Download or read book Peace of Mind for Your Aging Parents written by Kenneth O. Doyle Ph.D. and published by Bloomsbury Publishing USA. This book was released on 2018-06-21 with total page 262 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Explains the most effective ways to discuss the legal and financial responsibilities that come with the end of life and tools for managing them—such as wills, trusts, estate planning, and cash management—in the context of financial psychology. Dying is complicated. It presents myriad challenges at a time when people are least prepared to deal with complexity. Typically, aging people turn to their adult children and grandchildren, their caregivers, and their professional advisors to guide them in their final years. This book is aimed directly at the children and grandchildren of aging parents to prepare them for meaningful conversations with their parents and among themselves. It gives them the tools they need to communicate knowledgeably with caregivers and professional advisors and to make important decisions with, or on behalf of, those who depend on them. The authors provide legal and financial tools and techniques, including wills and trusts, cash management, and investment planning, approaching each from both a financial and a psychological perspective. They recognize that some of the challenges that people face during their last few years of life cannot be controlled and describe not only what these tools and techniques can do but also what they can't. Those that cannot be controlled, however, can still be managed, and the authors explain with clarity and compassion how to deal with them through psychological and spiritual engagement.

Download or read book Raising an Aging Parent written by Ken Druck and published by . This book was released on 2019-11-06 with total page pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt:

Download or read book Coping with Un Cope Able Parents written by Carol-Ann Hamilton and published by BalboaPress. This book was released on 2012-09-14 with total page 134 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Do you: Meet unquantifiable resistance in merely hinting its time your headstrong parents leave their decades-old residence? Battle belligerently at daring to suggest household caregivers to your defiant folks, given their progressive inability to perform basic daily tasks? Serve up your total human capacity to your unappreciative relatives without coming close to filling their bottomless pit? Enter resident expert Carol-Ann Hamilton. Her unique termun-cope-ableperfectly describes her own intractable duo. Through painful personal experience across decades, Carol-Ann has discovered and tested twelve innovative Keys to Coping. Eureka! Success! Engage with the Impossible Parents Questionnaire and overcome 10 hair-yanking eldercare challenges Apply 6 LOVING attitudes and stay centered during crazy-making exchanges Gain 6 down-to-earth ACTION strategies that guarantee your targeted efforts will achieve headway Be inspired by others illuminating stories, knowing youre not alone anymore Benefit from Carol-Anns hard-won lessons. Share her poignant yet hilarious journey. Get the support you needNOW. Say good-bye to feeling victimized and over-burdened. Say hello to relief and hope in Coping with Un-cope-able Parents!

Download or read book Role Reversal written by Iris Waichler, MSW, LCSW and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2016-08-16 with total page 259 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Designed to help caregivers understand how to cope with and overcome the overwhelming challenges that arise while caregiving for a loved one—especially an aging parent—Role Reversal is a comprehensive guide to navigating the enormous daily challenges faced by caregivers. In these pages, Waichler blends her personal experience caring for her beloved father with her forty years of expertise as a patient advocate and clinical social worker. The result is a book offering invaluable information on topics ranging from estate planning to grief and anger to building a support network and finding the right level of care for your elderly parent.

Download or read book A Bittersweet Season written by Jane Gross and published by Knopf. This book was released on 2011-04-26 with total page 370 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Just a few of the vitally important lessons in caring for your aging parent—and yourself—from Jane Gross in A Bittersweet Season As painful as the role reversal between parent and child may be for you, assume it is worse for your mother or father, so take care not to demean or humiliate them. Avoid hospitals and emergency rooms, as well as multiple relocations from home to assisted living facility to nursing home, since all can cause dramatic declines in physical and cognitive well-being among the aged. Do not accept the canard that no decent child sends a parent to a nursing home. Good nursing home care, which supports the entire family, can be vastly superior to the pretty trappings but thin staffing of assisted living or the solitude of being at home, even with round-the-clock help. Important Facts Every state has its own laws, eligibility standards, and licensing requirements for financial, legal, residential, and other matters that affect the elderly, including qualification for Medicare. Assume anything you understand in the state where your parents once lived no longer applies if they move. Many doctors will not accept new Medicare patients, nor are they legally required to do so, especially significant if a parent is moving a long distance to be near family in old age. An adult child with power of attorney can use a parent’s money for legitimate expenses and thus hasten the spend-down to Medicaid eligibility. In other words, you are doing your parent no favor—assuming he or she is likely to exhaust personal financial resources—by paying rent, stocking the refrigerator, buying clothes, or taking him or her to the hairdresser or barber.

