Download or read book Healing the Shame that Binds You written by John Bradshaw and published by Health Communications, Inc.. This book was released on 2005-10-15 with total page 338 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This classic book, written 17 years ago but still selling more than 13,000 copies every year, has been completely updated and expanded by the author. "I used to drink," writes John Bradshaw,"to solve the problems caused by drinking. The more I drank to relieve my shame-based loneliness and hurt, the more I felt ashamed." Shame is the motivator behind our toxic behaviors: the compulsion, co-dependency, addiction and drive to superachieve that breaks down the family and destroys personal lives. This book has helped millions identify their personal shame, understand the underlying reasons for it, address these root causes and release themselves from the shame that binds them to their past failures.
Download or read book Toxic Shame written by Oliver Cooper, Jr. and published by CreateSpace. This book was released on 2015-02-11 with total page 154 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: • Do you have low self-esteem? • When you are in a relationship, do you feel as though you are not enough? • Do you put up with bad behaviour? • Are you obsessed with self development? • Do you believe that you are unlovable? • Are you always self conscious? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you could be carrying toxic shame.Toxic Shame - Is Toxic Shame Defining Your Life? Looks into what can happen when someone is carry toxic shame. While someone might not be aware of their toxic shame, it can still end up defining their life. This book covers over twenty different ways in which toxic shame can negatively affect someone's life: from how they talk to themselves to their relationships, to if they feel they belong and to how they feel about themselves and many other areas.
Download or read book Shame written by Gershen Kaufman and published by Schenkman Books. This book was released on 1992 with total page 304 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt:
Download or read book Conquering Shame and Codependency written by Darlene Lancer and published by Hazelden Publishing. This book was released on 2014-05-16 with total page 250 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A nationally recognized author and codependency expert examines the roots of shame and its connection with codependent relationships. Learn how to heal from their destructive hold by implementing eight steps that will empower the real you, and lead to healthier relationships. Shame: the torment you feel when you’re exposed, humiliated, or rejected; the feeling of not being good enough. It’s a deeply painful and universal emotion, yet is not frequently discussed. For some, shame lurks in the unconscious, undermining self-esteem, destroying confidence, and leading to codependency. These codependent relationships—where we overlook our own needs and desires as we try to care for, protect, or please another—often cover up abuse, addiction, or other harmful behaviors. Shame and codependency feed off one another, making us feel stuck, never able to let go, move on, and become the true self we were meant to be. In Conquering Shame and Codependency, Darlene Lancer sheds new light on shame: how codependents’ feelings and beliefs about shame affect their identity, their behavior, and how shame can corrode relationships, destroying trust and love. She then provides eight steps to heal from shame, learn to love yourself, and develop healthy relationships.
Download or read book Bouncing Back written by Linda Graham and published by New World Library. This book was released on 2013 with total page 545 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: While resilience is innate in the brain, our capacity for it can be impaired by our conditioning. Unhelpful patterns of response are learned over time and can become fixed in our neural circuitry. What neuroscience now shows is that what previously seemed hardwired can be rewired.
Download or read book Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame written by Patricia A. DeYoung and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2015-02-11 with total page 329 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Chronic shame is painful, corrosive, and elusive. It resists self-help and undermines even intensive psychoanalysis. Patricia A. DeYoung’s cutting-edge book gives chronic shame the serious attention it deserves, integrating new brain science with an inclusive tradition of relational psychotherapy. She looks behind the myriad symptoms of shame to its relational essence. As DeYoung describes how chronic shame is wired into the brain and developed in personality, she clarifies complex concepts and makes them available for everyday therapy practice. Grounded in clinical experience and alive with case examples, Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame is highly readable and immediately helpful. Patricia A. DeYoung’s clear, engaging writing helps readers recognize the presence of shame in the therapy room, think through its origins and effects in their clients’ lives, and decide how best to work with those clients. Therapists will find that Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame enhances the scope of their practice and efficacy with this client group, which comprises a large part of most therapy practices. Challenging, enlightening, and nourishing, this book belongs in the library of every shame-aware therapist.
