Download or read book Anger Guilt and Shame Reclaiming Power and Choice written by Liv Larsson and published by Lulu.com. This book was released on 2012-08-23 with total page 217 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This book can help you make shame, guilt and anger your allies instead of our enemies. They can become keys to your inner life and to your dreams. Getting to know these feelings will help you better meet your needs for respect, acceptance, belonging and freedom. What would be possible if you no longer needed to shrink yourself to avoid shame or guilt?

Download or read book Shame and Guilt written by June Price Tangney and published by Guilford Press. This book was released on 2003-11-01 with total page 292 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This volume reports on the growing body of knowledge on shame and guilt, integrating findings from the authors' original research program with other data emerging from social, clinical, personality, and developmental psychology. Evidence is presented to demonstrate that these universally experienced affective phenomena have significant implications for many aspects of human functioning, with particular relevance for interpersonal relationships. --From publisher's description.

Download or read book Blushing and the Social Emotions written by W. Crozier and published by Springer. This book was released on 2006-03-12 with total page 241 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The blush is a ubiquitous, but little understood, phenomenon. It involves an involuntary change in the face that can express feelings, reveal character and cause intense anxiety. Crozier provides a scholarly, yet accessible, synthesis of new research, locating blushing within the context of the 'social emotions' of embarrassment, shame and shyness.

Download or read book How to Do Things with Emotions written by Owen Flanagan and published by Princeton University Press. This book was released on 2023-04-04 with total page 328 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: An expansive look at how culture shapes our emotions—and how we can benefit, as individuals and a society, from less anger and more shame The world today is full of anger. Everywhere we look, we see values clashing and tempers rising, in ways that seem frenzied, aimless, and cruel. At the same time, we witness political leaders and others who lack any sense of shame, even as they display carelessness with the truth and the common good. In How to Do Things with Emotions, Owen Flanagan explains that emotions are things we do, and he reminds us that those like anger and shame involve cultural norms and scripts. The ways we do these emotions offer no guarantee of emotionally or ethically balanced lives—but still we can control and change how such emotions are done. Flanagan makes a passionate case for tuning down anger and tuning up shame, and he observes how cultures around the world can show us how to perform these emotions better. Through comparative insights from anthropology, psychology, and cross-cultural philosophy, Flanagan reveals an incredible range in the expression of anger and shame across societies. He establishes that certain types of anger—such as those that lead to revenge or passing hurt on to others—are more destructive than we imagine. Certain forms of shame, on the other hand, can protect positive values, including courage, kindness, and honesty. Flanagan proposes that we should embrace shame as a uniquely socializing emotion, one that can promote moral progress where undisciplined anger cannot. How to Do Things with Emotions celebrates the plasticity of our emotional responses—and our freedom to recalibrate them in the pursuit of more fulfilling lives.

