Download or read book When Someone You Love Is Addicted to Something You Hate written by Barbara Ryan and published by . This book was released on 2021-10-07 with total page 49 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Frustrated over love-destroying behaviors in a loved one? Ready to throw in the towel and give up on or divorce your addict? Tired of spending thousands of dollars on treatments that don''t seem to work? Then this book is for you. Written by someone who has lived with an addict in the family for her entire life, this booklet offers a practical, scientific and Biblical approach to help you help your loved one struggling with addiction. It explains the why behind the what of your loved one''s frustrating behaviors and offers a roadmap that will lead to your recovery, and hopefully, your loved one''s recovery. Clear-eyed and realistic, this concise booklet is a must-read for family members and their pastoral caregivers to be on the same page and to speak with one loving voice to the suffering loved one. Included in the booklet is a link to a video of the Ryans'' story of rescue from a marriage nearly shipwrecked by narcotic addiction that can be used as a discussion-generating tool for groups or couples seeking recovery. Barbara Dixon Ryan is a lawyer, substance abuse counselor, peer recovery specialist and a lover of people. She has taken seminary level courses from the Christian Counseling and Education Foundation and is an avid reader and gleaner in the field of substance abuse recovery. She has been active in her own recovery community for 15 years and writes, counsels and teaches on Biblical themes. She is the mother of three, the grandmother of three, and wife of one (with whom separation-unto-reconciliation was twice necessary). Her youngest daughter is non-verbal, severely developmentally challenged and is on the autism spectrum. The Lord God has given her the tongue of one who has been taught, so that she can sustain others who are weary with words of encouragement. (Isaiah 50:4 is her life verse.) She can be reached at [email protected]. Barbara knows the hell of addiction....her book is a guide through the labyrinth of relational, emotional and institutional chaos. I am enormously grateful that my clients will now have an ally that wisely provides a coherent and robust way forward...a must-read. Dan B. Allender, Ph.D.; Professor of Counseling Psychology and Founding President, The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology Barbara Dixon Ryan writes from both the head and the heart, having experienced firsthand the grief of loving an addict....I recommend this volume to anyone who finds themselves loving someone who is addicted to something they hate. Kathy Keller, author and co-founder with Tim Keller, Redeemer Presbyterian Church, New York City "I wish I had had this booklet twenty years ago! Helpful, concise and wise. I highly recommend it." Rev. Dr. John Yates, Rector, the Falls Church Epsicopal/Anglican, 1979-2019 Do not read this book unless you want to learn, step-by-step, how tough Christian love is more powerful than the worst addiction has to offer. But if you need to know what to do, from intervention to relinquishment, this booklet is for you. Robert S. Brown, MD, Ph.D., COL (Ret.), formerly Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, School of Medicine, and Professor of Education, University of Virginia "The ''opioid epidemic'' is no abstraction. It touches almost every family and this publication is the practical aide you need, grounded in neuroscience, theology, and personal wisdom. I highly endorse Barbara''s work." Dawn Murphy Phillips, Former Assistant Prosecutor, Virginia Courts, currently a Child Advocacy Attorney Barbara Ryan lives, writes, and knows addiction-in-the-family recovery fully. She has been a resource for me and will be a resource for you. She knows the questions you have and points you to the answers you need. Reverend Mark Davis, Senior Pastor, Park Cities Presbyterian Church, Dallas, Texas

Download or read book Loving Someone in Recovery written by Beverly Berg and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2014-02-02 with total page 159 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Recovering addicts are faced with many challenges, and these challenges can often extend to their romantic partners. During the recovery period, couples often struggle with overcoming feelings of betrayal and frustration, and may have a hard time rebuilding trust and closeness. While there are many resources available to recovering addicts, there are limited resources for the people who love them. In Loving Someone in Recovery, therapist Beverly Berg offers powerful tools for the partners of recovering addicts. Based in mindfulness, attachment theory, and neurobiology, this book will help readers sustain emotional stability in their relationships, increase effective communication, establish boundaries, and take real steps toward reigniting intimacy. The material in this book is drawn from the author’s successful Conscious Couples Recovery Workshop. With more than 25 years in the field, she has developed a unique set of exercises that address the issues faced by couples in recovery. This book addresses the roles that both partners play in recovery, and aims to help readers develop a new appreciation for one another and improve self-confidence and acceptance. The road to recovery is never an easy one, but by building a strong support system, the chances of success are exponentially greater. For more information on Berg’s work, visit consciouscouplesrecovery.com

