Download or read book Freeing Your Child from Self Criticism and Perfectionism written by Colleen Adrian and published by . This book was released on 2021-03-04 with total page 90 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: If it were easy to identify our own self-criticism and prevent passing it on to our children, we'd have already done it. It's deeply troubling to watch our kids judge themselves, or copy their peers because they're not self-confident enough to be themselves-while often not even noticing their own gifts. If your child: -Criticizes themselves or their creations, -Criticizes others, -Becomes easily anxious, -Becomes easily discouraged when trying new activities, -Feels reluctant to try new activities, or-Copies their peers rather than acting on their own desires or gifts, this book will provide you with practices you can start using right away, to help your children of any age begin transforming their self-criticism into self-confidence. Freeing Your Child from Self-Criticism and Perfectionism identifies some of the insidious parenting habits that perpetuate the cycle of self-criticism from generation to generation. It helps you gain insight to how and why it's so hard to change, and offers you practices that will begin to turn your child's self-criticism (and your own) around. Chapter Highlights: ✓ The social and cultural factors that create perfectionism✓ The hallmarks of perfectionism and the beliefs that perpetuate perfectionism✓ A model for understanding how and why the perfectionistic tendencies you (the caregiver) have, will always show up in your child, and always dampen your ability to live your life to your full potential, until you gain some insight to where to make changes.✓ How being disconnected from your feelings relates to developing perfectionistic habits.✓ The instances in which helping your child is truly helpful for him, and when it's crossing a boundary and undermining their confidence and spontaneity.✓ The specific "normal" things we all say in everyday life, that slowly build our children's Inner Critic and lead them to be harshly critical of themselves.✓ How you determine whether requiring obedience serves your child well in his long-term development of self-mastery and resilience, or whether it cultivates feelings of powerlessness and a tendency toward victimhood.✓ The two common behavioural patterns that are huge barriers to being able to use these practices to change your parenting and free yourself and your child from self-criticism.
Download or read book Overcoming Perfectionism 2nd Edition written by Roz Shafran and published by Robinson. This book was released on 2018-05-10 with total page 263 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: How to break the circle of 'never good enough' Striving for something can be a healthy and positive attribute; it's good to aim high. But sometimes whatever we do just isn't good enough; we want to be too perfect and start setting unrealistic goals. Such high levels of perfectionism, often driven by low self-esteem, can turn against success and develop into unhealthy obsession, triggering serious mental-health problems, such as anxiety, depression and eating disorders. Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), on which this self-help book is based, has been found to be a highly effective treatment and provides relief from that disabling sense of not being good enough. In this essential self-help guide, you will learn: - How clinical perfectionism manifests itself - Effective coping strategies with invaluable guidance on how to avoid future relapse OVERCOMING self-help guides use clinically-proven techniques to treat long-standing and disabling conditions, both psychological and physical. Many guides in the Overcoming series are recommended under the Reading Well Books on Prescription scheme. Series Editor: Professor Peter Cooper
Download or read book Letting Go of Perfect written by Jill L. Adelson and published by . This book was released on 2009 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Letting Go of Perfect: Overcoming Perfectionism in Kids pinpoints a crippling state of mentality among many kids today--the need to be absolutely perfect--and gives parents and teachers the guidance and support they need to help children break free of the anxieties and behaviors related to perfectionism.
Download or read book The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism written by Sharon Martin and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2019-01-02 with total page 286 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: If you feel an intense pressure to be perfect, this evidence-based workbook offers real strategies based in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) to help you develop a more balanced and healthy perspective. Do you hold yourself—and perhaps others—to extremely high standards? Do you procrastinate certain tasks because you’re afraid you won’t carry them out perfectly? If you’ve answered “yes” to one or both of these questions, chances are you’re a perfectionist. And while there’s nothing wrong with hard work and high standards, perfectionism can also take over your life if you let it. So, how can you find balance? With this workbook, you’ll identify the causes of your perfectionism and the ways it is negatively impacting your life. Rather than measuring your self-worth by productivity and accomplishments, you’ll learn to exercise self-compassion, and extend that compassion to others. You’ll also learn ways to prioritize the things that really matter to you, without focusing on attaining fixed goals. Life isn’t perfect, and neither are we. If you’re ready to break free from out-of-control perfectionism and start living a richer, fuller life, this workbook will help you get started.
