Download or read book The State of Affairs written by Esther Perel and published by HarperCollins. This book was released on 2017-10-10 with total page 321 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” — LA Review of Books From iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”

Download or read book When Good People Have Affairs written by Mira Kirshenbaum and published by Macmillan. This book was released on 2008-05-27 with total page 226 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A world-renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of men and women caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair reaches into their emotional lives. Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place. She gives readers everything they need to cut through the thickets of fear, hurt and confusion to find their ways to happier, more solid relationships with the person who's right for them. For example, Kirshenbaum identifies seventeen types of affairs, helping readers figure out which type they're in and what it means. Is it a: --"See-if" affair? --Ejector-seat affair? --Distraction affair? --Unmet-needs affair? --Panic affair? Kirshenbaum encourages honest answers to such questions as: --What am I missing in my marriage? --How do I decide between two people when it's like comparing an apple to an orange? --How do I decide to end my marriage, end my affair, or end them both? She leads readers through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity. When Good People Have Affairs will be a lifeline to any man or woman who feels caught between two lovers, and its insights are indispensable to anyone else touched by an affair.

Download or read book Divorce Busting written by Michele Weiner Davis and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 1993-02 with total page 256 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again.

Download or read book What Makes Love Last written by John Gottman and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2013-09-10 with total page 304 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "One of the foremost relationship experts at work today offers creative insight on building trust and avoiding betrayal, helping readers to decode the mysteries of healthy love and relationships"--

Download or read book Affair Healing written by Tim Tedder and published by . This book was released on 2017-02-06 with total page pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt:

Download or read book NOT Just Friends written by Shirley Glass and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2007-11-01 with total page 450 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: One of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it. You’re right to be cautious when you hear these words: “I’m telling you, we’re just friends.” Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.

Download or read book Everything Great Marriage written by Bob Stritof and published by Everything. This book was released on 2004-01-19 with total page 308 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Brimming with helpful information and tips, The Everything Great Marriage Book can help bring harmony to any relationship.

Download or read book The Script written by Elizabeth Landers and published by Hyperion. This book was released on 2005-04-27 with total page 194 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: You+ve heard it before: Your friend's husband is acting distant, and she blames herself. Rumor starts to spread that he's running around with his secretary, and still your friend doesn't see. Then he drops the Bomb, moves out-and is soon happily remarried to his mistress. How could your friend have been so blind? That could never happen to you.Statistics show that 35% of husbands cheat on their wives. In The Script, Elizabeth Landers and Vicky Mainzer take readers through the standard lines that have been used by hundreds of unfaithful husbands.Like a screenplay for a movie you never wanted to see, The Script indicates which signs to look for, red flags you might not have noticed before, and how to turn the tide of disaster before it's too late.

Download or read book Love Busters written by Willard F. Harley and published by Revell. This book was released on 2008-05 with total page 320 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This fifteenth anniversary edition helps couples identify and overcome the most common habits that destroy the feeling of love.

Download or read book The School of Greatness written by Lewis Howes and published by Rodale. This book was released on 2015-10-27 with total page 274 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: When a career-ending injury left elite athlete and professional football player Lewis Howes out of work and living on his sister’s couch, he decided he needed to make a change for the better. He started by reaching out to people he admired, searching for mentors, and applying his past coaches’ advice from sports to life off the field. Lewis did more than bounce back: He built a multimillion-dollar online business and is now a sought-after business coach, speaker, and podcast host. In The School of Greatness, Howes shares the essential tips and habits he gathered in interviewing “the greats” on his wildly popular podcast of the same name. In discussion with people like Olympic gold medalist Shawn Johnson and Pencils of Promise CEO Adam Braun, Howes figured out that greatness is unearthed and cultivated from within. The masters of greatness are not successful because they got lucky or are innately more talented, but because they applied specific habits and tools to embrace and overcome adversity in their lives. A framework for personal development, The School of Greatness gives you the tools, knowledge, and actionable resources you need to reach your potential. Howes anchors each chapter with a specific lesson he culled from his greatness “professors” and his own experiences to teach you how to create a vision, develop hustle, and use dedication, mindfulness, joy, and love to reach goals. His lessons and practical exercises prove that anyone is capable of achieving success and that we can all strive for greatness in our everyday lives.

Download or read book My Husband s Affair BECAME the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me written by Anne Bercht and published by FriesenPress. This book was released on 2021-01-05 with total page 380 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "When Brian told me of his affair, my whole world was shattered. Since the affair, and since the difficult recovery period, I have excelled in amazing ways in every area of my life. I look and feel better than I did when I was in my twenties. I have more energy, more zeal and more enthusiasm for life. Since I have gotten over my insecurities, I experience far better relationships with my husband, children and others. I also have more fun. No matter what tragedies happen in our lives, we always have a choice, not a choice over what will happen to us, but a choice over how we will react to it. Will we become bitter or better? I chose to become better, and now my greatest tragedy has also become my greatest personal victory." – Anne Bercht "Would I want to go back to our marriage before the affair? Not a chance! Would I have liked to have gotten to this point some other way? Absolutely! Would I recommend an affair to others so they can reach a greater love and better marriage? Absolutely not! If you have experienced an affair, is rebuilding your marriage worth it? You bet it is! As long as you love each other and are willing to do the work." – Brian Bercht

