Download or read book Love and War in Intimate Relationships Connection Disconnection and Mutual Regulation in Couple Therapy written by Marion F. Solomon and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 2011-04-11 with total page 288 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Neuroscience and couples therapy come together to help couples break patterns of bad behavior. What happens between partners that makes love turn to war? How can couples therapists help deescalate the battles? Two leading therapists apply the latest neuroscience research on emotional arousal to help couples regulate each other’s emotions, maintain secure attachment, and foster positive, enduring relationships. The neurobiologically-grounded and sensitive approach set forth by Solomon and Tatkin in this book is sure to transform the way clinicians understand and treat couples in therapy.
Download or read book Wired for Love written by Stan Tatkin and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2024-06-01 with total page 332 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "Invaluable for so many partners looking to reconnect and grow closer together." —Gwyneth Paltrow, founder and CEO of goop "Stan Tatkin can be entirely followed into the towering infernos of our most painful relationship challenges." —Alanis Morissette, artist, activist, and wholeness advocate The complete “insider’s guide” to understanding your partner’s brain, sparking lasting connection, and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust—now with more than 170,000 copies sold. “What the heck is my partner thinking?” “Why do they always react like this?” “How can we get back that connection we had in the beginning?” If you’ve ever asked yourself these questions, you aren’t alone, and it doesn’t mean that your relationship is doomed. Every person is wired for love differently—with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people’s minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and routines, making it possible to neurologically prime the brain for greater love and connection and fewer conflicts. This go-to guide will show you how. Drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this highly anticipated second edition of Wired for Love presents cutting-edge research on how and why love lasts, and offers ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship. This fully revised and updated edition also includes new guidance on how to manage disagreements, as well as new exercises to help you create a sense of safety and security, establish healthy conflict ground rules, and deal with the threat of the third—any outside source which threatens the harmony in your relationship, including in-laws, alcohol, children, and affairs. You’ll find proven-effective strategies to help you strengthen your relationship by: Creating and maintaining a safe “couple bubble” Using morning and evening routines to stay connected Learning how to see your partner’s point of view Meeting each other halfway in a fight Becoming the expert on what makes your partner feel loved By using simple gestures and words, you’ll learn to put out emotional fires and help your partner feel appreciated and loved. You’ll also discover how to move past a “warring brain” mentality and toward a more cooperative “loving brain.” Most importantly, you’ll gain a better understanding of the complex dynamics at work behind love and trust in intimate relationships. While there’s no doubt that love is an inexact science, if you understand how you and your partner are wired differently, you can overcome your differences, and create a lasting intimate connection.
Download or read book Loving with the Brain in Mind Neurobiology and Couple Therapy Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology written by Mona DeKoven Fishbane and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 2013-09-30 with total page 305 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Facilitating change in couple therapy by understanding how the brain works to maintain—and break—old habits. Human brains and behavior are shaped by genetic predispositions and early experience. But we are not doomed by our genes or our past. Neuroscientific discoveries of the last decade have provided an optimistic and revolutionary view of adult brain function: People can change. This revelation about neuroplasticity offers hope to therapists and to couples seeking to improve their relationship. Loving With the Brain in Mind explores ways to help couples become proactive in revitalizing their relationship. It offers an in-depth understanding of the heartbreaking dynamics in unhappy couples and the healthy dynamics of couples who are flourishing. Sharing her extensive clinical experience and an integrative perspective informed by neuroscience and relationship science, Mona Fishbane gives us insight into the neurobiology underlying couples’ dances of reactivity. Readers will learn how partners become reactive and emotionally dysregulated with each other, and what is going on in their brains when they do. Clear and compelling discussions are included of the neurobiology of empathy and how empathy and selfregulation can be learned. Understanding neurobiology, explains Fishbane, can transform your clinical practice with couples and help you hone effective therapeutic interventions. This book aims to empower therapists— and the couples they treat—as they work to change interpersonal dynamics that drive them apart. Understanding how the brain works can inform the therapist’s theory of relationships, development, and change. And therapists can offer clients “neuroeducation” about their own reactivity and relationship distress and their potential for personal and relational growth. A gifted clinician and a particularly talented neuroscience writer, Dr. Fishbane presents complex material in an understandable and engaging manner. By anchoring her work in clinical cases, she never loses sight of the people behind the science.
