Download or read book How We Love Expanded Edition written by Milan Yerkovich and published by WaterBrook. This book was released on 2009-01-20 with total page 354 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Did you know the last fight you had with your spouse began long before you even met? Are you tired of falling into frustrating relational patterns in your marriage? Do you and your spouse fight about the same things again and again? Relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich explain why the ways you and your spouse relate to each other go back to before you even met. Drawing on the powerful tool of attachment theory, Milan and Kay explore how your childhood created an “intimacy imprint” that affects your marriage today. Their stories and practical ideas help you: * identify your personal love style * understand how your early life impacts you and your spouse * break free from painful patterns that keep you stuck * find healing for the source of conflict, not just the symptoms * create the close, nourishing relationship you dream about Revised throughout with all-new material and additional visual diagrams, this expanded edition of How We Love will bring vibrant life to your marriage. Are you ready for a new journey of love? Note: The revised and expanded How We Love Workbook is available separately.
Download or read book Marriage and the People Pleaser written by Paul R. Shaffer and published by AuthorHouse. This book was released on 2021-10-07 with total page 137 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The term "people pleaser" has both positive and negative connotations. In an ideal world, everybody tries to be a people pleaser at least to some degree, but people-pleasing becomes problematic when it approaches the extremes. “Marriage and the People Pleaser” focuses on three topics related to people-pleasing that has gone to an extreme: 1) the eight core areas that extreme people pleasers are likely to struggle with, 2) the unique dynamic that often occurs within a marriage when at least one partner is an extreme people pleaser, and 3) some of the differences between well-intended people pleasers and manipulative people pleasers. This book is written for both the people pleaser and the partner of the people pleaser; addressing both the challenges and their possible solutions.
Download or read book The Healthy Compulsive written by Gary Trosclair and published by Rowman & Littlefield. This book was released on 2020-02-08 with total page 233 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Gary Trosclair explores the power of the driven personality and the positive outcomes those with obsessive compulsive personality disorder can achieve through a mindful program of harnessing the skills that can work, and altering those that serve no one. If you were born with a compulsive personality you may become rigid, controlling, and self-righteous. But you also may become productive, energetic, and conscientious. Same disposition, but very different ways of expressing it. What determines the difference? Some of the most successful and happy people in the world are compelled by powerful inner urges that are almost impossible to resist. They’re compulsive. They’re driven. But some people with a driven personality feel compelled by shame or insecurity to use their compulsive energy to prove their worth, and they lose control of the wheel of their own life. They become inflexible and critical perfectionists who need to wield control, and they lose the point of everything they do in the process. A healthy compulsive is one whose energy and talents for achievement are used consciously in the service of passion, love and purpose. An unhealthy compulsive is one whose energy and talents for achievement have been hijacked by fear and its henchman, anger. Both are driven: one by meaning, the other by dread. The Healthy Compulsive: Healing Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder and Taking the Wheel of the Driven Personality, will serve as the ultimate user’s guide for those with a driven personality, including those who have slid into obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD). Unlike OCD, which results in specific symptoms such as repetitive hand-washing and intrusive thoughts, OCPD permeates the entire personality and dramatically affects relationships. It also requires a different approach to healing. Both scientifically informed and practical, The Healthy Compulsive describes how compulsives get off track and outlines a four-step program to help them consciously cultivate the talents and passions that are the truly compelling sources of the driven personality. Drawing from his 25 years of clinical experience as a psychotherapist and Jungian psychoanalyst, and his own personal experience as someone with a driven personality, Trosclair offers understanding, inspiring stories of change, and hope to compulsives and their partners about how to move to the healthy end of the compulsive spectrum.