Download or read book Shame written by Joseph Burgo and published by St. Martin's Essentials. This book was released on 2018-11-06 with total page 318 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: An intimate look at the full spectrum of shame—often masked by addiction, promiscuity, perfectionism, self-loathing, or narcissism—that offers a new, positive route forward Encounters with embarrassment, guilt, self-consciousness, remorse, etc. are an unavoidable part of everyday life, and they sometimes have lessons to teach us—about our goals and values, about the person we expect ourselves to be. In contrast to the prevailing cultural view of shame as a uniformly toxic influence, Shame is a book that approaches the subject of shame as an entire family of emotions which share a “painful awareness of self.” Challenging widely-accepted views within the self-esteem movement, author Joseph Burgo argues that self-esteem does NOT thrive in the soil of non-stop praise and encouragement, but rather depends upon setting and meeting goals, living up to the expectations we hold for ourselves, and finally sharing our joy in achievement with the people who matter most to us. Along the way, listening to and learning from our encounters with shame will go further than affirmations and positive self-talk in helping us to build authentic self-esteem. Richly illustrated with clinical stories from Burgo's 35 years in private practice, Shame also describes the myriad ways that unacknowledged shame often hides behind a broad spectrum of mental disorders including social anxiety, narcissism, addiction, and masochism.
Download or read book The Shame Game written by O'Hara, Mary and published by Policy Press. This book was released on 2020-02-27 with total page 232 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: What does it mean to be poor in Britain and America? For decades the primary narrative about poverty in both countries is that it has been caused by personal flaws or ‘bad life decisions’ rather than policy choices or economic inequality. This misleading account has become deeply embedded in the public consciousness with serious ramifications for how financially vulnerable people are seen, spoken about and treated. Drawing on a two-year multi-platform initiative, this book by award-winning journalist and author Mary O’Hara, asks how we can overturn this portrayal once and for all. Crucially, she turns to the real experts to try to find answers – the people who live it.
Download or read book I Thought It Was Just Me but it Isn t written by Brené Brown and published by Avery. This book was released on 2008 with total page 338 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: First published in 2007 with the title: I thought it was just me: women reclaiming power and courage in a culture of shame.
Download or read book Shame Guilt written by Jane Middelton-Moz and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2020-08-30 with total page 143 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "It is my feeling that debilitating shame and guilt are at the root of all dysfunctions in families,” says Jane Middelton-Moz. A few common characteristics of adults shamed in childhood: You may suffer extreme shyness, embarrassment and feelings of being inferior to others. You don’t believe you make mistakes, you believe you are a mistake. You feel controlled from the outside and from within. You feel that normal spontaneous expression is blocked. You may suffer from debilitating guilt; you apologize constantly. You have little sense of emotional boundaries; you feel constantly violated by others; you frequently build false boundaries. If you see yourself in any of these characteristics, you can learn how shame keeps you from being the person you were born to be and how to change that. Shame And Guilt describes how debilitating shame is created and fostered in childhood and how it manifests itself in adulthood and in intimate relationships. Through the use of myths and fairytales to portray different shaming environments, Dr. Middelton-Moz allows you to reach the shamed child within you and to add clarity to what could be difficult concepts. Read Shame and Guilt — you’re worth it.
Download or read book From Toxic Shame to Freedom written by James V. Potter, Ph.d. and published by CreateSpace. This book was released on 2014-06-23 with total page 322 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: An essential resource for the library of every pastor, chaplain, recovery counselor and facilitator, marriage and family counselor and school counselor. In addition, individuals struggling from toxic shame will find this a very practical, user-friendly guide out of the morass and into freedom and honor as a child of God. Toxic Shame exhibits itself in a wide array of fashions, get-ups and garbs. It loves darkness and thrives on secretiveness. As a result, it diminishes one's openness, transparency and humility while simultaneously feeding one's pride, fostering guardedness, secretiveness, and presumptiveness. It is these dark, secretive aspects of toxic shame that gives it power - power to entrap and imprison one in a dungeon of their own creation. Because it operates under the cloak of darkness, it evades discovery, identification and examination. Being well hidden within our subconscious, one must aggressively track it down by becoming familiar with its many alluring and distracting behavioral cover-ups. The etiology, or origin, of toxic shame is varied - some coming from inherited shame that is passed on from one generation to the next; some is acquired environmentally when we are shamed by others; some through our identification with a hero or model who are themselves shame-based; and last but not least, the shame caused by our own errant behaviors that have continued unchecked, long after we recognize their destructiveness and ignore the guilt thus induced. Whatever its etiology, shame once internalized becomes toxic, and commences to destroy one's self-worth, shattering one's self-image, or identity, and unraveling one's core reality. The good news is that the shackles of toxic shame can be broken, the dungeon opened, and the pathway to freedom and honor as a child of God a reality. In this book, the reader will discover this pathway to freedom, that is well marked by employing the familiar 12-Step model of recovery.