Download or read book Loving an Addict Loving Yourself written by Candace Plattor and published by Being At Choice Consultants. This book was released on 2016-10-28 with total page 162 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Are you feeling exasperated and helpless about your family member's addiction? Are you at your wit's end, having tried everything you can think of to make them stop? If someone you love is engaging in addictive behaviors such as alcohol and drug misuse, eating disorders, smoking, gambling, Internet addiction, sex addiction, compulsive overspending, or relationship addiction, you are undoubtedly experiencing unpredictability in your relationship. Some of the most common emotions you will experience include: - Guilt and shame - Anger and anxiety - Confusion and powerlessness Whether the addict in your life is your spouse, partner, parent, child, friend, or colleague, the key to changing this reality for yourself lies in shifting your focus from your loved one's addiction to you own self-care. This book presents a dramatically fresh approach to help you get off the roller-coaster chaos of addiction, maintain your own sanity and serenity, and live your best life.

Download or read book Helping the Addict You Love written by Laurence M. Westreich, MD and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2007-04-17 with total page 322 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: It's okay to love them. It's your right to help them. Addiction destroys people and can even end lives. When you know or suspect that someone you love is suffering from addiction you have two goals: getting your loved one into treatment and turning that treatment into full-fledged sobriety. Many addiction experts tell you that you have to disengage or risk being an enabler, a codependent bystander, in the wreckage of an addict's life; that you have to cut all ties or be taken advantage of financially and emotionally; that you have to protect yourself from your loved one, who isn't the person you used to know. But many friends and family members find it unnatural, even impossible, to turn away from a person they love who is at his lowest point, and refuse to believe that their addict is lost to addiction. Backed by his years of experience, Dr. Westreich guides you through the process of getting the addict you love on the road to treatment and recovery. He provides detailed scripts to lead you through pivotal conversations with the addict in your life, highlighting the words that he's found to be most effective and the words to avoid. With this book in hand, family and friends will know, for example, how to motivate their addict to recognize his problem based on the addict's own definition of what addiction looks like; how to "raise the bottom" that addicts so often must hit to a more acceptable level -- such as embarrassment, job loss, or ill health; and when to use gentle disagreement, quiet listening, or forceful confrontation to move the addict toward treatment, while managing and protecting their own emotions. Dr. Westreich also shows you how to engage a therapist in the process and provides methods for combating an addict's defense mechanisms. By outlining several treatment options, he helps you to weigh what each can and cannot accomplish, which is the most effective treatment for the kind of addiction you are dealing with, what each treatment requires of the recovering addict and the friend or family member, and how successful each is. Dr. Westreich also takes care to discuss the kinds of special situations you may face when the addict in your life, in addition to having a substance abuse problem, is a minor, is pregnant, has mental or medical diseases, or has other issues that are likely to affect recovery. Helping the Addict You Love is the guide that so many loved ones of addicts have desperately needed. Dr. Westreich supports you through the emotional process of helping the addict you love, tells you it's okay to want to help, and teaches you how to do so.

Download or read book Addiction to Love written by Susan Peabody and published by Celestial Arts. This book was released on 2011-04-13 with total page 217 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Love addiction manifests in many forms, from Fatal Attraction-type obsessive lust to less extreme but nonetheless psychologically and emotionally harmful forms. The most common of these is staying in a bad relationship because of a fear of being alone-the "I hate you but don't leave me" relationship. In ADDICTION TO LOVE, recovering love addict Susan Peabody explains the variety of ways this disorder plays out, from the obsessively doting love addict to the addict who can't disentangle from an unfulfilling, dead-end relationship. Peabody provides an in-depth and easy-to-follow recovery program for those suffering from this unhealthy and often dangerous addiction and explains how to create a loving, safe, and fulfilling relationship. • A seminal work on unhealthy and obsessive behaviors in love, and how to change behavior to have a positive relationship. This third edition includes a new introduction and revisions to the text throughout. • Some symptoms of love addiction include love at first sight, excessive fantasizing, abnormal jealousy, nagging, and accepting dishonesty. • Even relationships with parents, children, siblings, or friends may be addictive-dependency is not always related to romantic love. • Previous editions have sold more than 40,000 copies. "Love addiction is a three-headed serpent that Susan Peabody adeptly slays. This is the quintessential book for any love addict or counselor needing to fully understand this highly prevalent and complex disorder. Susan detects and dissects aspects of this condition not comprehended in other books of its kind. Recovery is possible. This book makes it possible to take the succinct steps necessary toward a loving and reciprocal long-term intimate relationship." —Sudi Scull, M.F.T., C.N., psychotherapist and nutritionist

