Download or read book How to Stop Being a Perfectionist written by Steven Schuster and published by . This book was released on 2021-02-07 with total page 214 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Are your perfectionist tendencies making you stressed, anxious, or stuck in inaction? A constant feeling of crumbling under the mountains of expectations placed on you is a serious problem that can rob you of productivity, happiness, and fulfillment. Perfectionism triggers a deep sense of inadequacy in us. Will we ever be enough? Perfectionism cripples the mind, kills creativity, and harms performance.Learn actionable techniques to feel more confident, procrastinate less, and take immediate action. Manage your time better to accomplish more goals without seeking perfection.Stop missing out on learning and growing opportunities. How to Stop Being a Perfectionist is unique as it not only covers everything you need to know about perfectionism but also provides a practical, step-by-step 30 -day program to reduce it in your life to a level of (almost) perfection. Become productive and achieve your goals quickly.Steven Schuster is an internationally bestselling author, former teacher, and a recovering perfectionist. As a teacher, he kept himself to high standards to provide the best education for his students. But this often came with more stress and less time for his family. Thus, he started researching the cure for perfectionism many years ago. This book is a collection of the best tips, practices, and stories he has found to end perfectionism-related struggles.Be confident in your abilities and take action bravely.After reading this book, overcoming perfectionism will be the only option you'll see, and you'll have all the stress-free tools to do it. There will be pitfalls, but day by day, you'll get to a better place. -Discover your main reasons to pursue perfection and learn how to change these beliefs.-Learn to take risks.-Learn to set realistic expectations and goals. -Test to discover your level of perfectionism.Don't let your unrealistic expectations ruin your personal and professional growth and happiness. Learn. Laugh. Live. There is no shame in imperfection. But it's a shame to waste your life chasing the illusion of perfection.

Download or read book Overcoming Perfectionism 2nd Edition written by Roz Shafran and published by Robinson. This book was released on 2018-05-10 with total page 263 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: How to break the circle of 'never good enough' Striving for something can be a healthy and positive attribute; it's good to aim high. But sometimes whatever we do just isn't good enough; we want to be too perfect and start setting unrealistic goals. Such high levels of perfectionism, often driven by low self-esteem, can turn against success and develop into unhealthy obsession, triggering serious mental-health problems, such as anxiety, depression and eating disorders. Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), on which this self-help book is based, has been found to be a highly effective treatment and provides relief from that disabling sense of not being good enough. In this essential self-help guide, you will learn: - How clinical perfectionism manifests itself - Effective coping strategies with invaluable guidance on how to avoid future relapse OVERCOMING self-help guides use clinically-proven techniques to treat long-standing and disabling conditions, both psychological and physical. Many guides in the Overcoming series are recommended under the Reading Well Books on Prescription scheme. Series Editor: Professor Peter Cooper

Download or read book Being Perfect written by Anna Quindlen and published by Random House. This book was released on 2009-01-21 with total page 65 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Anna Quindlen offers deep truths from her life to motivate and inspire you to become your most authentic self. “Trying to be perfect may be inevitable for people who are smart and ambitious and interested in the world and its good opinion. . . . What is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” In Being Perfect, Anna Quindlen shares wisdom that, perhaps without knowing it, you have longed to hear: about “the perfection trap,” the price you pay when you become ensnared in it, and the key to setting yourself free. Quindlen believes that when your success looks good to the world but doesn’t feel good in your heart, it isn’t success at all. She asks you to set aside your friends’ advice, what your family and co-workers demand, and what society expects, and look at the choices you make every day. When you ask yourself why you are making them, Quindlen encourages you to give this answer: For me. “Because they are what I want, or wish for. Because they reflect who and what I am. . . . That way lies dancing to the melodies spun out by your own heart.” At the core of this beautiful book lies the secret of authentic success, the inspiration to embrace your own uniqueness and live the life that is undeniably your own, rich in fulfillment and meaning.

