Download or read book How to Survive The Memory of an Abusive Parent written by Julie S. Ross and published by JULIE S. ROSS. This book was released on 2015-12-31 with total page pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Spilled Milk Based on a True Story. Some of us have extremely pleasant memories of our childhood while others only wish they could forget the many horrific memories of misery and abusive treatment that continue to plague those years later well into adulthood. During my extensive studies and interviews with young and older adults who were victims of abuse during childhood, I have found one common denominator: the suppressed memories of abuse from the parents in times past. A few years ago, child abuse was considered a private matter, much like domestic violence and wife beating. I would like to share with you an outstanding example of one individual I interviewed. Please understand that I am not sharing this experience with you just as a “Boohoo, poor me” account, but rather as a tool that might assist others-those who have had the same or similar experiences growing up and are seeking help in surviving the memories of an abusive past. Additionally, we have some encouragement for parents currently raising children. I am confident that the following experience will assist many in not only facing the past but will help in deleting the memories that can have an adverse impact on your future. Read along as I interview the man we called Carl

Download or read book Liberating Losses written by Jennifer Elison and published by . This book was released on 2005-08-01 with total page 214 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: As taboo as it is to admit, not every death brings great sadness. Nontraditional loss responseÓ is a positive reaction following a death & is frequently encountered now that medical treatments keep people alive much longer than they or their families might wish. We may be relieved a loved one is no longer suffering, or we may feel relieved to be free of an abusive relationship. Either way, the cultural expectation for sadness, loneliness, & despair only adds to the guilt felt by many relieved grievers.Ó Illuminating for the first time a reaction that many deem insensitive, the authors share their pragmatic counsel & stories of ' liberating losses.Ó Expands the traditional definition of grief, &, in so doing, validates the emotions that many of us feel obliged to hide.

Download or read book Toxic Parents written by Susan Forward and published by Bantam. This book was released on 2009-12-16 with total page 322 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: BONUS: This edition contains an excerpt from Dr. Susan Forward's Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them. When you were a child... Did your parents tell you were bad or worthless? Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you? Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems? Were you frightened of your parents? Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret? Now that you are an adult... Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child? Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents? Do your parents control you with threats or guilt? Do they manipulate you with money? Do you feel that no matter what you do, it's never good enough for your parents? In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward drawn on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents -- and discover an exciting new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.

Download or read book Trapped in the Mirror written by Elan Golomb, PhD and published by Harper Collins. This book was released on 2012-06-19 with total page 276 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In this compelling book, Elan Golomb identifies the crux of the emotional and psychological problems of millions of adults. Simply put, the children of narcissist—offspring of parents whose interest always towered above the most basic needs of their sons and daughters—share a common belief: They believe they do not have the right to exist. The difficulties experienced by adult children of narcissists can manifest themselves in many ways: for examples, physical self-loathing that takes form of overeating, anorexia, or bulimia; a self-destructive streak that causes poor job performance and rocky personal relationships; or a struggle with the self that is perpetuated in the adult's interaction with his or her own children. These dilemmas are both common and correctable, Dr. Golomb tells us. With an empathic blend of scholarship and case studies, along with her own personal narrative of her fight for self, Dr. Golomb plumbs the depths of this problem, revealing its mysterious hold on the affairs of otherwise bright, aware, motivated, and worthy people. Trapped in the Mirror explores. the nature of the paralysis and lack of motivation so many adults feel stress and its role in exacerbating childhood wrongs why do many of our relationships seem to be "reruns" of the past how one's body image can be formed by faulty parenting how anger must be acknowledge to be overcome and, most important, how even the most traumatized self can be healed. Rooted in a profoundly humanist traditional approach, and suffused with the benefit of the latest knowledge about intrafamily relationships, Trapped in the Mirror offers more than the average self-help book; it is truly the first self-heal book for millions.

