Download or read book Treating Borderline States in Marriage written by Charles Creath Mccormack and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2000-01-13 with total page 200 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: If one is bold enough to attempt couples' therapy one lesson soon emerges: there are couples, and there are couples. The normal/neurotic couple incorporates communicative-interactive tips and interventions directed towards effective communication, conflict resolution, problem-solving and enhanced intimacy. The personality-disordered marriage, even when managed with strategic skill and therapeutic acumen, too often seems impervious to change. The therapist is frequently left floundering and "at a loss." Charles McCormack navigates the reader around the reefs and through the doldrums that typically wreck or stall therapy with these couples. In doing so he also sheds light on the soft human underbelly of ALL marriages, reflecting, as they do, some degree of early trauma or impingement - now well-met in a partner. McCormack starts with the therapist's capacity to play and takes us on a journey of vigilance and courage to the recognition that, in working with borderline states in marital therapy, it is likely to be the THERAPIST'S resistance to understanding which may forestall - and then foreclose - the therapeutic process. McCormack uses exquisitely drawn vignettes which render the words as well as the "music" of sessions with these couples, transmitting the "feel" AND the "sense" of the sessions. In these couples we hear the echoes of their dreams and see the omnipresence of their nightmares wedded in their coupling. Each individual unabashedly - ruthlessly - uses the other as a self-object. Through resistance and oppositionalism the couple works to use the therapist as a self-object, too. McCormack makes the confusion in working with these couples clear. Using concepts derived from object relations, psychodynamics, self psychology and Ogden's theories of modes of human experience, McCormack sheds light on a unique treatment approach for working with borderline and other personality-disordered marriages. This light dawns gradually and not in a rushing flash of epiphany. What is unknown might not be unknowable; there may be a psycho-logic underlying what seems so "irrational." Therapy begins in the mind of the therapist. Through separate individual interactions within the dyadic context, Mr. McCormack works first to change each partner's relationship with the therapist, and THEN their relationship with one another. Sequential interactions with each member of the couple provide not only "role modeling," but create psychological space in the treatment room, allowing for the development of "thirdness," where the "Other" and "We" can come more fully into being. McCormack offers a myriad of techniques - such as the "deniable interpretation," the challenge to certainty, and teasing out and surfacing inconsistencies in narrative - all of which add to the therapist's armamentarium in this difficult but potentially rewarding process. A world that may seem unintelligible at the beginning of this book, the scorned world of the personality-disordered marriage, is made knowable by the end. Interventions rooted in "being" a therapist with a couple of Beings supplant the panicked urgency of "doing something, anything" about the couple's plight. McCormack's techniques create a pathway towards repair instead of annihilation, all the while reassuring us that "therapists are human, too." McCormack's book helps to bridge the obstacles impeding therapeutic work with these troubled and troubling couples. He lets us know, when we find ourselves "at wit's end," that this is a very good place to begin our work. Ronald E. Zuskin, MSW, DCSW
Download or read book Treating Borderline States in Marriage written by Charles C. McCormack and published by . This book was released on 2000 with total page 384 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: McCormack has constructed a new therapeutic approach to work with the acting-out, primitive defenses, and undifferentiated dyadic relationships characteristic of personality disordered couples. Creating a holding environment is just one of the techniques offered in this unique book that will enhance the capacities of every therapist.
Download or read book Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder written by Shari Y. Manning and published by Guilford Press. This book was released on 2011-08-18 with total page 253 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be intensely caring, warm, smart, and funny—but their behavior often drives away those closest to them. If you're struggling in a tumultuous relationship with someone with BPD, this is the book for you. Dr. Shari Manning helps you understand why your spouse, family member, or friend has such out-of-control emotions—and how to change the way you can respond. Learn to use simple yet powerful strategies that can defuse crises, establish better boundaries, and radically transform your relationship. Empathic, hopeful, and science based, this is the first book for family and friends grounded in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), the most effective treatment for BPD.
Download or read book Keeping Couples in Treatment written by Carl Bagnini and published by Jason Aronson. This book was released on 2012 with total page 221 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Keeping Couples in Treatment provides the theory and practice tools for the beginning to seasoned individual or couple therapist striving to keep couples in couple treatment and needing an in-depth method of assessment and treatment to accomplish the task.
Download or read book The Narcissistic Borderline Couple written by Joan Lachkar and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2004 with total page 249 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In this second edition of her groundbreaking book, Dr. Joan Lachkar addresses the ever-changing faces and phases of narcissism within the context of marital therapy and discusses the new developments in the treatment of marital conflict. Drawing from many different theoretical frameworks, mainly self-psychology (Kohut) and object relations (Klein), the works of D.W, Winnicott, and Kernberg are expanded to further explain why couples stay in painful, conflictual, never-ending relationships (traumatic bonding). The new chapters, case illustrations, and updated treatment sequences are invaluable to both beginning and experienced clinicians. The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple is an essential text for every marital therapist, offering an improved understanding of marital pathology within the framework of our changing world.--Publisher's description.