Download or read book Pursuit of Perfect PB written by Tal Ben-Shahar and published by McGraw Hill Professional. This book was released on 2009-04-03 with total page 273 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: DO YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO BE PERFECT? We're all laboring under our own and society's expectations to be perfect in every way-to look younger, to make more money, to be happy all the time. But according to Tal Ben-Shahar, the New York Times bestselling author of Happier, the pursuit of perfect may actually be the number-one internal obstacle to finding happiness. OR DO YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY? Applying cutting-edge research in the field of positive psychology-the scientific principles taught in his wildly popular course at Harvard University-Ben-Shahar takes us off the impossible pursuit of perfection and directs us to the way to happiness, richness, and true fulfillment. He shows us the freedom derived from not trying to do it all right all the time and the real lessons that failure and painful emotions can teach us. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE PERFECT TO BE PERFECTLY HAPPY! In The Pursuit of Perfect, Tal Ben-Shahar offers an optimal way of thinking about failure and success--and the very way we live. He provides exercises for self reflection, meditations, and “Time-Ins” to help you rediscover what you really want out of life. Praise for Tal Ben-Shahar's Happier: “This fine book shimmers with a rare brand of good sense that is embedded in scientific knowledge about how to increase happiness. It is easy to see how this is the backbone of the most popular course at Harvard today.” -Martin E. P. Seligman, author of Authentic Happiness

Download or read book The Perfection Detox written by Petra Kolber and published by Da Capo Lifelong Books. This book was released on 2018-08-14 with total page 340 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Award-winning fitness professional and consultant shares a practical, accessible program to help women replace destructive perfectionistic mindsets with concrete strategies and life-changing tips. Tired. Stressed. Overwhelmed. Just one more email, one more meeting with the kid's teacher, oh and lose that last five pounds. Today, women are striving for perfection more than ever -- and feeling like failures for not meeting unattainable goals. Health and wellness expert Petra Kolber knows this intimately; as a dancer and fitness professional, she's experienced the ultimately dissatisfying quest for perfection. Her Perfection Detox program helps women to overcome the unhealthy, unproductive demands we place on ourselves -- and others. Based on her popular workshops, Kolber's strategies help women to recognize and constructively root out the perfectionistic impulse to be critical of self or others and to harness the power of our own internal resources, willpower, and habits. With simple steps and strategies such as adjusting your internal monologue, cleaning up your vocabulary to include more positive language, becoming a passionist rather than a perfectionist, and more, The Perfection Detox is an essential guide to a healthy, full, authentic life.

Download or read book The War of Art written by Steven Pressfield and published by Black Irish Entertainment LLC. This book was released on 2002-06-03 with total page 195 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: What keeps so many of us from doing what we long to do? Why is there a naysayer within? How can we avoid the roadblocks of any creative endeavor—be it starting up a dream business venture, writing a novel, or painting a masterpiece? The War of Art identifies the enemy that every one of us must face, outlines a battle plan to conquer this internal foe, then pinpoints just how to achieve the greatest success. The War of Art emphasizes the resolve needed to recognize and overcome the obstacles of ambition and then effectively shows how to reach the highest level of creative discipline. Think of it as tough love . . . for yourself.

Download or read book The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism written by Sharon Martin and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2019-01-02 with total page 286 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: If you feel an intense pressure to be perfect, this evidence-based workbook offers real strategies based in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) to help you develop a more balanced and healthy perspective. Do you hold yourself—and perhaps others—to extremely high standards? Do you procrastinate certain tasks because you’re afraid you won’t carry them out perfectly? If you’ve answered “yes” to one or both of these questions, chances are you’re a perfectionist. And while there’s nothing wrong with hard work and high standards, perfectionism can also take over your life if you let it. So, how can you find balance? With this workbook, you’ll identify the causes of your perfectionism and the ways it is negatively impacting your life. Rather than measuring your self-worth by productivity and accomplishments, you’ll learn to exercise self-compassion, and extend that compassion to others. You’ll also learn ways to prioritize the things that really matter to you, without focusing on attaining fixed goals. Life isn’t perfect, and neither are we. If you’re ready to break free from out-of-control perfectionism and start living a richer, fuller life, this workbook will help you get started.

Download or read book Perfectly Hidden Depression written by Margaret Robinson Rutherford and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2019-11-01 with total page 261 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: When your life looks perfect, but you’re silently falling apart… If you were raised to believe that painful emotions are a sign of weakness, or if being vulnerable has always made you feel unsafe, then you may have survived by creating a perfect-looking life—a life where you appear to be successful, engaged, and always there for others. The problem? You’re filled with self-criticism and shame, and you can’t allow yourself to express fear, anger, loss, or grief. You recognize something is wrong, but you’re not sure what exactly—only that you feel trapped and alone. If this sounds like you, you may have perfectly hidden depression (PHD). With this compassionate guide, you’ll begin the process of understanding your perfectionism, identifying destructive beliefs, and connecting with emotions suppressed for far too long. You’ll also find tangible tips for quieting that critical inner voice, and powerful strategies for coping with difficult feelings. Most importantly, you’ll learn that asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. If you’re ready to stop hiding and start healing, this groundbreaking book will guide you—every imperfect step of the way.

