Download or read book Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them written by Patrick Letellier and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2013-12-02 with total page 326 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Domestic violence in gay male relationships is the third largest health problem for gay men in America today. Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them breaks the silence surrounding gay male domestic violence and exposes this hidden yet prevalent and destructive problem. The authors paint a vivid picture of gay men’s domestic violence, bringing its brutality to life by including personal narratives, written by one of the authors, by clearly defining what it is and what it is not through lists of violent acts and criminal code categories, and by thoroughly examining and analyzing the criminal, mental health, medical, political, and interpersonal issues involved. The authors boldly depart from the battered women’s literature by asserting that batterers have a diagnosable mental disorder, that battering is not gender based, and that much further criminalization of domestic violence is necessary. Striving for victim advocacy, the book underscores the idea that gay men’s domestic violence is totally unacceptable and is caused solely by individual abusive gay men who choose to batter. The book builds on and departs from what is known about domestic violence, with the authors challenging several fundamental premises in the literature, unabashedly identifying battering as a mental disorder. The authors explain that victims cannot stop their battering partners from battering and virtually all batterers choose to harm their partners in a premeditated fashion. The authors provide practical steps and suggestions for victims who want to leave and stay away from their violent partners and for friends who want to help battered gay men. Chapters describe the scope of the problem and refute myths and misconceptions. There are several detailed theory chapters in which the authors explain why gay men’s domestic violence occurs, who the batterers are, who the victims are at different stages of victimization, and how domestic violence can be stopped. A visionary, wide-ranging governmental and private plan of action is introduced, including lists of necessary laws and policies, as well as outlines of strong education, training, and advertising problems needed in various sectors of society. As a self-help book, Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them provides practical information on a never-before discussed topic. As a trainer’s manual or teaching guide, it includes specific criteria for understanding the problem and for providing treatment.

Download or read book Abuse in Gay Male Relationships written by Kevin Kirkland and published by . This book was released on 2004 with total page 21 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: "This discussion paper provides an overview of available knowledge on the nature and extent of abuse in gay male relationships. It situates the issue in a cultural context, examining myths surrounding homosexuality and gay relationships as well as the obstacles that victims may face when seeking help to deal with or escape from such relationships. The paper identifies risk factors and abusive patterns ..."--Publisher website.

Download or read book Violence in Gay and Lesbian Domestic Partnerships written by Claire M Renzetti and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2014-04-08 with total page 141 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Violence in Gay and Lesbian Domestic Partnerships provides a comprehensive analysis of same-sex domestic violence, addressing the major theoretical and treatment issues for both its victims and perpetrators. Its contents raise awareness among social service providers, of the problem of same-sex domestic violence and emphasize the need for special services for both victims and perpetrators. The publication of Violence in Gay and Lesbian Domestic Partnerships signifies the growing official recognition of domestic violence within lesbian and gay relationships as a social problem worthy of serious attention and intervention. Editors Renzetti and Miley begin by providing readers with an overview of the problem of same-sex domestic violence and the responses of the domestic violence movement and other social service providers. Chapters then move to discussions of the current scarcity of services available to lesbian and gay victims and perpetrators of domestic violence and then evaluate specific treatment modalities for these client groups. Significantly, the special needs of lesbians and gays of color and those with HIV/AIDS are discussed. Chapters contain: an historical overview of the study of same-sex domestic violence a review and evaluation of theoretical explanations of same-sex domestic violence an analysis of major problems in service provisions to gay and lesbian victims of domestic violence suggestions for and evaluations of specific treatment modalities an analysis of how racism intersects with homophobia to exacerbate the consequences of domestic violence an analysis of the role of HIV/AIDS in same-sex domestic violence Contributors to this volume were actively addressing the problem of same-sex domestic violence before it was officially “discovered.” Some were motivated by their experiences as victims and survivors of same-sex domestic violence, others by their concern about domestic violence in general. As a compilation of the writings of academics, clinicians, advocates, and activists, Violence in Gay and Lesbian Domestic Partnerships bridges disciplinary and occupational boundaries and promotes a dialogue across fields and specialties. Violence in Gay and Lesbian Domestic Partnerships is unique in that it is the only book available which comprehensively addresses the social service needs of gay and lesbian domestic violence victims and perpetrators. Specific suggestions are offered for improving service providers’ responses to gay and lesbian victims of domestic violence. Social workers, counselors, practitioners and clinicians will find it especially useful, given that it addresses the effectiveness of particular treatment modalities for lesbian and gay victims and perpetrators.

