Download or read book Afraid to Let Go for Parents of Adult Addicts and Alcoholics written by Mary Crocker Cook and published by . This book was released on 2012 with total page 190 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "You are not Codependent simply because your adult child is an addict or alcoholic." All parents of addicted children of any age are terrified, confused, feel out of control, lose sleep, dread the phone calls at 3:00 in the morning. This book is for parents who are "Afraid to Let Go" because they do not know how to set boundaries with their adult children without feeling crippling anxiety, or walling themselves off to make separation possible. You can't "let go." You can't "detach with love." You can't let them "hit bottom." You can't seem to implement the strategies you have learned when you are faced with your adult child's chaos and anxiety. When you try to do this, it makes you physically and emotionally ill, and the anxiety and fear becomes unbearable. "Why can't you just "let go"? " If you are struggling with Codependency, your relationship with your child is not be the only relationship where you experience a loss of self, over-reactivity, adrenalin rushes when you feel "out of control," or behave intrusively or impulsively to "help" in situations even when your assistance has not been requested. If you are Codependent, this is not the first relationship in which you have "over-given" and then felt resentful, or sacrificed yourself to give someone what you decided they "needed" because if you don't, "who will"? "Afraid to Let Go" explores the developmental origins of Codependency that lead to painful behavioral reactivity in response to our addicted adult children. Afraid to Let Go then connects the chronic stress of the chaos of addiction with adrenal system damage, and points you toward concrete behavioral changes you can make to heal regardless of the sobriety of your adult child. "About the author: " Mary Crocker Cook, D.Min., LMFT, CADCII is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with extensive experience working with addicted families over the last 20 years. She is the author of ""Awakening Hope. A Developmental, Behavioral and Biological Approach to Codependency Treatment,"" and coordinates the Alcohol and Drug Studies Program at San Jose City College in San Jose, California.

Download or read book Adult Children written by Adult Children of Alcoholics (Association) and published by . This book was released on 2006 with total page 646 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This is the official ACA Fellowship Text that is Adult Children of Alcoholics World Service Organization (ACA WSO) Conference Approved Literature. Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families (ACA) is an independent 12 Step and 12 Tradition anonymous program.

Download or read book Adult Children of Alcoholics written by Janet G. Woititz and published by Health Communications, Inc.. This book was released on 1990-11 with total page 242 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Recovery aids for victims of dysfunctional families and adult children of alcoholic families.

Download or read book Affirmations for the Inner Child written by Rokelle Lerner and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2010-01-01 with total page 380 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: All of us need positive affirmation throughout our lives. As children, these powerful messages helped us to know that we were worthwhile, that it was all right to want food and to be touched, and that our very existence was a precious gift. The messages that we received from our parents helped us to form decisions that determined the course of our lives. If we were raised with consistent, nurturing parents, we conclude that life is meaningful and that people are to be trusted. If we were raised with parents who were addictively or compulsively ill, we determine that life is threatening and chaotic--that we are not deserving of joy. These are the crucial decisions that impact our lives long after we have forgotten them. Unfortunately, childhood judgments don't disappear. They remain as dynamic forces that contaminate our adulthood. When childhood needs are not taken care of because of abuse or abandonment, we spend our lives viewing the world through the distorted perception of a needy infant or an angry adolescent. The more we push these child parts away, the more control they have over us. This collection of daily meditations is dedicated to those adults who are ready to heal their childhood wounds. It is through this courageous effort that we will move from a life of pain into recovery.

Download or read book Parenting Through Your Adult Child s Addiction Making Sense of Treatment Aftercare and Recovery Recommendations written by Ginny H. Mills and published by . This book was released on 2019-06-15 with total page 134 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: If only you could control the outcome... No parent imagines their tiny infant growing up to have an addiction. Your once precious child now makes frightening choices and takes terrifying risks. You are worried your son or daughter's use of drugs or alcohol has reached a sufficient level of concern that you are exploring or have already admitted your adult child to treatment. You are hard-wired as a parent to love, provide, protect, nurture, and rescue your young, just like every other mammal. You've ranted and punished, cried and pleaded, and it may have felt like nothing seemed to matter. Yet here you are, trying to learn what you can do to support your loved one without revealing the resentments, doubts, fears, and expectations you harbor. Must it get even worse before it gets better?

Download or read book The Addicts Mom a Survival Guide written by Cassandra A. Collins and published by Outskirts Press. This book was released on 2014-04-07 with total page 188 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Part memoir and part survival manual, The Addicts' Mom tackles tough questions to help parents cope, survive, and make smart choices through a child's addiction and recovery. Attorney Cassandra Collins combines her legal expertise with her experiences on the roller-coaster, heart-wrenching, learn-as-you-go journey through her own two sons' addictions.