Download or read book Coping With Trauma written by Jon G. Allen and published by American Psychiatric Pub. This book was released on 2008-05-20 with total page 376 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Combining years of research, teaching, and experience treating trauma survivors, Dr. Jon G. Allen offers compassionate and practical guidance to understanding trauma and its effects on the self and relationships. Coping With Trauma is based on more than a decade of Dr. Allen's experience conducting educational groups for persons struggling with psychiatric disorders stemming from trauma. Written for a general audience, this book does not require a background in psychology. Readers will gain essential knowledge to embark on the process of healing from the complex wounds of trauma, along with a guide to current treatment approaches. In this supportive and informative work, readers will be introduced to and encouraged in the process of healing by an author who is both witness and guide. This clearly written, insightful book not only teaches clinicians about trauma but also, equally important, teaches clinicians how to educate their patients about trauma. Reshaped by recent developments in attachment theory, including the importance of cumulative stress over a lifetime, this compelling work retains the author's initial focus on attachment as he looks at trauma from two perspectives. From the psychological perspective, the author discusses the impact of trauma on emotion, memory, the self, and relationships, incorporating research from neuroscience to argue that trauma is a physical illness. From the psychiatric perspective, the author discusses various trauma-related disorders and symptoms: depression, posttraumatic stress disorder, and dissociative disorders, along with a range of self-destructive behaviors to which trauma can make a contribution. Important updates include substantive and practical information on Emotion and emotion regulation, prompted by extensive contemporary research on emotion -- which is becoming a science unto itself. Illness, based on current developments in the neurobiological understanding of trauma. Depression, a pervasive trauma-related problem that poses a number of catch-22s for recovery. Various forms of self-destructiveness -- substance abuse, eating disorders, and deliberate self-harm -- all construed as coping strategies that backfire. Suicidal states and self-defeating aspects of personality disorders. The author addresses the challenges of healing by reviewing strategies of emotion regulation as well as a wide range of sound treatment approaches. He concludes with a new chapter on the foundation of all healing: maintaining hope. This exceptionally comprehensive overview of a wide range of traumatic experiences, written in nontechnical language with extensive references to both classic and contemporary theoretical, clinical, and research literature, offers a uniquely useful guide for victims of trauma, their family members, and mental health care professionals alike.

Download or read book Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life written by Linda Martinez-Lewi and published by Penguin. This book was released on 2008 with total page 264 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Combining clinical analysis with psychological profiles of famous narcissists, here is an indispensable guide to recognizing, coping with, and ultimately overcoming the destructive behavior of narcissists. Everybody needs some healthy narcissism. But in a society obsessed with appearance, wealth, and status, it's easy for problematic narcissists to thrive. Many people who seem to "have it all" are suffering from one of the most common-and overlooked-personality disorders today: high level narcissism. Typified by an obsession with perfection, a desperate need for admiration, and a willingness to use and exploit others for personal gain, high level narcissism can spell devastation for anyone who crosses the narcissist's path. In Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, psychotherapist Linda Martinez-Lewi presents an in-depth and supportive plan for identifying, understanding, and dealing with high level narcissistic behavior in those close to you. Martinez-Lewi helps you to liberate yourself from draining personal relationships with narcissists, and shows how to regain a sense of peace, balance, and well-being. Drawing on detailed profiles of famous narcissists, including Pablo Picasso, Frank Lloyd Wright, Armand Hammer, and Ayn Rand, as well as expertly rendered case studies from her private practice as a psychotherapist, Martinez-Lewi shows how to: - understand where narcissistic behavior comes from; u learn to spot narcissistic traits, even in the early stages of relationships; - realize why attempting to change a narcissist is fruitless; and - protect yourself from the narcissist's opportunism, manipulative behavior, and lack of empathy.

Download or read book Liking the Child You Love written by Jeffrey Bernstein and published by Da Capo Lifelong Books. This book was released on 2009-06-09 with total page 274 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: How to recognize and cope with Parent Frustration Syndrome (PFS): negative thoughts and feelings about your children"