Download or read book What Does Violence Tell Us about Gay Male Couple Relationships written by Damian McCann and published by . This book was released on 2012 with total page pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Research on intimate partner violence and abuse in same-sex couple's relationships is still a relatively new area of interest. Given the silence surrounding this form of abuse within the field, there is much to be learned by research focusing on its meaning. This research study examined violence and abuse in the couple's relationships of gay men from a British perspective. The study is located within a phenomenological approach, designed to capture the essence of the individual's experience. The choice of a grounded theory approach for the analysis of the data rested on it being particularly helpful in generating theory in areas where this is lacking. However, the challenge of recruiting participants to the study limited the utility of the method, highlighting the ongoing difficulty of gaining access to sexual minority participants for studies involving sensitive issues. Eight participants, all gay men, were recruited and semi-structured interviews administered as a basis for generating data. A focus group discussion also formed part of the study and considered the question of whether same-sex partner abuse is the same or different from that seen in heterosexual couple's relationships. Findings suggest that love for one's partner, hope for change and quality of sex, accounted for the ongoing investment made by these men in their violent and abusive relationships. The emphasis on physical abuse diminished the importance of other forms of abuse, i.e. emotional, psychological and financial abuse. The direction of the abuse was in contrast to that seen in heterosexual relationships, i.e. the partner with most instrumental power, was the one most at risk of abuse. There was little 5 recognition of the impact of homophobia or internalized homophobia as possible contributory factors in the development of violence and abuse. Participants tended to rely on their own resources rather than seeking outside help and the clinical implications of this were considered.

Download or read book Gay Men and Substance Abuse written by Michael Shelton and published by Simon and Schuster. This book was released on 2011-04-29 with total page 176 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: A timely reference that addresses the unique issues of gay men in recovery. Winner of the 2012 Independent Book Publishers Association Benjamin Franklin Award -- GLBT Category! Gay Men and Substance Abuse fills a tremendous void, serving as a valuable resource for gay men, professionals, concerned partners, friends, and family members in need of solid information and guidance.Whether faced with a traumatic coming out process, caught up in personal struggles with body image, engulfed in the club culture, or navigating a family system that does not accept his sexuality, a gay man struggling with substance abuse or addiction often faces cultural and personal challenges unique to his life experiences. Yet many men and their loved ones in search of help are forced to adjust to a traditional treatment system, or self-help groups that center on heterosexual relationships, and family groups that neglect to include partners or address what can be a uniquely challenging family dynamic.By exploring the social and psychological factors that play into homosexual men's addictions, nationally certified treatment counselor Michael Shelton presents a timely, comprehensive look at best practices in meeting the unique needs of gay men in recovery, offering keen insight on a range of issues, including:such common therapeutic approaches as motivational enhancement therapy and 12 Step strategiessuccessful relapse prevention protocolstools for recovery from co-occurring sexual disordersthe importance of a loved one's role with regard to intervention and supportthe complicated relationship between gay male drug use and sexual behaviorhow to talk knowledgeably, and with care and sensitivityAbout the author Michael Shelton, M.S., C.A.C., is a nationally certified treatment counselor and does clinical work with males with substance abuse and sexual disorders at four facilities in Philadelphia. He's the author of four other books, including Boy Crazy: Why Monogamy Is So Hard for Gay Men and What You Can Do About It.

