Download or read book The Art of Receiving and Giving written by Betty Martin and published by . This book was released on 2021-02-19 with total page 422 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Why would most people endure unwanted or unsatisfying touch, rather than speak up for their own boundaries and desires? It's a question with a myriad of answers - and one that Dr. Betty Martin has explored in her 40+ years as a hands-on practitioner, first as a chiropractor and later as a Somatic Sex Educator, Certified Surrogate Partner and Sacred Intimate. In her client sessions, she noticed a pattern wherein many clients would "allow" or go along with discomfort or unease rather than speak up for what they wanted or didn't want. Betty discovered there was a major component missing for people -- the confidence that we have a choice about what is happening to us. In her framework, "The Wheel of Consent(R)" Betty traces the fundamental roots of consent back to our childhood conditioning. As children, we are taught that to be "good" we must ignore our body's discomfort and be compliant: to finish our food even if we're full, to go to bed - even if we're not tired, to let relatives hug and kiss us even if we don't want to. We learn that our feelings don't matter more than what is happening, and that we don't have a choice but to go along, whether or not we want it. As adults, this conditioning remains with us until we have an opportunity to unlearn it, which is why consent violations are often only called out after the violation has occurred - because we have not been taught or empowered to notice our boundaries, much less value or express our internal signals as the unwanted action is happening. In this book, Betty guides the reader through the Wheel of Consent framework, and shares practices to help us recover the ability to notice what we want and set clear boundaries. While the practices are based on exchanges of touch, they can also be learned without touch. In these practices, we discover that the Art of Giving includes knowing our own limits so we can be more generous within those limits, and not give beyond our capacity - a common problem which creates feelings of resentment or martyrdom. We also discover that the Art of Receiving invites us to notice and ask for what we really want, and not just what we think we are supposed to want. This knowledge, and its embodied practice, is foundational for creating clear agreements and bringing more satisfaction into relationships. While much of consent education focuses on noticing what we don't want, or prevention of violation, Betty has developed a "pleasure-forward" approach to teaching consent. By first accessing and awakening (sometimes re-awakening) our bodies' relationship to pleasure and what we want, we can practice noticing and verbalizing what we don't want. Such an approach provides a more holistic frame in which to unlearn the childhood conditioning that taught us to be silent and compliant, and in which individuals can learn to ask for what they want and state what they don't, in a more empowered way. The implications of this approach to consent education extends beyond touch and intimate relationships. When we forget how to notice what we really want, we lose our inner compass. When we continue to go along with things we don't feel are right, we lose our ability to speak up against injustice. This has a profound effect on society. We allow all manner of inequality, corruption, theft of natural resources and our planet's future health - because "going along with it" feels normal. The Wheel of Consent offers a deeply nuanced way to practice consent as an agreement that brings integrity, responsibility, and empowerment into human interaction, starting with touch and relationships, and further expanding our understanding of consent to social issues of equality and justice.

Download or read book How to Fall in Love with Anyone written by Mandy Len Catron and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2017-06-27 with total page 211 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: “A beautifully written and well-researched cultural criticism as well as an honest memoir” (Los Angeles Review of Books) from the author of the popular New York Times essay, “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This,” explores the romantic myths we create and explains how they limit our ability to achieve and sustain intimacy. What really makes love last? Does love ever work the way we say it does in movies and books and Facebook posts? Or does obsessing over those love stories hurt our real-life relationships? When her parents divorced after a twenty-eight year marriage and her own ten-year relationship ended, those were the questions that Mandy Len Catron wanted to answer. In a series of candid, vulnerable, and wise essays that takes a closer look at what it means to love someone, be loved, and how we present our love to the world, “Catron melds science and emotion beautifully into a thoughtful and thought-provoking meditation” (Bookpage). She delves back to 1944, when her grandparents met in a coal mining town in Appalachia, to her own dating life as a professor in Vancouver. She uses biologists’ research into dopamine triggers to ask whether the need to love is an innate human drive. She uses literary theory to show why we prefer certain kinds of love stories. She urges us to question the unwritten scripts we follow in relationships and looks into where those scripts come from. And she tells the story of how she decided to test an experiment that she’d read about—where the goal was to create intimacy between strangers using a list of thirty-six questions—and ended up in the surreal situation of having millions of people following her brand-new relationship. “Perfect fodder for the romantic and the cynic in all of us” (Booklist), How to Fall in Love with Anyone flips the script on love. “Clear-eyed and full of heart, it is mandatory reading for anyone coping with—or curious about—the challenges of contemporary courtship” (The Toronto Star).