Download or read book The Caregiving Season written by Jane Daly and published by NavPress. This book was released on 2016-09-01 with total page 209 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Caring for elderly parents is challenging. It’s a season of life that requires grace and strength that can only come from God. In The Caregiving Season, Jane Daly shares personal caregiving stories, offering practical advice to help you honor your aging parents well and deepen your personal relationship with Christ along the journey.

Download or read book Caring for Yourself While Caring for Your Aging Parents Third Edition written by Claire Berman and published by Macmillan. This book was released on 2005-12-27 with total page 276 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: For women and men who are involved in caring for aging parents, and for those who see caregiving in their future, this empathetic and practical book offers complete coverage of all the practical issues you are likely to confront, while addressing the emotional stress and particular needs of caregivers. Claire Berman, drawing on her own experiences, the experiences of many other adult children, and interviews with specialists in the geriatric field, discusses the wide range of emotions that can accompany caregiving--Publisher.

Download or read book When Your Aging Parent Needs Help written by Leslie Kernisan, MD and published by . This book was released on 2021-02-11 with total page 220 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: It's scary and stressful when it happens ... noticing changes in your parent and becoming increasingly worried about their health and safety. Maybe it's Mom leaving the stove on, Dad getting lost on his way home, or unpaid bills that trigger this realization. Or perhaps there have been falls or emergency room visits. Whatever it is, you know something's wrong. You wonder about a diagnosis. And you want your aging parent to accept help, or perhaps move. Helping an older parent can be gratifying. But it's especially hard if they're blowing off your concerns, refusing to make changes, or otherwise resisting your efforts. You want them to listen, but they get upset or withdraw when you try to talk about this. What to do? You don't have to remain stuck in conflict with your parent (or other family members). You don't have to keep getting the runaround from doctors or feel stumped about next steps. Instead, use an expert's clear plan on how to help your aging parent. In this practical, step-by-step guide, geriatrician Leslie Kernisan, MD, walks you through what to do and what to say in order to offer respectful assistance and intervention to a declining elderly parent. Full of actionable advice and insider tips, When Your Aging Parent Needs Help provides practical and flexible steps that move concerned families toward effective elder care action, while respecting a parent's dignity and autonomy. You'll discover: How to communicate with your aging parent to reduce conflicts and enhance cooperation The A-B-C-D-E assessment framework for Alzheimer or other dementia concerns, safety issues, or independent living - and steps to implement change Strategies to overcome parental resistance, health provider reluctance to share information, and family disagreement How to get a medical evaluation for memory loss and, if applicable, a diagnosis for Alzheimer's or another dementia What to know about possible mental "incompetence," powers of attorney, HIPAA, and other options for gaining legal authority as a caregiver How to find geriatric care managers and other eldercare professionals to assist Downloadable worksheets, symptom checkers, and checklists to bring to doctor visits "What this looks like" family stories that show you what these action steps look like in real-world situations Transform good intentions into workable solutions and improved relationships. If you're concerned about an aging parent's health, wellbeing, or safety, you'll find encouragement and direction for this next life stage in When Your Aging Parent Needs Help.

Download or read book Honoring Aging Parents written by Klaus Dannenberg and published by . This book was released on 2019 with total page 264 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: As our parents age and become unable to care for them selves, awareness of challenges and insights into useful approaches are provided using short vignettes that everyone can relate to.

Download or read book The Four Things That Matter Most 10th Anniversary Edition written by Ira Byock and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2004-03-08 with total page 237 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: “This beautiful book, full of wisdom and warmth, teaches us how to protect and preserve our most valuable possessions—the relationships with those we love. It shows that the things that matter definitely aren’t ‘things,’ and how to empower your life in the right direction.” —Dr. Stephen R. Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Four simple phrases—“Please forgive me,” “I forgive you,” “Thank you,” and “I love you”—carry enormous power to mend and nurture our relationships and inner lives. These four phrases and the sentiments they convey provide a path to emotional wellbeing, guiding us through interpersonal difficulties to life with integrity and grace. Newly updated with stories from people who have turned to this life-altering book in their time of need, this motivational teaching about what really matters reminds us how we can honor each relationship every day. Dr. Ira Byock, an international leader in palliative care, explains how we can practice these life-affirming words in our day-to-day lives. Too often we assume that the people we love really know that we love them. Dr. Byock demonstrates the value of “stating the obvious” and provides practical insights into the benefits of letting go of old grudges and toxic emotions. His stories help us to forgive, appreciate, love, and celebrate one another and live life more fully. Using the Four Things in a wide range of life situations, we can experience emotional healing even in the wake of family strife, personal tragedy, divorce, or in the face of death. With practical wisdom and spiritual power, The Four Things That Matter Most gives us the language and guidance to honor and experience what really matters most in our lives every day.

