Download or read book What Do Gay Men Want written by David Halperin and published by University of Michigan Press. This book was released on 2010-04-20 with total page 184 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: “ Compelling, timely, and provocative. The writing is sleek and exhilarating. It doesn’ t waste time telling us what it will do or what it has just done— it just does it.” — Don Kulick, Professor of Anthropology, New York University How we can talk about sex and risk in the age of barebacking— or condomless sex— without invoking the usual bogus and punitive cliché s about gay men’ s alleged low self-esteem, lack of self-control, and other psychological “ deficits” ? Are there queer alternatives to psychology for thinking about the inner life of homosexuality? What Do Gay Men Want? explores some of the possibilities. Unlike most writers on the topic of gay men and risky sex, David Halperin liberates gay male subjectivity from psychology, demonstrating the insidious ways in which psychology’ s defining opposition between the normal and the pathological subjects homosexuality to medical reasoning and revives a whole set of unexamined moral assumptions about “ good” sex and “ bad” sex. In particular, Halperin champions neglected traditions of queer thought, including both literary and popular discourses, by drawing on the work of well-known figures like Jean Genet and neglected ones like Marcel Jouhandeau. He shows how the long history of of gay men’ s uses of “ abjection” can offer an alternative, nonmoralistic model for thinking about gay male subjectivity, something which is urgently needed in the age of barebacking. Anyone searching for nondisciplinary ways to slow the spread of HIV/AIDS among gay men— or interested in new modes of thinking about gay male subjectivity— should read this book. David M. Halperin is W. H. Auden Collegiate Professor of the History and Theory of Sexuality, Professor of English, Professor of Women’ s Studies, Professor of Comparative Literature, and Adjunct Professor of Classical Studies at the University of Michigan.
Download or read book How To Be Gay written by David M. Halperin and published by Harvard University Press. This book was released on 2012-08-21 with total page 421 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: No one raises an eyebrow if you suggest that a guy who arranges his furniture just so, rolls his eyes in exaggerated disbelief, likes techno music or show tunes, and knows all of Bette Davis's best lines by heart might, just possibly, be gay. But if you assert that male homosexuality is a cultural practice, expressive of a unique subjectivity and a distinctive relation to mainstream society, people will immediately protest. Such an idea, they will say, is just a stereotype-ridiculously simplistic, politically irresponsible, and morally suspect. The world acknowledges gay male culture as a fact but denies it as a truth. David Halperin, a pioneer of LGBTQ studies, dares to suggest that gayness is a specific way of being that gay men must learn from one another in order to become who they are. Inspired by the notorious undergraduate course of the same title that Halperin taught at the University of Michigan, provoking cries of outrage from both the right-wing media and the gay press, How To Be Gay traces gay men's cultural difference to the social meaning of style. Far from being deterred by stereotypes, Halperin concludes that the genius of gay culture resides in some of its most despised features: its aestheticism, snobbery, melodrama, adoration of glamour, caricatures of women, and obsession with mothers. The insights, impertinence, and unfazed critical intelligence displayed by gay culture, Halperin argues, have much to offer the heterosexual mainstream.
Download or read book 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives written by Joe Kort and published by ReadHowYouWant.com. This book was released on 2010-11-26 with total page 322 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Openly gay therapist Joe Kort provides 10 powerful and positive steps gay men can take to isolate and overcome self-defeating behavior patterns, and move in healthier and more rewarding directions: Take Charge of Their Own Lives Affirm Themselves by Coming Out Resolve Differences With Parents and Relatives 'Graduate' From Delayed Adolescence Avoid - or Overcome - Sexual Addiction -Learn from Successful Mentors Whove Been There, Done That Take Advantage of 'Therapy Workouts' Achieve - and Maintain - Rewarding Relationships Understand the Stages of Loves Commit to Their Partner.These solid and reliable 'Top 10' life steps that have been most helpful to Joe Korts clients in his 16 years of working with hundreds of gay men, are presented in an engaging and easy-to-understand manner and are supplemented by case histories from his practice. These are time-tested, practical decisions gay men can make in their search for emotional, sexual and personal fulfillment
Download or read book Codependent No More written by Melody Beattie and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2009-06-10 with total page 217 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In a crisis, it's easy to revert to old patterns. Caring for your well-being during the coronavirus pandemic includes maintaining healthy boundaries and saying no to unhealthy relationships. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else's, you may be codependent--and you may find yourself in this book--Codependent No More. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency--charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness. Melody Beattie is the author of Beyond Codependency, The Language of Letting Go, Stop Being Mean to Yourself, The Codependent No More Workbook and Playing It by Heart.