Download or read book The Narcissist in Your Life written by Julie L. Hall and published by Da Capo Lifelong Books. This book was released on 2019-12-03 with total page 345 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A highly illuminating examination of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and its insidiously traumatic impact on family members and partners. Packed with insight, compassion, and practical strategies for recovery, this is a must-read for survivors and clinicians alike. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) has a profoundly dehumanizing effect on those subject to its distortions, manipulations, and rage. The Narcissist in Your Life illuminates the emotionally annihilating experience of narcissistic abuse in families and relationships, acknowledges the complex emotional and physical trauma that results, and assists survivors with compassionate, practical advice on the path of recovery. Whether you are just learning about NPD, managing a narcissistic parent or other family member, leaving a narcissistic relationship, or struggling with complex PTSD, you will find life-changing answers to these common questions: What are the different forms of NPD? Is my partner a narcissist? Why do I keep attracting narcissistic personalities? How can I help my kids? What happens in a narcissistic family? Why did my other parent go along with the abuse? Why am I alienated from my siblings? Why is it so hard to believe in myself and my future? What is complex PTSD and do I have it? What are the health problems associated with narcissistic abuse? Journalist, survivor, and NPD trauma coach Julie L. Hall provides a comprehensive, up-to-date, affirming, and accessible guide that will not only help you understand narcissistic abuse trauma, but will help you overcome trauma cycles and move forward with healing.

Download or read book Trauma and Cognitive Science written by Jennifer J Freyd and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2013-04-15 with total page 345 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Decipher the complex interplay of neurology, psychology, trauma, and memory! In the midst of the controversies over how repressed, false, and recovered memories should be interpreted, Trauma and Cognitive Science presents reliable original research instead of rhetoric. This landmark volume examines the way different traumas influence memory, information processing, and suggestibility. The research provides testable theories on why people forget some kinds of childhood abuse and other traumas. It bridges the cognitive science and clinical approaches to traumatic stress studies. Written by the foremost researchers in the field, including Bessel van der Kolk and Jennifer Freyd, these scientific evaluations of the way traumatic memories are processed offer powerful new perspectives on the interplay of biology and psychology. Trauma and Cognitive Science discusses a range of traumas, including combat, child abuse, and sexual assault across the lifespan. Fascinating perceptual experiments shed light on the cognitive uses of dissociation, the encoding and recall of memory, and the effects of early trauma on subsequent information processing. Trauma and Cognitive Science offers solid information on the most challenging questions in this field: How is memory encoded, stored, and retrieved? How is it forgotten? How does trauma influence these processes? What kinds of memories can be created by suggestion? What physical changes take place in the brain under traumatic stress? How is consciousness disturbed during and after trauma? What are the ethical, clinical, and societal implications of traumatic stress studies? How can people suffering from traumatic memories be healed? Trauma and Cognitive Science also offers an astonishing array of true case studies, including the story of an adult woman who was raped, went to court, and saw her rapist convicted--and then forgot the whole traumatic episode. The independently corroborated accounts of recovered memories and the carefully designed research studies on multiple modes and levels of memory may offer the key to understanding how we remember and why we forget. The results of these controlled scientific studies have wide-ranging implications for abuse survivors, combat veterans, rape victims, and people who have survived traumatic events from earthquakes to car accidents. Written in clear, accessible prose, Trauma and Cognitive Science belongs on the bookshelf of all mental health professionals, researchers in the areas of traumatic stress and child abuse, attorneys, judges, and survivors of abuse and trauma.

Download or read book Running on Empty No More written by Jonice Webb and published by Morgan James Publishing. This book was released on 2017-11-07 with total page 228 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: “Opens doors to richer, more connected relationships by naming the elephant in the room ‘Childhood Emotional Neglect’” (Harville Hendrix, PhD & Helen Lakelly Hunt, PhD, authors of the New York Times bestseller Getting the Love You Want). Since the publication of Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect, many thousands of people have learned that invisible Childhood Emotional Neglect, or CEN, has been weighing on them their entire lives, and are now in the process of recovery. Running on Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships will offer even more solutions for the effects of CEN on people’s lives: how to talk about CEN, and heal it, in relationships with partners, parents, and children. “Filled with examples of well-meaning people struggling in their relationships, Jonice Webb not only illustrates what’s missing between adults and their parents, husbands, and their wives, and parents and their children; she also explains exactly what to do about it.” —Terry Real, internationally recognized family therapist, speaker and author, Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20, Oprah, and The New York Times “You will find practical solutions for everyday life to heal yourself and your relationships. This is a terrific new resource that I will be recommending to many clients now and in the future!” —Dr. Karyl McBride, author of Will I Ever Be Good Enough?