Download or read book Treating Difficult Couples written by Douglas K. Snyder and published by Guilford Press. This book was released on 2003-05-22 with total page 472 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This essential handbook describes effective treatments for a particularly challenging clinical population: couples struggling with both relationship distress and individual mental health difficulties. Distinguished scientist-practitioners provide detailed accounts of their respective approaches, reviewing conceptual and empirical foundations as well as clinical procedures. Included are well-established treatments for couples in which one or both partners has anxiety, mood disorders, schizophrenia, substance abuse, sexual dysfunction, or physical aggression. Also covered are emerging couple-based approaches to managing personality disorders, PTSD, difficulties related to aging and physical illness, and other problems. Following a standard format to facilitate comparison across treatments, each chapter is illustrated with detailed case material. Provided are powerful insights and tools for couple and family therapists, clinicians providing individual therapy, and students in any mental health discipline.
Download or read book Common Complaints in Couple Therapy written by Joan Lachkar and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2014-05-09 with total page 209 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Marriage and couple therapists see clients with broken relationships and bonds all the time; those who were once madly in love can grow indifferent, people change, and couples go into sessions feeling depressed, traumatized, and sometimes abused by their partners. Joan Lachkar examines the vicissitudes of love relations by taking into account aspects of aggression, cruelty, sadism, envy, and other primitive defenses lurking in the shadows of love and intimacy. Each chapter revolves around a specific situational conflict, with guidelines and treatment suggestions offered to the therapist. Numerous vignettes and detailed descriptions of theoretical technique, methodology, and diagnostic distinctions are included throughout the book to help readers see theory in action. The theoretical concepts drawn on include psychoanalysis, object relations, self-psychology, attachment theory, DBT, mindfulness, and others, with a heavy emphasis on listening and non-verbal and verbal communication throughout.
Download or read book Case Studies in Couples Therapy written by David K. Carson and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2013-06-19 with total page 483 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This up-to-date, highly readable, theory-based, and application-oriented book fills a crucial void in literature on couple therapy. Few books in the couple therapy market bridge the gap between theory and practice; texts tend to lean in one direction or the other, either emphasizing theory and research with little practical application, or taking a cookbook approach that describes specific techniques and interventions that are divorced from any conceptual or theoretical base. However, couples therapy requires a high degree of abstract/conceptual thinking, as well as ingenuity, inventiveness and skill on the part of the therapist. Case Studies in Couples Therapy blends the best of all worlds: clinical applications with challenging and diverse couples that have been derived from the most influential theories and models in couples and family therapy, all written by highly experienced and respected voices in the field. In Case Studies in Couples Therapy, readers will grasp the essentials of major theories and approaches in a few pages and then see how concepts and principles are applied in the work of well-known clinicians. The case studies incorporate a wide variety of couples from diverse backgrounds in a number of different life situations. It is simultaneously narrow (including specific processes and interventions applied with real clients) and broad (clearly outlining a broad array of theories and concepts) in scope, and the interventions in it are directly linked to theoretical perspectives in a clear and systematic way. Students and clinicians alike will find the theoretical overview sections of each chapter clear and easy to follow, and each chapter’s thorough descriptions of effective, practical interventions will give readers a strong sense of the connections between theory and practice.
Download or read book Splitting written by Bill Eddy and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2021-07-01 with total page 321 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This highly anticipated second edition of Splitting includes new chapters on abuse, alienation, and false allegations; as well as information about the four types of domestic violence, protective orders, and child custody disputes. Are you divorcing someone who’s making the process as difficult as possible? Are they sending you nasty emails, falsifying the truth, putting your children in the middle, abusing you, or abusing the system? Are they “persuasive blamers,” manipulating and fooling court personnel to get them on their side? If so, you need this book. For more than ten years, Splitting has served as the ultimate guide for people divorcing a high conflict person, one who often has borderline or narcissistic (or even antisocial) personality disorder. Among other things, it has saved readers thousands of dollars, helped them keep custody of their children, and effectively guided them through a difficult legal and emotional process. Written by a family law attorney and therapist, and the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells, Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a persuasive blamer: someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and/or antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). This second edition includes new information about antisocial personalities; expanded information about domestic violence, child abuse, alienation, and false allegations; how to approach protective orders and deal with child custody disputes; and a new chapter on how to successfully present your case to decision makers. Turn to this guide to help you: Predict what your spouse may do or say in court Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking Choose a lawyer who understands your case Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you If you need help navigating a high-conflict divorce from a manipulative spouse, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.
