Download or read book BDSM Basics for Submissives Dealing with the Mental and Emotional Side of Submission written by Michelle Fegatofi and published by Lulu.com. This book was released on 2014-09-24 with total page 54 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Over the years, I have found a lot of helpless and sometimes clueless submissives that were mentally and emotionally abused by dominants. They each felt like they deserved anything they got and never even questioned the dominants about their behavior. One of the hardest things to learn as a new submissive in the world of BDSM is how to navigate and deal with the whirlwind of mental and emotional stress that can come from being in a D/s or M/s relationship. Many people believe they are not allowed to feel any bad feelings, think bad or wrong thoughts, and always have to be a happy submissive. As humans, we all have to deal with negative feelings and thoughts from time to time, even though we may be submissives. This guide is a tool that will help you understand, analyze, and deal with different types of emotions and mental stresses associated with being a submissive.

Download or read book BDSM Basics for Beginners A Guide for Dominants and Submissives Starting to Explore the Lifestyle written by Michelle Fegatofi and published by Lulu.com. This book was released on 2013-03-14 with total page 103 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: You have been drawn to the world of BDSM, but searching for one book to give you an overview of both Dominance and Submission. This book provides you with descriptions of all roles, different BDSM relationships, commonly used terms, guidelines for roles and responsibilities, and much more. After reading this book, you should have a well rounded foundation to start your journey further into the ever changing world that is known as BDSM.

Download or read book Bdsm Mastery written by Cherry Wilson and published by . This book was released on 2021-04-30 with total page 158 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "The other day my girlfriend pushed me down and looked me in the eye. 'I'm going to make you cry, ' she said. She began to hit me in earnest, and made me count the blows." Why would we ever want someone we love to hurt us? Why would we ever want to hurt someone we love? And why do some of us crave it? "Later, as I sobbed and she held me, I felt the therapy of that release: the effect of dealing with PTSD and trauma with pain that I can end any time by saying my safe word. Pain that comes from someone who I know is doing it for both of our pleasure, and not out of a desire to actually hurt me." Julie brown, a queer trans woman, shared this anecdote with me after responding to my call for personal stories about BDSM. Over the past week, I've conducted interviews with a dozen members of the BDSM and kink community, ranging across identities, age, gender, and location. By now, the general mechanics of BDSM are familiar to anyone who's had even a passing encounter with Fifty Shades of Grey-the whips, crops, and handcuffs all recognizable accoutrement of kinky sex-but I was interested in exploring the personal, psychological side. BDSM is an acronym with several constituent parts: bondage and discipline, dominance/submission, sadism and masochism. Collectively, these behaviors might be referred to as aspects of kink, a term which covers the broad expanse of non-normative sexuality. It includes BDSM; it can also encompass things like watersports and various fetishes, like latex or balloons. I use "we" when referring to this community because I find myself a member of it, though, like any imagined community, membership is as much self-designated as it is given. I'm interested in BDSM. In particular, I like submission. I've explored rope bondage, been to play parties, and incorporated it into many of my romantic and sexual relationships. For julie, the appeal lies in how it allows her to access pain while being in full control of that pain-she can end it at any time with her safe word. BDSM allows her to process complex, traumatic experiences in a way that's safe and consensual. Her story resonated with my own experiences with BDSM, too: trusting a beloved partner to give me what I need, while knowing that I'm in full control of the situation, is exhilarating. Is that feeling universal? If you've ever fantasized about getting kinky in the bedroom, you're not alone. The runaway success of E. L. James's novel Fifty Shades of Grey - more than 100 million copies sold - not to mention the sales of other books in the series and the movies it's generated, prove that interest in BDSM - bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism - is anything but rare. "It's very out in the culture right now, but it's not fully out of the shadows yet," says Gentille. "People are still embarrassed to talk about sex. What they discover when they dive a little deeper into it is that in BDSM you actually get to talk about what you like, what you're curious about, and what is a definite 'No.' It's clear, overt, and collaborative and that can feel delightful. And if you like it, if you have control over what happens, it's all good fun." Wait! Why waste your time with my long talk, when you can dive in rightaway? CLICK THE BUY BUTTON NOW!! TO GET STARTED

Download or read book UNVEILED The Secret Submissive Within written by Michelle Fegatofi and published by Lulu.com. This book was released on 2013-10-19 with total page 187 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This is an in-depth, comprehensive guide for submissives new to the lifestyle and for those just wanting to broadentheir knowledge more. It starts with 'what a submissive is', moves to 'common terms in BDSM', 'contracts', continues on to 'possible punishments', 'what to look for in a Dominant', and ends with a very thorough 'Limits Worksheet' in the back. There are many more topics covered, but you will have to read further to discover them.

