book was released on 2018-02-06 with total page 443 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Winner of the Silver Nautilus Award for Journalism & Investigative Reporting "Elizabeth Flock takes us on an intimate cruise on the shifting sea of the heart, in the best book set in Bombay that I've read in years. Flock's total access to her characters, and her highly sympathetic and nonjudgmental gaze, prove that love and literature know no borders. Easily the most intimate account of India that I've read, and of value to anybody that believes in love and marriage."—Suketu Mehta, author of Maximum City "This remarkable debut is so deeply reported, elegantly written, and profoundly transporting that it reads like a novel you can’t put down. It’s both a nuanced and intimate evocation of Indian culture, and a provocative and exciting meditation on marriage itself."—Katie Roiphe, author of The Violet Hour In the vein of Behind the Beautiful Forevers, an intimate, deeply reported and revelatory examination of love, marriage, and the state of modern India—as witnessed through the lives of three very different couples in today’s Mumbai. In twenty-first-century India, tradition is colliding with Western culture, a clash that touches the lives of everyday Indians from the wealthiest to the poorest. While ethnicity, class, and religion are influencing the nation’s development, so too are pop culture and technology—an uneasy fusion whose impact is most evident in the institution of marriage. The Heart Is a Shifting Sea introduces three couples whose relationships illuminate these sweeping cultural shifts in dramatic ways: Veer and Maya, a forward-thinking professional couple whose union is tested by Maya’s desire for independence; Shahzad and Sabeena, whose desperation for a child becomes entwined with the changing face of Islam; and Ashok and Parvati, whose arranged marriage, made possible by an online matchmaker, blossoms into true love. Though these three middle-class couples are at different stages in their lives and come from diverse religious backgrounds, their stories build on one another to present a layered, nuanced, and fascinating mosaic of the universal challenges, possibilities, and promise of matrimony in its present state. Elizabeth Flock has observed the evolving state of India from inside Mumbai, its largest metropolis. She spent close to a decade getting to know these couples—listening to their stories and living in their homes, where she was privy to countless moments of marital joy, inevitable frustration, dramatic upheaval, and whispered confessions and secrets. The result is a phenomenal feat of reportage that is both an enthralling portrait of a nation in the midst of transition and an unforgettable look at the universal mysteries of love and marriage that connect us all.
Download or read book Marriage and Modernity written by Rochona Majumdar and published by Duke University Press. This book was released on 2009-04-13 with total page 357 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: An innovative cultural history of the evolution of modern marriage practices in Bengal, Marriage and Modernity challenges the assumption that arranged marriage is an antiquated practice. Rochona Majumdar demonstrates that in the late colonial period Bengali marriage practices underwent changes that led to a valorization of the larger, intergenerational family as a revered, “ancient” social institution, with arranged marriage as the apotheosis of an “Indian” tradition. She meticulously documents the ways that these newly embraced “traditions”—the extended family and arranged marriage—entered into competition and conversation with other emerging forms of kinship such as the modern unit of the couple, with both models participating promiscuously in the new “marketplace” for marriages, where matrimonial advertisements in the print media and the payment of dowry played central roles. Majumdar argues that together the kinship structures newly asserted as distinctively Indian and the emergence of the marriage market constituted what was and still is modern about marriages in India. Majumdar examines three broad developments related to the modernity of arranged marriage: the growth of a marriage market, concomitant debates about consumption and vulgarity in the conduct of weddings, and the legal regulation of family property and marriages. Drawing on matrimonial advertisements, wedding invitations, poems, photographs, legal debates, and a vast periodical literature, she shows that the modernization of families does not necessarily imply a transition from extended kinship to nuclear family structures, or from matrimonial agreements negotiated between families to marriage contracts between individuals. Colonial Bengal tells a very different story.
Download or read book Hitched written by Nandini Krishnan and published by Random House India. This book was released on 2013-08-22 with total page 202 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: If you’re an Indian woman and old enough to legally bear children, chances are that an overweight relative has asked you, while fondly stroking their pot belly, ‘When am I going to eat at your wedding?’ The modern Indian woman’s attitude to marriage―and especially to arranged marriage―is a confused one. As traditional matchmaking methods and internet chat rooms come together to build matrimonial websites, our parameters have changed, but the time-honoured practice of arranged marriage sticks. Hitched explores in depth the considerations matrimony should involve, and the issues that can crop up at different stages of an arranged marriage. A cross-section of women―those who married young, married late, married the first man their parents parked before them, or married out of caste in an arranged setup―open up about experiences ranging from the frightening to the hilarious and the awww-inspiring.
