Download or read book Not Gay written by Jane Ward and published by NYU Press. This book was released on 2015-07-31 with total page 251 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A different look at heterosexuality in the twenty-first century A straight white girl can kiss a girl, like it, and still call herself straight—her boyfriend may even encourage her. But can straight white guys experience the same easy sexual fluidity, or would kissing a guy just mean that they are really gay? Not Gay thrusts deep into a world where straight guy-on-guy action is not a myth but a reality: there’s fraternity and military hazing rituals, where new recruits are made to grab each other’s penises and stick fingers up their fellow members’ anuses; online personal ads, where straight men seek other straight men to masturbate with; and, last but not least, the long and clandestine history of straight men frequenting public restrooms for sexual encounters with other men. For Jane Ward, these sexual practices reveal a unique social space where straight white men can—and do—have sex with other straight white men; in fact, she argues, to do so reaffirms rather than challenges their gender and racial identity. Ward illustrates that sex between straight white men allows them to leverage whiteness and masculinity to authenticate their heterosexuality in the context of sex with men. By understanding their same-sex sexual practice as meaningless, accidental, or even necessary, straight white men can perform homosexual contact in heterosexual ways. These sex acts are not slippages into a queer way of being or expressions of a desired but unarticulated gay identity. Instead, Ward argues, they reveal the fluidity and complexity that characterizes all human sexual desire. In the end, Ward’s analysis offers a new way to think about heterosexuality—not as the opposite or absence of homosexuality, but as its own unique mode of engaging in homosexual sex, a mode characterized by pretense, dis-identification and racial and heterosexual privilege. Daring, insightful, and brimming with wit, Not Gay is a fascinating new take on the complexities of heterosexuality in the modern era.

Download or read book Is My Husband Gay Straight or Bi written by Joe Kort and published by Rowman & Littlefield. This book was released on 2014-09-11 with total page 241 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Jennifer can’t believe it. Just married and pregnant, she discovers that her husband has been meeting Brad for sex. When confronted, Tom doesn’t deny it, but he insists it’s just “a thing” and he isn’t gay. Elsewhere, John’s wife, Karen, discovers that her husband likes to watch gay porn. John doesn’t understand his wife’s reaction. Why does she care what he watches if he’s not unfaithful? In couple’s therapy, Karen and Jennifer raise the same questions: Does this mean my husband is gay? Can my marriage survive? These and other stories illustrate the difficulties inherent when a wife or girlfriend finds out her man has had or wants to have sexual contact with other men. But many times, the man is not gay or even bisexual. Of course, some men with gay sexual interests are gay men in a process of self-discovery; they are “coming out.” These desires may only reflect a different side of a man’s sexuality or some response to childhood trauma or experiences they have not fully processed. Here Joe Kort and Alexander P. Morgan make the distinction between gay men and “straight men with gay interests” clearer to women who want to know how they can overcome these revelations. The authors explain the many reasons why straight men may be drawn to gay sex; how to tell whether a man is gay, straight, or bisexual; and what the various options are for these couples, who can often go on to have very fulfilling marriages. Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi? is intended to help couples understand how male sexuality can express itself in ways that may be difficult to understand. Many marriages have been hurriedly terminated when couples (and their therapists) have lacked the information they needed to understand their current situations. This book provides the clarity, describes the choices, and (in many cases) offers hope for relationships and marriages that have been brushed off as doomed.

Download or read book Mostly Straight written by Ritch C. Savin-Williams and published by Harvard University Press. This book was released on 2017-11-13 with total page 251 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Based on research, the author explores in this publication the personal stories of forty young men to help us understand the biological and psychological factors that led them to become mostly straight and the cultural forces that are loosening the sexual bind that many boys and young men experience.