Download or read book The Peaceful Wife written by April Cassidy and published by Kregel Publications. This book was released on 2016-01-27 with total page 228 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In today's world, women are often rewarded for having type A personalities. Driven, demanding women achieve higher positions, better salaries, and praise for their ambition. They learn to be confident, take-charge leaders who can handle anything on their own. Yet when it comes to their marriages, those same traits can backfire. After all, no one goes into marriage hoping for a promotion. What is a wife to do? April Cassidy knows this struggle firsthand. She thought she was a great Christian wife and begged God to make her passive husband into a more loving, involved, godly leader. Instead, God opened her eyes to changes that she needed to make, such as laying down her desire for control and offering genuine, unconditional respect--not just love--to her husband. The Peaceful Wife focuses on Cassidy's experience and its life-changing properties, providing a template for others to follow. Cassidy's conclusions may be as shocking to readers as they were to her, but she backs up her own tale with stories from her blog readers, and also includes recommendations for further study. She walks through baby steps on how to change, addressing questions such as: -What is respect? -How can you show respect? -How is being respectful different from being loving? In the end, The Peaceful Wife is a powerful path to God's design for women to live in full submission to Christ as Lord.
Download or read book Pleasing People written by Lou Priolo and published by P & R Publishing. This book was released on 2007 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Are you a people pleaser? Are you addicted to a€œapprovala€? from others, and would do just about anything to get that approval? Biblical counselor Lou Priolo exposes all the prideful manifestations of this problem and, as always, offers solid, systematic Biblical solutions! Even readers who feel that they do not have this problem should read this helpful book, because what you dona€t know can and will hurt you and others.\n
Download or read book Marriage and the People Pleaser written by Paul R. Shaffer and published by . This book was released on 2021-10-07 with total page 224 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The term "people pleaser" has both positive and negative connotations. In an ideal world, everybody tries to be a people pleaser at least to some degree, but people-pleasing becomes problematic when it approaches the extremes. "Marriage and the People Pleaser" focuses on three topics related to people-pleasing that has gone to an extreme: 1) the eight core areas that extreme people pleasers are likely to struggle with, 2) the unique dynamic that often occurs within a marriage when at least one partner is an extreme people pleaser, and 3) some of the differences between well-intended people pleasers and manipulative people pleasers. This book is written for both the people pleaser and the partner of the people pleaser; addressing both the challenges and their possible solutions.
Download or read book When Pleasing Others Is Hurting You written by David Hawkins and published by Harvest House Publishers. This book was released on 2010-07-01 with total page 241 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: You want to do the right thing—to take care of your family, to be a good employee, to "be there" for your friends. And you're good at it. Everyone knows they can depend on you—so they do. But are you really doing what's best for them? And what about you—are you growing? Are you happy and relaxed? Are you excited about your gifts and your calling, or do you sometimes think, "I don't even know what I want anymore." Find out why you have trouble saying no. Learn why you feel accepted only when you are producing. And finally experience the deep joy and peace that come with serving other people out of your abundance, not out of your need.
Download or read book When It s Never about You written by Ilene S. Cohen Ph D and published by Harte Publishing. This book was released on 2017 with total page 206 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Everyone loves a people-pleaser. They're always willing to help, to stay late, to fill in, to "go along." But if you're one of them, you often end up feeling violated, ignored, disrespected, and disconnected--from life and others. Silently enduring the ongoing and relentless invalidation of who you are and what you want will reliably wreak havoc on your health and the health of your relationships.psychotherapist, Ilene S. Cohen, uses real-world examples and activities to help you take a systemic look at people-pleasing. You'll learn... How to reclaim a strong and balanced sense of self--while still being a "good person." How to break the harmful behavior patterns that keep you from being heard, listened to and respected. Specific strategies for transforming yourself from selfless to "self-full."How to go from feeling "vanished" to being clearly differentiated.How to get what you want and need--while actually earning even more respect from others.
Download or read book How We Love Our Kids written by Milan Yerkovich and published by WaterBrook. This book was released on 2011-03-15 with total page 306 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: One small change in how you love; one big change in your kids Having problems with your kids? What if you are the problem and you just can’t see it? How We Love Our Kids offers a unique approach, to help you as a parent transform your kids by making specific changes in how you love. It’s the only book specifically for parents that reveals the unseen forces that shape every interaction with your kids. • Identify which of the five love styles you have. • Discover the surprising dynamics that shape your parenting. • Get rid of your “buttons” so your kids can’t push them. • Create a close connection with your kids that will last a lifetime. • Learn the seven gifts every child needs. Based on years of research in the area of attachment and bonding, How We Love Our Kids shows parents how to overcome the predictable challenges that arise out of the five love styles and helps parents cultivate a secure, deep connection with a child of any age. Retool your reactions and refocus on how you love. Start today. Watch your kids flourish and thrive as they receive what was missing in your love. With four self-assessments and powerful application tools to use with children of all ages.