Download or read book Sexuality and Love in Arranged Marriages in India written by Vanitha Dayanada and published by . This book was released on 2010-04 with total page 214 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Based on in-depth interviews with urban, university educated men and women, the book lends an extensive exploration of individuals' intimate sex lives and their marital lives; merits and demerits of arranged marriages.
Download or read book Inside the American Couple written by Marilyn Yalom and published by Univ of California Press. This book was released on 2002-08-07 with total page 284 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "By interrogating rather than accepting traditional platitudes about our need to be coupled, this vital and original collection both broadens our understanding of what constitutes a couple and deepens our appreciation for the human needs that coupling meets."—Michael S. Kimmel, author of Manhood in America: A Cultural Reader "Reading this book is like looking at a crystal-first one interesting facet of coupledom and then another comes into view. It's entrancing!"—Barrie Thorne, Director, Center for Working Families, University of California, Berkeley "This wonderfully important book shows where the couple has been and where it is going, challenging us to simultaneously remake and redefine coupledom for ourselves. Reassuring and enlightening, Inside the American Couple is essential reading for anyone concerned with joining in partnership and love with another human being."—Rebecca Walker, author of Black, White and Jewish: Autobiography of a Shifting Self
Download or read book Un arranged Marriage written by Bali Rai and published by Random House. This book was released on 2011-09-30 with total page 274 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: MANNY WANTS TO BE A FOOTBALLER. OR A POP STAR. OR WRITE A BESTSELLER. HE DOESN'T WANT TO GET MARRIED... 'Harry and Ranjit were waiting for me - waiting to take me to Derby, to a wedding. My wedding. A wedding that I hadn't asked for, that I didn't want. To a girl who I didn't know... If they had bothered to open their eyes, they would have seen me: seventeen, angry, upset but determined - determined to do my own thing, to choose my own path in life...' Set partly in the UK and partly in the Punjab region of India, this is a fresh, bitingly perceptive and totally up-to-the-minute look at one young man's fight to free himself from family expectations and to be himself, free to dance to his own tune.
Download or read book Matchmaking in Middle Class India written by Parul Bhandari and published by Springer Nature. This book was released on 2020-02-01 with total page 196 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This book is an extensive and thorough exploration of the ways in which the middle class in India select their spouse. Using the prism of matchmaking, this book critically unpacks the concept of the 'modern' and traces the importance of moralities and values in the making of middle class identities, by bringing to the fore intersections and dynamics of caste, class, gender, and neoliberalism. The author discusses a range of issues: romantic relationships among youth, use of online technology and of professional services like matrimonial agencies and detective agencies, encounters of love and heartbreak, impact of experiences of pain and humiliation on spouse-selection, and the involvement of family in matchmaking. Based on this comprehensive account, she elucidates how the categories of 'love' and 'arranged' marriages fall short of explaining, in its entirety and essence, the contemporary process of spouse-selection in urban India. Though the ethnographic research has been conducted in India, this book is of relevance to social scientists studying matchmaking practices, youth cultures, modernity and the middle class in other societies, particularly in parts of Asia. While being based on thorough scholarship, the book is written in accessible language to appeal to a larger audience.
Download or read book The Takeover Effect written by Nisha Sharma and published by HarperCollins. This book was released on 2019-04-02 with total page 233 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Hemdeep Singh knows exactly what he wants. With his intelligence and determination, he has what it takes to build his own legacy away from Bharat, Inc. and the empire his father created. But when his brother calls him home, Hem puts his dreams on hold once again to help save the company he walked away from. That’s when he encounters the devastating Mina Kohli in the Bharat boardroom, and he realizes he’s in for more than he had bargained. Mina will do whatever it takes to recover control of her mother’s law firm, even if it means agreeing to an arranged marriage. Her newest case assignment is to assist Bharat in the midst of a potential takeover. It could be the key to finally achieving her goal while preventing her marriage to a man she doesn’t love—as long as her explosive attraction to Hem doesn’t get in the way. As Mina and Hem work to save Bharat, they not only uncover secrets that could threaten the existence of the company, but they also learn that in a winner-takes-all game, love always comes out on top.