Download or read book Gay Straight and the Reason Why written by Simon LeVay and published by Oxford University Press. This book was released on 2010-09-30 with total page 431 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: What causes a child to grow up gay or straight? In this book, neuroscientist Simon LeVay summarizes a wealth of scientific evidence that points to one inescapable conclusion: Sexual orientation results primarily from an interaction between genes, sex hormones, and the cells of the developing body and brain. LeVay helped create this field in 1991 with a much-publicized study in Science, where he reported on a difference in the brain structure between gay and straight men. Since then, an entire scientific discipline has sprung up around the quest for a biological explanation of sexual orientation. In this book, LeVay provides a clear explanation of where the science stands today, taking the reader on a whirlwind tour of laboratories that specialize in genetics, endocrinology, neuroscience, cognitive psychology, evolutionary psychology, and family demographics. He describes, for instance, how researchers have manipulated the sex hormone levels of animals during development, causing them to mate preferentially with animals of their own gender. LeVay also reports on the prevalence of homosexual behavior among wild animals, ranging from Graylag geese to the Bonobo chimpanzee. Although many details remain unresolved, the general conclusion is quite clear: A person's sexual orientation arises in large part from biological processes that are already underway before birth. LeVay also makes it clear that these lines of research have a lot of potential because--far from seeking to discover "what went wrong" in the lives of gay people, attempting to develop "cures" for homosexuality, or returning to traditional explanations that center on parent-child relationships, various forms of "training," or early sexual experiences--our modern scientists are increasingly seeing sexual variety as something to be valued, celebrated, and welcomed into society.

Download or read book Anything but Straight written by Wayne Besen and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2012-07-26 with total page 331 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The real story behind “ex-gay” ministries and reparative therapy! Nationally known activist Wayne Besen spent four years examining the phenomenon of “ex-gay” ministries and reparative therapies—interviewing leaders, attending conferences, and visiting ministries undercover as he accumulated hundreds of hours of research. The result is Anything but Straight: Unmasking the Scandals and Lies Behind the Ex-Gay Myth, a groundbreaking exposé of the controversial movement that's revered by independent religious groups and reviled by gay and lesbian organizations. The book presents a historical perspective on the dispute, examining “ex-gay” groups such as Love In Action, Exodus International, Homosexuals Anonymous, and profiling a cast of characters that includes Pat Robertson, the Rev. Jerry Falwell, “ex-gay” poster boy John Paulk, National Association of Research and Therapy of Homosexuality activist Richard Cohen, and psychiatrist Dr. Robert Spitzer. An in-depth, well-researched, and historically significant account, Anything but Straight is full of startling facts and alarming surprises. The original content and novel material in the book includes: a first-ever comprehensive history of the “ex-gay” ministries and “reparative therapy” the inside story of the night the author photographed “ex-gay” poster boy John Paulk inside a gay bar the author's discovery that Anne Paulk lied about being a lesbian and has admitted to having a strong attraction to men BEFORE she became “ex-gay” previously undisclosed bizarre techniques used by the “ex-gay” ministries and “reparative therapists” the author's exclusive in-depth interviews with leading “ex-gay” leaders—they disclose their deepest secrets, hidden desires, and true motivations an extraordinary new study that shows that most “ex-gay” leaders have suffered from substance abuse or severe emotional problems—while many “ex-gay” leaders claim they were “unhappy being gay,” this report helps prove that their dissatisfactions came not from their homosexuality, but from poor life choices and irresponsible behavior new revelations that one of the nation's leading “reparative therapists” hailed from a secretive cult that was scandalized for practicing nude therapy From the author: Through my extensive experience, I have learned that the extraordinary claims made by the “ex-gay” groups are without merit and the efficacy of their programs is dubious at best and harmful at worst . . . One frequent question I get is, “Why can't gay activists simply leave 'ex-gay' groups alone and let them go about their business?” This is exactly what happened for nearly three decades while “ex-gay” groups labored in near anonymity. But all this recently changed when the “ex-gay” groups intricately aligned themselves with the anti-gay political agenda of the Religious Right. With “ex-gays” added to their arsenal, the Right could disingenuously claim to love gay people and offer them “hope for change,” while simultaneously fighting for punitive legislation. Their insidious message: Since gays and lesbians can change, there is no need for laws that protect them against arbitrary prejudice. Anything but Straight: Unmasking the Scandals and Lies Behind the Ex-Gay Myth is an essential read for activists on both sides of the “ex-gay” fence, family members of gays and lesbians, Gay, Bisexual, Lesbian, and Transgender church members, psychiatric and social science professionals, and anyone who has dealt with “coming out” issues. An appendix of resources and a helpful bibliography make it easy to find additional information on this fascinating topic.