Download or read book When Someone You Love Is Addicted to Alchohol Or Drugs written by Jim Maclaine and published by Random House Australia. This book was released on 2001 with total page 290 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This classic title has helped thousands of Australians. Now revised and updated for the new millennium, it will reach thousands more - and save lives. If you know someone with a drinking or drug problem then this guide is for you. Psychologist Jim Maclaine, one of Australia's most experienced and respected drug/alcohol counsellors, provides invaluable advice and proven strategies that can help you reach out to someone you love and make a difference. This revised and expanded edition shows you- *** how to develop realistic and positive ways of coping *** strategies for improving the addicted person's chance of recovery *** how to communicate openly with them and assist them in seeking help *** And a new chapter on heroin details the difference between heroin and other addictions, debunks common myths about heroin use, and discusses the most up-to-date treatments for heroin addiction. In his reassuring and practical style, Jim Maclaine shows how you can help someone addicted to alcohol or drugs to turn their lives around. 'This book provides the beginning of self-change - the only way you can help an addicted person' - Gabrielle Lord

Download or read book Is It Love Or Is It Addiction written by Brenda Schaeffer and published by M J F Books. This book was released on 1995-04 with total page 180 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Offers advice & a practical guide to making relationships work

Download or read book Understanding and Loving a Person with Alcohol or Drug Addiction written by Stephen Arterburn and published by David C Cook. This book was released on 2018-04-01 with total page 115 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This compassionate and helpful book educates both the mind and heart in the power of addiction and the way to help others find healing. When a family member or friend is addicted to drugs or alcohol the situation can feel hopeless and confusing. In this book, David Stoop and Stephen Arterburn help readers develop a plan of action by offering: • Insight into brain chemistry and addiction • Real-life ideas for encouraging healthy choices • Guidance in how to help without enabling • The connection between depression, ADD, and trauma Stoop and Arterburn have helped thousands of people around the country understand chemical addiction and how to love someone well in the midst of this gripping disease.

Download or read book Facing Love Addiction reissue written by Pia Mellody and published by Harper Collins. This book was released on 2011-11-22 with total page 37 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A brilliant new guide to understanding the origins of codependence and the path to recovery by a nationally recognized authority on dependency and addiction. In this fresh new look at codependence, Pia Mellody traces the origins of this illness back to childhood, describing a whole range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Because of these earlier experiences, codependent adults often lack the skills necessary to lead mature lives and have satisfying relationships. Recovery from codependence comes from clearing up the toxic feelings left over from childhood and learning to reparent oneself by intervening on the adult symptoms of codependence. Central to Mellody's concept is the idea of the "precious child" that needs healing within each adult. She creates a framework for identifying codependent behavior and describes an effective approach to recovery that includes both therapy and self-help processes. Designed to be used with her new workbook for codependents, Breaking Free, this is a powerful tool for understanding the nature of codependence.

Download or read book Prodependence written by Robert Weiss and published by Health Communications, Inc.. This book was released on 2018-09-18 with total page 170 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "Prodependence," a new psychological term created by Robert Weiss to describe healthy interdependence in the modern world, turns this around. Rather that preaching detachment and distance over continued bonding and assistance, as so many therapists, self-help books, and 12-step groups currently do, prodependence celebrates the human need for and pursuit of intimate connection, viewing this as a positive force for change. Simply stated, prodependence occurs when attachment relationships are mutually beneficial--with one person's strengths filling in the weak points of the other, and vice versa. And this can occur even when an addiction is present

Download or read book Addicted to You written by Krista Ritchie and published by Penguin. This book was released on 2022-08-16 with total page 385 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The TikTok sensation Addicted to You, now in a print edition with special bonus material! She's addicted to sex. He's addicted to booze...the only way out is rock bottom. Fall in love with Lily and Lo in this edgy new adult romance set in a world of lust, fame, swoon-worthy men, and friendships that run deeper than blood in this special edition with bonus materials—in print only! No one would suspect shy Lily Calloway's biggest secret. While everyone is dancing at college bars, Lily stays in the bathroom. To get laid. Her compulsion leads her to one-night stands, steamy hookups and events she shamefully regrets. The only person who knows her secret happens to have one of his own. Loren Hale's best friend is his bottle of bourbon. Lily comes at a close second. For three years, they've pretended to be in a real relationship, hiding their addictions from their families. They've mastered the art of concealing flasks and random guys that filter in and out of their apartment. But as they sink beneath the weight of their addictions, they cling harder to their destructive relationship and wonder if a life together, for real, is better than a lie. Strangers and family begin to infiltrate their guarded lives, and with new challenges, they realize they may not just be addicted to alcohol and sex. Their real vice may be each other.