Download or read book Arranged Marriage written by Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni and published by Anchor. This book was released on 2009-09-15 with total page 320 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Although Chitra Divakaruni's poetry has won praise and awards for many years, it is her "luminous, exquisitely crafted prose" (Ms.) that is quickly making her one of the brightest rising stars in the changing face of American literature. Arranged Marriage, her first collection of stories, spent five weeks on the San Francisco Chronicle bestseller list and garnered critical acclaim that would have been extraordinary for even a more established author. For the young girls and women brought to life in these stories, the possibility of change, of starting anew, is both as terrifying and filled with promise as the ocean that separates them from their homes in India. From the story of a young bride whose fairy-tale vision of California is shattered when her husband is murdered and she must face the future on her own, to a proud middle-aged divorced woman determined to succeed in San Francisco, Divakaruni's award-winning poetry fuses here with prose for the first time to create eleven devastating portraits of women on the verge of an unforgettable transformation.
Download or read book Magic in Arranged Marriage written by Dr.Mahabala Shetty and published by Author House. This book was released on 2011-10-20 with total page 236 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Ready, willing and eligible girl and boys parents arrange for an initial meeting. Both the boy and the girl are free to make decisions based on their own personal likes and dislikes. Since there is no dating or courtship involved, decisions are business-like and, hence, there are no emotional feelings that come in the way of tough decisions. It is completely decentralized and fits the 21st century business model.
Download or read book The Newlyweds written by Mansi Choksi and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2024-06-18 with total page 288 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "In India, there are 650 million people under the age of 35. These are men and women who grew up with the Internet, and the advent of smartphones and social media. But when it comes to love and marriage, they're expected to adhere to thousands of years of tradition. It's that tension between obeying tradition and accepting modernity that drives journalist Mansi Choksi's THE NEWLYWEDS-also signaling the arrival of a major literary talent. Through gorgeous, lyrical prose, Choksi shines a light on three young couples who buck against arranged marriages in the pursuit of true love. Choski illustrates the challenges, shame, anger, triumph, and loss their collective actions set in play. Against the backdrop of India's beautiful villages, mountains, and cities, Choksi introduces readers to: Reshma & Preeti, a lesbian couple forced to flee town for a chance at a life together-all while the headstrong Reshma continues to convince Preeti their love is right and unconquerable: to Monika & Arif, a Hindu woman and Muslim man leaving their families behind in the cover of night as they and their loved ones are harassed by the "Love Commandos," a violent militia group (implicitly sanctioned by Narendra Modi) whose chief aim is to prevent all interfaith marriages: and to Neetu & Dawinder, an inter-caste couple who, despite learning about a similar couple being burned alive for their "crime," resolve to work towards a different fate. Ultimately, while thousands of miles separate the principal characters from readers, the questions their pursuits ask are universal. Specifically: What are we really willing to risk for love? If we're lucky enough to find it, does it change us? If so, for the better? Or for the worse? The answers to these questions vary upon the three couples, but their collective fight allows readers into a world whose customs and traditions are rarely discussed-or questioned"--
Download or read book Finding an Indian Bride written by Vinay Kallat and published by . This book was released on 2017-07-30 with total page 327 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The story is inspired by real life events of an Indian guy, who is stuck in the process of an arranged marriage. It all started on his 24th birthday, when his mother realized that her youngest son had all grown up and was ready for a marriage. This is the story of how he meets up with various interesting girls, and the anxiety he feels meeting the girl's family for the first time. The author also depicts the insecurities and the heartbreak of his life, while trying to find a bride. His complicated political work life entangled with a love story that would compel you to fall in love with the main character and at the same time feel sorry for him. How situations over power his logical reasoning at times. This book is for those who want to have a laugh at the awkward situation author is put through by his mother, to meet up random girls over a cup of coffee.The author also depicts the various complex issues of his life and how those things add up to whom he gets married to. The story involves various characters in author's real life that change the way he thinks about marriage. The emotional turmoil that would make you feel his pain. This book also provides some of the vital information and processes involved in an arranged marriage. It also shows the desperation of the author to get out of an arranged marriage and his mother's perseverance to overcome it. This book would take you into a roller coaster ride depicting his every emotion, which ultimately affects his decisions. Societal pressure and beautiful distractions in his life, accompanied with his own insecurities makes it harder for him to decide what is the best choice for him. It is an internal fight between his brain to make a practical decision and his heart to make an emotional decision. This is his mother's proposal to get her son married to a girl she chooses for him. You have to read his story to know what he finally decides and would he do an arranged marriage or is there any more surprises that life has in store for him.The author has depicted every emotion of his life in an exciting Bollywood style writing with lots of humor. The motive behind writing this book was to showcase the awkward moments and the thought process a contestant in an arranged marriage goes through. The romantic and dramatized real life events of the author's life is not the only take away from this book. Author cleverly embeds the following points in his book:What someone feels while visiting a girl's family for the first time?What awkward questions one has to face in the meet up?Does fate really decide your destiny?Is it possible to fall in love with a person you have just met?What would you do if you have two good proposals in hand? What complicated process one has to go through for an arranged marriage?Which is better a practical or an emotional approach towards marriage?What role family plays in an arranged marriage?Is arranged marriage only about fulfilling certain criteria?What is the power of love and fear?Can you go to any extent to fulfill your dream?Does Love thrive in an arranged Marriage?Do you believe in love at first sight? Meet you at chapter one.