Download or read book When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable written by Karen Ehman and published by Zondervan. This book was released on 2021-08-03 with total page 224 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Are you overwhelmed by others' unrealistic expectations of you? Do you feel torn in dozens of directions as you try to make everyone around you happy? If you're ready to end the cycle of approval seeking, New York Times bestselling author and recovering people pleaser Karen Ehman is here to help! When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable shares the refreshing, heartfelt lessons that Karen learned firsthand during her own journey of breaking free from people pleasing in order to live out her God-given purpose. Let Karen be your new go-to guide as you learn to successfully break the destructive pattern of people pleasing and start fully embracing the life God has called you to lead. With equal parts humor and vulnerability, Karen explores why it's so easy to fall into people-pleasing behaviors and reminds us that we can't fulfill our divine purpose if we're too busy living everyone else's. She offers her timely advice for living with less overwhelm and with more peace and purpose, sharing words of wisdom that will help you: Prioritize what God says above what other people think Live your life without worrying about the opinions and expectations of others Cultivate a strategy for knowing when to say yes and how to say no Create and maintain healthy boundaries with the pushers, pouters, guilt bombers and others who try to call the shots in your life Learn to navigate the tension between pleasing God and loving your community Join Karen as she encourages you to walk closely--and confidently--with our loving Creator, despite the opinions and expectations of others. It's time to end the people-pleasing game and finally enjoy the peaceful and purposeful life that you deserve.
Download or read book Nothing to Prove written by Jennie Allen and published by WaterBrook. This book was released on 2017 with total page 258 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "Allen understands the daily struggle so many of us face with the fear that we are not enough. And she invites us into a different experience, one in which our souls overflow with contentment and joy"--Amazon.com.
Download or read book The Generous Husband written by Paul Byerly and published by Karis Publishing. This book was released on 2004-11 with total page 220 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Would your marriage improve if you could give your wife what she most wants? Generosity can work wonders, but only if you give what is most wanted. This book, which will help you target your giving, contains over 400 tips designed to meet her needs in the areas of touch, romance, gifts, service, a shared walk, communication, prayer, affirmation, time, and sex. Includes special tips for holidays and parents. Additional sections: Massage - Sexual and Non-Sexual Cooking for the Citchen Clueless The Flood - AKA Menstruation Buying Lingerie - Without Dying of Embarrassment Paul H. Byerly began e-mailing generous tips in 2001. His daily Generous Husband messages are now received by over two thousand men around the world.