Download or read book Submissive Training written by Alicia Slave and published by . This book was released on 2020-02-22 with total page 147 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Why don't add a healthy dose of BDSM to your sex life? It's time to be kinky. Become your Sub or Dom character. Learn how to live out your sexual desires, explore your sexual fantasies, and experiment with pain and pleasure. BDSM is an additional flavor in your bedroom. It's a safe sexual role-playing game between you and your partner. In this book you find everything you need in your submissive journey including guides of: Expressing your desire The submissive mindset Pain-Pleasure How to be in control even though you aren't Expressing your desires Communication Punishments How submission is good for you Misunderstandings of submission You're not tired of waiting? Become your Sub or Dom character and much much more! Scroll Up, Press the Buy now-button, enjoy the book to transform your sex life in BDSM way!

Download or read book The Psychology of Submission written by Bryan Westra and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2016-03-11 with total page 198 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A publication by: HypnotismIsAReligion.com Noted author, Bryan Westra, shares psychological insights into submission and training. You'll learn how to create submissive relationships and train others to comply and obey. Grab A Copy!

Download or read book Domme Chronicles written by Sharyn Ferns and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2013-12-16 with total page 468 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: This anthology of true life vignettes offers intimate glimpses into hot BDSM play between a female dominant and her boy. It includes passionate moments that cover the gamut of play: teasing, denial, chastity, flogging, caning, pegging, slapping, and much more. It also includes incredibly sweet exchanges full of tenderness and ownership, lots of kissing, laughter, affection, and silliness. "Your breaths come hard and fast. I bite you relentlessly, thrusting up against you from behind. Every new attack makes you wince and moan, but still you push back against me until I am shoving you up against the wall, tearing at your skin like I am going to devour you."

Download or read book Leading and Supportive Love written by Chris M. Lyon and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2012-10-26 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Have you felt 'left out' of the traditional relationship self-help books because you derive great pleasure from following your partner's requests and direction on many things in your life? Or do you respond to the natural inclination to guide, direct and protect your partner? Are your friends and family having difficulty understanding that your relationship works more like a captain and first mate on a boat? If so, this innovative book, Leading and Supportive Love, the Truth about Dominant and Submissive Relationships, can help with new and clearer understanding of yourself, your relationship and acceptance with those that you love and care for. The Dominant and Submissive Relationship is an ancient and contemporary harmonious dance that has become mysterious, magnetic, powerful, and controversial in modern day society. It may not be what you think, and some of the truth may surprise you! It's a law of nature for socialized animals and humans to have hierarchical relationships. There are those who answer that call in a more literal, thorough way. The couple has a 'pack leader'; or a dominant leader; and a submissive member. Through history to modern day, both roles have been held by both men and/or women...Oh and yes, this is a relationship where both partners are equals. Read about case illustrations, research insights, relationship help, and surprising details that may make you look at this type of long-term, committed relationship in a whole different way, no matter what gender you are! Do you identify with one of these lists of traits? Most people either do identify or know someone who does. If so, this unprecedented book is for you! S-Type Service to your partner is of great priority to you and you take it very seriously. Decisiveness, direction, and guidance from your partner makes you feel secure and loved. You avoid conflict and are generally non-confrontative in nature in close relationships. You greatly appreciate your partner being clear and direct with communication, so there are no doubts about what the expectations are. You appreciate the freedom that comes from structure, surrender, and personal discipline. L-Type You have natural dominant traits and seem comfortable and confident when using them. You place an importance on follow-through and follow-up from your partner. You step into your natural abilities to lead, guide, protect and direct. It's important to you that you earn trust from your partner. You will not ask for it or demand it up front. You feel safe, secure and valued when your partner trusts you to lead and make decisions in the areas agreed upon.

