Download or read book The State of Affairs written by Esther Perel and published by HarperCollins. This book was released on 2017-10-10 with total page 321 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” — LA Review of Books From iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”

Download or read book Mating in Captivity written by Esther Perel and published by Harper Collins. This book was released on 2007-10-30 with total page 274 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home. Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love.

Download or read book When Good People Have Affairs written by Mira Kirshenbaum and published by Macmillan. This book was released on 2008-05-27 with total page 226 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A world-renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of men and women caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair reaches into their emotional lives. Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place. She gives readers everything they need to cut through the thickets of fear, hurt and confusion to find their ways to happier, more solid relationships with the person who's right for them. For example, Kirshenbaum identifies seventeen types of affairs, helping readers figure out which type they're in and what it means. Is it a: --"See-if" affair? --Ejector-seat affair? --Distraction affair? --Unmet-needs affair? --Panic affair? Kirshenbaum encourages honest answers to such questions as: --What am I missing in my marriage? --How do I decide between two people when it's like comparing an apple to an orange? --How do I decide to end my marriage, end my affair, or end them both? She leads readers through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity. When Good People Have Affairs will be a lifeline to any man or woman who feels caught between two lovers, and its insights are indispensable to anyone else touched by an affair.

Download or read book The Cheating Boyfriend and Other Organizational Indiscretions written by Jenny Hayes and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2017-01-20 with total page 48 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Every organization has a "dark side." On the surface your company may seem like it's one of the best places to work, but there will always be one person with a poor attitude, one manager who treats his golf buddy better than everyone else, one shy person on the team, one useless middle manager, one "control freak..." The Cheating Boyfriend (And Other Organizational Indiscretions) calls out the problems that companies would prefer to keep locked away behind closed doors and offers tips and suggestions on how to transform "bad behavior." Jenny Hayes, MSOD, chronicles various articles she has written with the hope that it will encourage people to break away from the status quo and strive for positive organizational change.

Download or read book The Complete Book of Dreams written by Stephanie Gailing and published by Wellfleet. This book was released on 2020-10-20 with total page 231 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The Complete Book of Dreams engages the main body, mind, and spirit sub-practices in achieving better sleep, and with it, better physical and emotional health.

Download or read book How to Cheat written by T. J. Conway and published by . This book was released on 2020-01-02 with total page 137 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: I would have never imagined myself as a cheater. None of my friends would either and neither would you. I'm the lady who sits in the office next to you. Sees you at the committee meeting and helped with our kid's team. You know me so well I'm invisible.When you're a cheater, being invisible is the ideal and that's the way I wanted to keep it. Before I sent my first message I had researched everything I could. I couldn't afford to make a mistake. I had too much invested in my marriage, life and family to lose. I suppose we are all like this in a way, but I couldn't accept risk.As I read I kept notes as I wondered if I could do it. It didn't take long to find my first affair partner on Ashely Maddison and from there, things took off. As I gained experience, my notes evolved into this guide. I passed it around to fellow cheaters seeking their feedback. I spoke with many wonderful ladies whose collective experience, wisdom, and knowledge was distilled on here. Now offer it to you. If you are thinking about cheating, have a look at the guide and decide if it's for you. If it is, this guide will help keep you get what you want while maintaining your primary relationship.Thank you,Teresa

Download or read book I Cheated On My Boyfriend written by Iris Kohler and published by Booktango. This book was released on 2015-06-22 with total page 148 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: From your boyfriend to your friends, family, religious peers, and co-workers there are a lot of people in the world who just won't always understand cheating. Mainstream media and "good old fashioned advice" generally end up blaming the cheater for his/her own character flaws without giving it any real thought and advise cheaters to stop cheating because clearly it's your own fault anyway. The ICOMB website (and book) is based on the idea that while cheating might be a mistake for someone, it doesn't define them as a person, it doesn't limit or change them into some form of monster. You stay human, however society has deemed you no longer have a place and need to undergo a miraculous self-discovery change before you are acceptable again. For us, we give you guidance, acceptance and a healthy dose of realistic expectations on how to move forward, make the right decisions for YOURSELF, and become the best person for yourself. This book is designed to be your understanding friend in a tough situation who will guide you to realize why you cheated, how to prevent it and also the steps forward you could make depending on your own goals.

Download or read book What Makes Love Last written by John Gottman and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2013-09-10 with total page 304 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "One of the foremost relationship experts at work today offers creative insight on building trust and avoiding betrayal, helping readers to decode the mysteries of healthy love and relationships"--

Download or read book Leave a Cheater Gain a Life written by Tracy Schorn and published by Running Press Adult. This book was released on 2016-05-10 with total page 240 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity—but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters—their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Combining solid advice that champions self-respect, along with hilarious cartoons satirizing the pomposity of cheaters, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on Stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, Rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, Why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more. Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.

Download or read book How to Be a Person in the World written by Heather Havrilesky and published by Anchor. This book was released on 2017-06-27 with total page 274 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: New York Times Bestseller • From the "best advice columnist of her generation” (Esquire) comes a hilarious, frank, and witty collection of all-new responses, plus a few greatest hits from the beloved "Ask Polly" column in New York magazine’s The Cut. Should you quit your day job to follow your dreams? How do you rein in an overbearing mother? Will you ever stop dating wishy-washy, noncommittal guys? Should you put off having a baby for your career? Heather Havrilesky is here to guide you through the “what if’s” and “I don’t knows” of modern life with the signature wisdom and tough love her readers have come to expect. Whether she’s responding to cheaters or loners, lovers or haters, the anxious or the down-and-out, Havrilesky writes with equal parts grace, humor, and compassion to remind you that even in your darkest moments you’re not alone.