Download or read book Present Perfect written by Pavel G Somov and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2010-06-03 with total page 210 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A revolutionary approach to overcoming perfectionism! A recent, randomized study—published by Mindfulness Journal—shows that Present Perfect is effective as a standalone intervention. The study found that those who had read the book experienced a statistically significant reduction of self-criticalness, a result that was still maintained at a six weeks follow-up (Wimberley, Mintz, & Suh, Mindfulness, Nov. 2015). While there's no doubt that setting high standards for yourself is a good thing, you've probably already noticed that perfectionism can come at a high price. And when you take steps to try to change, it's easy to be too hard on yourself and fall into the same traps that keep you feeling stressed and disappointed. This book presents a revolutionary approach to overcoming perfectionism—a way to transform your need for precision into self-acceptance, compassion, and love for each perfectly imperfect passing moment in our lives. In Present Perfect, you'll use the Buddhist psychology of mindfulness to learn to accept the present moment in all of its ordinary perfection. This book is filled with over 150 exercises and meditations that you can practice to become more flexible toward yourself and others without losing your love of a job well done. With this compassionate approach, you'll soon be able not only to accept life as it is, but also become more accepting and forgiving of yourself and others.

Download or read book How to Be an Imperfectionist written by Stephen Guise and published by Selective Entertainment LLC. This book was released on 2015-06-04 with total page 166 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: From an early age, kids are taught to color inside the lines, and any color that strays outside the lines is considered to be a mistake that must be avoided. Perfectionism is a naturally limiting mindset. Imperfectionism, however, frees us to live outside the lines, where possibilities are infinite, mistakes are allowed, and self-judgment is minimal.The old way to approach perfectionism was to inspire people to "let go" of their need for perfection and hope they could do it. The new way is to show people how simple but highly strategic "mini actions" can empower them to gradually and effortlessly "let go" of perfectionism. This book applies the science of behavior modification directly to the roots of perfectionism, resulting in a new and superior method for change. Imperfectionists aren't so ironic as to have perfect lives: they're just happier, healthier, and more productive at doing what matters.

Download or read book The One Thing You Need to Know written by Marcus Buckingham and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2008-09-04 with total page 227 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Drawing on a wide body of research, including extensive in-depth interviews, THE ONE THING YOU NEED TO KNOW reveals the central insights that lie at the core of: Great Managing, Great Leadership and Great Careers. Buckingham uses a wealth of relevant examples to reveal that at the heart of each insight lies a controlling insight. Lose sight of this 'one thing' and all of your best efforts at managing, leading, or individual achievement will be diminished. For great managing, the controlling insight has less to do with fairness, or team building, or clear expectations (although all are important). Rather, the one thing great managers know is the need to discover and then capitalize on what is unique about each person. For leadership, the controlling insight is the opposite - discover and capitalize on what is universal to all your people, regardless of differences in personality, race, sex, or age. For sustained individual success, the controlling insight is the need to discover what you don't like doing, and know how and when to stop doing it. In every way a groundbreaking work, THE ONE THING YOU NEED TO KNOW offers crucial performance and career lessons for business people at every level.

Download or read book Never Good Enough written by Monica Ramirez Basco and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2000-03-02 with total page 292 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This practical guide to overcoming the dangers of being a perfectionist--from debilitating feelings of self-doubt to difficulties with other people--shows readers how their perfectionist tendencies can actually help them succeed.

Download or read book The Psychology of Perfectionism written by Joachim Stoeber and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2017-08-22 with total page 418 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This milestone text provides a comprehensive and state-of-the art overview of perfectionism theory, research, and treatment from the past 25 years, with contributions from the leading researchers in the field. The book examines new theories and perspectives including the social disconnection model of perfectionism and the 2 × 2 model of perfectionism. It also reviews empirical findings, with a special focus on stress, vulnerability, and resilience, and examines perfectionism in specific populations. Finally, it considers how perfectionism relates to physical health and psychophysiological processes and introduces new approaches to effective prevention and treatment. By increasing our understanding of perfectionism as a complex personality disposition and providing a framework for future explorations, this landmark publication aims to promote further research in this field. It will be invaluable reading for academics, students, and professionals in personality psychology, clinical and counseling psychology, applied psychology, and related disciplines.