Download or read book Unfaithful written by Gary Shriver and published by David C Cook. This book was released on 2009-11-01 with total page 289 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Statistics show that one in every four marriages is impacted by infidelity. So the odds are pretty good that you or someone you know has experienced the searing pain of marital infidelity. But adultery is not an automatic death sentence for your marriage. You can trust again. You can restore intimacy. You can have a relationship that you will both cherish for a lifetime. Ten years ago, Gary and Mona Shriver experienced the devastation caused by adultery, and in the course of trying to save themselves, they wrote this book. Raw, transparently honest, the Shrivers’ story alone is an inspiration, offering hope and practical strategies for healing. Now this updated and revised edition adds other real-life stories of betrayal and forgiveness, and new information defining adultery, including the destruction of emotional affairs. Some doubt if a marriage can truly heal after the ravages of infidelity. Unfaithful proves you can. It’s not easy . . . but it can be done. Is it worth it? Yes. And you hold the first step—and hope—in your hand.

Download or read book Leave a Cheater Gain a Life written by Tracy Schorn and published by Running Press Adult. This book was released on 2016-05-10 with total page 240 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity—but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters—their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Combining solid advice that champions self-respect, along with hilarious cartoons satirizing the pomposity of cheaters, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on Stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, Rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, Why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more. Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.

Download or read book The Deception and Betrayal Caused by a Cheating Spouse written by Stephenie Pompano and published by Xlibris Corporation. This book was released on 2010-07 with total page 61 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: New relationships, marriages, and courtships are usually fun and exciting until something goes wrong. Being personally violated by a loved one is one of the deepest wounds to be cut with. You believe something like this will never happen to you until it does. Please learn that if you are the individual who has been violated, you did nothing wrong. When an affair develops those involved may use excuses and untruths to validate their actions. Also, if exposed or confronted some may not want to be held accountable for their behavior or pay any consequences. This is not in every case that is why I am saying only some. Violated relationships can either dissolve permanently or can mend over time. For those that mend it takes a lot of time, patience and understanding. Broken trust is the hardest aspect to earn again. A very important lesson I am hoping to teach my readers is if you are in a relationship with someone and are tempted to be with someone else, you end the relationship you are currently in and then move on. You have no right to cheat and hurt another human being.

Download or read book Surviving an Affair written by Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr. and published by Marriage Resources International Inc. This book was released on 2024-03-27 with total page 225 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: How can a marriage survive an affair? Infidelity is one of life's most painful experiences for everyone involved--the betrayed spouse, the children, the extended family members, and even the lover and the wayward spouse. Once trust is broken, how can a couple ever hope to reconcile? In Surviving an Affair, Drs. Harley and Chalmers help you understand every aspect of infidelity--from the beginning of an affair through the restoration of the marriage. They describe: - why affairs begin and end - how to end an affair - how to restore the marriage - how to manage resentment and rebuild trust Surviving an Affair guides you step-by-step from the devastating blow of infidelity to a loving and trusting marriage. All questionnaires mentioned within this book are available in a fillable pdf format from the authors' websites identified on the last page.

Download or read book After the Affair written by Janis A. Spring and published by Harper Collins. This book was released on 2008-07-08 with total page 306 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: After the Affair teaches partners how to heal themselves and grow from the shattering crisis of an infidelity. Drawing on thirty-five years as a clinical psychologist, Dr. Spring offers a series of original and proven strategies that address such questions as: Why did it happen? Once love and trust are gone, can we ever get them back? Can I—should I—recommit when I feel so ambivalent? How do we become sexually intimate again? Is forgiveness possible? What constitutes an affair in cyberspace?

Download or read book Questions To Ask A Cheater written by Rebekah Clarke and published by Rebekah Clarke Books. This book was released on 2021-03-24 with total page 47 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Talking to your partner after they've cheated is undeniably one of the toughest conversations you'll ever have with them. You'll be bubbling over with a ton of emotions - anger, upset and frustration. The cheating partner will also have their own emotions to deal with - dread, uncertainty and the shame of their actions. The aftermath of cheating always leads to "The Conversation", where the hurt party asks their partner all of the questions about the affair they have bottled up. The cheater will be asked to answer difficult questions and confess some hurtful things to their partner, which is easier said than done. Does this situation sound similar to the one you've found yourself in? Although you may find yourself simmering with an abundance of questions for your partner, they don't always come out the way you want or need them to; your anger and hurt take over and what should be an open communication turns into an argument. I was in the same situation not too long ago, and my rage and hurt would always get in the way of an open and honest discussion with my partner about his infidelity. This stopped me from being able to get the closure I needed so badly. Couple this with my emotions clouding my ability to know what questions to ask and how to ask them, I was in a cycle of heartache and confusion. Through trial and error, I had the breakthrough with my partner and compiled my findings in this book. I've included four parts: Part One: Questions To Ask Your Partner To Understand Their Behaviour Part Two: Questions To Ask To Rebuild Trust With Your Partner Part Three: Questions To Ask A Cheating Partner Or Ex To Gain Closure Part Four: A Chapter For The Cheater: Understand Your Behaviour, Comprehend The Damage It's Caused & Nurture Forgiveness In Your Relationship This book is for you if you've been cheated on and need answers. It's also a way to find comfort in the knowledge that someone has been in the same position you're in and has been through the same heartache as you've endured. Straight to the point, no fluff or filler, this book will aid you in getting the answers you need, help you rebuild honest communication with your partner and inspire you to seek the respect you deserve.