Download or read book The Gay Man s Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage written by Michael Dale Kimmel and published by Rowman & Littlefield. This book was released on 2017-06-09 with total page 300 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Legal gay marriage is still a relatively new phenomenon. As gay men who are now able to get married, we find ourselves in a bit of a quandary: for many male couples, sex is a lot more important for us than it is for heterosexuals. Two married men often have a stronger desire for sex - wanting more of it and with a wider variety of partners - than married opposite-sex couples. How does this work within the structure of a monogamous marriage? Is an open relationship a better structure for gay marriage? Assuming that gay marriages will emulate heterosexual marriages is neither a valid nor a helpful assumption. But, as gay men, where does that leave us? There are currently no “rule books” for how a marriage between two men could or should work. While there are lots of books about how to plan your gay wedding, there are virtually none that address what to do after the honeymoon is over (literally and figuratively). This book fills that void. It offers married gay couples (and gay men considering marriage) an easy-to-follow, practical framework that they can use to help create, adjust and structure their marriages. Using helpful examples and first-hand quotes throughout, Openly-gay psychotherapist Michael Dale Kimmel offers a roadmap for gay men who want to be married but have questions and concerns about monogamy and monotony.
Download or read book The Velvet Rage written by Alan Downs and published by Da Capo Lifelong Books. This book was released on 2006-04-25 with total page 224 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The gay male world today is characterized by seductive beauty, artful creativity, flamboyant sexuality, and, encouragingly, unprecedented acceptability in society. Yet despite the progress of the recent past, gay men still find themselves asking, "Are we really better off?" The inevitable byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, a shame gay men may strive to obscure with a fa?ade of beauty, creativity, or material success. Drawing on contemporary psychological research, the author's own journey to be free of anger and of shame, as well as the stories of many of his friends and clients, The Velvet Rage outlines the three distinct stages to emotional well-being for gay men. Offering profoundly beneficial strategies to stop the insidious cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior, The Velvet Rage is an empowering book that will influence the public discourse on gay culture, and positively change the lives of gay men who read it.
Download or read book Strung Out written by Erin Khar and published by Harlequin. This book was released on 2020-02-25 with total page 296 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: “This is a story she needed to tell; and the rest of the country needs to listen.” — New York Times Book Review “This vital memoir will change how we look at the opioid crisis and how the media talks about it. A deeply moving and emotional read, STRUNG OUT challenges our preconceived ideas of what addiction looks like.” —Stephanie Land, New York Times bestselling author of Maid In this deeply personal and illuminating memoir about her fifteen-year struggle with heroin, Khar sheds profound light on the opioid crisis and gives a voice to the over two million people in America currently battling with this addiction. Growing up in LA, Erin Khar hid behind a picture-perfect childhood filled with excellent grades, a popular group of friends and horseback riding. After first experimenting with her grandmother’s expired painkillers, Khar started using heroin when she was thirteen. The drug allowed her to escape from pressures to be perfect and suppress all the heavy feelings she couldn’t understand. This fiercely honest memoir explores how heroin shaped every aspect of her life for the next fifteen years and details the various lies she told herself, and others, about her drug use. With enormous heart and wisdom, she shows how the shame and stigma surrounding addiction, which fuels denial and deceit, is so often what keeps addicts from getting help. There is no one path to recovery, and for Khar, it was in motherhood that she found the inner strength and self-forgiveness to quit heroin and fight for her life. Strung Out is a life-affirming story of resilience while also a gripping investigation into the psychology of addiction and why people turn to opioids in the first place.
Download or read book Mostly Straight written by Ritch C. Savin-Williams and published by Harvard University Press. This book was released on 2017-11-13 with total page 251 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Based on research, the author explores in this publication the personal stories of forty young men to help us understand the biological and psychological factors that led them to become mostly straight and the cultural forces that are loosening the sexual bind that many boys and young men experience.