Download or read book Countertransference in Couples Therapy written by Marion Fried Solomon and published by W W Norton & Company Incorporated. This book was released on 1997 with total page 292 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Rather than viewing this response as an obstacle, the authors see it as both inevitable and productive. The book examines not only classic countertransference issues but also the ramifications of the therapist's values and experiences. With remarkable honesty, the contributors deal with illness, death, suicide, pregnancy, hatred, rage, envy, sexuality, lust, and burnout.
Download or read book Clinical Handbook of Couple Therapy written by Alan S. Gurman and published by Guilford Publications. This book was released on 2015-06-02 with total page 754 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This book has been replaced by Clinical Handbook of Couple Therapy, Sixth Edition, edited by Jay L. Lebow and Douglas K. Snyder, ISBN 978-1-4625-5012-8.
Download or read book Integrative Couple Therapy in Action written by Arthur C. Nielsen and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2022-04-26 with total page 300 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Integrative Couple Therapy in Action offers a comprehensive, user-friendly guide to handling the most common problems and crisis situations seen by couple therapists. Drawing on the latest literature and the author’s experience of over 40 years, Nielsen investigates what makes certain issues, such as sex, or situations, such as extramarital affairs, so stressful for clients and challenging for therapists. Unlike most graduate programs and texts on couple therapy that focus on theory and technique, Integrated Couple Therapy in Action fills in the details. The chapters cover common presenting problems (sex, money, children, and the stresses of time, work, and simply living together) and then discuss catastrophic crisis situations (couples reeling from affairs, contemplating divorce, divorcing, or living in stepfamilies after divorcing). Integrative Couple Therapy in Action provides one-stop shopping for readers of all skill levels interested in understanding the subject matter that bedevils so many couples.
Download or read book A Roadmap for Couple Therapy written by Arthur C. Nielsen and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2016-06-17 with total page 305 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A Roadmap for Couple Therapy offers a comprehensive, flexible, and user-friendly template for conducting couple therapy. Grounded in an in-depth review of the clinical and research literature, and drawing on the author’s 40-plus years of experience, it describes the three main approaches to conceptualizing couple distress and treatment—systemic, psychodynamic, and behavioral—and shows how they can be integrated into a model that draws on the best of each. Unlike multi-authored texts in which each chapter presents a distinct brand of couple therapy, this book simultaneously engages multiple viewpoints and synthesizes them into a coherent model. Covering fundamentals and advanced techniques, it speaks to both beginning therapists and experienced clinicians. Therapists will find A Roadmap for Couple Therapy an invaluable resource as they help distressed couples repair and revitalize their relationships.
Download or read book Assholes Why You Choose written by Angelika Seelaff and published by Angelika Seelaff. This book was released on 2024-06-25 with total page 177 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Fed up with always falling for jerks? Ever wonder why your relationships seem to be a never-ending cycle of drama, heartbreak, and aloe vera tissues? You're not alone. Welcome to the “Asshole Magnets” club, where we explore why you keep choosing the wrong men and how to stop it. Inside You'll Find: – The secret science behind your bad choices – How rom-coms and media myths set you up for failure – Hilarious insights into the mind of an asshole – Practical tips to dodge the next disaster Packed with wit, wisdom, and laugh-out-loud moments, Why You Choose Assholes isn’t just another dating guide. It’s your ticket to breaking the cycle and finding the love you deserve. Ready to change your story? Stop repeating the past and start writing a new romantic future – one without assholes.