Download or read book How to Break Your Addiction to a Person written by Howard Marvin Halpern and published by . This book was released on 2004 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "Are you in lov - or addicted? How to know when to call it quits ... and how to find the courage to do it. Are you unable to leave a love relationship even though it gives you more paain than joy? Your judgment and self-respect tell you to end it, but still, to your dismay, you hang on. You are addicted--to a person. Now there is an insightful, step-by-step guide to breaking that addiction--and surviving the split. Drawing on dozens of provocative case histories, psychotherapist Howard Helpern explains to you: why you can get addicted to a person, why and how you may try t deceive yourself ('he really loves me, he just doesn't know how to show it'), how you can recognize the symptoms of a bad relationship, how to deal with the power moves and guilt trips your partner uses to hold you, why strong feelings of jealousy do not mean you are 'in love', how to get through the agonizing breakup period - without going back, how not to get caught in such a painful relationship again."-- Back cover.

Download or read book Loving an Addict Loving Yourself written by Candace Plattor and published by Being at Choice Consultants. This book was released on 2011-12 with total page 191 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This workbook helps readers understand what will and won't work in their relationships with their addicted loved ones--and in their relationships with themselves. As people become familiar with the top 10 survival tips for loving someone with an addiction, they will learn how to offer healthier and more effective choices to the addicted loved one.

Download or read book Love Addict written by Ethlie Ann Vare and published by Health Communications, Inc.. This book was released on 2011-09 with total page 266 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Neuroscience now shows us--in living color, thanks to PET scans and fMRI technology--that falling in love affects our brains precisely the same way as snorting cocaine. Award-winning author and screenwriter Ethlie Ann Vare already knew that; she's been addicted to both. She survived to tell the tale . . . with humor, honesty, and hope. Just because something is addictive doesn't mean that you will get addicted to it. But . . . if your stomach ties up in knots while you count the seconds waiting for a phone call from that special someone . . . if you hear a loud buzzing in your ears when you see a certain person's car (or one just like it) . . . if your eyes burn when you hear a random love song or see a couple holding hands . . . if you suffer the twin agonies of craving for and withdrawing from a series of unrequited crushes or toxic relationships . . . if you always feel like you're clutching at someone's ankle and dragged across the floor as they try to leave the room . . . welcome to the club. With a light touch and a sharp wit, Ethlie has enlisted some famous love junkies--including supermodel Amber Smith, movie star William McNamara, and comedienne Margaret Cho--and the top therapists and researchers in the field to help lead you from the dark of despair into the dawn of recovery.

Download or read book When Someone You Love is Addicted to Sex written by Mic Hunter and published by Wellness Institute, Inc.. This book was released on 2000-11 with total page 136 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This authoritative guide to explaining the tragic life of individuals addicted to sex, offers helpful information to their partners who struggle with it.

Download or read book Personality Disorders and Eating Disorders written by Randy A. Sansone and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2013-08-21 with total page 322 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Personality Disorders and Eating Disorders explores and defines the multifaceted relationship between these two fields in a cogent synthesis of prevalence, etiology, and treatment. The book brings together leading specialists in both fields, with a clinical focus on such topical issues as genetics, drug abuse, and childhood trauma—as they relate to each field and as they affect the relationship between the two disorders. Therapists who treat eating disorders will find the material on treatment approaches especially helpful in formulating interventions with particularly difficult patients. Therapists who work with patients with personality disorders will find that the interface between personality and eating disorders is relevant to various aspects of self-destructive behavior observed in these individuals. This unique book enhances the assessment and treatment of individuals suffering from personality disorders and eating disorders, and it augments the understanding of both populations, while establishing a foundation for discussing each as they interface with one another.

Download or read book When Someone You Love Is Addicted written by Jessica Hanan and published by The Rosen Publishing Group, Inc. This book was released on 1998-12-15 with total page 68 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Discusses how and why people may become addicted to drugs or alcohol, the effects such addictions can have on family members and friends, and ways to get help.