Download or read book Violent Emotions written by Suzanne M. Retzinger and published by SAGE Publications. This book was released on 1991-06-28 with total page 267 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In Violent Emotions, Retzinger explores the role of hidden alienation and shame as the source of repetitious cycles of conflict. Theories and research from large-scale conflict, marital disputes, and communication processes are reviewed and provide a background for a new integrative theory developed by the author. In testing her theory of prolonged conflict, Retzinger utilizes complex verbal and nonverbal coding schemes, identifies specific emotions within the context of marital disputes, and points out recurring patterns preceding the escalation of an argument. She provides exemplars of how this theory works through an intensive analysis of conflict exchange in four case studies and uses vivid descriptions to illustrate important points about communication in intimate relationships. Violent Emotions provides much needed data that will be useful for preventive and predictive measures in early marital problems and insight into the dynamics of family and other violence. It is an excellent volume for students and professionals in the fields of victimology, psychology, interpersonal communication, gender studies, and family studies. "Suzanne Retzinger has done such a fine job of presenting her theory and research. . . . I suspect that many researchers, teachers, and therapists will turn to the vivid descriptions and transcripts the author provides to illustrate important points about communication in intimate relationships." --from the Preface by Mary Anne Fitzpatrick University of Wisconsin, Madison (use the fitzpatrick quote for communication catalogs--she is the president of ICA) "Dr. Retzinger′s book is good news for both researchers and practitioners. It opens up a whole new field of emotions for understanding the sources of hidden conflict. . . . Psychotherapists, counselors, and mediators will find it particularly helpful, since the book shows in concrete detail how to detect and change underground conflicts. A gold mine of new ideas and techniques." --Thomas J. Scheff, University of California, Santa Barbara "It is a splendid work that goes to the heart of the possibilities for a world where conflict is dealt with more constructively and less violently. The integration of case study and theory is masterful." --Dr. John Braithwaite, The Australian National University, Australia "The author focuses on the crucial importance of shame in human bonding and the underlying dynamics of escalating conflict. The problem of escalating conflict and its relationship to unity is the foundation of this book." --Familiy Violence & Sexual Assault Bulletin "The author is well read and integrates with ease perspectives of conflict, communication, and bonding theories. . . . Researchers and practitioners concerned with marital and family interaction will be interested in this interdisciplinary approach to emotion." --Choice "A very impressive portrayal of the moment-by-moment flow of emotional meaning in disputes. Retzinger′s case studies add flesh and blood to the interactional skeleton of conflict and successfully reveal the subtle dynamics of marital quarrels that escape other methodologies. . . . Retzinger′s analysis of the dynamics of marital conflict make a lot of sense, both in the abstract and in concrete application. . . . Her findings are important and provocative. The book has the sensitivity and clarity that will make it useful reading for professionals or for bridge-level and graduate classes." --Contemporary Sociology "[Retzinger] offers the researcher in the field of family violence a potentially powerful explanatory tool to investigate why conflict is consistently found to be patterned in a specific sequence for each couple. Retzinger also offers the clinician concrete suggestions for interrupting the pattern and for guiding fighting couples to healthier interaction. I highly recommend this book to all working in the field of family violence." --The American Journal of Family Therapy "Retzinger′s book makes a [great] contribution to the field of sociological practice by offering information and making direct suggestions that can be translated readily into intervention tactics, especially for the counseling sociologist. . . . The book should appeal to a wide range of professionals, especially marital therapists." --Journal of Marriage and the Family "Dr. Retzinger′s landmark contribution is a major breakthrough for the clinician. Using sophisticated research methodology applied to the assessment of marital interaction, she convincingly demonstrates the relationship of hostility and rage to antecedent shame, however subtle or unacknowledged that shame might be. The central insights to this book place in the therapist′s hands the capacity both to recognize and to resolve a major impediment in the treatment of marital tension--the escalation of marital conflict resulting from shame-rage spirals." --Melvin R. Lansky, UCLA Medical School

Download or read book Letting Go of Shame written by Ronald Potter-Efron and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2009-12-10 with total page 228 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Letting Go of Shame: Understanding How Shame Affects Your Life helps to explain the emotion of shame and its impact on our self-image and relationships. As we identify shame and use recovery skills to work through it, Letting Go of Shame: Understanding How Shame Affects Your Like helps to explain the emotion of shame and its impact on our self-image and relationships. The authors offer us a way that we can personalize a plan of action to help build our self-esteem, and they suggest exercises to help us identify our feelings of shame.

Download or read book Transforming Our Painful Emotions Spiritual Resources in Anger Shame Grief Fear and Loneliness written by Evelyn Eaton Whitehead and James D. Whitehead and published by Orbis Books. This book was released on 2010 with total page 225 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt:

Download or read book Emotions and Violence written by Thomas J. Scheff and published by iUniverse. This book was released on 2001 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: What causes violence? Thomas Scheff and Suzanne Retzinger deftly explore this age-old question. What emerges is an extraordinarily innovative explanation that gives fresh hope for reducing physical and emotional violence in the world and in our times. The authors provide remarkable new insights into the sources of destructive conflict. They explore human interaction in psychotherapy sessions, marital quarrels, TV game shows, and high politics. Their original interpretation of a classic work of fiction, Goethe's The Sufferings of Young Werther, and case studies of Hitler and his master architect, Albert Speer, offer additional, powerful illustrations of their theory: violence arises from the denial of emotions particularly from the denial of shame and from hidden alienation in relationships. Researchers in violence, psychotherapists, and criminal justice professionals will welcome this thoughtful inquiry that integrates different disciplines and spans topics from alienation and conscience building to the hidden world of gesture, implication, and emotion. Scheff and Retzinger's examples and recommendations furnish a practical blueprint for understanding and reducing physical and emotional violence at both the interpersonal and societal levels. Social and behavioral scientists will be stimulated by the novel approach to theory and method in this work. It also has practical implications for the fields of psychotherapy, education, criminal justice, and international relations.