Download or read book Growth and Intimacy for Gay Men written by Christopher J Alexander and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2014-04-04 with total page 306 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Growth and Intimacy for Gay Men: A Workbook is an educational workbook for gay men that covers a variety of topics, including family of origin, addiction, self-image, dating and relationships, AIDS and multiple loss, and spirituality. Each chapter provides an overview of the mental health concerns of gay men, as well as exercises the reader can do to facilitate his personal understanding of the issues covered. While the book is written in nontechnical language, making it useful to the general public, its wide selection of workbook exercises makes it useful for psychotherapists and counselors working with gay men. Growth and Intimacy for Gay Men is written to the reader--with brief examples from the author’s work as a clinical psychologist helping gay men. A central goal of the book is to normalize the feelings and experiences the reader has, as many gay men feel like they’re the only ones with their feelings or experiences. The book’s problem-solving approach addresses: family of origin--provides exercises to identify and examine gay men’s role in the family, examine their childhood perceptions of being different, and help them map out family patterns and dynamics self-image--includes self-image assessment questionnaires and written exercises that challenge the reader to look at how they’re affected by societal perceptions addiction--explores why gay men are vulnerable to addictive behavior and offers strategies for change and self-assessment exercises dating and relationships--covers the unique challenges faced by gay men, with exercises for single as well as coupled men AIDS and mental health--provides exercises to help the reader examine the impact of AIDS on his own life and to assess the impact of multiple loss and prolonged grief Readers can do the workbook exercises on their own, or therapists can assign chapters and exercises as homework, with clients bringing the completed assignment to therapy for more in-depth exploration and discussion. By providing informative chapters and useful exercises, Growth and Intimacy for Gay Men becomes an avenue through which gay men can understand their identity, experiences, and goals.
Download or read book The Soul Beneath the Skin written by David Nimmons and published by Macmillan. This book was released on 2003-11 with total page 280 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Among the most acclaimed books on the gay male experience, The Soul Beneath the Skin explores the wide variety of social and ethical experiments in gay men's lives, and their implications both for gay men and society at large. David Nimmons radically reinterprets gay men's sexuality, intimate relationships and ethics by looking at seven patterns of behavior widely practiced by gay men but rarely acknowledged: non-violent public culture; high rates of altruism, service, and volunteerism; robust sexual caretaking; friendship patterns of diffuse intimacies; friendship with women; diverse forms of sexual union; and unique forms of bliss and pleasure seeking. These social innovations, striking similar to the teachings of the great spiritual traditions, suggest a new and profound public ethics, a stirringly optimistic vision of a social revolution as radical as it is unnoticed.
Download or read book Queer Love in Color written by Jamal Jordan and published by Ten Speed Press. This book was released on 2021-05-04 with total page 226 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A photographic celebration of the love and relationships of queer people of color by a former New York Times multimedia journalist “Thank you, Jamal Jordan, for showing the world what true love looks like.”—Billy Porter Queer Love in Color features photographs and stories of couples and families across the United States and around the world. This singular, moving collection offers an intimate look at what it means to live at the intersections of queer and POC identities today, and honors an inclusive vision of love, affection, and family across the spectrum of gender, race, and age.
Download or read book Why Gay Guys are a Girl s Best Friend written by Karen Rauch Carter and published by Touchstone. This book was released on 1995 with total page 116 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In this collection of delighful illustrations and wise, witty words, Fessler and Rauch reveal the gem-like qualities that endear gay men to women. Each double-page spread contrasts a gay guy's perspective with a straight guy's take on the same issue. 45 line drawings.
Download or read book Good Men for Men written by Kyle Phoenix and published by CreateSpace. This book was released on 2014-01-02 with total page 378 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Everyone says they want a Good Man...and quite a few say they are Good Men. Whether you're same gender loving, bisexual, straight, homosexual, omnisexual or transsexual, this book will teach you what to measure manhood and masculinity by. Author, TV host and teacher, Kyle Phoenix has brought together all of the information, tips, strategies, action plans and identifiers that thousands of men around the world have taken advantage of to find a Good Man. Including: How to identify Good Men; How to date them---where to go, what to do, what not to do; What Good Men are looking for What Good Men avoid and why Who a Good Man is willing to be in your life and not. BONUS Chapters from Special Reports on Monogamy/Cheating in a Relationship and Dealing With it; Developing Intimacy (Skills and Exercises); and Communication (Skills and Exercises) Real life couples who've struggled with how to maintain a relationship with the challenges of life dreams, work, school, family, finances and sex then give you a peek into their unique solutions. You'll learn how to negotiate what works for you and what doesn't and more importantly how not to break up when the going gets rough in the first few weeks or few years. But what if you meet (or are) a Good Man on the cusp, how to enhance and improve to become a sensational, accountable and responsible Good Man. There's a detailed guide in here on not only things to work on in life but also the resources to make them happen. From work to starting a business to managing finances to understanding home buying to school navigation, proper sex safe sex techniques, including lubes and condoms, and much more. Then as an added BONUS for FREE the book also contains links to dozens of articles, agencies and informational sources around the world that will help you improve every area of your life. Also you'll have access to all of the Kyle Phoenix television shows, online video classes, blogs and Special Reports. This one has it all! Why do you need this book? Because you're worth it. Your sexuality is good and natural and should be shared and loved. All you need are the skills, the tips and strategies and you're sure to discover the Good Man within yourself. And you know what other Good Men are looking for? You guessed it! Good Men!