Download or read book Family Treatment of Personality Disorders written by Malcolm M Macfarlane and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2014-02-25 with total page 441 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Help families cope with the impact of personality dysfunction! Family Treatment of Personality Disorders: Advances in Clinical Practice examines the application of marital and family therapy approaches to the treatment of a wide range of personality disorders. Valuable on its own and doubly useful as a companion volume to Family Therapy and Mental Health: Innovations in Theory and Practice (Haworth), the book integrates traditional individual models with family systems models to provide a multidimensional approach to treating personality disorders. Each chapter is written by a family therapist with extensive experience treating personality disorders and includes a case example, an exploration of the impact of the disorder on family members, a look at cultural and gender issues, and an examination of how the model is integrated with traditional psychiatric services and the proper application of medication. Family Treatment of Personality Disorders is a single, accessible source for significant contributions to the emerging literature on family treatment approaches that, until now, have been scattered through journals representing a variety of disciplines. The book’s strong clinical focus provides a concise summary of relevant theory and interventions for effective treatment, including discussion of how to manage crises and acting out behavior. Edited by a practicing frontline clinician, the book provides an overview of the personality disorders field, examines the Structural Analysis of Social Behavior model and the Interpersonal Reconstructive Therapy approach, and presents detailed descriptions of key concepts and treatment approaches. Family Treatment of Personality Disorders focuses on specific DSM-IV personality disorders, including: borderline narcissistic histrionic obsessive-compulsive passive-aggressive avoidant dependent paranoid Family Treatment of Personality Disorders: Advances in Clinical Practice is an excellent resource for clinicians treating mental health problems and for academic work in family psychopathology and family therapy and mental health.
Download or read book The Narcissistic Borderline Couple written by Joan Lachkar and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2004-06-01 with total page 267 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In this second edition of her groundbreaking book, Dr. Joan Lachkar addresses the ever-changing faces and phases of narcissism within the context of marital therapy and discusses the new developments in the treatment of marital conflict. Drawing from many different theoretical frameworks, mainly self-psychology (Kohut) and object relations (Klein), the works of D.W, Winnicott, and Kernberg are expanded to further explain why couples stay in painful, conflictual, never-ending relationships (traumatic bonding). The new chapters, case illustrations, and updated treatment sequences are invaluable to both beginning and experienced clinicians. The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple is an essential text for every marital therapist, offering an improved understanding of marital pathology within the framework of our changing world.
Download or read book Happy Ever After written by Bruce Stevens and published by Australian Academic Press. This book was released on 2011-06-30 with total page 190 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Mary has brought Mark, recently returned from war service in Afghanistan, into counselling because of concerns for his gambling and how much it is costing the family. Is his military service playing some role in the increase in his gambling? Kylie has a problem with her anger. Brett is threatening to leave if her aggression is not better contained. Is her irritability that of an untreated depression or perhaps the brooding anger of a borderline personality disorder? Bettina is taking Lithium for bi-polar disorder and has just come out of hospital after a two-week admission related to her anorexia, and there is a need to closely monitor her weight. Natalie, her partner, is feeling highly stressed. She loves Bet, but feels overwhelmed be a responsibility to keep her alive. What support and guidance is best for Bettina? Much relationship counselling today is conducted by generalist psychologists, social workers, and counsellors. Yet there is a strong case for a greater role for clinical psychologists. Accurate assessment during couples therapy is essential, the dynamics between people are complex, and the process is potentially very demanding of clinical skills. This book provides an opportunity to make the argument for greater involvement in relationship counselling by the clinical psychology profession and to guide both clinical students and practitioners toward an informed and integrated approach to relationship counselling, drawing on the best evidence-based treatments.