Download or read book Techniques of Pleasure written by Margot Weiss and published by Duke University Press. This book was released on 2011-12-20 with total page 336 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: In this lively ethnography, Weiss studies the pansexual BDSM community in the San Francisco Bay Area. Weiss finds that BDSM practice is not as transgressive as the participants imagine, nor is it simply reinforcing of older forms of social domination. Instead she shows how fantasy play depends on pre-existing social hierarchies, even as it also participates in a commodification of desires.

Download or read book The New Bottoming Book written by Dossie Easton and published by SCB Distributors. This book was released on 2011-06-09 with total page 200 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Three decades ago, this book and its companion volume "The New Topping Book" began teaching tens of thousands of people the joyous arts of BDSM topping and bottoming - not just "how-to," but "why-to"... the insider details of emotional support and ethical interaction during kinky play. Since then, the growing popularity of BDSM, and the blossoming of the Internet as a source of information and connection, have created a whole new universe of possibilities for players. Now, the completely updated revised New Bottoming Book and New Topping Book give even more insights and ideas, updated for a new millennium, about how to be a successful, popular player! What the experts are saying "The only way I can think of to learn more about bottming than Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy teach you in [The New Bottoming Book] is to go out and bottom for yourself." - William A. Henkin, Ph.D., co-author, Consensual Sadomasochism

Download or read book Submissive Training written by Elizabeth Cramer and published by Living Plus Healthy Publishing. This book was released on 2015-03-05 with total page 61 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Nothing will prepare you for a life of submission in the same way as your formal training. Submissive training isn’t just a “good idea” when it comes to creating a BDSM relationship. It is essential. "Submissive Training: 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be A Submissive" is designed to help you know what to expect when you go through training with a new Dom. Every couple is unique and every Dom may have different ways of teaching you the systems of service he prefers. However, these are the basics all trained subs and slaves learn and employ in daily life. Rushing into a relationship or service contract with a Dom without training puts the future of your time together at risk. All of the arguments, resistance, misunderstandings and hurt feelings that go with a new submissive’s experiences can be eradicated by a period designated for learning, listening, trial and error. Even if you have been with a previous Dom you will need to go through an abbreviated training time to ensure your patterns and understandings match one another. Training is a way to “get in the same rhythm” and find the perfect groove. If you are a Dom, this guide is the perfect gift to give to your new sub. If you are a sub, this guide will teach you how to go through your submissive training. As you go through these things on the journey to become the woman you were made to be, you will be tested but you will also be proud, joyful and, perhaps for the first time in your life, you will be at peace.

Download or read book Thinking Kink written by Catherine Scott and published by McFarland. This book was released on 2015-05-01 with total page 229 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: When the mildly kink-themed trilogy 50 Shades of Grey became popular reading in 2012, the media speculated that feminism was in reverse, as the public went mad over bondage and discipline, domination and submission and sadomasochism (BDSM). The novels provoked academic debate about BDSM and the issues it raises for feminists. Is the female dominant truly powerful or is she just another objectified body? Does lesbian BDSM avoid the problematic nature of heterosexual kink, or is it actually more subject to the "male gaze" of feminist theory? And what is it about kink that has creators of pop culture--from Anne Rice to the producers of Scrubs--using it to attract audiences? Examining the tropes of kink in books, TV shows, film and the music industry, this work addresses these and other questions that depictions of BDSM raise for the feminist audience. The author interweaves her own research and experiences in the BDSM scene with the subculture's portrayal in the media. Instructors considering this book for use in a course may request an examination copy here.

Download or read book Domination Submission written by Michael Makai and published by . This book was released on 2014 with total page pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The definitive handbook on Domination and Submission (D/s) relationships and the BDSM lifestyle. A must-read for anyone considering or curious about non-traditional relationships within a fetish culture context. Funny, insightful, educational, and inspiring.Author Michael Makai goes in-depth on Dominants, submissives, switches, primals, and their relationship dynamics. Learn about BDSM activities, bondage, toys, groups, protocols, and safety. This book even dares to go where others fear to tread: Primal relationships, online BDSM relationships, the Gorean subculture, first meetings, religion vs. kink, and the many ways it can all go wrong.You'll love Michael Makai's irreverent and humorous treatment of this subject as he gives you the benefit of his 35+ years of experience in the D/s and BDSM lifestyles.