Download or read book How People Change Relationships and Neuroplasticity in Psychotherapy Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology written by Marion F. Solomon and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 2017-05-09 with total page 305 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Drawing on cutting-edge neuroscience to understand psychotherapeutic change. Growth and change are at the heart of all successful psychotherapy. Regardless of one's clinical orientation or style, psychotherapy is an emerging process that s created moment by moment, between client and therapist. How People Change explores the complexities of attachment, the brain, mind, and body as they aid change during psychotherapy. Research is presented about the properties of healing relationships and communication strategies that facilitate change in the social brain. Contributions by Philip M. Bromberg, Louis Cozolino and Vanessa Davis, Margaret Wilkinson, Pat Ogden, Peter A. Levine, Russell Meares, Dan Hughes, Martha Stark, Stan Tatkin, Marion Solomon, and Daniel J. Siegel and Bonnie Goldstein.
Download or read book More Than Words written by John Howard and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2023-02-07 with total page 272 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Increase intimacy, connection, and love with this “critical” (Vanessa Van Edwards, bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People), science-based guide to creating meaningful and lasting relationships. When it comes to building a better relationship with your partner, touch and connection matter so much more than the words that you say. And author and therapist John Howard is here to tell us why. More Than Words shows you how to deepen love and connection in any relationship based on the latest cutting-edge research in interpersonal neurobiology, trauma-informed healing, attachment theory, and many more scientific fields. This “brilliant guide” (Diane Poole-Heller, PhD, author of The Power of Attachment) explains why verbal communication may not elicit the connection you seek and offers ways to practice and form new habits that can nurture love, care, safety, comfort, and passion in relationships. Science shows that these techniques work, but most people don’t know them yet. You can start using these techniques today to increase intimacy and emotional connection in your closest relationships. Mindful of all the needs of the modern individual, More Than Words is inclusive of LGBTQ+, polyamorous, and other nontraditional committed relationships and ultimately looks to elevate the way we strengthen the most important bonds in our lives.
Download or read book Rewire Your Relationship written by Jacqui Christie and published by Global Publishing Group. This book was released on 2018-11-01 with total page 171 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Stop struggling and start loving again. Would you like to have a relationship built on love and trust? International author, entrepreneur, leading relationship expert and clinical psychologist Jacqui Christie shares her ground breaking techniques in this powerful book 'Rewire Your Relationship'. In this book, Jacqui will show you how to truly understand your partner and resolve the conflict between your head and your heart. You will discover how to develop a deep and profound appreciation for each other, and experience more balance, harmony and joy in your relationship than ever before. You'll learn:- How to transform your relationship into a lasting source of love, intimate connection and companionship- How to empower each other with the confidence and tools to craft make-or-break moments and weather the key stages in your relationship- How to feel safe and secure with your partner- That there IS a way to repair your connection with each other- How to understand your partner's brain and why they keep doing the things they do- Why your attachment style plays such a vital role in your relationship- What your partner needs and how to give it to them. Finally, the relationship answers you've been searching for!
Download or read book Clinical Interventions in Systemic Couple and Family Therapy written by Roberto Pereira and published by Springer. This book was released on 2018-07-06 with total page 251 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This timely update presents modern directions in systemic therapy practice with couples and families, focusing on clinical innovations from Italy, Portugal, and Spain. Top therapists discuss their breakthrough family work in treating familiar pathologies such as depression, borderline personality disorder, infidelity, and addictions, providing first-hand insight into meeting relational dysfunction with creativity and resourcefulness. The book applies novel conceptualizations and fresh techniques to complex situations including multi-problem families, involuntary clients, disability-related issues, anorexia, love and sex in aging, and family grief. From tapping into the strengths of siblingship to harnessing the therapeutic potential of the Internet, the book’s cases illustrate the rich variety of opportunities to improve client outcomes through systemic couple and family therapy. This practical guide: Demonstrates strategies for therapists to improve practice Exemplifies methods for reducing the gap between clinical theory and practice Identifies multiple dimensions of systems thinking in case formulation and therapy Offers new insights into treating classic and recent forms of psychopathology Provides a representative picture of couple and family therapy in southern Europe Clinical Interventions in Systemic Couple and Family Therapy is of particular relevance to practitioners and clinicians working within couple and family therapy, and is also of interest to other professionals working in psychotherapy and professional mental health services.