Download or read book Is Fred in the Refrigerator written by Shala Nicely and published by . This book was released on 2018-05-29 with total page 312 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "A masterfully written memoir-meets-educational-meets-inspirational tale that I couldn't put down." Ashley Smith, PhD, coauthor of Childhood Anxiety Disorders A gripping memoir that gives voice to the invisible, life-destroying power of obsessive-compulsive disorder, and how one woman stood up to fear, embraced the unknown, and reclaimed her life. Even at nine years old, Shala Nicely knew there was nothing normal about the horrifying thoughts that tormented her at bedtime, or the nightly rituals she summoned to beat them back. More importantly, she knew to obey her mind's Rule #1: keep its secret, or risk losing everything and everyone she loved. It would be almost two decades before she learned the name of the menacing monster holding her hostage: obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). It would take years longer to piece together the keys to recovery that would change her life forever, beginning with the day she broke her monster's silence. Writing with wry wit, unflinching candor, and resounding insight, Shala takes readers on a riveting journey into the dark and dimly understood inner workings of OCD and its frequent co-conspirator, body dysmorphic disorder (BDD). Thwarted repeatedly as she struggles to escape the clutches of these formidable foes, she finally stumbles upon an unexpected path to freedom. As she journeys into the heart of fear to reclaim her life, she weaves a self-compassionate roadmap to recovery: to living in an uncertain world and being happy anyway. With an Afterword by Reid Wilson, PhD offering powerful guidance for applying Shala's strategies in daily life, Is Fred in the Refrigerator? will leave legions of those affected by mental illness feeling seen, understood, and empowered. "A memoir ... about all of us with this kind of mind." Jon Hershfield, MFT, author of Overcoming Harm OCD "One of the clearest descriptions of the experience of OCD ... you'll cry, you'll cheer, and you'll put your shoulders back with Shala as she conquers the OCD demon." Randy O. Frost, PhD, Harold and Elsa Siipola Israel Professor of Psychology at Smith College and coauthor of the New York Times bestseller Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things
Download or read book Fierce Marriage written by Ryan Frederick and published by Baker Books. This book was released on 2018-04-17 with total page 221 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Ryan and Selena Frederick were newlyweds when they landed in Switzerland to pursue Selena's dream of training horses. Neither of them knew at the time that Ryan was living out a death sentence brought on by a worsening genetic heart defect. Soon it became clear he needed major surgery that could either save his life--or result in his death on the operating table. The young couple prepared for the worst. When Ryan survived, they both realized that they still had a future together. But the near loss changed the way they saw all that would lie ahead. They would live and love fiercely, fighting for each other and for a Christ-centered marriage, every step of the way. Fierce Marriage is their story, but more than that, it is a call for married couples to put God first in their relationship, to measure everything they do and say to each other against what Christ did for them, and to see marriage not just as a relationship they should try to keep healthy but also as one worth fighting for in every situation. With the gospel as their foundation, Ryan and Selena offer hope and practical help for common struggles in marriage, including communication problems, sexual frustration, financial stress, family tension, screen-time disconnection, and unrealistic expectations.
Download or read book Myths are Real Reality is a Myth written by Awdhesh Singh and published by . This book was released on 2017 with total page 246 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: New realities are being created every moment. But how really are they taking form? Certainly, an existing reality can't lead to a new one by itself. The genesis of new realities lies in-believe it or not-fiction. It is fictions, myths and legends-our imagination-that has shaped and is shaping our world. This highly evocative and analytical book digs deep into the secrets of consciousness of societies, religions and nations to unravel the myths of reality and reality of myths.
Download or read book Shattering the Porcelain written by Carly LeBaron and published by Embracing Authenticity. This book was released on 2017-11-16 with total page 138 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Perfectionists and people-pleasers put in enormous amounts of time and energy trying to be the best, the brightest, and the nicest. They twist themselves in knots trying to be what they think they should be in order to get approval or avoid rejection from others. But at what cost? In Shattering the Porcelain, Dr. Carly LeBaron explores what perfectionism and people-pleasing are, how they negatively impact your life, and how to break free from those perfectly pleasing patterns to embrace who you truly are. In this book you'll learn: -How perfectionism and people-pleasing negatively impact your mental, emotional, and relational health. -Where your perfectionism and people pleasing originated and how to use that knowledge to guide your journey to becoming the real you. -The type of perfectionist and/or people-pleaser you are and how that influences your life experiences. -Practical tips, tricks, and techniques to use in changing the way you think, how you feel, and what you do that keeps you stuck. -How to shatter your perfectionism and people-pleasing and start embracing authenticity.
Download or read book Is It Me Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage written by Natalie Hoffman and published by Flying Free. This book was released on 2018 with total page 330 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: One out of three married women sitting in an average conservative Christian church is in a confusing and painful marriage relationship. Those women believe they are alone. I want them to know they aren't. They believe they can't find peace. I want them to know they can. They believe they don't have choices. I want them to know they do.This book isn't for the parents who raised them. It's not for the pastors who condemn them. It's not for the friends who don't understand them. And it's not for the partner who dehumanizes them. This book is for the woman in the pew who somehow, by God's divine intervention, finds it in her hand and has to catch her breath because she suddenly feels like she's free falling.I wrote this book just for you. Let's dig in.