Download or read book Perfectionism written by Paul L. Hewitt and published by Guilford Publications. This book was released on 2017-03-29 with total page 353 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Grounded in decades of influential research, this book thoroughly examines perfectionism: how it develops, its underlying mechanisms and psychological costs, and how to target it effectively in psychotherapy. The authors describe how perfectionistic tendencies--rooted in early relational and developmental experiences--make people vulnerable to a wide range of clinical problems. They present an integrative treatment approach and demonstrate ways to tailor interventions to the needs of individual clients. A group treatment model is also detailed. State-of-the-art assessment tools are discussed (and provided at the companion website). Throughout the book, vivid clinical illustrations make the core ideas and techniques concrete.ÿ ÿ
Download or read book Cognitive Behavioral Treatment of Perfectionism written by Sarah J. Egan and published by Guilford Publications. This book was released on 2014-08-13 with total page 416 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This practical resource provides an evidence-based framework for treating clients struggling with perfectionism, whether as the main presenting problem or in conjunction with depression, eating disorders, anxiety disorders, or obsessive-compulsive disorder. Using a case formulation approach, the authors draw on their extensive cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) experience to present specific techniques and interventions. Coverage spans treatment planning, the therapeutic alliance, key obstacles that may arise, relapse prevention, and emerging research. Reproducible assessment scales and 36 patient handouts are included; purchasers get access to a Web page where they can download and print the reproducible materials in a convenient 8 1/2" x 11" size.
Download or read book Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking written by Tamar Chansky and published by Da Capo Lifelong Books. This book was released on 2008-10-20 with total page 338 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A leading clinical expert in the fields of child cognitive behavior therapy and anxiety disorders, Dr. Tamar Chansky frequently counsels children (and their parents) whose negative thinking creates chronic or occasional emotional hurdles and impedes optimism, flexibility, and happiness. Now, in the first book that specifically focuses on negative thinking in kids, Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking provides parents, caregivers, and clinicians the same clear, concise, and compassionate guidance that Dr. Chansky employed in her previous guides to relieving children from anxiety and obsessive compulsive symptoms. Here she thoroughly covers the underlying causes of children's negative attitudes, as well as providing multiple strategies for managing negative thoughts, building optimism, and establishing emotional resilience.
Download or read book Why Your Best Is Good Enough written by Dr. Kevin Leman and published by Baker Books. This book was released on 2010-03-01 with total page 272 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Writing in his well-known, upbeat style, Dr. Kevin Leman helps those who struggle with self-doubt to value their talents and gifts and accept their shortcomings. He points out why the lifestyle we develop as a child determines our degree of success or failure and explains how, regardless of the past, each person can develop a healthy lifestyle today.
Download or read book The ACT Workbook for Perfectionism written by Jennifer Kemp and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2021-12-01 with total page 183 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: An innovative approach to help you maintain your high standards while also accepting mistakes with compassion and kindness. If you’re a perfectionist, you know there’s a helpful upside to pushing yourself toward excellence: achievement, success—and, hey, it can be fun and rewarding to work hard! But unhelpful perfectionism can just as easily work against you. It can prevent you from taking risks or trying new things out for fear of failure, judgment, or rejection; cause you to procrastinate; and make you feel like no matter what you achieve, you’ll never be good enough. Grounded in evidence-based acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), this workbook will help you discover what drives this ‘dark side’ of perfectionism, and develop the skills you need to overcome it—without lowering your standards. By leaning in to your values and treating yourself with kindness and compassion, you’ll learn to put mistakes in perspective without wallowing in self-criticism. Most importantly, you’ll find that you can allow for imperfection, without losing your drive to achieve. If you’re ready to stop unhealthy perfectionism from paralyzing your personal growth—and start embracing yourself as perfectly imperfect—this book will introduce you to a whole new you!