Download or read book Loving with the Brain in Mind Neurobiology and Couple Therapy Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology written by Mona DeKoven Fishbane and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 2013-09-30 with total page 305 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Facilitating change in couple therapy by understanding how the brain works to maintain—and break—old habits. Human brains and behavior are shaped by genetic predispositions and early experience. But we are not doomed by our genes or our past. Neuroscientific discoveries of the last decade have provided an optimistic and revolutionary view of adult brain function: People can change. This revelation about neuroplasticity offers hope to therapists and to couples seeking to improve their relationship. Loving With the Brain in Mind explores ways to help couples become proactive in revitalizing their relationship. It offers an in-depth understanding of the heartbreaking dynamics in unhappy couples and the healthy dynamics of couples who are flourishing. Sharing her extensive clinical experience and an integrative perspective informed by neuroscience and relationship science, Mona Fishbane gives us insight into the neurobiology underlying couples’ dances of reactivity. Readers will learn how partners become reactive and emotionally dysregulated with each other, and what is going on in their brains when they do. Clear and compelling discussions are included of the neurobiology of empathy and how empathy and selfregulation can be learned. Understanding neurobiology, explains Fishbane, can transform your clinical practice with couples and help you hone effective therapeutic interventions. This book aims to empower therapists— and the couples they treat—as they work to change interpersonal dynamics that drive them apart. Understanding how the brain works can inform the therapist’s theory of relationships, development, and change. And therapists can offer clients “neuroeducation” about their own reactivity and relationship distress and their potential for personal and relational growth. A gifted clinician and a particularly talented neuroscience writer, Dr. Fishbane presents complex material in an understandable and engaging manner. By anchoring her work in clinical cases, she never loses sight of the people behind the science.
Download or read book In Each Other s Care written by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT and published by Sounds True. This book was released on 2023-04-25 with total page 472 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Break the Cycle: A Comprehensive Guide to Overcome Chronic Relationship Struggles Few things are more frustrating than repeating the same fight with your partner. Playing out the same disagreement about money, parenting, sex, or household chores may leave you exhausted, cut off from the person you want to feel close to. While conflict in any relationship is inevitable, healing is possible. With In Each Other's Care, Stan Tatkin shares a hands-on repair manual that will help you discover how arguments get triggered, why they keep happening, and what you can do to get better at communicating what you want without the drama. Drawing on his vast experience as a couples therapist, Tatkin uses the concept of secure functioning—a two-person psychological system of teamwork, full collaboration, and cooperation based on fairness, justice, and mutual sensitivity. This form of unionizing “takes time to learn,” Tatkin says. “And still, the rewards are awesome and make the effort worthwhile. Secure functioning benefits you, your partner, your family, your friends, everything, and everyone.” Throughout In Each Other’s Care, Tatkin offers targeted lessons, sample dialogues, and heartfelt wisdom. Through this life-changing practice, you will be able to: • Identify the source of unhappiness in your relationship • Learn techniques for preventing problems before they occur • Heal the emotional wounds of the past • Transform conflict and struggle into win-win outcomes • Renew broken connections and return to intimacy Whether you’ve been in a relationship for years or are just beginning the journey, In Each Other’s Care is a wonderfully supportive guide that will show you how to work through even the most contentious topics with compassion and respect.
Download or read book Creating Connection written by Judith V. Jordan and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2014-05-01 with total page 272 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Relational-Cultural Therapy (RCT) is developed to accurately address the relational experiences of persons in de-valued cultural groups. As a model, it is ideal for work with couples: it encourages active participation in relationships, fosters the well-being of everyone involved, and acknowledges that we grow through and toward relationships throughout the lifespan. Part and parcel with relationships is the knowledge that, whether intentionally or not, we fail each other, misunderstand each other, and hurt each other, causing an oftentimes enduring disconnect. This book helps readers understand the pain of disconnect and to use RCT to heal relationships in a variety of settings, including with heterosexual couples, lesbian and gay couples, and mixed race couples. Readers will note a blending of approaches (person-centered, narrative, systems, and feminist theory), all used to change the cultural conditions that can contribute to problems: unequal, sometimes abusive power arrangements, marginalization of groups, and rigid gender, race, and sexuality expectations. Readers will learn to help minimize economic and power disparities and encourage the growth of mutual empathy while looking at a variety of relational challenges, such as parenting, stepfamilies, sexuality, and illness. Polarities of “you vs. me” will be replaced with the healing concept of “us.”