Download or read book Finding Meaning in an Imperfect World written by Iddo Landau and published by Oxford University Press. This book was released on 2017-07-01 with total page 288 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Does life have meaning? Is it possible for life to be meaningful when the world is filled with suffering and when so much depends merely upon chance? Even if there is meaning, is there enough to justify living? These questions are difficult to resolve. There are times in which we face the mundane, the illogically cruel, and the tragic, which leave us to question the value of our lives. However, Iddo Landau argues, our lives often are, or could be made, meaningfulwe've just been setting the bar too high for evaluating what meaning there is. When it comes to meaning in life, Landau explains, we have let perfect become the enemy of the good. We have failed to find life perfectly meaningful, and therefore have failed to see any meaning in our lives. We must attune ourselves to enhancing and appreciating the meaning in our lives, and Landau shows us how to do that. In this warmly written book, rich with examples from the author's life, film, literature, and history, Landau offers new theories and practical advice that awaken us to the meaning already present in our lives and demonstrates how we can enhance it. He confronts prevailing nihilist ideas that undermine our existence, and the questions that dog us no matter what we believe. While exposing the weaknesses of ideas that lead many to despair, he builds a strong case for maintaining more hope. Along the way, he faces provocative questions: Would we choose to live forever if we could? Does death render life meaningless? If we examine it in the context of the immensity of the whole universe, can we consider life meaningful? If we feel empty once we achieve our goals, and the pursuit of these goals is what gives us a sense of meaning, then what can we do? Finding Meaning in an Imperfect World is likely to alter the way you understand your life.

Download or read book The Mindful Kind written by Rachael Kable and published by HarperCollins Australia. This book was released on 2019-03-01 with total page 207 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: If you're feeling overwhelmed, pressured, anxious and disconnected, this book will change your life, one mindful step at a time. A guide from a popular podcaster to de-stressing and becoming happier by becoming more mindful in your everyday life. Learn why it's vital to prioritise self-care, wellbeing and mental health. Discover effective and practical mindfulness and meditation strategies and learn to apply them in all life areas, including work, relationships and self-care. Learn skills to increase resilience and improve wellbeing throughout their lives. Be encouraged and inspired to create an ongoing mindfulness practice.

Download or read book The Rules of Revision written by Liam Porritt and published by . This book was released on 2016-03-01 with total page 198 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Some students just seem to absorb information, effortlessly gliding through revision and exams without the slightest difficulty. The rest of us find revision dull and unproductive. However, surely the info-sponges aren't superhuman? Surely there's no such thing as a revision-friendly gene? So, do they know something that the rest of us don't? Yes - they know The Rules of Revision. This guide reveals the secrets to both fruitful exam preparation and successful exam technique. It offers a set of rules that will ensure you maximise your potential by making your revision more focused and productive than it has ever been before. Written by ten students at the universities of Oxford and Cambridge, Liam and his team offer what no teacher can. Their proven knowledge of exactly how to succeed in both the revision process and the exam room makes this book a must-have for all students.

Download or read book Living the Simply Luxurious Life written by Shannon Ables and published by . This book was released on 2018-10-07 with total page 402 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: What can you uniquely give the world? We often sell ourselves short with self-limiting beliefs, but most of us would be amazed and delighted to know that we do have something special - our distinctive passions and talents - to offer. And what if I told you that what you have to give will also enable you to live a life of true contentment? How is that possible? It happens when you embrace and curate your own simply luxurious life. We tend to not realize the capacity of our full potential and settle for what society has deemed acceptable. However, each of us has a unique journey to travel if only we would find the courage, paired with key skills we can develop, to step forward. This book will help you along the deeper journey to discovering your best self as you begin to trust your intuition and listen to your curiosity. You will learn how to: - Recognize your innate strengths - Acquire the skills needed to nurture your best self - Identify and navigate past societal limitations often placed upon women - Strengthen your brand both personally and professionally - Build a supportive and healthy community - Cultivate effortless style - Enhance your everyday meals with seasonal fare - Live with less, so that you can live more fully - Understand how to make a successful fresh start - Establish and mastermind your financial security - Experience great pleasure and joy in relationships - Always strive for quality over quantity in every arena of your life Living simply luxuriously is a choice: to think critically, to live courageously, and to savor the everydays as much as the grand occasions. As you learn to live well in your everydays, you will elevate your experience and recognize what is working for you and what is not. With this knowledge, you let go of the unnecessary, thus simplifying your life and removing the complexity. Choices become easier, life has more flavor, and you begin to feel deeply satisfying true contentment. The cultivation of a unique simply luxurious life is an extraordinary daily journey that each of us can master, leading us to our fullest potential.