Download or read book Why Is My Child in Charge written by Claire Lerner and published by Rowman & Littlefield. This book was released on 2021-09-02 with total page 219 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Solve toddler challenges with eight key mindshifts that will help you parent with clarity, calmness, and self-control. In Why is My Child in Charge?, Claire Lerner shows how making critical mindshifts—seeing children’s behaviors through a new lens —empowers parents to solve their most vexing childrearing challenges. Using real life stories, Lerner unpacks the individualized process she guides parents through to settle common challenges, such as throwing tantrums in public, delaying bedtime for hours, refusing to participate in family mealtimes, and resisting potty training. Lerner then provides readers with a roadmap for how to recognize the root cause of their child’s behavior and how to create and implement an action plan tailored to the unique needs of each child and family. Why is My Child in Charge? is like having a child development specialist in your home. It shows how parents can develop proven, practical strategies that translate into adaptable, happy kids and calm, connected, in-control parents.
Download or read book Never Good Enough written by Monica Ramirez Basco and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2000-03-02 with total page 292 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This practical guide to overcoming the dangers of being a perfectionist--from debilitating feelings of self-doubt to difficulties with other people--shows readers how their perfectionist tendencies can actually help them succeed.
Download or read book The Curse of the Good Girl written by Rachel Simmons and published by Penguin. This book was released on 2009-08-25 with total page 265 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Bestselling author of Odd Girl Out, Rachel Simmons exposes the myth of the Good Girl, freeing girls from its impossible standards and encouraging them to embrace their real selves In The Curse of the Good Girl, bestselling author Rachel Simmons argues that in lionizing the Good Girl we are teaching girls to embrace a version of selfhood that sharply curtails their power and potential. Unerringly nice, polite, modest, and selfless, the Good Girl is a paradigm so narrowly defined that it's unachievable. When girls inevitably fail to live up-experiencing conflicts with peers, making mistakes in the classroom or on the playing field-they are paralyzed by self-criticism, stunting the growth of vital skills and habits. Simmons traces the poisonous impact of Good Girl pressure on development and provides a strategy to reverse the tide. At once expository and prescriptive, The Curse of the Good Girl is a call to arms from a new front in female empowerment. Looking to the stories shared by the women and girls who attend her workshops, Simmons shows that Good Girl pressure from parents, teachers, coaches, media, and peers erects a psychological glass ceiling that begins to enforce its confines in girlhood and extends across the female lifespan. The curse of the Good Girl erodes girls' ability to know, express, and manage a complete range of feelings. It expects girls to be selfless, limiting the expression of their needs. It requires modesty, depriving the permission to articulate their strengths and goals. It diminishes assertive body language, quieting voices and weakening handshakes. It touches all areas of girls' lives and follows many into adulthood, limiting their personal and professional potential. Since the popularization of the Ophelia phenomenon, we have lamented the loss of self-esteem in adolescent girls, recognizing that while the doors of opportunity are open to twenty-first-century American girls, many lack the confidence to walk through them. In The Curse of the Good Girl, Simmons provides a catalog of tangible lessons in bolstering the self and silencing the curse of the Good Girl. At the core of Simmons's radical argument is her belief that the most critical freedom we can win for our daughters is the liberty not only to listen to their inner voice but also to act on it.
Download or read book The Kindness Cure written by Tara Cousineau and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2018-02-02 with total page 238 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: It’s time for a kindness revolution. In The Kindness Cure, psychologist Tara Cousineau draws on cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience to show how simple practices of kindness—for ourselves, for others, and for our world—can dissolve our feelings of fear and indifference, and open us up to a life of profound happiness. Compassion for ourselves and others is our birthright as humans—hardwired into our DNA and essential to our happiness. But in our fast-paced, technical savvy and hyper competitive world, it may come as no surprise that rates of narcissism have risen, while empathy levels have declined. We now find ourselves in a “cool to be cruel” culture where it’s easy to feel disillusioned and dejected in our hearts, homes, and communities. So, how can we reverse this malady of meanness and make kindness and compassion an imperative? The Kindness Cure draws on the latest social and scientific research to reveal how the seemingly “soft skills” of kindness, cooperation, and generosity are fundamental to our survival as a species. In fact, it’s our prosocial abilities that put us at the head of the line. Blended with moving case studies and clinical anecdotes, Cousineau offers practical ways to rekindle kindness from the inside out. We are wired to care. The very existence of our human species evolved because of an intricate physiology built for empathy, compassion, and cooperation. Yet we have an epidemic of loneliness, indifference, and cruelty, and we see these destructive trends on a daily basis in our families, schools, neighborhoods, and workplaces. This important book teaches effective skills in compassion, mindfulness, and social and emotional learning, and reveals successful social policy initiatives in empathy taking place that inform everything from family life to education to the workplace. Kindness has the exponential power to renew relationships and transform how we think, feel, and behave in the world. Will you be a part of the revolution?