Download or read book Liking the Child You Love written by Jeffrey Bernstein and published by Da Capo Lifelong Books. This book was released on 2009-06-09 with total page 274 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: How to recognize and cope with Parent Frustration Syndrome (PFS): negative thoughts and feelings about your children"

Download or read book Lifeskills for Adult Children written by Janet G. Woititz and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2012-01-01 with total page 167 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: From the author of the New York Times bestseller Adult Children of Alcoholics -- a wonderful book that affirms and encourages AcoAs by developing skills for living. Imagine how good you would feel if · You could stand up for yourself without losing your temper · You could make a decision without second guessing yourself · You didn't have that sense of worthlessness every time someone criticized you · You could learn how to say no and stick with it In Lifeskills for Adult Children you can learn how to do these things and more. This book is designed specifically for Adult Children and teaches skills to make your complex adult life easier, while improving your sense of self-worth. Examples are provided to help clarify the lessons and exercises are given to help you practice your new skills. So, if you have difficulty · Asking for what you want · Solving problems · Handling criticism · Saying no read Lifeskills for Adult Children - you'll be glad you did.

Download or read book Twelve Steps of Adult Children written by and published by . This book was released on 2007-03 with total page 192 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This is the conference-approved companion workbook to the ACA Fellowship Text that is Adult Children of Alcoholics World Service Organization (ACA WSO) Conference Approved Literature. Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families (ACA) is an independent 12 Step and 12 Tradition anonymous program.

Download or read book Don t let Your Kids Kill You written by Charles Rubin and published by SCB Distributors. This book was released on 2011-02-12 with total page 200 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Defies the myth that parents must sacrific themselves. Instead, shows them how to reclaim their power, balance, happiness...and lives. When kids turn to substance abuse, parents also become victims as they watch their children transform into irrational and antisocial individuals. This harrowing scenario finds parents buckling beneath the stress--often with catastrophoric consequences: Divorce, career upsets, breakdowns and worse. "Don't Let Your Kids Kill You" is a landmark work that dares focus on the plight of the confused, distressed parent and not the erring child. It sets aside any preconceived ideas that parents are to blame for what is essentially a full-blown global crisis. Drawing on interviews with parents who've survived the heartbreak of kids on drugs, combined with his own experience, Charles Rubin provides practical advice on how parents can help themselves and their families by first attending to their own needs. Liberation begins when you open this book.

Download or read book Recovery written by Herbert L. Gravitz and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2015-12-29 with total page 152 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Rich with insight and awareness, Recovery explores the secrets, fears, hopes and issues that confront adult children of alcoholics. Authors and widely respected therapists and ACOA workshop leaders Herbert Gravitz and Julie Bowden detail in a clear question-and-answer format the challenges of control and inadequacy that ACOAs face as they struggle for recovery and understanding, stage-by-stage: Survival * Emergent Awareness * Core Issues * Transformations * Integration * Genesis. If you feel troubled by your post, Recovery will start you on the path of self-awareness, as it explores the searching questions adult children of alcoholics seek to hove answered: * How con I overcome my need for control? * Do all ACOAs ploy the some kind of roles in the family? * How do I overcome my fear of intimacy? * What is all-or-none functioning? * How can ACOAs maintain self-confidence and awareness after recovery? * How do ACOAs handle the family after understanding its influence? * And many other important questions about your post, family and feelings. Written with warmth, joy and real understanding, Recovery will inspire you to meet the challenges of the post and overcome the obstacles to your happiness.

Download or read book The Laundry List written by Tony A. and published by Hci. This book was released on 1990-01-01 with total page 138 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The originator of the ACoA "Laundry Lists" gives an insider's view of the early days of the ACoA movement. Tony A. discusses what it means to be an adult child of an alcoholic parent and what the self-help group can do for its members. Includes stories, history and helpful information for the ACoA.