Download or read book Gay Men and Childhood Sexual Trauma written by James Cassese and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2016-01-20 with total page 222 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Learn powerful techniques for healing the scars of early sexual abuse in gay men! The first book of its kind, Gay Men and Childhood Sexual Trauma: Integrating the Shattered Self addresses the specific therapeutic needs of gay men in recovery. All too often, gay men hide their childhood memories of being sexually victimized, because of fear, shame, and the stigma of stereotypes which equate homosexuality with child abuse. Some gay men may view these histories as “rites of passage” and dismiss other perspectives as betrayals of their community or inadvertant support for the anti-gay agenda of the religious right. Certain therapists and so-called support groups ridicule them as hysterics with false memories. Groups like the North American Man-Boy Love Association or the Rene Guyon Society dismiss the source of their anguish as wishful thinking or a healthy, consensual intergenerational romance. Finally here is a book that addresses the unique emotional and psychological needs of gay male survivors of sexual abuse. Gay Men and Childhood Sexual Trauma offers new hope by separating the crime of pedophilia from the consensual intimacy of an adult male same-sex relationship. It provides specific guidance for therapists working with gay men either in individual or group therapy settings, and offers practical treatment suggestions as well as moving insights into the painful conflicts gay men may have in accepting their own sexuality and revealing their status as child survivor of an adult sexual predator. Gay Men and Childhood Sexual Trauma discusses practical ways to help the survivor heal, including: adopting eye movement desensitization and reprocessing techniques to treat traumatized gay men helping gay men to break the old arousal patterns associated with their abusers handling survivors’formidable issues of trust, addictions, depression, and low self-esteem leading survivor groups of mixed sexual orientation discerning the special meaning of HIV to traumatized gay men respecting cross-cultural differences in treating the gay male sexual trauma survivor finding new directions for research This powerful volume offers sufficient technical detail to be useful for the therapist working with gay men, yet it is written with enough clarity and compassion to be used as bibliotherapy for men just coming out as gay, as survivor, or as both. Gay Men and Childhood Sexual Trauma is an essential resource for mental health professionals, as well as for gay men who have themselves survived sexual abuse or who love someone who did.

Download or read book Growth and Intimacy for Gay Men written by Christopher J Alexander and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2014-04-04 with total page 316 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Growth and Intimacy for Gay Men: A Workbook is an educational workbook for gay men that covers a variety of topics, including family of origin, addiction, self-image, dating and relationships, AIDS and multiple loss, and spirituality. Each chapter provides an overview of the mental health concerns of gay men, as well as exercises the reader can do to facilitate his personal understanding of the issues covered. While the book is written in nontechnical language, making it useful to the general public, its wide selection of workbook exercises makes it useful for psychotherapists and counselors working with gay men. Growth and Intimacy for Gay Men is written to the reader--with brief examples from the author’s work as a clinical psychologist helping gay men. A central goal of the book is to normalize the feelings and experiences the reader has, as many gay men feel like they’re the only ones with their feelings or experiences. The book’s problem-solving approach addresses: family of origin--provides exercises to identify and examine gay men’s role in the family, examine their childhood perceptions of being different, and help them map out family patterns and dynamics self-image--includes self-image assessment questionnaires and written exercises that challenge the reader to look at how they’re affected by societal perceptions addiction--explores why gay men are vulnerable to addictive behavior and offers strategies for change and self-assessment exercises dating and relationships--covers the unique challenges faced by gay men, with exercises for single as well as coupled men AIDS and mental health--provides exercises to help the reader examine the impact of AIDS on his own life and to assess the impact of multiple loss and prolonged grief Readers can do the workbook exercises on their own, or therapists can assign chapters and exercises as homework, with clients bringing the completed assignment to therapy for more in-depth exploration and discussion. By providing informative chapters and useful exercises, Growth and Intimacy for Gay Men becomes an avenue through which gay men can understand their identity, experiences, and goals.