Download or read book Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician The Essential Guide written by Joe Kort and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 2011-05-02 with total page 305 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: All the answers straight clinicians need to work effectively with gay and lesbian clients. It has been over three decades since the American Psychiatric Association removed homosexuality as a category of deviant behavior from the DSM. Same-sex marriage is recognized in certain states, gay-straight alliances are springing up in high schools across the country, and major religious denominations are embracing gay clergy. Yet despite the sea change of attitudes toward homosexuality, many well-meaning straight therapists are still at a loss as to how to effectively counsel their gay and lesbian clients. This book will offer straight therapists the tools they need to counsel gay and lesbian clients effectively.

Download or read book Just a Bit Gay written by Alessandra Hazard and published by . This book was released on 2020-07-25 with total page 162 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Tyler Meyer is totally straight. But then the hot woman he's hooking up with sticks her finger where she shouldn't, and suddenly he's not so sure... Straight guys can like that sort of thing too, right?Except things get confusing-and frustrating-when fingers and toys aren't quite enough.Enter Nick Hardaway, Tyler's best friend. What's a little fun between bros, right?Publisher's note: This book contains explicit MM content, feminization, and strong language. Book #9 in the Straight Guys series, but it can be read as a stand alone.

Download or read book Straight to Gay written by Audrey Kouyoumdjian and published by 10-10-10 Publishing. This book was released on 2018-02-25 with total page 146 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Like most young girls of her time, Audrey Kouyoumdjian dreamed of marrying a handsome successful man, getting a good education and job and starting a family. All of this came to pass, but with a life altering surprise. While studying to be a physiotherapist, Audrey had a special relationship with her roommate and best friend. She didn't realize just how special it was, but as time passed and the relationship got much stronger, the woman explained it to her....with a kiss. There was no name for this newfound love, and there was no conversation around it. They just knew they had to design their lives so that they could spend time together, while maintaining their marriages and dreams of having children. In this tell-all expose, you have the opportunity to immerse yourself in the twists and turns of the secret world of double lives, deception, and unbridled passion. Along the way, you'll awaken your own courage to change situations you thought were permanent, and ultimately live your authentic life of joy and good health. This book will appeal to you if you have ever had a secret, or want to understand what it's like to live with one.

Download or read book Scared Straight written by Robert Neil Minor and published by Humanityworks. This book was released on 2001 with total page 226 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A cultural critique of gowing up in the USA, with such topics as our universities as purveyors of hopelessness and the dynamics of "getting laid" taught in high school that emphasizes that taking on the "straight" role damages all human beings regardless of sexual orientation but is taught from birth by the institutions of our society.

Download or read book Straight to Jesus written by Tanya Erzen and published by Univ of California Press. This book was released on 2006 with total page 302 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "Erzen is sensitive, savvy, and provocative. Her mastery of historical sources, ethnographic technique, and accessible writing style are evident throughout. She illuminates aspects of conservative Christianity central to the 'culture wars,' deepening our understanding of the movement's internal struggles over sexuality, gender, and family issues. Erzen has written a wonderful book."--Diane Winston, author of Red-Hot and Righteous: The Urban Religion of the Salvation Army "Tanya Erzen's wonderful and timely book provides us with a compelling cultural history of the Christian right in the post-war period--from the cold war to family and sexual politics--as well as remarkable ethnographic insight into the dynamics of Exodus International. With compassion, humor, and insight, Erzen takes the reader through the ideological, organizational, and daily practices used in efforts to change people's theological and sexual orientations, from self-help to conversion testimony."--Faye Ginsburg, Professor of Anthropology, New York University, author of Contested Lives

Download or read book Straight Jacket written by Matthew Todd and published by Black Swan. This book was released on 2018 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Written by Matthew Todd, editor of Attitude, the UK's best-selling gay magazine, Straight Jacket is a revolutionary clarion call for gay men, the wider LGBT community, their friends and family. Part memoir, part ground-breaking polemic, it looks beneath the shiny facade of contemporary gay culture and asks if gay people are as happy as they could be - and if not, why not? In an attempt to find the answers to this and many other difficult questions, Matthew Todd explores why statistics show a disproportionate number of gay people suffer from mental health problems, including anxiety, depression, addiction, suicidal thoughts and behaviour, and why significant numbers experience difficulty in sustaining meaningful relationships.