Download or read book Easy Ego State Interventions Strategies for Working With Parts written by Robin Shapiro and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 2016-02-01 with total page 192 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Quick, essential techniques to practice ego state therapy, a popular therapeutic approach. Most of us have different aspects, “parts,” or “ego states” of ourselves—the silly and imaginative five-year-old part, for example, or the depressed, anxious, or angry adolescent—which manifest as particular moods, behaviors, and reactions depending on the demands of our external and internal environments. “Ego state therapy” refers to a powerful, flexible therapy that helps clients integrate and reconcile these distinct aspects of themselves. This book offers a grab bag of ego state interventions—simple, practical techniques for a range of client issues—that any therapist can incorporate in his or her practice. In her characteristic wise, compassionate, and user-friendly writing style, Robin Shapiro explains what ego states are, how to access them in clients, and how to use them for a variety of treatment issues. After covering foundational interventions for accessing positive adult states, creating internal caregivers, and working with infant and child states in Part I: Getting Started With Ego State Work, Shapiro walks readers step-by-step through a variety of specific interventions for specific problems, each ready for immediate application with clients. Part II: Problem-Specific Interventions includes chapters devoted to working with trauma, relationship challenges, personality disorders, suicidal ideation, and more. Ego state work blends easily, and often seamlessly, with most other modalities. The powerful techniques and interventions in this book can be used alone or combined with other therapies. They are suitable for garden-variety clients with normal developmental issues like self-care challenges, depression, grief, anxiety, and differentiation from families and peer groups. Many of the interventions included in this book are also effective with clients across the dissociation spectrum—dissociation is a condition particularly well suited to ego state work—including clients who suffer trauma and complex trauma. Rich with case examples, this book is both a pragmatic introduction for clinicians who have never before utilized parts work and a trove of proven interventions for experienced hands to add to their therapeutic toolbox. Welcome to a powerful, flexible resource to help even the most difficult clients build a sense of themselves as adult, loveable, worthwhile, and competent.
Download or read book Relational Family Therapy written by Christian Gostečnik and published by Taylor & Francis. This book was released on 2017-01-06 with total page 278 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Relational Family Therapy introduces a cutting-edge family and couple therapy model that synthesizes relational theories and integrates object relations theory with interpersonal psychoanalysis and self-psychology. The model holds that individuals deal with conflicts rooted in the frustrated and threatening environment they grew up in by later forming intimate relationships that are comparable to the core experiences from their primary family systems. The book outlines the three levels of experience—systemic, interpersonal, and intrapsychic—and provide concrete ways for the therapist to address client problems and promote affect regulation. Chapters include transcripts of actual family therapy sessions as well as genograms so readers can see the model in action.
Download or read book Stop Caretaking the Borderline Or Narcissist written by Margalis Fjelstad and published by Rowman & Littlefield. This book was released on 2013 with total page 229 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders are master manipulators; Caretakers fall for them every time. This book helps Caretakers break the cycle and puts them on a new path of personal freedom, discovery, and self-awareness, through the use of real stories and practical suggestions from a seasoned therapist.
Download or read book Object Relations and Relationality in Couple Therapy written by James L. Poulton and published by Jason Aronson, Incorporated. This book was released on 2012-11-16 with total page 203 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: During the course of psychoanalytic psychotherapy with couples, the practicing clinician is commonly faced with problems and issues that at times can seem nearly insoluble. Integrating the rich ideas and techniques from two psychoanalytic traditions, object relations and relational theory, Object Relations and Relationality in Couple Therapy: Exploring the Middle Ground surveys those problems, reviews the theoretical background for understanding their underlying dynamics, and offers effective and practical solutions for their resolution.
Download or read book BPD from the Husband s POV written by Robert Page and published by . This book was released on 2019-10-31 with total page 165 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Patching the fist-sized hole in the wall... ...and sweeping up broken glass. Just another day in your marriage to borderline personality disorder. Maybe your spouse has never been officially diagnosed. Maybe you think the problems are mostly your fault. You're beginning to wonder if every day doesn't have to be a raging battlefield. You are not the first husband to face this. You can find solutions to her logic-defying actions. There is finally a book written by a husband of a "Borderline" for the husbands of Borderlines in non-clinical, "real-life" language. The author, Robert Page, has been through it all: weekends lost to arguments, endless false accusations, wild mood swings, manipulative threats, self-harm, being isolated from friends, public embarrassment, $1,000s in related expenses, and even criminal prosecution--all because he loved his wife too much to confront the root problem: her borderline personality disorder. You don't have to face being the spouse of BPD alone. You can avoid the mistakes made by others, often involving emotional abuse, financial ruin and even jail time. There are actions you can take to save your marriage, your happiness, and maybe even someone's life. Much more than an overview of BPD, you'll learn all about the disorder through the vivid and cringe-inducing accounts of Page's marriage to a BP. His "What I Wish I Had Done" revelations are invaluable! You'll be so relieved you found this book because you'll see yourself in the riveting first-person accounts and realize there are roses to be found beyond the rage. Get your copy today and begin reclaiming your self-respect and positive outlook. Want to know more? Inside this book of stunning revelations you'll find all this and more: The most recent official descriptions of BPD Harrowingly truthful accounts of BPD symptoms Facts to help you decide if your wife has traits of BPD Actions you can take to control a rage-filled environment What efforts might save your relationship And, for some of you, what can be done to end your marriage safely Order your copy now!