Download or read book Beyond Order written by Jordan B. Peterson and published by Penguin UK. This book was released on 2021-03-02 with total page 257 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The inspirational sequel to 12 RULES FOR LIFE, which has sold over 5 million copies around the world - now in paperback In 12 Rules for Life, acclaimed public thinker and clinical psychologist Jordan B. Peterson offered an antidote to the chaos in our lives: eternal truths applied to modern anxieties. His insights have helped millions of readers and resonated powerfully around the world. Now in this long-awaited sequel, Peterson goes further, showing that part of life's meaning comes from reaching out into the domain beyond what we know, and adapting to an ever-transforming world. While an excess of chaos threatens us with uncertainty, an excess of order leads to a lack of curiosity and creative vitality. Beyond Order therefore calls on us to balance the two fundamental principles of reality - order and chaos - and reveals the profound meaning that can be found on the path that divides them. In times of instability and suffering, Peterson reminds us that there are sources of strength on which we can all draw: insights borrowed from psychology, philosophy, and humanity's greatest myths and stories. Drawing on the hard-won truths of ancient wisdom, as well as deeply personal lessons from his own life and clinical practice, Peterson offers twelve new principles to guide readers towards a more courageous, truthful and meaningful life.

Download or read book Real Moments written by Barbara De Angelis and published by Dell. This book was released on 2013-01-09 with total page 289 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: To many of us, the experiences that we grew up taking for granted leave become distant dreams in our adult lives: marriages that last a lifetime; safe neighborhoods to call home; the certainty that our children will have a better life than we did; and most of all, lots of time to spend as we wish, living for the moment. Instead, we find our time and energy spent recovering from the past or protecting ourselves from the future. The result is a desperate, sometimes dangerous, and often unsuccessful, search for meaning in our lives. In Real Moments, Barbara De Angelis defines happiness not as an acquisition, but as a skill--the skill of capturing every moment and living it completely. With insight, wisdom, and vision, she teaches us how to rediscover real moments with our mates and our children, with our work and our play, in sex and intimacy, and real moments with ourselves. It is an examination of our relationship with the process of living itself, offering inspiration as well as practical tools for creating more of one of the most precious moments of all--moments of true meaning in our lives.

Download or read book Deeper Dating written by Ken Page and published by Shambhala Publications. This book was released on 2014-12-30 with total page 288 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Lose weight. Act confident. Play hard to get. This approach to dating doesn’t lead to love, it leads to insecurity and loneliness. In Deeper Dating, psychotherapist Ken Page offers a new path to finding meaningful and lasting relationships. Learn how to attract people who love you for who you really are, become more self-assured and emotionally available, and lose your taste for relationships that diminish your self-esteem. With exercises, practical tools, and inspiring stories, Deeper Dating will guide you on a journey to find the love—and personal fulfillment—you long for.

Download or read book 3 Minutes to Arrival written by Trina Bell and published by . This book was released on 2018-02-22 with total page 26 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: You Think You the Best but can you do it in 3 minutes or less? 3 minutes to arrival is a sexual book based off several years of experience on the intricacies of sex written by an author who's seen it all in terms of sex. This book gives pointers and details on how to be .......... with oral sex (find out the missing part when you buy the book). Lack of sexual intimacy BLOWS off the joy in many relationships; don't wait until your relationship is in coma before getting the knowledge and skill needed to transform it. Purchase your ticket and come on board, let Trina take you on a flight to sexual discovery as she pilots the way to sexual release.

Download or read book The Complete Works of Zacharias Tanee Fomum on Leadership Volume 5 written by Zacharias Tanee Fomum and published by ZTF Books Online. This book was released on with total page 663 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The Complete Works of Zacharias Tanee Fomum on Leadership (Volume 5) contains the following books: Church Planting Strategies In the Crucible for Service Prerequisites for Spiritual Ministry Laws of Spiritual Success Making Spiritual Progress (Volume 3) This ecstatic and exciting volume opens with church planting strategies. These strategies for planting churches are many and varied. You cannot plant churches without seriously considering and deploying elements such as prayer, fasting, preaching, character, and service. It is not all the church planting strategies that you will apply in all situations. Every situation demands serious knowledge of the people involved, the setting, and the characteristics of the place. It also requires God’s specific instructions peculiar to the people or the place. Some people think that service is an easy thing. It may be simple, but it is not simplistic. Service is hard, hazardous but hope-bringing. That is why those who serve find themselves in a crucible in which they burn until they are brought out for their promotions. Are you ready to face your own fiery furnace? Are you ready to face your own lion’s den like Daniel? Are you ready to face a prison-like Joseph, son of Jacob? Are you ready to face your own cross like Jesus of Nazareth? If you fear fire, lions, prison, the cross, and such debilitating things, you fear leadership.