Download or read book Parent of an Adult Addict written by Arlene Boehnlein-Rice and published by Createspace Independent Pub. This book was released on 2014-05-08 with total page 84 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Parent of An Adult Addict offers priceless insight into what one Christian family experienced the night their daughter was found unconscious in their basement from an overdose of heroin. Exploring the questions which most often press parents of addicts, Arlene Boehnlein-Rice shares hard earned wisdom and education on the signs and symptoms a parent needs to know to spot suspected drug abuse by their child, resources for finding support, practical approaches in dealing with your child, and encouragement to know you are not alone on this road. Once Arlene Boehnlein-Rice began to share her story, phone calls and emails began to stream in from other parents asking questions of how to get help, what to do, and what not to do for their heroin addicted adult child. Even though their daughter survived her overdose Arlene Boehnlein-Rice and her husband Keith's story continues by leaving you with a parent's worst nightmare. The powerful tragic ending leads to a family's faith being tested to its very core. The author, a seminary graduate, reveals lessons she has learned along this difficult trail of being a parent of an addict. But rather than turning from her faith or abandoning the God she'd depended upon, Arlene eventually finds a deeper hope and a renewed faith to continue to persevere no matter her child's outcome. As you read this grievous yet compelling account, you will find direction for the next step and encouragement after life's difficulties. Whether you are new to the journey or a seasoned sojourner on this trajectory as a parent of an addict, you will find guidance and inspiration in this heart-wrenching real life story.

Download or read book Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children written by Allison Bottke and published by Harvest House Publishers. This book was released on 2019-12-03 with total page 226 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This important and compassionate new book from the creator of the successful God Allows U-Turns series will help parents and grandparents of the many adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones. Writing from firsthand experience, Allison identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in bondage—and how she overcame them. Additional real life stories from other parents are woven through the text. A tough–love book to help readers cope with dysfunctional adult children, Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.—a six–step program to help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives. S = STOP Enabling, STOP Blaming Yourself, and STOP the Flow of Money A = Assemble a Support Group N = Nip Excuses in the Bud I = Implement Rules/Boundaries T = Trust Your Instincts Y = Yield Everything to God Foreword by Carol Kent (When I Lay My Isaac Down)

Download or read book When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart written by Joel Young and published by Rowman & Littlefield. This book was released on 2013-12-03 with total page 267 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Behind nearly every adult who is accused of a crime, becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol, or who is severely mentally ill and acting out in public, there is usually at least one extremely stressed-out parent. This parent may initially react with the bad news of their adult child behaving badly with, "Oh no!" followed by, "How can I help to fix this?" A very common third reaction is the thought, "Where did I go wrong--was it something I said or did, or that I failed to do when my child was growing up that caused these issues? Is this really somehow all my fault?" These parents then open their homes, their pocketbooks, their hearts, and their futures to "saving" their adult child--who may go on to leave them financially and emotionally broken. Sometimes these families also raise the children their adult children leave behind: 1.6 million grandparents in the U.S. are in this situation. This helpful book presents families with quotations and scenarios from real suffering parents (who are not identified), practical advice, and tested strategies for coping. It also discusses the fact that parents of adult children may themselves need therapy and medications, especially antidepressants. The book is written in a clear, reassuring manner by Dr. Joel L. Young, medical director of the Rochester Center for Behavioral Medicine in Rochester Hills, Michigan; with noted medical writer Christine Adamec, author of many books in the field. In the wake of the Newtown shooting and the viral popularity of the post "I Am Adam Lanza's Mother," America is now taking a fresh look, not only at gun control, but also on how we treat mental illness. Another major issue is our support or stigmatization of those with adult children who are a major risk to their families as well to society itself. This book is part of that conversation.

Download or read book Divine Intervention written by Mark E. Shaw and published by Focus Publishing (MN). This book was released on 2007-10-01 with total page 114 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Divine Intervention will bring encouragement and hope to family members, friends, spouses or loved ones of an addict. It will challenge your thinking about addiction and enable you to best help your addicted loved one in a biblical manner. The task will not be easy; you cannot trust your feelings. But you can trust the Word of God, and the leading of the Holy Spirit. -- cover

Download or read book Addict in the Family written by Beverly Conyers and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2021-10-26 with total page 208 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The family recovery classic, Addict in the Family, has been revised and updated to offer parents and other family members even greater support when faced with the reality of a loved one’s addiction. Solid, actionable advice and information about what helps and what doesn’t—and how to care for themselves—make this an indispensable guide. For families of addicts, fear, shame, and confusion over a loved one’s addiction can cause deep anxiety, sleepless nights, and even physical illness. The emotional distress family members suffer is often compounded by the belief that they somehow caused or contributed to their loved one’s addiction—or that they could have done something to prevent it. Addict in the Family is a book about the pain of addiction, but more importantly it is a book of comfort, understanding, and hope for anyone struggling with a loved one’s addiction. As the compelling personal stories reveal, family members do not cause their loved one’s addiction—nor can they control or cure it. What family members can do is find support, set boundaries, detach with love, and eventually discover how to enjoy life more fully. This book helps them do just that—whether the loved one achieves recovery or not.