Download or read book The Social Construction of Gay Male Partner Abuse written by Maurice Kwong-Lai Poon and published by . This book was released on 2011 with total page pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Recent research has found high rates of abuse in gay male relationships; however, little is known about their lived experience. This study aims to explore (1) the social construction of abuse in gay male relationships, (2) its discursive effects on clinical practice and (3) the lived experience of gay men involved in abusive relationships. This study included three sets of data. Using a discourse analysis, articles published in popular queer media and academic literature were analyzed to understand the social construction of partner abuse. Three focus groups, with 16 service providers, were conducted to examine the discursive effects of partner abuse on clinical practice. In-depth interviews with 21 gay men involved in partner abuse were conducted to understand their lived experience. Transcripts of the focus groups and interviews were reviewed in detail to highlight themes and concepts. Analysis revealed that gay male partner abuse is not a self-evident or natural category but, rather, socially constructed. Current discourse created two opposite categories (the victim who is powerless and helpless; the perpetrator powerful and evil) that both informed and limited the way in which service providers saw and, thus, worked with gay men involved in partner abuse. Yet, as shown in the analysis, the lived experience of partner abuse does not always fit neatly into the rigid victim and perpetrator roles. Instead, the roles are frequently unclear and contradictory. We social workers need to be aware of the discursive effects of gay male partner abuse and critically examine how they impose certain assumptions on us. Instead of seeking a "true" experience of partner abuse, we need to help these men search for meaning within the events that are relevant to them, regardless of how they fit into the normative discourse of gay male partner abuse.

Download or read book No More Secrets written by Janice Ristock and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2012-09-10 with total page 256 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Violence is a male biological trait. When women fight, no one gets seriously hurt. Lesbians don't abuse their spouses. The truth revealed in Janice Ristock's groundbreaking book is that lesbian relationships sometimes do turn violent. Based on interviews with more than one hundred lesbians who have suffered abuse and seventy-five case workers, No More Secrets is the first in-depth account of this startling phenomenon. Although one in four gay and lesbian couples are affected by domestic violence, the problem has remained hidden for several reasons. By giving voice to the victims, Ristock helps women to address violence by breaking silences, sharing secrets, and naming the forms of abuse.

Download or read book 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives written by Joe Kort and published by ReadHowYouWant.com. This book was released on 2010-11-26 with total page 322 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Openly gay therapist Joe Kort provides 10 powerful and positive steps gay men can take to isolate and overcome self-defeating behavior patterns, and move in healthier and more rewarding directions: Take Charge of Their Own Lives Affirm Themselves by Coming Out Resolve Differences With Parents and Relatives 'Graduate' From Delayed Adolescence Avoid - or Overcome - Sexual Addiction -Learn from Successful Mentors Whove Been There, Done That Take Advantage of 'Therapy Workouts' Achieve - and Maintain - Rewarding Relationships Understand the Stages of Loves Commit to Their Partner.These solid and reliable 'Top 10' life steps that have been most helpful to Joe Korts clients in his 16 years of working with hundreds of gay men, are presented in an engaging and easy-to-understand manner and are supplemented by case histories from his practice. These are time-tested, practical decisions gay men can make in their search for emotional, sexual and personal fulfillment

Download or read book Intimate Partner Violence in LGBTQ Lives written by Janice L. Ristock and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2011-04-26 with total page 347 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Queer lives remain at the margins of most academic inquiry into domestic violence. This edited volume seeks to change this discourse by bringing together the most innovative research about intimate partner violence that is specific to the lives of lesbian/ gay/ bisexual/ transgender/Two-Spirit and queer people (LGBTQ).

Download or read book Understanding Domestic Violence in Gay Male Relationships Personality Internalized Homophobia and Intention to Stay Or Leave written by Kathy Cosgrove Behrend and published by . This book was released on 2007 with total page 159 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Using an online survey of 125 gay men, this study looked at whether a relationship exists between personality, internalized homophobia, and the intention of a gay man to get into and stay or leave an abusive relationship. Gay male domestic violence is abusive behaviors that occur within an intimate relationship, which can take a physical, sexual, or emotional form. Statistics have determined that one-quarter to one-third of gay men are victims of domestic violence during some point in their dating history. However, results of this study indicated a higher rate of domestic violence than these statistics with 86% of the participants identifying abusive behaviors within an intimate relationship. Interestingly, 84% of the gay men who endorsed abusive behavioral patterns in their relationships did not self-identify as victims of domestic violence. Running six separate two-way ANOVA, this study found that personality has an effect on the relationships of gay men in intimate relationships. More specifically, the personality factors Agreeableness and Openness to Experience had an effect on the intention to stay or leave for gay men in healthy relationships with a smaller effect for gay men in unhealthy relationships. The personality factors Neuroticism, Extraversion and Conscientiousness did not have such an effect, but it is likely that in part these results can be explained by instrumentation issues and sampling biases. The results of this study also indicated that internalized homophobia had an effect on whether gay men got into an abusive relationship, as well as on the intention of gay men to leave an intimate relationship in general. The findings of this study demonstrate the prevalence of domestic violence among gay men in intimate relationships, and the importance of education and advocacy geared towards this population. They should be shared with psychological, social, legal, and medical services so that more resources can be directed towards the victims of gay male domestic violence.