Download or read book Emotional Fitness for Couples written by Barton Goldsmith and published by ReadHowYouWant.com. This book was released on 2011-07-11 with total page 194 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This book offers you a step-by-step progam you can use to hone your relationship skills to championship levels-in just ten minutes a day. You can use the book alone, or you can try the exercises with your partner, going through the book in order or choosing those chapters most relevant to your particular goals. Each chapter is short-about two or three pages-and succinct. They combine easy exercises and tools with concise, snappy commentary on issues. Topics include: what the word "love" really means; the importance of physical touch; how to date your mate; how to achieve emotional balance; ways to deal with finances; tricks for stopping an argument before it starts; goal-setting strategies for couples; ways to deal with being apart; tips for coping with hurt before it turns into resentment; and much more.

Download or read book Conceiving with Love written by Denise Wiesner and published by Shambhala Publications. This book was released on 2019-05-28 with total page 326 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Supportive, practical advice for couples who are trying to conceive. Denise Wiesner’s integrative East-meets-West approach, developed over twenty years of practice, has helped thousands of couples relax, reconnect, and conceive. The stress of trying to get pregnant can wreak havoc with a couple’s intimate relationship—right at a time when that connection is most important—and the frustration and shame couples may feel can have a harmful effect and reduce their chances of conceiving. Wiesner gives couples the tools they need to repair their sexual relationship, rebuild their self-confidence, and reclaim their intimacy and desire. She includes advice from leading experts in Western reproductive medicine and Traditional Chinese Medicine; offers sensual practices from yoga, qigong, and Tantra; and answers questions couples have about sex, intimacy, and both naturally occurring and medically assisted fertility.

Download or read book And Baby Makes Three written by John Gottman, PhD and published by Harmony. This book was released on 2007-01-09 with total page 272 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Having a baby is a joyous experience, but even the best relationships are strained during the transition from duo to trio. Lack of sleep, never-ending housework, and new fiscal concerns often lead to conflict, disappointment, and hurt feelings. In And Baby Makes Three Love Lab™ experts John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman teach couples the skills from their successful workshops, so partners can avoid the pitfalls of parenthood by: • maintaining intimacy and romance • replacing a culture of criticism and irritability with one of appreciation • preventing post-partum depression • creating a home environment that nurtures physical, emotional, and mental health, as well as cognitive and behavioral development for your baby Complete with exercises that separate the “master” from the “disaster” couples, And Baby Makes Three helps new parents positively manage the strain that comes along with their bundle of joy.

Download or read book I Don t Want a Divorce written by Dr. David Clarke and published by Revell. This book was released on 2009-09-01 with total page 288 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: What could be good about a bad marriage? The good news is, you can get beyond that old marriage and its destructive habits, and build a brand-new one with the same spouse. And you can do it in just 90 days, even if only one spouse is committed to change. Thousands of couples in marriages that are on the brink will never enter a therapist's office, and for others it's too late by the time they do agree to come. But for more than 20 years, David Clarke has seen marriages turn around in just 12 weeks. Here he takes his 90-day plan and presents it using humor, Scripture, and personal stories to help couples turn difficult marriages into great ones. Whether the issue is communication, the kids, negative attitudes, or even serious sin, Clarke's personalized approach will put readers on the road to a great marriage.

Download or read book The Laws of Spiritual Success Volume One written by Zacharias Tanee Fomum and published by ZTF Books Online. This book was released on 2015-04-15 with total page 186 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This book presents a powerful guide to God-approved success. The author, Professor Fomum, challenges the world's view of success, which is based solely on what a person has done. Instead, the author emphasizes the importance of who we are before God and how that shapes what we do. For true success before God, the person must be right with the Lord and their motives must be pure. This book offers a unique perspective on what it means to be successful in the eyes of God, focusing on the idea that success is what meets God's approval, both in this life and at the judgment seat of Christ. With its thought-provoking insights and practical guidance, The Laws of Spiritual Success is a must-read for anyone seeking to grow in their faith and achieve success according to God's standards. Grab your copy today and let God bless you as you delve into the messages contained within this book.