Download or read book Ask a Manager written by Alison Green and published by Ballantine Books. This book was released on 2018-05-01 with total page 306 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: From the creator of the popular website Ask a Manager and New York’s work-advice columnist comes a witty, practical guide to 200 difficult professional conversations—featuring all-new advice! There’s a reason Alison Green has been called “the Dear Abby of the work world.” Ten years as a workplace-advice columnist have taught her that people avoid awkward conversations in the office because they simply don’t know what to say. Thankfully, Green does—and in this incredibly helpful book, she tackles the tough discussions you may need to have during your career. You’ll learn what to say when • coworkers push their work on you—then take credit for it • you accidentally trash-talk someone in an email then hit “reply all” • you’re being micromanaged—or not being managed at all • you catch a colleague in a lie • your boss seems unhappy with your work • your cubemate’s loud speakerphone is making you homicidal • you got drunk at the holiday party Praise for Ask a Manager “A must-read for anyone who works . . . [Alison Green’s] advice boils down to the idea that you should be professional (even when others are not) and that communicating in a straightforward manner with candor and kindness will get you far, no matter where you work.”—Booklist (starred review) “The author’s friendly, warm, no-nonsense writing is a pleasure to read, and her advice can be widely applied to relationships in all areas of readers’ lives. Ideal for anyone new to the job market or new to management, or anyone hoping to improve their work experience.”—Library Journal (starred review) “I am a huge fan of Alison Green’s Ask a Manager column. This book is even better. It teaches us how to deal with many of the most vexing big and little problems in our workplaces—and to do so with grace, confidence, and a sense of humor.”—Robert Sutton, Stanford professor and author of The No Asshole Rule and The Asshole Survival Guide “Ask a Manager is the ultimate playbook for navigating the traditional workforce in a diplomatic but firm way.”—Erin Lowry, author of Broke Millennial: Stop Scraping By and Get Your Financial Life Together

Download or read book The Monogamy Gap written by Eric Anderson and published by Oxford University Press. This book was released on 2012-03-21 with total page 388 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Whether straight or gay, most men start their relationships desiring monogamy. This is rooted in the pervasive notion that monogamy exists as a sign of true love. Yet despite this deeply held cultural ideal, cheating remains rampant. In this accessible book, Eric Anderson investigates why 78% of men he interviewed have cheated despite their desire not to. Combining 120 interviews with research from the fields of sociology, biology, and psychology, Anderson identifies cheating as a product of wanting emotional passion for one's partner, along with a steadily growing desire for emotionally-detached recreational sex with others. Anderson coins the term "the monogamy gap" to describe this phenomenon. Anderson suggests that monogamy is an irrational ideal because it fails to fulfil a lifetime of sexual desires. Cheating therefore becomes the rational response to an irrational situation. The Monogamy Gap draws on a range of concepts, theories, and disciplines to highlight the biological compulsion of our sexual urges, the social construction of the monogamous ideal, and the devastating chasm that lies between them. Whether single or married, monogamous or open, straight or gay, readers will find The Monogamy Gap to be an enlightening, intellectually compelling, and provocative book.

Download or read book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F ck written by Mark Manson and published by HarperCollins. This book was released on 2016-09-13 with total page 197 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: #1 New York Times Bestseller Over 10 million copies sold In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

Download or read book Miss Manners Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior Freshly Updated written by Judith Martin and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 2011-02-07 with total page 859 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: An indispensable manual to navigating life from birth to death without making a false move. Your neighbor denounces cellular telephones as instruments of the devil. Your niece swears that no one expects thank-you letters anymore. Your father-in-law insists that married women have to take their husbands' names. Your guests plead that asking them to commit themselves to attending your party ruins the spontaneity. Who is right? Miss Manners, of course. With all those amateurs issuing unauthorized etiquette pronouncements, aren't you glad that there is a gold standard to consult about what has really changed and what has not? The freshly updated version of the classic bestseller includes the latest letters, essays, and illustrations, along with the laugh-out-loud wisdom of Miss Manners as she meets the new millennium of American misbehavior head-on. This wickedly witty guide rules on the challenges brought about by our ever-evolving society, once again proving that etiquette, far from being an optional extra, is the essential currency of a civilized world.

Download or read book Affair Healing written by Tim Tedder and published by . This book was released on 2017-02-06 with total page pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt:

Download or read book When You re the One Who Cheats written by Tammy Nelson and published by RL Publishing. This book was released on 2019-02-11 with total page 266 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A must read for anyone who's been thinking about having an affair. Includes real-life narratives of people who have cheated. Provides insights for those who are single and cheating with a married person. Offers therapists, clergy, and counselors a look into the cheater's motivation.

Download or read book Sean of the South written by Sean Dietrich and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2015-11-30 with total page 152 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The first volume of a collection of short stories by Sean Dietrich, a writer, humorist, and novelist, known for his commentary on life in the American South. His humor and short fiction appear in various publications throughout the Southeast.