Download or read book Repressed Memories written by Renee Fredrickson and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 1992-07 with total page 244 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Buried memories of sexual abuse can have a devastating impact on a victim's relationships, work, and health. Using case histories, Renee Fredrickson stresses the importance of recovering these memories as a crucial step in healing, and she explains various therapeutic processes used in memory retrieval.

Download or read book Not My Father s Son written by Alan Cumming and published by Harper Collins. This book was released on 2014-10-07 with total page 207 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: “Equal parts memoir, whodunit, and manual for living . . . a beautifully written, honest look at the forces of blood and bone that make us who we are, and how we make ourselves.” --Neil Gaiman In his unique and engaging voice, the acclaimed actor of stage and screen shares the emotional story of his complicated relationship with his father and the deeply buried family secrets that shaped his life and career. A beloved star of stage, television, and film—“one of the most fun people in show business” (Time magazine)—Alan Cumming is a successful artist whose diversity and fearlessness is unparalleled. His success masks a painful childhood growing up under the heavy rule of an emotionally and physically abusive father—a relationship that tormented him long into adulthood. When television producers in the UK approached him to appear on a popular celebrity genealogy show in 2010, Alan enthusiastically agreed. He hoped the show would solve a family mystery involving his maternal grandfather, a celebrated WWII hero who disappeared in the Far East. But as the truth of his family ancestors revealed itself, Alan learned far more than he bargained for about himself, his past, and his own father. With ribald humor, wit, and incredible insight, Alan seamlessly moves back and forth in time, integrating stories from his childhood in Scotland and his experiences today as a film, television, and theater star. At times suspenseful, deeply moving, and wickedly funny, Not My Father’s Son will make readers laugh even as it breaks their hearts.

Download or read book Allies in Healing written by Laura Davis and published by Harper Collins. This book was released on 2012-11-13 with total page 372 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "But what about me?" "Is it possible to go one day without dealing with the survivor's issues?" "Will we ever make love again?" "Will the survivor love me in the end?" "How do I know if I should throw in the towel?" Based on in-depth interviews and her workshops for partners across the country, Laura Davis offers practical advice and encouragement to all partners—girlfriends, boyfriends, spouses, and lovers—trying to support the survivors in their lives while tending to their own needs along the way. She shows couples how to deepen compassion, improve communication, and develop an understanding of healing as a shared activity. Addressing partners' most important questions, Allies in Healing covers: The Basics—answers common questions about sexual abuse. Allies in Healing—introduces key concepts of working and growing together. My Needs and Feelings—teaches partners to recognize, value, and express their own needs. Dealing with Crisis—includes strategies for handling suicidal feelings, regression, and hopelessness. Intimacy and Communication—offers practical advice on dealing with distancing, control, trust, and fighting. Sex—provides guidelines for coping with flashbacks, lack of desire, differences in sexual needs, and frustration. Family lssues—suggests a range of ideas for interacting with the survivor's family. Partners' Stories—explores the struggles, triumphs, and courage of eight partners.

Download or read book Your Rainforest Mind A Guide to the Well Being of Gifted Adults and Youth written by Paula Prober and published by Editeurs divers USA. This book was released on 2016-06-20 with total page 194 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Do you long to drive a Ferrari at top speed on the open road, but find yourself always stuck on the freeway during rush hour? Do you wonder how you can feel like "not enough" and "too much" at the same time? Like the rain forest, are you sometimes intense, multilayered, colorful, creative, overwhelming, highly sensitive, complex, and/or idealistic? And, like the rain forest, have you met too many chainsaws?Enter Paula Prober, M.S., M.Ed., who understands the diversity and complexity of minds like yours. In "Your Rainforest Mind: A Guide to the Well-Being of Gifted Youths and Adults," Paula explores the challenges faced by gifted adults of all ages. Through case studies and extensive research, Paula will help you tap into your inner creativity, find peace, and discover the limitless potential that comes with your Rainforest Mind.