Download or read book Crossroads at Midlife written by Frances Cohen Praver and published by . This book was released on 2008 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: With medical science, health care, and healthy lifestyles extending our lifespans as never before, more and more midlife adults are finding themselves caring for their aging parents. This role can trigger not only logistical and financial challenges, but also great emotional upheaval. There is a reversal of roles as the child--often in the midst of raising his or her own adolescent or young adult offspring--becomes the caretaker of the parent. A parent's aging and mortality elicits strong feelings of loss, and a stark realization of one's own aging and mortality. Past, present, and future paths converge, and the caretaker is at the center of that crossroads. Psychologist Praver--a specialist working with such caretakers--shows us their inner worlds, and how they used a difficult point in their lives to embark on a journey of self-understanding and self-transformation--a journey toward a more meaningful life for themselves. Readers can gain a better understanding of their own lives-- and know they are not alone in their struggles to contend with and find powerful benefits from the emotional side of caring for an aging parent. Distress can become peace of mind, as we see in the stories of men and women who sought Praver's help. Relationships that might be weakened by a caretaker role--relationships between caretakers and their children, spouses, and friends--can actually grow stronger with the experience. Profound issues affecting caretakers are shared in this evocative book, which is an enlightening and enjoyable read.

Download or read book Parenting Your Parents written by Dr. Grant Ethridge and published by Harvest House Publishers. This book was released on 2019-09-03 with total page 178 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Help and Hope for the Hard Road Ahead If you are currently providing care for your aging parents or facing the prospect of doing so in the near future, you are definitely not alone. Dr. Grant Ethridge and his wife, Tammy, have been there, having given care during their dads’ last days. They know the stress and uncertainty you face. Through their story and those of other caregivers, Grant and Tammy share research and practical tips to aid you in dealing with everyday caregiving struggles and situations. You will learn how to decide which care is best, prepare legal documents, handle family disputes, and much more. They will also share encouragement and advice from the Bible. You’ll discover that with God’s help, you can make it through even the most difficult days in your journey. Looking after an elderly or sick parent is a physically and emotionally draining experience. Let this book give you the tools you need to be successful without giving away your peace of mind in the process. And remember, as you give care to your parents, your Heavenly Father is always caring for you.

Download or read book They re Your Parents Too written by Francine Russo and published by Bantam. This book was released on 2010-01-26 with total page 337 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Your parents are growing older and are getting forgetful, starting to slow down, or worse. Suddenly you find yourself at the cusp of one of the most important transitions in your life—and the life of your family. Your parents need you and your siblings to step up and take care of them, a little or a lot. To make the right things happen, you will all need to work together. And yet your siblings may have very different ideas from yours of what’s best for Mom and Dad. They may be completely uninterested in helping, leaving you with all the responsibility. Or they may take charge and not allow you to help, or criticize whatever help you do give. Will you and your siblings be able to reach an understanding and work together, or will the challenges you face tear you apart? Most of us enter this period of our lives unprepared for the difficult decisions and delicate negotiations that lie ahead. This is the first book that provides guidance on the transition from the “old” family to the “new” one, especially for adult siblings. Here you’ll find practical advice on a wide range of topics including • Who will make major medical decisions, manage finances, and enforce end-of-life choices if your parents cannot? And how will this be decided and carried out? • How will you negotiate caregiving issues and deal with unequal contributions or power struggles? • How can inheritance and the division of property, assets, and personal effects be handled to minimize hurt feelings and resentment? • How will you cope with the natural reemergence of unresolved childhood rivalries, hurts, and needs? • How can caring for your parents be an enriching experience rather than a thankless chore? • Most important, how can you ensure the best care for your parents while lessening conflict, guilt, anger, and angst? Written by a veteran journalist who chronicles life and how baby boomers live it, They’re Your Parents, Too! offers all the information, insight, and advice you’ll need to make productive choices as you and your siblings begin to assume your parents’ place as the decision-making generation of your family. Filled with expert guidance from gerontologists, family therapists, elder-care attorneys, financial planners, and health workers; resonant real-life stories; and helpful family negotiation techniques, this is an indispensable book for anyone whose parents are aging.