Download or read book Openly Straight written by Bill Konigsberg and published by Scholastic Inc.. This book was released on 2013-05-28 with total page 346 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The award-winning novel about being out, being proud, and being ready for something else. Rafe is a normal teenager from Boulder, Colorado. He plays soccer. He's won skiing prizes. He likes to write. And, oh yeah, he's gay. He's been out since 8th grade, and he isn't teased, and he goes to other high schools and talks about tolerance and stuff. And while that's important, all Rafe really wants is to just be a regular guy. Not that GAY guy. To have it be a part of who he is, but not the headline, every single time. So when he transfers to an all-boys' boarding school in New England, he decides to keep his sexuality a secret -- not so much going back in the closet as starting over with a clean slate. But then he sees a classmate breaking down. He meets a teacher who challenges him to write his story. And most of all, he falls in love with Ben... who doesn't even know that love is possible.

Download or read book Gay TV and Straight America written by Ron Becker and published by Rutgers University Press. This book was released on 2006 with total page 298 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Drawing on political and cultural indicators to explain the sudden upsurge of gay material on prime-time network television in the 1990s, this book brings together analysis of relevant Supreme Court rulings, media coverage of gay rights battles, debates about multiculturalism, concerns over political correctness, and more.

Download or read book Is Your Straight Man Gay Enough written by Nan Shipley and published by . This book was released on 2004 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt:

Download or read book Over the Cliff written by Bonnie Kaye and published by . This book was released on 2011 with total page 186 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A self-help book for husbands and wives living in straight/gay marriages. Includes interviews with men who have lived through this experience, due to societal pressures or a lack of understanding their homosexuality at the time of marriage, and offer their insights to others.

Download or read book Sex Tips for Straight Women From a Gay Man written by Dan Anderson and published by HarperCollins UK. This book was released on 2012-08-10 with total page 178 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Witty sex guide which will appeal to watchers of Sex and the City and Will and Grace. A huge word-of-mouth success in the States.

Download or read book Leo Loves Aries written by Anyta Sunday and published by Signs of Love. This book was released on 2023-08-03 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Cheeky, cheerful Leo has met the perfect Aries match . . . for his sister. When his sister challenges Theo Wallace to find her a date for a spring wedding, Theo realizes that all his "friends" were in fact his ex-girlfriend's friends. Not willing to admit his pathetic social state, he decides not only to find his sister the perfect date, but to find himself the perfect friend. Theo's ex economics tutor and newest roommate Mr. Jamie Cooper seems to be a possible and convenient match. Real convenient. Like written in the stars, convenient. All he has to do is make sure this Jamie is good enough. Could really be The One for her, and the friend for him. Watch out, Leo, the stars have a surprise in store... "Leo Loves Aries" is a flirty, slow burn, roommates to lovers MM romance with a heartwarming HEA. This New Adult, college, friends-to-lovers novel is the first book in the Signs of Love series. The books in the Signs of Love series are standalone romances, and can be read in any order. LEO LOVES ARIES (bi-awakening, friends to lovers, clueless as fuck) SCORPIO HATES VIRGO (boy next door, fake-enemies to lovers, mistaken identity) GEMINI KEEPS CAPRICORN (fake fiancés, friends to lovers, off-limits lover) PISCES HOOKS TAURUS (marriage of convenience, opposites attract, age-gap) CANCER SHIPS AQUARIUS (manny, widower, opposites attract) SAGITTARIUS SAVES LIBRA (fake identity, twin shenanigans, small town) Rainbow Awards 2017 Runner Up for Best Gay Book Runner Up for Best Contemporary Gay Romance