Download or read book Your Turn for Care written by Laura S. Brown and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2012-12-13 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Your Turn is the first book for adults who were abused and maltreated by older family members who are now faced with the aging and death of those abusive elders. This book discusses the reasons that this normal life passage has become especially difficult for adult survivors, drawing on psychological research about the long-term effects of childhood maltreatment. It then addresses how adult survivors can move through this time of time and make it into an opportunity for their own healing. Specific suggestions for self-care and strategies for decision-making are presented. An extensive list of written and on-line resources on a variety of related topics is included in the book. Your Turn is the only book that speaks to the special concerns of adult survivors of childhood maltreatment who are at this juncture in their lives.

Download or read book Surviving Toxic Parents written by Carmen Moss and published by . This book was released on 2020-07-02 with total page 170 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Did your parents ever do unloving things in the name of love? Here is how you reclaim your sense of self. Do you feel as though your relationship with your parents is seriously limiting your potential? Have they made you feel small or worthless in the past? Did you or do you have to take care of them and constantly be there for them and their problems? Have they used physical or emotional pain to "discipline" you? Do they try to control you, manipulate you, or make you feel as though you are inferior or just not enough? If you are answering yes to any of the above questions then the chances are high you are dealing with a toxic parent. This can be a hard pill to swallow at first, but from here on everything will begin to get better. Did you know that 2.9 million cases of child abuse are reported every year in the United States, but that that is an estimated fraction of the truth? The sad part is, most of these people never get the proper help or guidance they need to actually heal and move forward with their lives. But that doesn't have to be the case with you. A life free from all the toxicity is certainly possible. Accepting the current status of your reality is the first and most powerful step you can take in reclaiming your life. From there, with just minutes a day, we can begin to understand how to break free of it and what to do next. In Surviving Toxic Parents, you'll discover: The most important thing to do before cutting ties with the toxic relationship Groundbreaking insight into how you can prepare for finally confronting your abuser in a productive and healthy fashion What healthy boundaries actually look like and how to set your own The things you must NOT do when dealing with a toxic parent Why self-love is the #1 key to freedom and how you can build it within yourself A step-by-step guide to true forgiveness and how this will bring you peace 10 practices that will help you to rebuild a healthy relationship once you're ready Why finding a coach or guide could save your life ... and so much more. It might seem like too much to deal with at first, but remember, every great journey begins with the first step. You've been thinking about this for a while now and it is finally time to do what you must in order to break free - in order to bring yourself back to life. Addressing your relationship with your parents can be difficult, especially if it's gone years without being discussed, but it is NOT impossible. With some newfound awareness, the right tools and techniques, and a bit of courage you can completely transform your entire life in no time at all. Just look at the story of Oprah Winfrey, who suffered from child abuse at a very early age and still managed to move forward with her life into both fame and fortune. So, if you're ready to rid your life of all the toxicity once and for all, then scroll up and click the "Add to Cart" button right now.

Download or read book The Toxic Parents Survival Guide written by Bryn Collins and published by Health Communications, Inc.. This book was released on 2018-10-09 with total page 266 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: If you or someone you love grew up with an emotionally unavailable, narcissistic, or selfish parent, you probably struggle with residual feelings of anger, abandonment, loneliness, or shame. For anyone who endured a nightmare or a wasteland instead of a nurturing childhood, The Toxic Parents Survival Guide will offer you the clinical insights and the day-to-day tools so you can break the chains of toxicity that bind you in a mess you didn't create. Psychologist Bryn Collins pulls back the layers to explore the very complicated relationship with an emotionally unavailable parent. Whether they were unavailable because of addiction, mental illness, or being overly controlling or an iceberg, this imminently practical book will help validate your frustration and emotional struggles, help you set clear boundaries, and learn how to un-mesh yourself and move forward to a place of strength and peace without any guilt. Using case studies, quizzes, and jargon-free concepts, Collins profiles the most common types of toxic parents and offers the tactics and tools you need to change and break free of these painful associations. Your wounds can be healed and you can move forward. The Toxic Parents Survival Guide will help you find different ways of dealing with your parents' painful legacy so that you don't suffer and don't pass along emotional unavailability to the next generation or your current relationships.