Download or read book The Ethics of Anger written by Court D. Lewis and published by Rowman & Littlefield. This book was released on 2020-12-03 with total page 283 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The Ethics of Anger provides the resources needed to understand the prevalence of anger in relation to ethics, religion, social and political behavior, and peace studies. Providing theoretical and practical arguments, both for and against the necessity of anger, The Ethics of Anger assembles a variety of diverse perspectives in order to increase knowledge and bolster further research. Part one examines topics such as the nature and ethics of vengeful anger and the psychology of anger. Part two includes chapters on the necessity of anger as central to our moral lives, an examination of Joseph Butler’s sermons on resentment, and three chapters that explore anger within Confucianism, Buddhism, and other Eastern religions. Part three examines the practical responses to anger, offering several intriguing chapters on topics such as mind viruses, social justice, the virtues of anger, feminism, punishment, and popular culture. This book, edited by Court D. Lewis and Gregory L. Bock, challenges and provides a framework for how moral persons approach, incorporate, and/or exclude anger in their lives.

Download or read book Letting Go of Anger written by Patricia Potter-Efron and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2006-08-03 with total page 200 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A Guide to Healthy Anger Expression How do you express your anger? Do you blow up? Quietly seethe? Or do you try to pretend that you're really not angry at all and just hope the feelings will go away? Most of us express anger in more than one way, but we also tend to be creatures of habit, falling back on a few predictable styles when we feel angry. Unfortunately, while some styles are appropriate in some situations, others are not—and consistently using an inappropriate style is a sure way to find yourself saddled with a huge anger problem. This book examines the eleven most common styles of anger expression and helps you learn how to communicate your anger in healthy ways. Learn which anger styles work for different situations—and which ones lead to certain disaster. Find out how to become more flexible and creative at expressing your anger. Once you understand the whole range of anger styles, you'll be able to better manage angry feelings and use your anger as a positive force for building a better life.

Download or read book Shame and Anger written by Brock Hansen and published by Lulu.com. This book was released on 2007 with total page 227 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Our powerful reactions to receiving criticism are linked to the innate emotions of shame and anger. Evolved for survival in primitive circumstances, these sometimes overwhelming reactions do not always serve us well in civilized situations. Extreme reactions to real or perceived criticism can lead to serious psychological illnesses such as depression, addiction and eating disorders. This book gives the reader an understanding of the evolutionary function of shame and anger and the destructive ways in which they can manifest themselves in criticism situations. To help with this problem, the author describes techniques as old as yoga and as new as neurofeedback for quieting powerful emotions and becoming more confident in the face of criticism. These techniques can be used by adults and taught to children to help avoid many of the painful and destructive emotional experiences that shape our self-image and often set the stage for depression and other emotional disorders.

Download or read book Rage Becomes Her written by Soraya Chemaly and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2018-09-11 with total page 416 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: ***A BEST BOOK OF 2018 SELECTION*** NPR * The Washington Post * Book Riot * Autostraddle * Psychology Today ***A BEST FEMINIST BOOK SELECTION*** Refinery 29, Book Riot, Autostraddle, BITCH Rage Becomes Her is an “utterly eye opening” (Bustle) book that gives voice to the causes, expressions, and possibilities of female rage. As women, we’ve been urged for so long to bottle up our anger, letting it corrode our bodies and minds in ways we don’t even realize. Yet there are so, so many legitimate reasons for us to feel angry, ranging from blatant, horrifying acts of misogyny to the subtle drip, drip drip of daily sexism that reinforces the absurdly damaging gender norms of our society. In Rage Becomes Her, Soraya Chemaly argues that our anger is not only justified, it is also an active part of the solution. We are so often encouraged to resist our rage or punished for justifiably expressing it, yet how many remarkable achievements would never have gotten off the ground without the kernel of anger that fueled them? Approached with conscious intention, anger is a vital instrument, a radar for injustice and a catalyst for change. On the flip side, the societal and cultural belittlement of our anger is a cunning way of limiting and controlling our power—one we can no longer abide. “A work of great spirit and verve” (Time), Rage Becomes Her is a validating, energizing read that will change the way you interact with the world around you.