Download or read book The Secret Diary of an Arranged Marriage written by Halima Khatun and published by Hayat House. This book was released on 2023-11-01 with total page 224 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Winner of the 2021 Bookbrunch Selfie Award for Best Adult Fiction. Meet the brown Bridget Jones... I know I'll land a husband… but will he be the one? The Secret Diary of an Arranged Marriage – A hilarious romcom that will redefine your Your views on love and matchmaking! Meet our British-Bengali protagonist, a spirited, acerbic woman on a quest for Mr Right. But in a world where tradition and modernity collide, her journey to find love takes a delightfully unexpected turn. Young, free and single, our heroine finds herself caught between two worlds, never fully fitting in with her English friends or her Asian community. As time ticks away, she embarks on a dual mission—her own dating adventures and the rollercoaster ride of an arranged marriage hunt orchestrated by her larger-than-life family. From her adorable yet overbearing mum to the army of pretend aunties and profiteering opportunists, everyone becomes invested in finding her the perfect match. With humour and wit, she embraces the chaos of this unconventional approach to love, never quite sure if her ideal partner lies within the boundaries of tradition or if she'll discover something entirely unexpected. The Secret Diary of an Arranged Marriage is a fresh and captivating debut novel by former journalist Halima Khatun. She explores the complexities of family dynamics, identity, and the eternal search for belonging. This is not your average arranged marriage romance—it's a romcom that breaks barriers and challenges preconceptions. Prepare to be swept away on a laugh-out-loud journey filled with unexpected twists and turns. Get ready to redefine your view of matchmaking and immerse yourself in a story that will leave you smiling long after you've turned the final page. The Secret Diary of an Arranged Marriage is a romcom like no other, defying stereotypes and offering a fresh perspective on the joys and pitfalls of finding love, or a boy you can at least grow to like. Don't miss this heartwarming and hilarious tale. Reader reviews: "This is a great book to read on transport or going on holidays. I finished mine in no time and laughed lots!" "I loved reading this book! Such an enjoyable read which was hilarious at some points but also really highlighted how arranged marriages are viewed from different perspectives, especially in western society. It's hard to find a book that isn't too 'heavy' but also covers important issues and makes you really empathise with the main character. Highly recommend if you're looking for a fun read but something a bit different from the usual chick-lit." About the author Halima Khatun is a former journalist (having worked for ITV and the BBC), writer and PR consultant. With a lifelong passion for writing, Halima wrote her first novel - a coming-of-age children's story - at the age of 12. It was politely turned down by all the major publishing houses. Halima went on to study English and Journalism and was one of just four people in the UK to be granted a BBC scholarship during her postgraduate studies. She has since written for a number of publications including the HuffPost and Yahoo! Style, and has been featured in the Express, Metro and other national publications. Halima also blogs on lifestyle, food and travel and parenthood on HalimaBobs.
Download or read book Shaadi Remix written by Geetha Ravindra and published by Wheatmark, Inc.. This book was released on 2013 with total page 132 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Marriage is one of the most sacred institutions in India. Traditionally, parents and other family members have arranged marriages for their children based on caste, matching horoscopes, family status, or dowry. Over the past few decades, however, divorce rates have grown significantly. It would seem that the old way of doing things is no longer working -- but why? Drawing on her experience with hundreds of families struggling with marital discord, attorney and mediator Geetha Ravindra explores the breakdown of Indian marriage within a rapidly changing culture, explaining why the conventional criteria used to arrange marriages no longer ensure lasting, healthy relationships. With stories of how real Indian couples navigate a twenty-first-century world, Shaadi Remix: Transforming the Traditional Indian Marriage, provides guidance on alternative methods of choosing partners, as well as tips on effectively communicating and resolving conflict in marriage. Shaadi Remix is a must read for Indian parents, Indian youth contemplating marriage, and anyone who is interested in understanding the Indian marriage system. Geetha Ravindra offers readers a unique approach to the traditional Indian union-one that blends the important values of the Vedic marriage with contemporary and practical considerations.