Download or read book Perfectionism written by Lisa Van Gemert and published by Anodyne, Incorporated DBA Great Potential Press, Incorporated. This book was released on 2017 with total page 173 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: For perfectionists of all types, whether children or adults, this practical guide explains myths about perfectionism and provides a new paradigm with practical steps to turn the negative into positive, build resilience, and develop optimism. Goals, perseverance, mindset, and self-talk are emphasized. The author, Lisa Van Gemert, is an educator and widely-known speaker and was Youth and Education Ambassador for Mensa. She understands perfectionism in herself as well as through her work.
Download or read book Freedom from Your Inner Critic written by Jay Earley, Ph.D. and published by Sounds True. This book was released on 2013-09-01 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: We've all heard the voice of the inner critic—that part of us that judges us, shames us, and makes us feel inadequate. "You don't want to give in to the Critic, and it doesn't really work to fight against it," explains Dr. Jay Earley. "But there is a way to transform it into an invaluable ally." With Freedom from Your Inner Critic, Dr. Earley and psychotherapist Bonnie Weiss present a self-therapy approach for uncovering the psychological roots of our self-sabotaging inner voices and restoring our sense of worthiness. Filled with insights, case studies, and practical self-therapy exercises, this breakthrough book explores: How to connect with your Inner Critic through the groundbreaking approach of Internal Family Systems (IFS) TherapyThe seven varieties of the Inner Critic and their positive intentHealing your Criticized Child that is hurt by your Inner CriticAwakening your Inner Champion—the antidote to the influence of your Inner CriticHow to transform your Inner Critic and learn to love yourselfHow our self-confidence, motivation, and courage improve when we are free from our Inner Critics "Self-esteem is our birthright," says Dr. Earley. "And even the most intractable Inner Critic can learn to let go and allow you to blossom." Freedom from Your Inner Critic offers a solution to one of our greatest psychological challenges—so you can reclaim your confidence, freedom, and joy in life.
Download or read book The One Thing You Need to Know written by Marcus Buckingham and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2008-09-04 with total page 227 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Drawing on a wide body of research, including extensive in-depth interviews, THE ONE THING YOU NEED TO KNOW reveals the central insights that lie at the core of: Great Managing, Great Leadership and Great Careers. Buckingham uses a wealth of relevant examples to reveal that at the heart of each insight lies a controlling insight. Lose sight of this 'one thing' and all of your best efforts at managing, leading, or individual achievement will be diminished. For great managing, the controlling insight has less to do with fairness, or team building, or clear expectations (although all are important). Rather, the one thing great managers know is the need to discover and then capitalize on what is unique about each person. For leadership, the controlling insight is the opposite - discover and capitalize on what is universal to all your people, regardless of differences in personality, race, sex, or age. For sustained individual success, the controlling insight is the need to discover what you don't like doing, and know how and when to stop doing it. In every way a groundbreaking work, THE ONE THING YOU NEED TO KNOW offers crucial performance and career lessons for business people at every level.
Download or read book Perfectly Hidden Depression written by Margaret Robinson Rutherford and published by New Harbinger Publications. This book was released on 2019-11-01 with total page 261 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: When your life looks perfect, but you’re silently falling apart… If you were raised to believe that painful emotions are a sign of weakness, or if being vulnerable has always made you feel unsafe, then you may have survived by creating a perfect-looking life—a life where you appear to be successful, engaged, and always there for others. The problem? You’re filled with self-criticism and shame, and you can’t allow yourself to express fear, anger, loss, or grief. You recognize something is wrong, but you’re not sure what exactly—only that you feel trapped and alone. If this sounds like you, you may have perfectly hidden depression (PHD). With this compassionate guide, you’ll begin the process of understanding your perfectionism, identifying destructive beliefs, and connecting with emotions suppressed for far too long. You’ll also find tangible tips for quieting that critical inner voice, and powerful strategies for coping with difficult feelings. Most importantly, you’ll learn that asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. If you’re ready to stop hiding and start healing, this groundbreaking book will guide you—every imperfect step of the way.