Download or read book Dom s Guide To Submissive Training written by Elizabeth Cramer and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2013-11-22 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A Dom/sub relationship doesn't just happen. It is a finely crafted and designed system of expectations and joys. In order for you and your submissive lady to "fit" one another and create a lasting, happy union there must be a period of training. It does not matter if your sub has thirty years of experience in submission or just read 50 Shades of Grey and decided to try it herself. She will need to be trained for the best relationship to emerge. "Dom's Guide to Submissive Training" was specifically written for doms/masters. It is designed to provide you with a step-by-step blueprint on how to train your new sub. It goes from preparation all the way down to the closing ceremony including advanced techniques & tips. Training can be one of the most exciting, challenging and fun parts of the relationship. A well-trained sub will not only serve you in the capacity you deserve, but will have built up the two most important elements in any BDSM relationship - trust and consistency. Following the instructions in this guide will allow you to show yourself as a worthy master, who is in control, experienced and able to guide you both to the best possible life.

Download or read book Screw the Roses Send Me the Thorns written by Philip Miller and published by . This book was released on 1995 with total page 0 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Light-hearted and fun to read, SCREW THE ROSES, SEND IN THE THORNS tells readers everything they need (and want!) to know about sadomasochism. Deeply committed to the blend of trust, fantasy and sensuality that makes S/M an intensely erotic and deeply intimate experience, Miller and Devon here offer everyone - from the complete novice to the well-practised sub or dom - clear explanations, solid advice, safety measures and steamy suggestions. Illustrated with over 225 photos and illustrations, the book also includes a glossary and 30-page resources listing.

Download or read book The Noah Diary written by Jordan Douglas and published by Independently Published. This book was released on 2021-03-15 with total page 292 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The well-known personal diary of Texas Cowgirl Jordan Douglas in college, at age 19. A Daddy's Girl and Texas Tomboy, she grew up in rural Texas roping and riding on horses with her Father, and found out love could be harder for a Tomboy who weren't as pretty as the cheerleaders. She had kept secret diaries through her teens of her ideas of love, sexual secrets, and as older guy friends shared benefits, they rejected her afterwards. She wrote about her strict religious upbringing and guilt from self-intimacy, and private sexual fantasies about the perfect Cowboy, her father. Her "Daddy Issues," and not recognizing her darker sexual needs exploded to the surface her 2nd year in College, and was recorded by her, in 'The Noah Diary." With her secret "Daddy Issues," her thick, Texas curves in her favorite Cowgirl boots and short-shorts, found herself in the arms of a stranger and older Cowboy named 'Noah' who was 27 years old, and whose style of intimacy was emotionally and physically brutal and poisoning to her mind. Jordan began a sexually-dominated summer with her hands tied behind her back, getting forced to explore her darker sexual desires of real sexual humiliation, stimulating sexual-emotional abuse, and disturbing sexual mind-play drawing out her need for more than Daddy's approval. Noah used these on her all summer as he forced her sexual needs past limits she couldn't handle, punishing her with her own desires to screaming excess, drugging her daily, and bringing her into complete Submission to his stimulating Daddy role over her. She had found true love in this journey of self-discovery and understanding, and began to feel like a beautiful cheerleader with her new Daddy, and as the summer came to an end, she feared leaving Noah to go back to college, feared facing her religious parents, her lies to them about working all summer, the truth that she had flunked her last semester to be with Noah, and they paid the bill. She had to return home to face her mistakes, when all she wanted, was happily ever after in Texas.

Download or read book The Heart of Dominance written by Anton Fulmen and published by Createspace Independent Publishing Platform. This book was released on 2016-07-15 with total page 204 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The Heart of Dominance is a how-to guide to the concepts and skills at the heart of consensual dominance. If you are new to dominance, still figuring out just what it's all about or what you want it to mean to you, then this book will provide you with a solid foundation from which to start. If you already practice dominance and are interested in improving your ability to create deep and lasting power dynamics then you'll find many advanced concepts and concrete techniques to integrate into your own personal style. If you have an interest in the bedrock principles of inspiring, deepening, maintaining and enjoying control over a person who dearly, desperately wants you to control them, then this book is for you.