Download or read book You and Your Aging Parent written by Barbara Silverstone and published by Oxford University Press. This book was released on 2008-02-27 with total page 432 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: First published in 1976, You and Your Aging Parent is a classic--the first book to shed light on the challenging relationship between adult children and their aging parents, illuminating the emotional, health, and financial difficulties that elderly parents and their children face during the senior years. Marking the 30th anniversary of this highly popular book, the new and revised edition addresses the changes that have taken place in the last three decades, but it still embraces the authors' fundamental insight--that the difficulties and challenges of the aging process are as much a family affair as in any other phase of life. Both a sensitive exploration of the dynamics of the aging family relationship (between parent and child, and sibling and sibling) and an authoritative how-to guide for seniors and their families navigating the practical problems of growing old in America, You and Your Aging Parent has been thoroughly updated to reflect the latest research findings and changes affecting older adults, including in health care and social services. The book also includes a running commentary by Bob Morris--playwright, author, and humorist--who provides insightful and entertaining observations about his trials and tribulations with his own parents as they aged, serving as a contemporary voice for the middle-aged caregiver of today. As the first of the baby boom generation turns 60 and their increasingly frail parents approach late retirement and final decline, this new and updated edition of You and Your Aging Parent will answer their need for authoritative, practical information about this major phase of life.

Download or read book The Boomer s Guide to Aging Parents written by Carolyn L. Rosenblatt and published by Lulu.com. This book was released on 2009-02 with total page 236 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Carolyn L. Rosenblatt is a registered nurse and an attorney with over 40 years of combined experience. She has compiled her 9 volume series into this Complete Guide. It touches on dangerous older drivers, choosing home care workers and nursing homes, understanding assisted living, the specifics of handling money for aging parents, ways to manage sibling conflicts about elders, advice from a lawyer about how to choose a lawyer when your parent needs one, and knowing how a care manager can help you.

Download or read book Caring for Aging Loved Ones written by Focus On The Family and published by Fotf Complete Guide. This book was released on 2004-10-25 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Offers support to caregivers of the elderly, covering everything from understanding the physical and mental changes of aging to handling finances, making medical decisions, getting help, and dealing with end-of-life issues.

Download or read book Elderly Parent Caregiver Guide written by HowExpert and published by HowExpert. This book was released on 2019-08-08 with total page 60 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Elderly Parent Caregiver 101 is the ultimate guide for adult children who are or will become their parents’ caregivers. Filled with valuable information and ideas, this book offers hope, support, and plenty of practical advice for anyone caring for their elderly parents. Each chapter describes a different area of caregiving, including: • Becoming a Caregiver • Medical Providers • Facility Care • Caregiver Support • Financial Concerns • Medical Devices • Special Circumstances • End of Life As the author guides you through the maze of caregiving, she shares her knowledge as a nurse and examples from her own journey of caregiving for her elderly parents. This book defines medical terms, explains insurance options, and highlights the many tools available to caregivers. Through these topics, you’ll gain the understanding needed to be a caregiver for your elderly parents. Each section offers helpful information and true insights only a caregiver can provide. The tips in every chapter are practical facts and advice for every area of your caregiving. You are not alone in your caregiving journey. Don’t struggle without having the best resource for knowing everything you need to know about caring for your elderly parents. This guide is your trusted companion for that journey. About the Expert Rebecca Rehak, LPN, is a nurse, writer, and public speaker who has worked in the medical field for over 20 years, including kidney dialysis, community health, and Memory Care. As a public speaker, she helped advance programs for dialysis access care and currently teaches science camps for children. Her work has touched the lives of thousands of people. After caring for both her elderly parents, she now devotes much of her time to writing articles, blogs, and providing support for other caregivers. She and her husband live with their big, furry dog in Wisconsin. The author would like to thank the doctors and staff at Froedtert Hospital, the Medical College of Wisconsin, and Horizon Home Care and Hospice for the wonderful care they provided to both her parents. HowExpert publishes quick 'how to' guides on all topics from A to Z by everyday experts.