Download or read book Get the Guy written by Matthew Hussey and published by Harper Collins. This book was released on 2013-04-09 with total page 207 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Most dating books tell you what NOT to do. Here's a book dedicated to telling you what you CAN do. In his book, Get the Guy, Matthew Hussey—relationship expert, matchmaker, and star of the reality show Ready for Love—reveals the secrets of the male mind and the fundamentals of dating and mating for a proven, revolutionary approach to help women to find lasting love. Matthew Hussey has coached thousands of high-powered CEOs, showing them how to develop confidence and build relationships that translate into professional success. Many of Matthew’s male clients pressed him for advice on how to apply his winning strategies not to just get the job, but how to get the girl. As his reputation grew, Hussey was approached by more and more women, eager to hear what he had learned about the male perspective on love and romance. From landing a first date to establishing emotional intimacy, playful flirtation to red-hot bedroom tips, Matthew’s insightfulness, irreverence, and warmth makes Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve a one-of-a-kind relationship guide and the handbook for every woman who wants to get the guy she’s been waiting for.

Download or read book Leadership and Sexuality written by James K. Beggan and published by Edward Elgar Publishing. This book was released on 2018 with total page 256 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Although both leadership and sexuality are important and heavily researched topics, there is little work that addresses the interaction of the two areas. Leadership and Sexuality: Power, Principles, and Processes is a scholarly synthesis of leadership principles with issues related to sexuality and sexual policy-making. The authors’ multi-disciplinary analysis of the topic examines sexuality in the context of many different kinds of leadership, exploring both the good and the bad aspects of leadership and sexuality.

Download or read book The Intimate Screen written by Jason Jacobs and published by Oxford University Press. This book was released on 2000 with total page 198 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This book explores the formative period of British television drama, concentrating on the years 1936-55. It examines the continuities and changes of early television drama, and the impact this had upon the subsequent 'golden age'. In particular, it questions the caricature of early television drama as 'photographed stage plays' and argues that early television pioneers in fact produced a diverse range of innovative drama productions, using a wide range of techniques.

Download or read book The love Sailing Boat written by Kwabena Osei and published by K. Osei Doctrines and Publications. This book was released on 2015-02-06 with total page 326 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Let us talk about love. Love is the universal language. Love is freedom of expression. The unconditional acceptance of a neighbour for mutual understanding and respect is through the power of love. Love is the ultimate power and the source of the universal energy. Love is life. Love beautifies life. The living hell into which humanity has been condemned can be transformed into an absolute paradise through the power of love. This lovely book; “The love Sailing Boat” is meant to highlight mankind’s short coming regardless of the causes and the effects of the deceptions in life, marriage, love and sex relationships. It creates awareness. It guides us to avoid repetition of our mistakes in life, marriage, love and sex relationships. Making choices in the state of unawareness always lead us to regrettable moments in the end. We design our own path of suffering through wrong choices which are mainly engineered and driven by the Ego and the Mind. Our miseries and agonies are the attribute of engaging in marriage, love and sex relationships with the mind. The mind promises much but delivers nothing. Our success or failure depends on those with whom we confine in life, marriage, love and sex relationships. Let this lovely book, “The Love Sailing Boat” be your guide and amour. Let unconditional love reigns supreme in your marriage, love and sex relationships and you will always find pleasure in love. The power of Divine Love will guide you to discover the Sacred Island of Love for Romances, whereby, only unconditional lovers are welcomed. Love conquers all. Peace and Love.

Download or read book Intimate Violence written by David Greven and published by Oxford University Press. This book was released on 2017 with total page 297 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Intimate Violence explores the consistent cold war in Hitchcock's films between his heterosexual heroines and his queer characters, usually though not always male. Decentering the authority of the male hero, Hitchcock's films allow his female and queer characters to vie for narrative power, often in conflict with one another. These conflicts eerily echo the tense standoff between feminism and queer theory. From a reparative psychoanalytic perspective, David Greven merges queer and feminist approaches to Hitchcock. Using the theories of Melanie Klein, Greven argues that Hitchcock's work thematizes a constant battle between desires to injure and to repair the loved object. Greven develops a theory of sexual hegemony. The feminine versus the queer conflict, as he calls it, in Hitchcock films illuminates the shared but rivalrous struggles for autonomy and visibility on the part of female and queer subjects. The heroine is vulnerable to misogyny, but she often gains an access to agency that the queer subject longs for, mistaking her partial autonomy for social power. Hitchcock's queer personae, however, wield a seductive power over his heterosexual subjects, having access to illusion and masquerade that the knowledge-seeking heroine must destroy. Freud's theory of paranoia, understood as a tool for the dissection of cultural homophobia, illuminates the feminine versus the queer conflict, the female subject position, and the consistent forms of homoerotic antagonism in the Hitchcock film. Through close readings of such key Hitchcock works as North by Northwest, Psycho, Strangers on a Train, Spellbound, Rope, Marnie, and The Birds, Greven explores the ongoing conflicts between the heroine and queer subjects and the simultaneous allure and horror of same-sex relationships in the director's films.