Download or read book When It s Time to Leave Your Lover written by Neil Kaminsky and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2014-04-04 with total page 276 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: When It's Time to Leave Your Lover: A Guide for Gay Men is for people who need help ending a gay male relationship that is no longer viable or for friends and family who want to support a gay man experiencing a breakup. This book provides tips on how to successfully cope with the post-breakup period and how to grow emotionally from the experience. You will discover how to tell a lover good-bye while learning about the psychological and social changes to be anticipated in this situation. When It's Time to Leave Your Lover gives you helpful, practical advice on how to cope with ending a relationship in a positive and constructive manner. This unique book contains actual interviews with gay men and vignettes that clearly illustrate the topics. They provide you with a deeper understanding of all aspects of the break-up period. When It's Time to Leave Your Lover is a unique how-to book that gives you helpful and practical advice on such important issues as: making an assessment of your relationship to determine if it is no longer viable constructively leaving your partner and making it a positive experience coping with the uncoupling experience by using specific techniques to avoid common mistakes such as the rebound relationship growing from your uncoupling experience so you can enjoy more fulfilling relationships in the future managing the social and psychological effects of a breakup through use of your support system of family and friends seeking support through specific organizations available in several different cities that help gay men deal with breakups Sincere and full of knowledgeable advice, When It's Time to Leave Your Lover offers proven suggestions that will help you revisit the mistakes you made during your relationship, preparing you for more satisfying relationships in the future that are based on compatibility, respect, and trust. A valuable and reader-friendly book, When It's Time to Leave Your Lover will enhance your understanding of the break-up experience and will help you understand, learn from, and get past the heartache of ending a relationship.
Download or read book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens Workbook written by Sean Covey and published by Mango Media Inc.. This book was released on 2015-11-15 with total page 57 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This completely updated and redesigned personal workbook companion to the bestselling The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens provides engaging activities, interactives and self-evaluations to help teens understand and apply the power of the 7 Habits. Sean Covey's The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens has sold more than 2 million copies and helped countless teens make better decisions and improve their sense of self-worth. Pairing new interactives with modern explanatory graphics, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens workbook reaches today’s teen generation effectively.
Download or read book Outside the Lines written by Christopher Hennessy and published by University of Michigan Press. This book was released on 2005-06-22 with total page 229 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Outside the Lines gathers interviews with some of the most significant poets in contemporary American poetry. While each poet is gay, these encompassing, craft-centered interviews reflect the diversity of their respective arts and serve as a testament to the impact gay poets have had and will continue to have on contemporary poetics. The book includes fourteen frank, intense interviews with some of America's best-known and loved poets, who have not only enjoyed wide critical acclaim but who have had lasting impact on both the gay tradition as well as the contemporary canon writ large, for example, J.D. McClatchy and Frank Bidart. Some of the most honored and respected poets, still in the middle of their careers, are also included, for example, Mark Doty and Carl Phillips. Each interview explores the poet's complete work to date, often illuminating the poet's technical evolution, emotional growth, probing shifts in theme, and even investigating links between verse and sexuality.
Download or read book Helping Gay Men Find Love written by Israel Martinez and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2017-09-18 with total page 116 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Navigating the complex dating world is difficult, but finding a life partner is particularly challenging for gay men. On the surface alone, the pool of options is significantly smaller, and potential matches can be hard to spot. But psychology also plays an important role. Growing up as a sexual minority often leads to insecurities and developmental issues particular to gay men, and these create roadblocks when attempting to build a healthy relationship. Author and psychotherapist Israel Martinez, LCSW, who himself identifies as gay, has helped many LGBT clients work through these obstacles in their efforts to find lasting love. His well-researched, well-tested, and effective techniques begin by addressing self-esteem issues and from there work toward building practical relationship skills. These skills, paired with sincere effort, will markedly increase the chances of finding-and sustaining-a healthy partnership. A straightforward and helpful guide, Helping Gay Men Find Love builds on itself chapter by chapter, guiding readers through each stage-from the first date to meeting the parents. This book gives gay men a better chance of acquiring what all human beings need: love and companionship.