Download or read book The Neurobiology of Attachment Focused Therapy Enhancing Connection Trust in the Treatment of Children Adolescents Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology written by Jonathan Baylin and published by W. W. Norton & Company. This book was released on 2016-08-23 with total page 304 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Uniting attachment-focused therapy and neurobiology to help distrustful and traumatized children revive a sense of trust and connection. How can therapists and caregivers help maltreated children recover what they were born with: the potential to experience the safety, comfort, and joy of having trustworthy, loving adults in their lives? This groundbreaking book explores, for the first time, how the attachment-focused family therapy model can respond to this question at a neural level. It is a rich, accessible investigation of the brain science of early childhood and developmental trauma. Each chapter offers clinicians new insights—and powerful new methods—to help neglected and insecurely attached children regain a sense of safety and security with caring adults. Throughout, vibrant clinical vignettes drawn from the authors' own experience illustrate how informed clinical processes can promote positive change. Authors Baylin and Hughes have collaborated for many years on the treatment of maltreated children and their caregivers. Both experienced psychologists, their shared project has bee the development of the science-based model of attachment-focused therapy in this book—a model that links clinical interventions to the crucial underlying processes of trust, mistrust, and trust building—helping children learn to trust caregivers and caregivers to be the "trust builders" these children need. The book begins by explaining the neurobiology of blocked trust, using the latest social neuroscience to show how the child's early development gets channeled into a core strategy of defensive living. Subsequent chapters address, among other valuable subjects, how new research on behavioral epigenetics has shown ways that highly stressful early life experiences affect brain development through patterns of gene expression, adapting the child's brain for mistrust rather than trust, and what it means for treatment approaches. Finally, readers will learn what goes on in the child's brain during attachment-focused therapy, honing in on the dyadic processes of adult-child interaction that seem to embody the core "mechanisms of change": elements of attachment-focused interventions that target the child's defensive brain, calm this system, and reopen the child's potential to learn from new experiences with caring adults, and that it is safe to depend upon them. If trust is to develop and care is to be restored, clinicians need to know what prevents the development of trust in the first place, particularly when a child is living in an environment of good care for a long period of time. What do abuse and neglect do to the development of children's brains that makes it so difficult for them to trust adults who are so different from those who hurt them? This book presents a brain-based understanding that professionals can apply to answering these questions and encouraging the development of healthy trust.
Download or read book Couple and Family Psychoanalysis Volume 8 Number 2 written by Molly Ludlam and published by Phoenix Publishing House. This book was released on 2018-10-22 with total page 122 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Couple and Family Psychoanalysis is an international journal sponsored by Tavistock Relationships, which aims to promote the theory and practice of working with couple and family relationships from a psychoanalytic perspective. It seeks to provide a forum for disseminating current ideas and research and for developing clinical practice. The annual subscription provides two issues a year. Articles - Aesthetics in psychoanalytic couple therapy by Barbara Bianchini and Franco Scabbiolo - The disintermediation of desire: from 3D(esire) to 2D(esire): Twenty-third Enid Balint Memorial Lecture by Alessandra Lemma - Response to “The disintermediation of desire: from 3D(esire) to 2D(esire)” by Alessandra Lemma by Catriona Wrottesleyn - Treating the seriously ill patient in psychoanalytic couple therapy: considerations and modifications of technique by Richard M. Zeitner - Response to “Treating the seriously ill patient in psychoanalytic couple therapy: considerations and modifications of technique” by Richard Zeitner by Damian McCann - Sex and the couple: tragedy or comedy? By David Hewison