Download or read book Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members written by Sherrie Campbell and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2022-04-01 with total page 273 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Cutting ties with a toxic family member is a crucial step away from a legacy of dysfunction and toward healing and happiness. This compassionate guide will help you embrace your decision with a sense of pride, validation, and faith in yourself; and provides powerful tools for creating boundaries, coping with judgment, and overcoming self-doubt. Do you have a toxic family member? Do you feel like cutting ties with this person—even as painful and scary as that may sound—would dramatically increase your well-being and improve your life? You’re not alone. Severing ties with a family member can be devastating; and cutting this toxic person out of your life may bring up feelings of guilt and uncertainty—especially if you feel judged by others regarding your decision. Fortunately, you can free yourself from this toxic family member in a healthy, responsible, and liberating way. In Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members, psychologist and toxic-family survivor Sherrie Campbell offers effective strategies for setting strong boundaries after ending contact with a toxic family member, and provides powerful tools to help you heal from shame, self-doubt, and stigma. You’ll find the validation you need to embrace your decision with pride and acknowledgement of your self-worth. You’ll learn how to let go of negative thoughts and feelings. And finally, you’ll develop the skills needed to rediscover self-care, self-love, self-reliance, and healthy loving relationships. Whether you’re ready to sever ties with a toxic family member, or already have, this book will help guide you, every step of the way.
Download or read book Healing the Shame That Binds You written by John Bradshaw and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2010-01-01 with total page 422 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In an emotionally revealing way John Bradshaw shows us how toxic shame is the core problem in our compulsions, co-dependencies, addictions and the drive to super-achieve. The result is a breakdown in the family system and our inability to go forward with our lives. We are bound by our shame. Drawing from his 22 years of experience as a counselor, Bradshaw offers us the techniques to heal this shame. Using affirmations, visualizations, "inner voice" and "feeling" work plus guided meditations and other useful healing techniques, he realeases the shame that binds us to the past. This important book breaks new ground in the core issues of societal and personal breakdown, offering techniques of recovery vital to all of us.
Download or read book Shame and Guilt written by June Price Tangney and published by Guilford Press. This book was released on 2003-11-01 with total page 292 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This volume reports on the growing body of knowledge on shame and guilt, integrating findings from the authors' original research program with other data emerging from social, clinical, personality, and developmental psychology. Evidence is presented to demonstrate that these universally experienced affective phenomena have significant implications for many aspects of human functioning, with particular relevance for interpersonal relationships. --From publisher's description.
Download or read book Toxic Shame and the Journey Out written by Paula M. Potter and published by Living Sober: Living Free Series. This book was released on 2007 with total page 330 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt:
Download or read book Facing Shame Families in Recovery written by Merle A. Fossum and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 1989-05-17 with total page 212 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "This book will be helpful to all practitioners of psychological services and to all persons who wish to understand their dilemnas better." —Virginia M. Satir Families that return for treatment time and again often have problems that seem unrelated—such as compulsive, addictive, or abusive behaviors—but that are linked by an underlying process of shame. Comparing the shame-bound family system with the respectful family system, Fossum and Mason outline the assumptions underlying their depth approach to family therapy and take the reader step by step through the stages of therapy. Case examples are used to illustrate the process.
Download or read book Discomfortable written by A.J. Bond and published by North Atlantic Books. This book was released on 2021-09-07 with total page 346 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The go-to guide to understand and unpack shame: what it is, why we feel it, and how to undo the lies it tells us about ourselves. Are you ready to get Discomfortable? This is a book about shame: what it is, why we have it, and how we can break its hold on our happiness. We all know shame: it's that feeling that tells us that somehow, who we are is inherently wrong. It's more than embarrassment or regret: it shakes us to the core. And most of all, it tells us that we need to be, feel, and act differently in order to be seen, loved, and accepted. Author and "shame-ed" coach AJ Bond takes us through his own shame breakthrough, sharing how he went from I'd rather die than be gay to uncovering and reclaiming his inherent wholeness and worth. With unexpected humor, warmth, and candid personal stories, Bond shows readers: Why shame shows up--the trauma, fixed mindsets, and messaging that give it a foothold How shame tricks you into believing there's something wrong with you, even when you're perfectly right The evolutionary reasons we humans developed a sense of shame (and why it doesn't serve us today) How to manage and deprogram shame through connection, gratitude, and empowered choice How we can re-parent ourselves, be fully seen, and feel fully loved Bond shines a light on this feeling that doesn't want to be seen, heard, or named--and invites us to bring our own shame into the open and release it to reclaim and reframe our lives in a powerful new way.