Download or read book Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame written by Patricia A. DeYoung and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2015-02-11 with total page 329 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Chronic shame is painful, corrosive, and elusive. It resists self-help and undermines even intensive psychoanalysis. Patricia A. DeYoung’s cutting-edge book gives chronic shame the serious attention it deserves, integrating new brain science with an inclusive tradition of relational psychotherapy. She looks behind the myriad symptoms of shame to its relational essence. As DeYoung describes how chronic shame is wired into the brain and developed in personality, she clarifies complex concepts and makes them available for everyday therapy practice. Grounded in clinical experience and alive with case examples, Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame is highly readable and immediately helpful. Patricia A. DeYoung’s clear, engaging writing helps readers recognize the presence of shame in the therapy room, think through its origins and effects in their clients’ lives, and decide how best to work with those clients. Therapists will find that Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame enhances the scope of their practice and efficacy with this client group, which comprises a large part of most therapy practices. Challenging, enlightening, and nourishing, this book belongs in the library of every shame-aware therapist.

Download or read book Violent Emotions written by Suzanne M. Retzinger and published by SAGE. This book was released on 1991-06-28 with total page 267 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Broken family bonds can be one of the most intense sources of conflict. This book - which provides vital insights into the dynamics of family and other forms of violence - explores the damage caused to familial and social bonds by escalating feelings of shame during marital quarrels. Theories and research from large-scale conflict, marital dispute and communication processes are reviewed and provide a background for Retzinger's new integrative theory, which focuses on social bonds. The theory is applied to four case studies of marital quarrels in order to advance understanding of the escalation and resolution of conflict. The book includes a description of an intensive case study method for analyzing discourse and provides

Download or read book Rage written by Ronald Potter-Efron and published by ReadHowYouWant.com. This book was released on 2010-03 with total page 258 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This new book from anger expert Potter-Efron offers powerful, emergency help to anyone whose extreme and volatile rages cause him or her to lose control of emotions, behaviors, and even conscious awareness--causing sometimes irreparable emotional and physical harm to themselves, their loved ones, and, occasionally, to innocent by-standers....

Download or read book How Emotions Work written by Jack Katz and published by University of Chicago Press. This book was released on 1999 with total page 424 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "The portrait that emerges is one in which people are much more sensually, intimately, and aesthetically bound up in the landscapes of their lives than previous scientific studies would suggest. In fact, Katz argues that emotions are most directly understood as transformations of the ongoing aesthetic foundations of the self."--BOOK JACKET.

Download or read book Stopping The Violence A Group Model To Change Men S Abusive Att Workbook written by David J Decker and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2013-04-03 with total page 257 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This informative and helpful guide will assist your clients in making positive strides toward a nonviolent life. Some of the tips and suggestions that are further explained in this workbook include: Acknowledge to yourself and to others that you have a problem with anger, abuse, and control Address mental health and chemical use issues if they are present in your life Come to know that, when you become abusive, you are always feeling inadequate, powerless, and unlovable Realize that controlling and abusive behavior hurts you and those you love Understand that anger is different from abuse and control Recognize that becoming abusive is always a choice Instead of blaming others, take responsibility for what you feel, how you think, and how you act Accept that you cannot control or change other people Remember that you can always take a time-out Think about the possible consequences before you become controlling and abusive Identify what triggers your anger and your abusive and controlling attitudes and behaviors Notice what you are thinking: Your thoughts can increase your escalation or calm you down Become aware of all your feelings, not just your anger, and learn to respectfully communicate them to others Turn conflicts into positive problem-solving opportunities Control, abuse, and violence are learned: Think about the messages you received from your family and from society about what it is to be a man Redefine manhood as nonviolent and nonabusive Take the risk to count on other men for emotional support Learn to feel a genuine sense of pride by taking control of how you view the world and how you act Start to believe that you can truly change the controlling and abusive parts of who you have been