Download or read book Exploring a Multi integrated Model of Gay Male Partner Abuse written by Jesmen Turingan Mendoza and published by . This book was released on 2007 with total page 376 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The study of partner abuse has been documented in the literature over the past 30 years. However, it is only in the last decade that studies have started to focus on partner abuse in gay male relationships. Most of the quantitative research has focused on prevalence and incidence rates. Although correlates of gay partner abuse has been studied it has not been guided by theory. Most of the theories about gay partner abuse have been based on heterosexual partner abuse models. Recent trends in theory development have suggested that a number of theories be combined to create a multi-integrated model of partner abuse. The current study tested this trend by surveying 155 men across North America (i.e., Canada and the United States) on a variety of variables established or hypothesized by the literature to influence gay male partner abuse. These variables acted as indicators to four factors that this study has suggested will act in concert to influence partner abuse in gay men. These four factors that were studied were: Clinical, Socio-Political, Orientation-Specific, and Previous Social Learning. The Clinical Factor concerned itself with indicator variables that were related to personality features and alcohol use, while the Socio-Political Factor focused on indicators of perception of power and satisfaction. The Orientation-Specific Factor had indicator variables related to minority stress and attitudes towards myths of same-sex partner abuse, while the Previous Social Learning Factor was concerned with experiencing child abuse or exposure to domestic violence. This study analyzed whether these factors had an effect on Partner Abuse via Structural Equation Modeling. This analysis found that the Clinical, the Orientation-Specific and the Previous Social Learning Factors had a direct effect on Partner Abuse. Additionally, the Previous Social Learning Factor not only had a direct or proximal effect on Partner Abuse, it also had an indirect or distal impact via Orientation-Specific Factor. The Socio-Political Factor did not have a significant effect on Partner Abuse, but Previous Social Learning had an effect on Socio-Political. The relationships between these factors and their effect on Partner Abuse were delineated. Implications for theory, practice and future research are discussed.

Download or read book Constructions of Intimate Partner Violence in Gay Male Relationships written by Yolandran Moodley and published by . This book was released on 2013 with total page 168 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt:

Download or read book Straight Acting Gay Men written by Angelo Pezzote and published by Kensington Books. This book was released on 2008 with total page 276 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: The author, drawing on his years of experience as a gay psychotherapist and advice columnist (AskAngelo.com), offers practical and thoughtful relationship strategies, as well as insight into such issues as coming out, dating, avoiding players, and maintaining a satisfying sex life. Original.

Download or read book Gay Men s and Lesbians Perceptions of Intimate Partner Abuse in Same sex and Opposite Sex Relationships written by Amana F. Carvalho and published by . This book was released on 2006 with total page 248 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt:

Download or read book Intimate Partner Violence in LGBTQ Lives written by Janice L. Ristock and published by Routledge. This book was released on 2011-04-26 with total page 385 pages. Available in PDF, EPUB and Kindle. Book excerpt: Queer lives remain at the margins of most academic inquiry into domestic violence. When same-sex violence is considered, it is most commonly as an "added on," without close attention to the specificity and meaning of violence within the lives of lesbian/ gay/ bisexual/ transgender/Two-Spirit and queer people (LGBTQ). This edited volume seeks to change this discourse by bringing together the most innovative research about intimate partner violence that is specific to the lives of LGBTQ people. Including contributions based on research conducted in the United States, the United Kingdom, Canada and Australia, the volume is framed around central themes: conceptualizing violence; exploring differing spaces and lived experiences of violence; and the ethical challenges of responding to violence. The contributors also consider issues of race, class, gender, sexuality and other social differences, moving beyond a simple gender lens to one involving a framework of intersectionality.